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Unsure2321
New member
Username: Unsure2321
Post Number: 3
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 23, 2006 - 08:27 pm: | 
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how did you all find men willing to do this stuff? more importantly where do i find one? also how did you know to bring it up and explain what you wanted? |
Ladygator2904
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 115
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 23, 2006 - 08:35 pm: |
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Well, I found my prince first.. www.yahoopersonals.com  then, after being married for 3 yrs I read about the DD lifestyle. I copied and pasted several emails to my hubby with "can we try this" in the subject line. He was a little bit confused but we talked for 2 days and now, 3 months later he is a spanking King ))) when out of town he says: "can`t wait to get home and spank you erotically of course ... good luck to you, hope this helps
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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Cheekychipmunk
Spanko
Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 57
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 23, 2006 - 09:45 pm: |
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I drove mine crazy while we were dating and after we were married. I wanted spankings then but didn't know how to bring it up to him. So I acted up. Usually just caused us a lot of arguments and him thinking I was crazy. lol
But finally after finding a forum like this, I started printing off some stories and leaving them for him to read. And then started telling him about my online friends.
It slowly sunk in, like it does with most men, and we are still working out all the kinks with spanking and what we both want from it.
I don't want to be totally dominated, but I like knowing there are certains things he won't let me get away with. And at times I like to give up all control. Usually I am the one to keep up with finances, doc appointments, schoolwork, business affairs. So with spankings I give up total control for a while.
You know that old saying : Behind every good man is a good woman. We share almost everything with decision making, so getting to let go of it all feels nice.
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence."
Sloan Wilson
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Paddledom
New member
Username: Paddledom
Post Number: 21
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 23, 2006 - 11:01 pm: |
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unsure - the easy answer is - come over here :P
I'm sure you'll find the right One for you - though it may take time and patience. I got into this - courtesy of an ex-gf who like being spanked and Dominated. Of course I liked the shape of her behind as well - and spanking it just seemed the right thing to do |
Victoria_wood
Advanced Spanko
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 145
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 08:47 am: |
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Well, I found another woman, rather than I man. I'm not sure if that makes a difference.
I tell people I'm dating very early on what I'm into. I met my current partner -- and fiancee --online. In my ad I mentioned what I was into. Many people I know met online. I think it's the best way to meet these days.
Cheers,
Victoria
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 526
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 10:12 am: |
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I met my husband in a spanking chat room. That made it easy....we both knew what we were into right off the bat. BUT...you have to be careful in doing that. You have to be safe!! Honesty is the best policy. Be up front about what you like and what you are into. No matter where you meet someone...you have to communicate. Like Victoria said....early on let the person know what you are into.
If you aren't sure if the person is into what you are....try printing off things that you like to read from the internet. I still do that for my husband. If I want to try something new....and I'm not sure how to bring it up...I e-mail him stuff all the time. It can be easier then just blurting it out. Anyway thats just one idea I'm sure there are many more. |
Victoria_wood
Advanced Spanko
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 146
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 10:49 am: |
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Yes, Tammy, I emailed M a link about figging ... Yikes!
Cheers,
Victoria
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 874
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 02:28 pm: |
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Tammy makes a good point, be honest! Don't try to make yourself into something you're not. If you start chatting with a guy who only likes to give out discipline spankings and you only like erotic ones, don't lead him on by saying, "Oh yeah, me, too!" Be honest and tell him how you really feel. It may or may not work out, but at least there won't be any ugly surprises later.
Once you've been chatting for a month, telling him you really prefer a different type of spanking relationship, will come across as a deception. Then you really do have a problem.
If you want any hope of making this into a relationship, you have to be honest online. Think of that first meeting. While you want to put your first foot forward, don't mislead the other person so far that their first reaction to you is shock. That's never a good start. I actually talked to someone onine who was upset because when she met the guy she'd been chatting with for months he was extremely disappointed and so was she. She'd given him a picture of herself that was taken about ten years before that and he'd given her a pic of his nephew who was in his early twenties and he was about 30 years older than that. That was just bad. |
Bailey
New member
Username: Bailey
Post Number: 13
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 02:41 pm: |
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I met my Dominant through a mutual lifestyle friend. I don't really go in for online dating much, but I looked up local kinky groups and tried to get in contact with like minded people via munches and discussion groups. The day I met my Dominant he, my friend and I were all going to a kinky discussion group. We kept in touch, and the rest is history. Doing it that way allowed me to avoid some of the risks of online dating and personals cruising (can't help thinking of Looking For Mr. Goodbar!), but also allowed me to connect with people who I knew were like minded.
Bailey
"She makes love just like a woman ... but she breaks just like a little girl."
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Mistydawn
Spanko
Username: Mistydawn
Post Number: 59
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 03:07 pm: |
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I swear I posted on this thread has it been removed or am I just going crazy strike that crazier.
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MistyDawn
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Learning to love and loving to learn
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Unsure2321
New member
Username: Unsure2321
Post Number: 8
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 08:20 pm: |
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thank you all. i actually found a spanking chat room last night and am doing some chating. you guys are the best. you are all so relaxed and honest and i like that. it actually helped talking online. i have never ever shared my feelings towards spankking to anyone last night i did. today i feel great. i think i felt like i was the only one for so long and chatting has helped so much!!!!!!!! |
Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 535
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 08:30 pm: |
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Well your NOT alone Unsure thats for sure!!
There are LOTS of us!! |
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