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Weasel
New member
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 47
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 12:33 pm: | 
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Rome wasn't built in a day...
Patience is a virtue...
With guys, you have to play connect the dots - and the dots need to be very close together so they get it!
I keep reminding myself of these things as I try to gently and slowly lead my husband into the role of Spanker.
My latest brainfart panned out quite well. Mr W. always wanted to have more anal play in our relationship than I wanted. A bad experience several years ago had me putting police "do not cross" ribbons up all around that thing! With the exception of an occasional pokey-pinkey (which I do find tolerable, and erotically enjoyable now & then), that has been a stay-away zone!
Now, Mr W., bless his heart, has been giving me the spankings I want, and not totally understanding the why of it. Because he's trying, I want to give him what he wants too! Last week I realized meybe I need to give in to what I don't understand either. Thus, I indulged in a toy for him that I thought he would enjoy using on me in places I usually call as off-limits.
He is not a computer type of guy, so I showed him the website page his new toy was on without telling him exactly WHICH toy he was getting. He was interested in all the possibilities of all the toys on the page, but he did not choose the one I did. I made him wait to find out which one it was. The thought of getting to indulge in HIS favorite thing was a huge turn-on for him!
I fabricated an evenings play to lead him through when this toy arrived, since he's just not the most imaginative guy on the planet. When the mail came on Friday, there was our new little toy. I did not tell him it arrived.
We had a dinner guest the following evening, and just as she was arriving I began implementing my battle plan: I told him (in my most contrite voice) "I've been bad, honey, really bad. I've been keeping a secret from you since yesterday." He got a stern look on his face (he IS getting into this finally)and said "Is this something I'll need to punish you for?" I said "Yes, it is - your new toy arrived yesterday, and I didn't tell you - I'm sorry!!"
"Not as sorry as you're going to be!" he growled, just as our dinner guest knocked at the door. Now he had to wait til she left to find out more! The seeds were planted, that anticipation that makes the spanking oh-so delicious for me was growing and growing!
Dinner was wonderful, we had a great time, and our guest left, totally oblivious to the edge of sexual tension and anticipation between us.
Once she'd gone home, we were free to begin our session. I had rather orchestrated the evening, and led him to where I wanted him to go without seeming too pushy. My plan worked well.
We are both new to this, so I found and printed out a fairly well-worded essay on what a woman wants from a spanking. It turned me on when I read it, so I figured reading it out loud to him would probably turn him on as well.
The evening's entertainment began with me dressing in a white silk top and black mini-skirt. Then I got a well-deserved spanking OTK for not telling him when his new toy arrived. Next, he verrry slowly and gently put that toy where the sun definitely don't shine, and delivered several more good swats to my beleagered behind. He made me keep the toy in place while he took a shower. As he showered, I got him the things he would be needing for our play session. I've never had anything put "in there" like that! It was fabulous, erotic and only a wee bit of pain upon insertion, which subsided when I reminded myself "relax!!" Walking about with it inserted was a very sexy and naughty feeling.
When he finished his shower, I got him a drink, and offered to read the essay to him, to give him some insight into the spankee mindset, and how a spankee might wish to be viewed, treated, and punished.
He listened. He took it to heart. He Got It! I got the best spanking session ever and he is now agreeing that he likes it more every time he spanks me.
Bringing a taste of what he wants into the mix really helped us both! I know that like myself, there are many others who are just learning how to present their desires to another. The best advice I have for them is to take it slowly, and honestly. Articulate to yourself what you really want first, before you try to tell another what you want, and be patient!
I'm so glad Mr. W is getting it! It means I'M getting IT!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Wolfie
Prime Spanko
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1769
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 05:00 pm: |
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Good for you Weasel, what a clever girl! 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Nicenick06
New member
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 41
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 06:55 pm: |
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Ah Weasel why are my fellow men so stupid sometimes….? |
Ladygator2904
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 189
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 09:01 pm: |
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Wooo HOooo... well done Weasel! Will you please post or email me the what a girl wants essay. Hubby was a bit remorseful when the last punishment spanking brought me to tears. Funny thing, I was happy and loved him oh so much more! Thanks for the post!
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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Katie_spades
Supreme Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 581
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 09:55 pm: |
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That is awesome and I am so happy for you weasel!!! Well done and Ihope you are certianly enjoying yourself! Right on.
Katie Spades: The Princess of Spanking
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Poofette
Spanko
Username: Poofette
Post Number: 89
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 02:48 am: |
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Weasel,
Good for you naughty thing!! Sometimes men and jack asses have much in common....you know...lead them to water and all that!!!! Hehehe! I'd love an email with a link to that essay too if you would be so kind.
Poofette |
Kryssi
Spanko
Username: Kryssi
Post Number: 77
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 04:05 am: |
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I second (or third) that essay request.. 'cause I would absolutely LOVE to let hubby read it, or read it to him.. one of the two.
I am so happy for you!! Keep up the good work!!!
"I wasn't armoured, you were king, I gave my everything, Because sometimes you showed me just a hint of you and then. For just a moment I romanticised the notion, I can take away the torment, I can love you like they never did"
~Darren Hayes~
Unlovable
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Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 57
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 07:50 am: |
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I hope this is a continuation of this thread...
Q1
How many of you like to end up in tears?
Q2
How many of you like to be
pushed up to or beyond your limit?
Q3a
And as a supplementary to the last question
how many of you like to be pushed as part of normal
play or sexual play?
Q3b
And as another supplementary to question Q2
how many of you like to be pushed as part of punishment
or some special play?
Q4: How many of you enjoy nearly as much satisfaction
As talking about it during sex?
My answers are below:
When on top
Primary purpose is to please my partner
so I enjoy pleasure from whatever she enjoys.
If she wants to be punished then so be it.
I’ll spank as hard as I can and
for as long as I think my partner
can gain pleasure
(not just short term pleasure
but the after glow and satisfaction later).
When on bottom
Q1: No
Q2: Yes but not all the time – say once a week.
Q3a: Yes as above.
Q3b: Once in a blue moon.
Q4: Sometimes nearly as much.
Take care
Nick |
Obx_peach
New member
Username: Obx_peach
Post Number: 23
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 09:01 am: |
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As I am leading the way with this journey I too would enjoy a copy and or link to the essay , if you don't mind , please feel free to PM me
Congrats , sometimes it seems hard to put it in words and I think an essay could really help us both .
Thanks for your story I appreciate you sharing it with us |
Weasel
Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 56
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 11:16 am: |
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pm's for everyone who asked!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1012
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 03:35 pm: |
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Weasel, you can tell us where the essay is as long as it's not a commercial site or one that violates our site protocols. Just don't use the direct link button to create a link. You can copy and paste the link in a post and others can copy and paste it into a browser.
If you're unsure, you can send the link to me and I'll check it out and post it for you. I'll leave it up to you. |
Redhinney
Advanced Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 451
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 04:16 pm: |
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Weasel,
I am so glad for you I know that the anticaption of the spanking works wonders. Great job
Love can't always be seen or heard but will always be felt with your heart
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Poofette
Spanko
Username: Poofette
Post Number: 91
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 03:41 am: |
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Nick,
Not sure this is on topic but I loved playing 20 questions back in the day so here goes...
Q1 nope
Q2 yes as long as they don't go near my "hard" limits. The ones that are a total turm off and a no way, no how!!!
Q3a yes indeed me me me
Q3b ditto above
Q4 Not sure I understand the question correctly....talking dirty and or commands/scolding? Like that? Then yes.
Poofette
PS thanks for the link Weasel! |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2559
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 07:55 am: |
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Actually, these questions do not belong in this thread. If you would like to start a new thread, please feel free to do so, but these questions are not under the main topic that Weasel started.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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