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Maestro
New member
Username: Maestro
Post Number: 2
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 08:05 am: | 
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Finding grown up fun at work can happen often. Sometimes it can be frustration or neglect from one's domestic life. I met a women 10 or so years ago who's life changed by virtue of being recognised for the attraction she gave to me. Much of this was because she loved the warmth of being spanked and appreciated for having a pert bum. For me it was magic to find someone with the wish to be otk'd, even though it was not the first time. We are not together now, although memories are fond. For me the eroticism of spanking isn't good enough to sustain a long term relationship in itself. However, boy can it be fun. Mark |
Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 54
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 07:26 am: |
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Hi Maestro and others
That got me thinking
Is the eroticism of spanking good enough to
sustain a long term relationship in itself?
Well having mulled over this for a couple of day
I have come to the conclusion that for me
just may be...
Other things being equal…
If my partner/lady isn't interested and
passionately involved
I will only cheat and then that probably
spells the end of the relationship anyway.
Or I will get bored with Vanilla sex and
that probably also spells the end of the relationship.
Thoughts?
Take Care
Nick |
Weasel
Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 54
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 10:56 am: |
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I try to stay away from workplace romance. It just doesn't seem like a good idea to me. However, me and the mr. have actually worked together side by side at a couple of different occupations so workplace romance is something I've experienced.
Now, Nick's thoughts, while not actually following the thread of workplace attractions, did give me pause to think and respond.
Is the eroticism of spanking good enough to sustain a ltr in itself?
For me, the answer to that was no. I met the man who matched my kink perfectly while I was in year 8 of an 8 year separation from the man I fell in love with and married over 25 years ago.
I really did think I'd met a man I could and would spend the rest of my life with as his sub. He and I fit each other perfectly and he it was who really brought home how much fun a good spanking could be. It was not the only common ground we had, a love of cars and racing, a love of sledding dogs, and a mind-match for stimulating conversation & exchange of ideas. He really met all my criteria except for one - he was NOT the man I was really truly and forever in love with.
When my ex called me for the first time in 8 years,I really went to see him to ask for my heart back. It was the only thing keeping me from moving forward into marriage with my new guy. It only took a couple of hours of talking, and laughing, and reminiscing to make me realize that no matter what, I still loved him heart and soul. It was obscene and wrong for me to carry on with anyone else. The feelings I'd been developing for my new lover just didn't compare to the feelings I held for my forever lover.
My Mister was just not into spanking or any of the exciting D/s things I had, during our separation, discovered I liked. We were back together over a year before I developed enough trust to admit to him I wanted him to spank me. Once he found out though, he has complied with my requests for spankings, and is starting to like it.
If the alternative is to cheat, well, I always have to sleep with myself, and if I cheated, I couldn't. Integrity means a lot to me personally.
To me, the question turned into "Is the love he feels for me strong enough to withstand the stress of my asking him for the erotic sensations I desire?"
Devil hates a coward... I just had to put my whole Self on the line and blurt it out. Lucky me, he's liking it! It didn't spell the end of the relationship like I thought it might, instead, it brought a whole new facet to light that is breathing new adventure into our world!
Good questions, deserving of a thread of their own, Nick!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 71
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 11:35 am: |
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Weasel
Well that is a wonderful story.
And you are very lucky.
But the problem is that you were lucky.
Your lover changed and met your needs.
No suppose he hadn’t.
That is the issues I have had….
And it broke several ltr… |
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