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Brat
New member
Username: Brat
Post Number: 1
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 08, 2005 - 09:35 pm: | 
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Hello all, I am fairly new to all of this. so bear with me! I met my boyfriend (now fiance)on new years eve, it was love at first sight. We will be married this spring, we have been living together since march, and soon after moving in together we discovered sexual spankings!! It started when he playfully gave me a couple of hard smacks on by bottom, from which I replied ooooh more!! And from then it progressed. In the last few months I have been spanked for behaviour that he has made very clear he doesn`t like. He has brought me to tears only a few times and when he spanks for punishment and doesn`t bring me to tears I feel he hasn`t fully completed the discipline that I need.(we also still enjoy sexual spankings!). So how do I ask him to spank me thoroughly ( to tears and truly sorry for my behaviour?? Thanks for listening!
Piper |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 471
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 08, 2005 - 10:02 pm: |
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Hi Piper, welcome to the Den.
When incorporating discipline into your relationship, you need to be extremely open and honest with each other. Communication is your most important tool. Sit down together and write out what rules you are expected to follow, so you know what you have to do and what consequences will follow if you mess up. Understanding how discipline will work for you is half the battle.
I know a lot of people believe that unless they are spanked to the extreme, or they are brought to tears that it isnt really a punishment spanking. For me discipline takes place in the head more than on my backside. When you understand the rules and agree to them, when you know that he will always uphold the bottom line and be fair about it, when the thought of disappointing him hurts worse than any spanking, and when you are held and forgiven afterwards...then discipline will work for you.
I hope this helped in some way. Take care.
Wolfie
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *pout*
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Headteddy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 203
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 08, 2005 - 10:09 pm: |
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Yeah Wolfie. You have it nailed. Brat-together you will figure out what works. Communicate.
BTW All -Am recovering from fall. Am still dizzy occassionally but TD is taking good care of me-she drives me everywhere-even sits through my classes. I love her so much!!
I will be back shortly and a large number of brats will be eating standing up-as long as I don't get dizzy!!
Her love has no strings, No shackles or chains
But I'm holding on for dear life-
She feels like I'm rolling a seven-- Every time I roll the dice
Delbert McClinton
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 332
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 02:58 am: |
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Headteddy, glad to hear you're recovering! And good for TD for taking such good care of you. You two are awesome!
Brat, I think I should move this to the discussion board so your question will be open for discussion, okay? |
Brat
New member
Username: Brat
Post Number: 2
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 01:27 pm: |
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Hi again, Thank you Wolfie for your reply. My fiance will be returning from the disaster down south(he`s in the army), on sunday and I have told him we have to sit down and have a serious talk when he gets home and after he rests up a bit. I do understand what you mean by the thought of me disappointing him, it does hurt in my heart. Thanks again. Take care, Piper |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 473
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 01:52 pm: |
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I'm glad I could help Piper, if there's anything more I can do just let me know. 
So Teddy....does that mean that if we want to get out of a spanking, all we have to do is spin you in circles for a bit? *WEG*
Seriously, I'm so glad your feeling better and TD is watching over you. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *pout*
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Headteddy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 204
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 02:12 pm: |
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Wolfie:
TD tried that a few days ago. The CB landed twice and than TD decided the odds were not good and went downstairs. By the time I made it downstairs (that remains a slow process) she was moving furniture and ordered me to sit down. She is so enjoying bossing me around. Justice will be served one day soon!!
Hugs:
HT
Her love has no strings, No shackles or chains
But I'm holding on for dear life-
She feels like I'm rolling a seven-- Every time I roll the dice
Delbert McClinton
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Brat
New member
Username: Brat
Post Number: 3
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 05:09 pm: |
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Hi, Piper again I would like to know what the Initials WEG stand for?? I know some one can tell me. Thanks all. Take care, Piper |
Headteddy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 205
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 05:24 pm: |
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Hi Piper:
WEG is Wide Evil Grin. VWEG is Very Wide Evil Grin. Known to occur when a top is about to paddle a brat who has gotten another brat in trouble. You get the idea.
Enjoy:
HeadTeddy
Her love has no strings, No shackles or chains
But I'm holding on for dear life-
She feels like I'm rolling a seven-- Every time I roll the dice
Delbert McClinton
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Kendra
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 254
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 05:28 pm: |
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I thought it was Wicked evil grin?? I could be wrong..
May the Spirit of the Elves guide you.
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Headteddy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 206
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 05:34 pm: |
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Kendra:
Either works-they communicate the same idea. One of my students used "FEG" today. Fierce Evil Grin!!
Things OK?
Best:
HT
Her love has no strings, No shackles or chains
But I'm holding on for dear life-
She feels like I'm rolling a seven-- Every time I roll the dice
Delbert McClinton
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Kendra
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 256
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 05:38 pm: |
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Everything is alright with me.. I'm kinda tired from working so much.. but other then that, I'm doing great!!!
Hope you guys have a great day!!
May the Spirit of the Elves guide you.
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Brat
New member
Username: Brat
Post Number: 5
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 09, 2005 - 05:42 pm: |
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Ohh, I gotcha! either one fits my SO . Thanks all!! Piper |
Kimbers
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kimbers
Post Number: 223
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 10, 2005 - 10:19 am: |
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HT, I know we have not gotten to know one another much yet as you got hurt about the time I got active. I have watched for updates though...so I am glad to hear your starting to feel better. I probably feel like I "know" you since I spent many hours going back and reading all sorts of old posts when I first arrived. Your stories about your long-standing marriage are just beautiful. I'm so glad you are back!
Brat: Great questions! Keep them coming....I love learning as we all share our views and experiences. Welcome aboard!
Kimbers
"I wish the real world would just stop hassling me!"
-Matchbox 20
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Headteddy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 208
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 10, 2005 - 12:01 pm: |
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Kimbers:
I look forward to interacting. TD has been told learning how to p;ost is mandatory so she will be joining the crew soon.
Thank you for the kind words. I am lucky-I have the love of my life, great kids, friends i would die or kill for and many, many other friends. I hope I have been able to communicate the joy I have experienced through the people I love.
Enjoy all!!
HT
Her love has no strings, No shackles or chains
But I'm holding on for dear life-
She feels like I'm rolling a seven-- Every time I roll the dice
Delbert McClinton
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1446
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 11, 2005 - 12:33 am: |
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Teddy, I am glad your spirits are up. One day at a time Buddy. I hope that knock to your noggin didn't loosen the top side of you!! I hate to see a good man down too long.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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