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Vixievamp
New member
Username: Vixievamp
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, July 17, 2006 - 07:20 pm: | 
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Well I got a punishment spanking for the first time ever!! It was not the fun fantasy I imagined but I still am happy about it because it is what I needed. And I am happy to have found a loving boyfriend who will pursue DD with me. It was a very severe hand spanking. Right now my entire bottom is one big purple bruise and he paid extra special attention to my left hip so I have deep purple bruising up there so I'm really gonna have to watch what I wear. But yes I am so happy to have finally entered a DD relationship. Why did I get spanked? Well I'll just say this....alcoholics who have Doms don't need 12 step programs. I think that could make an effective rehab program. LOL. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2579
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 17, 2006 - 07:54 pm: |
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VixieVamp, you are only 18 and already an alcoholic?
I understand what you are trying to say, but anyone with a true addiction problem does need help, and a spanking is not going to cure the disorder. Chemical dependence is a serious condition.
Secondly, please take care on how high up you are spanked. Your kidneys can be damaged from a severe spanking that goes up beyond the fleshy part of the buttocks.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Vixievamp
New member
Username: Vixievamp
Post Number: 7
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, July 17, 2006 - 08:08 pm: |
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Thank you for that advice Fanny. I did not realize that was dangerous. No, I understand that a lot of people need help. I was just joking. And I'm not like a raging alcoholic, it does not affect my daily life, it is just something that is gradually becoming more and more of a problem. See my father is an alcoholic and the only way to bond with him or anyone else on his side of the family is to drink together so I am drinking in my home with my father. It's a bad situation and I think that once I'm out of this environment it'll get better. But he is gonna help me out and so are our friends. Thank you for your concern. And I was totally joking about the rehab thing so I apologize if that was offensive to anyone. |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 679
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 17, 2006 - 10:21 pm: |
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This first time punishment spanking seems a bit too severe....please be careful. And honey, please don't think that drinking and bonding go together. You are young - seek help - we are a great group who are willing to help, and to listen 
Take care~~
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Weasel
Advanced Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 104
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 12:47 pm: |
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Was that individual under the influence of drugs or alcohol when you got your punishment spanking? Have they hit you out of anger ever? Have they hit you anywhere other than spanking you? Burns? Cuts? Be careful! D/s is not about one person having all the power and one person getting beat up.
If you need to drink with someone to get their attention and bond, you have a problem. It's DO NOT give yourself an excuse to be just like they are. You recognize they have a problem but you don't recognize that YOU have a problem. Going from an abusive home relationship into an abusive D/s relationship might be jumping out of the frying pan into the fire for you. Don't settle for an equally abusive relationship in some other disguise. Work on building your own life and being your own person before you give yourself into anothers hands, especially in a D/s relationship.
You're 18 now, you have a chance to make a better life than your parents have given you. Don't fear what the world has to offer you, fear what you're too scared to reach for. Don't be a coward and fail to reach for success.
My father was an alcoholic too. Our bonding happened after he stopped drinking. When I was 14 yrs old I threw him out of our house physically, and told him to leave me and mom ALONE. He went into rehab the next day, and stayed sober until he died 7 years ago. I'm 49 now. We enjoyed nearly 30 years together. You have only lived 18 years, please take my advice. Encourage others to be sober with you instead of you caving in to weakness and being a drunk with them. The high road is called that because it's a tougher path to follow. The truest paths always lead through mountains. The low road will lead you into muck you'll never see your way through.
Don't say that drinking hasn't affected your life. You're 18 and let someone beat you black and blue, and tagged it a "spanking".
I have lived life on the low road of bikers, porn, and drugs, and I've finally found that high road. I value the gentle things in life now in a way many people cannot understand. Only in finding gentleness did I experience true strength.
I hope you spend some time really reviewing the energy & dynamics of the couples that post here. You will find caring, and willing spirits to uplift you and support you as you learn about what we all realize is a rather quirky kink.
Stick with us, kid. We're a good group. We welcome you among us. Sorry this is so long, when I read what you posted, I found that I had a LOT to say!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 919
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 18, 2006 - 01:18 pm: |
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I guess I can only echo what has already been said. Please be careful it sounds like your spankings are very severe. Drinking to much is never a good thing. Your young don't rush into things to fast. Take your time go slow.
Please take care and please take the advice given here by the others it is very good advice!! |
Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 91
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 07:42 am: |
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Was this at all sexual?
Or did you just get relief from the domination concept?
Or was it the loving partner spanking to try and change your behavior or give you release from doing wrong? |
Vixievamp
New member
Username: Vixievamp
Post Number: 8
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 10:34 pm: |
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Alright I had to think for awhile before I could reply to this.....Yes Nicenick it was all of the above. Right after the spanking I lost my virginity. It was a very sweet moment. About the bruising...I failed to mention that I am very light skinned and bruise very easily. A spanking that would leave most just red will bruise me. Secondly, this is not his fetish, he is doing it for me at my total discretion because he loves me and wants to make me happy. He is not a self proclaimed Dom. Thirdly, Weasel I appreciate your concern but I was in an abusive relationship for most of high school and I know what the signs are. I know how it feels to be beaten in the face, cut, ect. and was even almost killed. I have been through counseling and have moved on from the type of thinking that got me in that relationship. I assure you that everything is 100% consensual and totally within my pain threshold. He isnt even Dominant over me at all unless we are doing a d/s situation and he gave me a submissive name (Lady Pink) so he knows when I want him to be that way. I will say "I'm not Angel, I'm Lady Pink" and we'll take it from there. I'm being very safe. As for the drinking I am doing so much better and hope to be recovered soon. |
Nicenick06
Advanced Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 131
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Friday, August 11, 2006 - 12:58 am: |
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Right on Vixievamp.
Lovely and great.
Happy for you.
And don’t mind Weasel’s comments – she was just looking out for you
And being your friend.
That is really very nice.
Gives me a warm good feeling glow all over.
Take care
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Atomicpuppy
Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 52
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Friday, August 11, 2006 - 03:38 pm: |
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When reading this my first reaction was oh no.
It seems that your in a very awkward and bad situation.
As for the drinking,you never have to do what anyone else does.My friends all drank when we went out,but I never did,no matter how much they tried to make me and still I had just as much fun.
The spanking,something doesn't sound quite right there too.As long as you can trust each other then that's ok.Though if you bruise that easy I would be a little careful.Being so young and already you seem to have been through quite a lot.
Glad that you have been getting help and hope you continue with that.If you need any help then I sure everyone here would be very willing.
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Weasel
Advanced Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 146
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Friday, August 11, 2006 - 07:48 pm: |
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Vixievamp I'm so glad you came back to update us on how it's going. As you can see we were all concerned for you! It sounds like you a very together young lady, so this weasel will stop worrying!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Atomicpuppy
Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 63
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 06:02 pm: |
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I haven't really had a proper punishment spanking,yet.I have thought about it a lot and how I would like it to go.Why? Well because my wife is not into spanking like me,but she will and is very willing to spank me anytime I need/want it.Though as time goes by she is getting more into it.It works for us,so great. |
Scubasteve7
New member
Username: Scubasteve7
Post Number: 16
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, December 31, 2006 - 11:01 pm: |
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I don't even recall my first punishment spanking anymore. I do recall a few times when my sisters would just use their hand and slap my bottom, just enough to get the message across for me to "chill out". |
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