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Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 73
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 05:54 am: | 
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What proportion of us are in relationships?
Something Jorge prompted.
It appears to me that many of the best writers
or more frequent writers are actually in mature serious relationships.
What do others feel? |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 708
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 06:48 am: |
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"R" and I are in a serious relationship....married 31 years this past May( I was 20 and he was 27 when we married) - and the last 4 years have involved spanking. We are truly "soul-mates" 
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 95
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 08:13 am: |
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That is so lovely.
You are so very very lucky.
Nick |
Weasel
Advanced Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 132
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 09:38 am: |
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D and I met in 1978, started dating in 1979, married in 1984 and we went through a rough ten years from 94 to 2004, eight of which we had no contact with each other whatsoever. Two years ago he called me from a jail up north of here and he had "hit the bottom". Once he got "clean" he saw what a mess he'd made of things between us, and at after he served his time I invited him to move back in. He's been clean for over 2 years now and I'm very proud of him for that. Tough Love paid off.
Mature? Serious? Well sometimes I wonder about that part!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Reader_girl
Advanced Spanko
Username: Reader_girl
Post Number: 150
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 09:40 am: |
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Wow, Weasel, that's committment. D is a fortunate man to have you.
Reader Girl
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Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 709
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 12:06 pm: |
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Nick...you're right I am a very lucky girl~~
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Blistering_blonde
Advanced Spanko
Username: Blistering_blonde
Post Number: 347
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 07:01 pm: |
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Very Married
He asked what I needed , timidly gave it at first, now he just knows.
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 970
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 07:09 pm: |
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I've been married to my husband for 3 years
Actually 3 years on Wednesday. We have been togehter for 6 years.
I was married before for over 14 years. |
Poofette
Spanko
Username: Poofette
Post Number: 95
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 03:09 am: |
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Not all of us are attached. I'm not. I have been in a relationship that involved spanking and loved it (at least THAT part of it!). It WILL be a part of any future relationships I have. Sometimes I don't comment because I have nothing to add to the conversation. I always pop in the read though. 
Poofette |
Nicenick06
Advanced Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 105
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 03:28 am: |
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I did a separate survey of the membership.
Around 54% said they were attached in some way or other.
But on reviewing that is an underestimate (I know this is boring) as some members (e.g. Tina) said they were single when that might reflect their legal status but in fact they are in a committed relationship (partner sdhrts).
That said the people who write regularly seem to be mostly attached. For example PinkCheeks, Reader_Girl, Blistering_Blonde, Tammynx, Lady G etc.
So good on you Poofette. |
Reader_girl
Advanced Spanko
Username: Reader_girl
Post Number: 152
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 07:27 am: |
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I think it's somewhat more complicated than that, if you look at degrees of attachment, whether people go back and change their profile to reflect their relationship status, etc. Anyhow, it's nice to know we have a number cruncher around if we need you.
Reader Girl
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 975
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 09:45 am: |
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You must also take into consideration that not everything said on line is true. |
Ladygator2904
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 232
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 07:55 pm: |
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I was married 23 yrs the first time... spanking during sex only not into dd... 3 yrs now with the second husband. DD lifestyle
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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Poofette
Spanko
Username: Poofette
Post Number: 100
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 31, 2006 - 01:48 am: |
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Tammynx,
Not just online but in r/l too. People lie. Whatever their motives are, they lie. Pretty pointless to lie about who or what you are but they do. Gotta kiss a lot of frogs to come up with a prince!! And Nic....same applies to guys although I'm not sure what y'all have to kiss to come up with a princess. Been a long time since I've read any fairy tales.
Poofette |
Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 979
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 31, 2006 - 08:35 am: |
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Very true Poofette!! |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 110
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, July 31, 2006 - 09:28 am: |
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as a rule I don't pay much attention to surveys, and yes there are lots of frogs out there. and some people do lie about most anything, I was married to one who lied to me and had a secret life with another woman and that sure made me feel used and it crushed me.
It took me some time to find the right man and we have been together for 4 years, marred for 3. my main goal in life is for the both of us to be happy together.
my name says it all
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Bailey
New member
Username: Bailey
Post Number: 34
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Monday, July 31, 2006 - 11:02 am: |
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I'm in a relationship, have been for about 3 years. I don't anticipate it changing any time soon, as we are both very committed to each other and our D/s dynamic. However next to 30 some and 20 some years of marriage it looks pretty small.
Bailey
"She makes love just like a woman ... but she breaks just like a little girl."
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Fireman_chris
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fireman_chris
Post Number: 134
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 31, 2006 - 11:46 am: |
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Sparkle and I "met" through the old alt.sex.spanking newsgroup back in '97. We'd both been part of it for several years before that, and of course "knew" each other, but our close friendship didn't really start until then, when we learned that we were almost the same age (I'm 28 days older than she is). That friendship grew into something more and we met in R/L for the first time almost exactly a year later. We were living on opposite coasts at the time, so it was a long distance relationship. She moved out here the summer of '99 and we were engaged very shortly after that, and got married in 2000.
We've now been married for almost 6 years, have a 2 1/2 year old daughter, and Sparkle still gets spanked several times a week (some weeks more than others).
As you slide down the banisters of life
may the splinters never point the wrong way.
Old Irish Proverb
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Mistydawn
Spanko
Username: Mistydawn
Post Number: 91
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, July 31, 2006 - 02:01 pm: |
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We've been together 15 years and married for ten of those and been spanking for only 6 months. He has belted me on a smattering of occasions through out the 15 years but I only had my first spank 6 months ago and what a wonderful release in more ways than one. We've come an awful long way in those 6 months from me not knowing what the hell I was or what I wanted. From pushing him away and rebelling big time to giving myself completely to him. I have found what I needed through submission, spanking is one of the tools used to show that submission.
Our relationship has changed and grown in many ways over the last 15 years but since I discovered spanking and D/S ie discovered my true self I/We have never been more happy and fulfilled.
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MistyDawn
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Learning to love and loving to learn
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2595
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 01, 2006 - 02:24 am: |
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I have been married since before dirt was invented. I have been with the same man since I was 18.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 116
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 02, 2006 - 12:12 pm: |
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I,ve moved to the Dominican Republic and the new relationship that I had started in Venezuela is now on hold.She found out with me that she was into spanking(actually is a member of the den)and loved it.I,ll have to find someone here and start over again(what the hell)Ain,t easy Ma Gee!Thinking of running an ad. |
Nicenick06
Advanced Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 112
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 03, 2006 - 02:43 pm: |
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Why thank you reader girl.
Aren’t librarians also number crunchers of a sort?
(Authored 56 boring books please note but still can’t write….).
Ah truth…. No I hadn’t taken that into account.
In what way would people tell white lies.
Saying they are attached when they are not? Or vice versa.
Or saying they are happily married when they are in reality looking?
Lady G….. lady G
You are not old enough to be married that long….
Poofette… well one can dream at least.
(I have affinity for you as you are single as well – well if you are telling the truth that is).
Buenaventura. Let me know how your search goes and good luck.
Take care all.
Nick |
Poofette
Advanced Spanko
Username: Poofette
Post Number: 101
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 04, 2006 - 02:00 am: |
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Nic,
Really wish I was not telling the truth about being single. I would rather be in a good relationship that involves lots of needs being met. 
It can be very hard to find a fellow spanko in the vanilla world, I have not been as lucky as some and the reactions have not always been positive with those I've dated. I think I've posted on this subject matter before. Finding someone through alt or other sites like it causes ME a problem. I have found that trying to start a relationship based on what the couple both likes sexually means the relationship is based on sex not feelings, at least initially, and it is very hard to go past that. Sexual needs are powerful blinders that can obscure other equally important needs. Before anyone gets offended, I am certainly not saying ALL are like that just what I have personally experienced. I think I'd rather date/get to know and hopefully corrupt someone from the vanilla world where a relationship is built BEFORE the sexual quirks get involved. I can't remember who said it on which thread but I whole heartedly agree....spanko's are usually passionate, sexual people. What I look for is compatability in every aspect of the person not just in their sexuality. If I can't have my cake and eat it too then I'd rather diet. I want the cake, the frosting and the sprinkles!!!
(Greedy Girl) Poofette |
Nicenick06
Advanced Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 116
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Friday, August 04, 2006 - 04:48 am: |
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Poofette
Yes you are right.
Relationship comes first and spanking/good sex I suppose is the icing on the cake.
Pity though.
Always want my cake and to eat it.
Nick |
Legslapper
New member
Username: Legslapper
Post Number: 9
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 07:43 am: |
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It's so wonderful that many of you who are in relationships are involved with and contribute to this site. I am a male without a partner whether into spanking or not so while I like it, it's not happening. Maybe one day!
Slap my legs and I'll slap yours
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Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 114
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 08:15 am: |
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Legslapper, yes being alone stinks but better alone than with be with someone who is dishonest.I do wish you well.
Nick on not telling the truth, some people on line will lie, some you meet at work will also lie at times, but worst of all is to wake up and find you are married to a liar.( ex did that ) and that hurts worst of all.
my name says it all
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Legslapper
New member
Username: Legslapper
Post Number: 10
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 08:24 am: |
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Thanks Subbie, good to know people are listening and responding. That helps believe me it does. I do also feel for you if you've had a bad experience of lying then my heart bleeds for you.
I've been there too.
Slap my legs and I'll slap yours
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Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 116
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 08:34 am: |
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Legslapper, life does have to go on and I am now married to a great person, it took 6 years following my divorce but well worth the wait, again good luck....Master calling , shore time so hope there are lots of spankings going on over the weekend and lots to read when i get back
my name says it all
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Spankynyc
New member
Username: Spankynyc
Post Number: 35
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 04:16 pm: |
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I am not as fortunate as the rest of you happily married guys and gals. I am single and looking for that special girl who loves to be spanked and settle down. Eventhough I live in NYC where there is a lot of females, it is still hard to find a lady that has something in common (spanking) with you, whether it is inside or outside the bedroom. |
Atomicpuppy
New member
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 12
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 05, 2006 - 05:33 pm: |
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My Wife and I have been married for 4 1/2 years and together nearly 8.Not too bad seems I'm just past 30 and my Wife is in her mid twenties.
Hopefully we will be together as long as some of you |
Sarahsbrat
New member
Username: Sarahsbrat
Post Number: 43
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 09, 2006 - 10:25 am: |
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I am. Two years now and still learning and growing by others standards.
I would not change my life or style of living for any thing though.
It brings me peace and comfort and security that I so deperately need.
There is a guy at my group of real life spank stories that puts a sign up at Uni and gets all these different men to come and spank him. He does it for the joy of getting spanked and although he may be happy right now I think one day he will wonder about his life.
Not just any naughty brat...Sarahsbrat
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