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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2740
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 28, 2006 - 08:23 pm: | 
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I know that many of us in long term relationships have found times when spanking just didn't fit into our day to day life. Other times one partner or the other temporarily lost interest.
What can anyone contribute to how they coped with the absense of a part of their lifestyle that they are suddenly without?
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 875
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 29, 2006 - 09:07 am: |
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I am not a good "coper" Fanny - You know that I had to be without spanking for months (recovery) and it was difficult. Of course, there was a good reason for that absence. 
I know that I think about and am much more involved in spanking then hubby is - so there are times when I just have to say...."hey hon - its been a while since I have been over your knee"
Life sure does know how to throw a monkey wrench into spanking fun doesn't it?
This is a great question Fanny~
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1242
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 29, 2006 - 09:54 am: |
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We go without spanking for months sometimes at my house. Life just gets in the way. I don't cope well either. Its okay at first but then there is just this "need" for it.
I'm lucky enough that I can just say to my husband...hey its been a long time...and that will ususally be all I have to say.
I'm finding lately that it isn't even so much life that gets in the way...its just that we are both so tired at the end of the day and that is when we have the time for spanking. After the other family members are in bed...we are just to tired.
I hope this isn't what it will be like in a few years. You know getting older....getting more tired. Maybe a good nap during the day would help. Hubby can't do that though. |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 176
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, September 29, 2006 - 06:26 pm: |
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Life does get in the way, we were going to go to the shore tonight but hubby has two jobs that are promised to be finished so he will go to work tomorrow for 5 hours or so and then we can go but any midnight fun we planned for tonight is now shot down and tomorrow night we have some company coming, so kiss this weekend goodby, no spanking fun now.
I don't cope too well, just grin and bear it grrr.
my name says it all
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1246
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 30, 2006 - 10:25 am: |
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I guess thats all any of us can do...
grin and bear it, or maybe that should be "bare" it. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2744
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 30, 2006 - 11:30 am: |
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That is the whole point, Tammy!!! Not having enough time to "bare it" 
So I guess none of us cope very well with it, I personally eat a lot of chocolate and hope for the best. 
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 879
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 30, 2006 - 02:05 pm: |
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The chocolate thing sounds good to me!
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2749
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 30, 2006 - 02:55 pm: |
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It's an answer Pink, not a good one, but it does help.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1251
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 01, 2006 - 10:03 am: |
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Right now I'm so fustrated with lack of spanking in my house not all the chocolate in the world could help!!
Your right Fanny...some of us don't cope very well. I'm starting to get real cranky about it!! |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1368
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 01, 2006 - 10:59 am: |
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It's not me that has lost interest lately...it's the Old Feller I'm married to!
I feel so neglected...sniff sniff
I'm cranky as well!!!
I don't know what his loss of interest is contributed to. I've tried talking to him about it but in one ear and out the other.
I guess I'll just have to wait till he decides to take care of me.
In the meantime...watch the dark cloud above me!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2751
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 01, 2006 - 11:24 am: |
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Shylah, I did see some lightening and thunder across the horizon last night, I didn't realize that it was you!! 
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1372
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 02, 2006 - 07:34 am: |
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It seems to me that it's not US that have lost the interest...it's our SO's!
So...now we ask ourselves...what can we do to light their fires so they will light a fire on our bums??
Girls??????
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1255
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 02, 2006 - 08:16 am: |
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I just sent my husband an e-mail. I said it as plain as I could. No beating around the bush. I told him I missed spanking. I need spanking. I want spankings!!
I'll let you know if it did any good when I find out. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2754
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 02, 2006 - 09:18 am: |
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There is a site that you can send e-mail cards about spanking. Maybe getting one of them will get the wheels turning. I think it is called Rosey Bottoms.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1256
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 02, 2006 - 10:35 am: |
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ohhh I think I've heard of that before. Someone sent me one about 6 years ago. I had forgotten all about that.
Good idea Fanny. I think I'll do that too!! |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2760
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 02, 2006 - 04:46 pm: |
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I just checked and the site is Rosy Bottom, sorry for any confusion.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1374
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 02, 2006 - 05:05 pm: |
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I'd send mine an ecard but I would have to tell him to check his email!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2761
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 02, 2006 - 06:35 pm: |
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Shylah just print it out and place in where he will see it, maybe inside the refrigerator. 
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Vixen
New member
Username: Vixen
Post Number: 16
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Friday, October 06, 2006 - 05:16 pm: |
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I want to jump on the frustration bandwagon and vent too! Life just keeps on getting in the way!!!!!
I got so tired of it a couple of weeks ago that I took an old red lipliner that was ready to be thrown out anyway and drew a big bulls-eye on my bare backside, then I marched into the gameroom, shut the door, planted myself right in front of where he was playing playstation and showed him the moon!
I wish there was a simpler way to get through to them but as far as my man goes, visual aides are almost always required. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2789
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, October 06, 2006 - 06:53 pm: |
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Good move on your part, Vixen. Sometimes you have to be as bold as brass to get a man's attention. What is he doing playing games with a system, with real life play much more fun? Never mind, I have one of those men and yes, visual aides are required.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Steelman
New member
Username: Steelman
Post Number: 3
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, October 07, 2006 - 10:56 am: |
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I think you ladies need to have your mans' heads examined. Why would they not want to spank your asses? I have been trying to get my wife interested for years. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2793
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, October 07, 2006 - 01:13 pm: |
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Well, Steelman, I guess the problem can go either way.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Sissy9
New member
Username: Sissy9
Post Number: 40
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, October 07, 2006 - 11:48 pm: |
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Hi Fanny,NO, expert by any means,but is you are truly a spanko,and he is too, ( look at life,stress,sickness,hormones,changes in life,not counting everyday things, now times it times 2,and you can figure out your own delima,lifestyle,is tuff,no less,love or desire,just true love and compassion,for the other,and at the sametime don't loose grip of yourself! |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1393
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 09, 2006 - 02:00 pm: |
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*looks at Sissy9's comment...*
HUH?
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1321
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 09, 2006 - 03:09 pm: |
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I don't know about you Shylah but my husband proved to me the other night he hasn't lost intrest at all!!
I was wondering what was up with sissy's comment as well...I thought maybe she posted it in the wrong place? |
Ma_vie_en_rose
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 261
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Monday, October 09, 2006 - 06:10 pm: |
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Shylah, that's a terrifying smiley. *steals it*
Maybe it's free verse poetry. How modern ;)
I think it's saying that it'll be okay if you both really want it you may just be going through a rough patch right now?
Or sommat. |
Nicenick06
Advanced Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 156
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 09:38 am: |
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Fascinating posts.
I am a little with Steelman.
And if any of you are really missing it I’ll come over from France and help out.
I guess Steelman would as well?
Just kidding.
I think over time all sexual play can become boring.
Two things can spice it up.
Doing new things.
And a physical break – as in one partner has to go away on business for a week.
Nick |
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 209
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 10:20 am: |
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I don,t know Nick.My second wife gave me no rest and we made love at least twice a day every day (and some times she,d nail me at lunchtime).Never got bored.(Might be I,m strange) |
Ladygator2904
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 279
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 07:46 pm: |
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To me, spanking doesnt get boring and if I was to do without it for a long period of time... well, I guess that just wouldnt happen. I would have to paddle myself <g> as for sex becoming boring. NOT in my LIFETIME!
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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Katie_spades
Supreme Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 717
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 16, 2006 - 04:46 pm: |
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Well, I must say I have to feel bad for Jake here, LOL because there are many times he has to cope with my just "not being into it" at all and he does it so well I think...
LOL, would I be so good if I had to cope?
The Princess of Spanking™
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1361
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 17, 2006 - 11:04 am: |
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Spanking has NEVER been boring that isn't the problem EVER in my house, but there are times when it just doesnt happen for one reason or another. I'm not sure how sex got in this topic it wasn't part of the original topic, but I have never found that to be boring either. |
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 219
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 17, 2006 - 12:11 pm: |
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Probably my fault Tammy but Nick said something about all sexual play maybe getting boring.I think that,s how I got off(no pun intended)on a tangent.SORRY!! |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1168
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 17, 2006 - 03:59 pm: |
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 Out of respect to the person who started the thread, let's stay serious and on subject please! Thank you! |
Sissy9
New member
Username: Sissy9
Post Number: 44
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, January 07, 2007 - 10:34 pm: |
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I have gone so long with out spanking at times, it felt like the pains of release.Months at times,and we are 24-7.Thought about anti-depressents,talking gets no where just hurt feelings.Nice to know I'm not alone,no answers,sorry. |
Sissy9
New member
Username: Sissy9
Post Number: 45
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, January 07, 2007 - 10:39 pm: |
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Sorry somehow and old comment got mixed up with this one? had problem with password,not sure sorry, |
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