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Nvsweetie
New member
Username: Nvsweetie
Post Number: 4
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, November 02, 2006 - 02:38 am: | 
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So stupid question, but how would on go about finding someone to mentor them or discipline them on an ongoing basis? |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1188
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 02, 2006 - 03:19 am: |
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Nvsweetie, finding a mentor or disciplinarian is a very personal thing. You have to find someone you get along with, who understands and respects you, and is trustworthy.
A good idea is to start by finding some like-minded people. If you can find a group either in your area or in cyber space that you're comfortable with, you can get to know other spankos and maybe find someone who is a good match for you.
If you look at the thread titled "How do you find each other" you might get an idea of how some of us have found partners. I know most of the members who posted there were talking about finding life-partners, but there are others who are in other types of spanking relationships. The process is pretty much the same.
Remember, once you find someone you still need to be careful because there are some people out there who use this lifestyle as a way to take advantage of others. Take your time getting to know anyone and then remember to take the proper safety precautions before meeting up with anyone new. If you'll look through our threads, you'll find some references to this sort of thing.
Good luck! |
Ma_vie_en_rose
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 275
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, November 02, 2006 - 04:07 pm: |
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Slight hijack, but mostly on topic: Are there any good spanking chats? I know I've never been very good with IRC and I know AOL had chats, but I don't use AOL proper any longer. Maybe yahoo? |
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 266
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, November 02, 2006 - 08:39 pm: |
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Yahoo has a lot of groups Rose maybe 50 or more to do with spanking. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2865
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 02, 2006 - 10:23 pm: |
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Are those chat rooms or forums, Buenaventura?
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Egotrip123
New member
Username: Egotrip123
Post Number: 1
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 06:44 pm: |
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I've lurked here for awhile but I have a similar question. I discovered I might be interested in the spanko thing this summer and this week I finally worked up the courage to register on alt.com to find someone to spank me. I found someone who matched my needs and wants and he is going to spank me soon. I'm excited but I'm nervous as hell. First of all, I've never been spanked, not even as a kid, so I don't know what to expect physically. Second, I'm wondering if I'm crazy for doing this at all, let alone with a person I haven't met in person yet. Any thoughts/encouragement? |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2869
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 07:01 pm: |
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Hold the bus!!! Don't go jumping ahead of yourself. Do not meet with a stranger and be alone with him. You really need to get to know and trust anyone before you let them touch you. To begin with you need to move slowly and never meet him without a safety plan. The first few meetings should always be in a public place just to talk and get to know one another. Bring a friend if you can or at the very least let some one know where you are going and carry a cell phone. Get identification from him and make sure you pass it along to a safety person. There are a lot of other safety issues you need to be aware of. Your safety is the primary point and do not compromise it.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Nicenick06
Advanced Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 171
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 07:21 pm: |
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Really tough.
I have tried everything.
Nick |
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 269
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 10:59 pm: |
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Fanny I think they,re mostly forums But I,ve only explored 5 of them.But that,s no problem cause in the discussions you find common themes with some of the people and then start to communicate by E-mail with them and so buildup a friendship to eventually go to messenger.And so on.if one takes the time I,m sure that in the other groups there,s a chat going on somewhere.But it isn,t the only way.
Nick stop being so negative.If you want to get something done the first thing is to go about it in a positive way and don,t give up hope.Keep looking there,s a lot of people out there just like you. |
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