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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1156
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 08, 2006 - 01:29 am: | 
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This is a chance for everyone to share where in this lifestyle you are right now. I'm not trying to pin you down here, I know I've changed my spankiness over the years, but it'd be nice to know where we're all coming from and I thought this would be a handy way to do it.
I'd like some of you lurkers to take this opportunity to join in, too. You don't have to impress us with lingo, just tell us a little about yourselves.
So what flavor of spanko am I?
I'm actually a spanko of many flavors. I'm mainly into erotic spankings but since I'm also a submissive, I occasionally receive disciplinary spankings as well.
My partner is Dan (aka SpankBoss of SpankingBlog) and we're very much in love. We've been together for about three years now so we're still in the early years of our relationship, but so far it's been awesome. Dan's very loving and supportive when he asserts his dominance and that's what my submissive nature needs so it all works out beautifully for us.
We don't do true domestic discipline (dd), our lifestye is more about spanking for pleasure. Even when he's asserting himself and giving me a disciplinary spanking, we don't consider it "punishment" so much as our way of reaffirming our roles as the dominant and the submissive in this relationship.
That may sound a little confusing, but I tend to enjoy intense spankings. Even if he tried, it'd be hard, if not impossible, for him to spank me in a way I didn't enjoy. It's all in the attitude when he spanks that makes the difference. I even enjoy the after effects because a sore bottom makes me feel loved, so true punishment spankings don't really work with me. I'm not wired that way.
For me, the more tender my bottom is, the happier I am. As far as implements go, the more the merrier is my motto. I enjoy leather the most but I can have fun with wood, as well. I even enjoy a good caning and we have a new whip I'm really starting to like. 
My other kinky interests are related to spanking in one way or another. I really enjoy bondage especially rope play, role-play (not to be confused with age-play btw), and other sensation play that goes beyond just spanking.
Okay, I've told you all about me, now let's hear from you other members and lurkers, too! |
Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1304
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 08, 2006 - 11:03 am: |
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I guess I'd have to say I enjoy different types of spanking as well.
My husband and I have been married for 3 years and have been together for 5. We met in a spanking chatroom.
We live a somewhat D/D lifestyle. That being said it isn't 24/7. I don't think either of us could do that. I'm somewhat of a sumissive. More so when being spanked. If I'm asked a question with that "tone" I say yes/no "Sir".
We dont have erotic or fun spankings as much as I would like but we do occastionaly.
We do have discipline spankings when needed. These don't happen as often as I would like however I manage trouble when I need it. I can always ask if I just "need" a spanking. My husband is getting really good at being able to tell when I'm out of sorts and just "need" that spanking!!
I love being able to feel a spanking the next day but often don't, the feel and color leave a lot faster then I would like. I guess over the years my butt has gotten tough.
I guess thats about it...this is my life so far...  |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2799
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 08, 2006 - 01:06 pm: |
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I have been involved in the spanking world since college. Truthfully, I really didn't give it much thought before a boyfriend spanked me in a mock disciplinary/erotic way. I remember being shocked by it, but later thinking about it and being thrilled by the whole thing.
When I met R, I soon realized that he was a spanko too. Silly me, thinking that it was a desire that was limited to that one boyfriend.
For years and years we only practiced erotic spankings, until I started becoming more involved with reading about the entire spanking world.
About 5 years ago, we decided to try DD and found it very effective. I am not a submissive type by nature, so I go over squirming and pleading, I consider it part of the fun. We both find it to be a natural way to release tension and to avoid arguements. There are times when I am just out of sorts and running on overwhelm, and a spanking helps to recenter me. It is a great help when I cannot sleep because my worrywart attitude comes out big time. When all I can think of is a hot, throbbing bottom, it is amazing how quickly I "forget" about that else is bothering me.
I am one who finds all types of spanking to be erotic, even those that are labled as disciplinary. Unfortunately, our play time is greatly reduced by the real world, a house full of kids, health issues, jobs et cetera.
I will try just about anything once, and if it doesn't feel comfortable it is tossed. I draw the line when spanking becomes too severe, mostly because I need to be careful with my illness. By severe I mean leaving bruises, I cannot have them as I see my doctors so frequently and have to have bone marrow biospies which are taken from my hip. Any markings would be way too obvious. It is not a concern as my husband has learned to give a good, sound spanking without leaving a mark. Frequent, longer spankings work the best. By frequent I mean on a daily basis, but re-read the last paragraph and you will see the complications of that occuring.
I have enjoyed role play as it is a fun way to keep things from becoming too mundane in a long term relationship. I sew and can make inexpensive and better quality outfits than the costumes out there.
I also have to admit that I love the intimacy of an OTK spanking and the body to body, skin to skin contact.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Naughtyboy50s
New member
Username: Naughtyboy50s
Post Number: 46
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, October 08, 2006 - 01:29 pm: |
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I have been a spankophile from my earliest memory! I will not venture there because of age . I would spank girlfriends, but they never realized what it meant to me! I can't control the overwhelming desires I have.My most prolific desire is to be spanked and disciplined by another spankophile-an older woman!
Now the real life- I am married to a wonderfull woman who knows my fetish. I have related this to being gay(which I am not) and living with my love!.
I come to this site because the people here know the sexual stimulus of being with another spankophile.
I will always be this way, and would love to talk intamately with a woman who shares my desires Spanking=Loving.
Bye!
Thanks Bethie! |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 897
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 08, 2006 - 02:08 pm: |
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Guess I am one of the "old married" ladies  . R and I have been together for 31 years (wow!!) - I was 20 when we got married and he is 7 years old then me.
I was the one who "stumbled" upon the spanking lifestyle first. Originally, I was fasinated with BDSM and its components, and even got hubby to attend some fetish fairs with me...but along the way we realized that it was spanking that turned us both on. I was the one who brought the subject up first.
In the beginning, R was hesitate - not wanting to hurt me and all, but over the years, we seem to have developed a real enjoyment for OTK.
Guess I would have to say that I, too, enjoy a variety of spankings, but most of ours seem to be erotic in nature. I am not a true submissive (wayyyyyyyyy to headstrong), but we do practice discipline spankings occasionally **Although I would like the those spankings to be longer - I discuss this issue in a separate thread**. I don't really like marks, but adore color, sting, and the "after-glow" of a spanking - the warm feeling you still have hours after the spanking ends!
What excites me is when R even mentions the word spanking to me! It sets off butterflies in my tummy - or phrases like "someone need to be over my knee right now!" - or "I'll show you a nice shade of red".
Since both of our children live in another state (1/2 way across the country for that matter!), we don't have to worry about them walking in - so the spanking lifestyle has blossomed for us.
R even enjoys giving me an occasional swat in a store, outside, during our runs and hikes...you name it
Toys? We got um~ But his favorite is the leather paddle (and that darn oar I won from the poetry contest on this site! ouch!  . We also dabble with some light bondage - nothing extreme. I find that OTK is the place where I find the most satisfaction, closeness, and intimacy.
R is also getting good at knowing the difference between my "attitude" days - that deserve a spanking  and the days when I just need a long hug  That is what I absolutely adore about the man.
I am a very lucky woman - I was the one who wanted to try the spanking scene, and he had no problem accomodating me. It is still a learning experience for the both of us.
Great thread Bethie!
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Nicenick06
Advanced Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 141
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, October 08, 2006 - 03:01 pm: |
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As a switch but mainly a top with switching tendencies I enjoy erotic spanking the best. But I have been in relationships where there have been dd (me being dominant).
I find my partner has favourites. My last ex enjoyed riding crops with the leather floppy bit at the end vest. Though she also took the cane, straps and paddle. Spanking for me is mostly about erotic and foreplay before sex or as an adjunct to sex. Even discipline and punishment ends up with sex though may be not immediately.
Sometimes ladies/partners who enjoy being spanked also enjoy a degree of nipple teasing/torture.
I agree with Bethie that the after-affects are enjoyable and that a sore bottom makes me feel loved. One way of interpreting it is a I have taken pain to prove my love to my beloved….
And I agree that the more tender my bottom is, the happier I am.
I’d like to experiment more with dd both receiving and giving.
Like Tammynx I also love being able to feel a spanking the next few days but like her I often can’t feel much. I also love to see real marks and tramlines or bruising but mostly the marks go fairly quickly or within hours. So as with Tammynx I tend to agree that “I guess over the years my butt has gotten tough”
I understand Fanny’s problems about marks and seeing doctors. It also applies if you have to go for a medical examination, or an injection in the bottom or are stripped searched! Also marks may be visible under a short bikini. I have had to answer some very awkward questions on boat trips where swimming makes bikinis mandatory.
Even a swimming costume can reveal quite a lot at close quarters.
Implements – really anything goes and sometimes giving and receiving one wants to have a variety of implements.
In terms of length I am different from Fanny. Sometimes talking about it is exciting and sometimes just a quick session is better than no session at all. Long session take time and careful planning.
Happy spanking
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1394
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 09, 2006 - 02:12 pm: |
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At first our spanking fun was for diffent reasons. He would spank me for being bratty or naughty. He would do erotic spankings lots. Sometimes, he would spank me just cos he felt like it.
Nowadays, it's a reward...I get spankings cos I want them and since I love it...I get them as a reward.
Reward for what?
I am ME! I don't need a reason. I get what I want eventually. I'm not submissive. Once I may have been but I grew up since then. Maybe not so much grew up but matured and changed. He understands that too and does not try to control me in any way. I came from a controlling abusive marriage into my relationship with B. He is very careful to not put me in that situation again.
I could never do the D/d thing. He isn't into that either. We do spankings cos we both like it. He likes to give and I like to receive. It's just that simple.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Blushingbride
New member
Username: Blushingbride
Post Number: 2
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Monday, October 09, 2006 - 04:41 pm: |
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I'm a baby spanko, so we're still figuring out what kind of spankings I like most. So far, we have had erotic spankings, but we have talked about adding disiplinary ones as well. Assuming we find the time for it, after all. |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 179
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, October 09, 2006 - 08:49 pm: |
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Spankings for us is pure erotic, and we love role play, I don't like to ask for one but much prefer hubby to tell me what to wear( maids outfit etc) and then just take control over me.
I am submissive and have longed to be spanked for many years, not into DD or spankings for punishment. we have some bondage toys and from time to time we use them.
Most times I am spanked just once a week and that seems to work out for us, during the non spanking evenings I love it when hubby puts the collar on me, just to let me know that he is the Dom and I am the sub.
We have been together for 4 years now and I feel very lucky to have such a good understanding husband.
my name says it all
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Ma_vie_en_rose
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 264
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 12:01 am: |
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XD Subbie, I completely read that as you much prefer it when the hubby wears a maid's outfit. That was an interesting mental image. Both the thought of him in the outfit and the thought of roleplaying being spanked by the maid 
For me, I'm a spanko, have been since before it's polite to talk about. I think it's in my DNA. I like erotic spankings, but think, when I find myself a permanent partner, that I would be more than willing to work disciplinary spankings into the mix.
(I say that now, but just wait until the first real spanking in the relationship happens ^_~;;, hmm?)
I'm currently single, though working on that. My last long term D/s relationship was with a boy, though I have since come out of the closet.
Kinkily, I enjoy roleplay, drag and genderbending, I'm a masochist at heart though. Spanking's my number one kink. (go spanking! :D!  )
I'm sure there's more. |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 180
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 12:19 am: |
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Ma, no, hubby tells what I am to wear, I am the maid or what ever he wants me to be, he would never wear my clothes. I don't believe that is what I said.
He is the Dom male, and I am his sub.
my name says it all
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Littlelotte
New member
Username: Littlelotte
Post Number: 34
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 12:38 am: |
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I have a flavor? Can I be strawberry?
I am a sub. Period. Always will be. Granted, I am a very stubborn, independent and self-relient sub. But a sub just the same. I'm still begging my boyfriend for a pretty pink collar...
I love ANY kind of spanking other than good girl spankings. I feel silly getting a spanking for doing something right. In fact, the last time we tried, I giggled so hard I couldn't breath. So, I generally try to earn my spankings the "bad" way, OR role-play.
I love to role-play. Since I never, ever realized until less than a year ago that OTHER people liked spanking, too, I never imagined I could have it in a relationship. So all of my fantasies are pretty far removed from reality, and thus make PERFECT role plays.
Oh, I also have a thing for getting my mouth slapped or scrubbed out with softsoap on a toothbrush. Not really sure why...
"I've always thought a good lashing with a buggy whip would benefit you immensely."
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Ma_vie_en_rose
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 265
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 01:13 am: |
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I know subbie. I'm just saying that's how I read it the first time through is all . It was a funny mental image |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2805
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 04:56 am: |
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I think this interesting discussion proves that we can all live our own lifestyles and appreciate each other, without judging. If we can just stay away from trying to be controversial, or putting each other down, life runs a lot smoother, especially here in the Den. Iti s so much nicer to say what we enjoy rather than what we DON'T enjoy.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1401
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 11:32 am: |
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That is so true Fanny.
And KUDOS to those that have contributed so far! It's wonderful to see that we can all be spankos in our own ways without judgment. Lord Knows we get enough of that as it is.
Keep posting everyone! You never know, you might be helping someone too shy to post by just being open and honest.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Zippo
Prime Spanko
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1669
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 04:58 pm: |
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Now if mainstream society could just learn from this example. I personally a late bloomer as a spanko, I didnt really start living it until 10 years ago. I had entertained the idea in my head but had really never felt comfortable acting on it until I met K, who more or less challenged me into it saying I didnt have the guts. For years we just practiced erotic spankings and I loved the intimacy it brought, but K always wanted more. We started with discipline about 5 years ago, but according to her still were not achieving what she truly wanted. I was always reluctant to take it to the next level for fear of injuring her. When we started we did not use a safe word, and she always trusted me not to injure her. She introduced me to the Den, and after some advice from our wise members, we did agree to spank until a safeword was used. It was a huge leap for me but have since found a happy medium in our lifestyle. Currently distance now seperates us, and the last time we got together it was a hug and a kiss and then OTK for a nice long intimate session.
So what kind of a spanko am I? A little bit of a johnny come lately who loves having a red wiggling bottom under a firm but loving hand...or implement
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Misticgem
New member
Username: Misticgem
Post Number: 2
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 10, 2006 - 08:10 pm: |
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My husband and I have been married for close to 15 years of which we have incorporated DD for the last ten years. I intiated it after finding myself not 'alone' in my fantasies and desires online in forums. We do spanking erotically and for discipline ( he spanks me only ) but I like it any way there is, lol and I hate to admit it would take more than he has ever given to ever make me truly sorry. I love the after affects though they dont last near long enough. I do feel sorry for my behaviour when I know I have disappointed him.  but I do try to honor our marriage by not overstepping those lines to often. |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1402
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 03:19 pm: |
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HI guys!
OK...I think I made a big BOO BOO when I said something about not being a subbie and "growing up".
What I meant that to mean is that I was talking about ME and ONLY me. At one point in my life I was so withdrawn and insecure, I couldn't even get myself across town alone. When I first got divorced from my ex, I had never been on my own. I had gone headfirst into a new lifestyle, spanking. I had met B and he was instrumental in my learning to be alone, taking care of myself...etc. As I grew in confidence...I grew up.
THAT is what I meant to say and if I offended anyone...I AM SO SO SORRY. I NEVER wanted anyone to think I meant that if you were a subbie you are immature. I was talking about me.
I should have worded it better.
My most sincere apologies to anyone that thought I was being a butt. Cos in a way, the way I worded it is right...I'm a butt.
Right now, I suppose my flavor is VINEGAR
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1340
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 08:54 pm: |
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Thanks for clearing that up Shylah. Your NOT vinegar....your a spice for sure....
Ohh and I know you....very well....you can be a butt...but I love you anyway!!
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2812
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 11, 2006 - 10:08 pm: |
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Since when was a butt a bad thing?
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1160
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 12:24 am: |
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Thanks, Shylah, I didn't think that's what you meant...and you're not vinegar!
Okay, now let's hear from the rest of you! C'mon, 'fess up, what kind of spanko are you?  |
Bailey
New member
Username: Bailey
Post Number: 43
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 01:56 am: |
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Bethie,
I know certain topics are forbidden as *discussion*, is it ok to mention that they are part of a wider dynamic, if they are not open for discussion when I respond? Or would you rather I just leave that bit out all together? I ask because I'd like to add to this thread, but I'm unsure that I can paint an honest picture without mentioning certain things. Gee this feels cryptic but I guess you'll figure it out!
Thanks,
Bailey
"She makes love just like a woman ... but she breaks just like a little girl."
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2813
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 09:49 am: |
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Bailey, the Den's protocal is in effect in all areas, threads and posts. Therefore, no underage references or nonconsensual activites can be discussed.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1407
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 12:07 pm: |
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Bailey, why don't you PM me with what you are wanting to post and I'll let you know if it crosses the protocol lines or not. That way you won't get in trubble and we won't have to edit ya! And it can be done nice and private with no embarressment.
K???
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1163
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, October 12, 2006 - 02:23 pm: |
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Bailey and I are discussing this by PM. Thanks for offering to help! |
Atomicpuppy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 177
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Friday, October 13, 2006 - 10:21 am: |
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I started finding myself getting excited just thinking about having a spanking a long time ago,but I never carried it through and never told anyone,for obvious reasons.
Started self-spanking as my curiosity got the better of me and I found that this was better than none at all.
Eventually I met my Wife.We have been married for 4 1/2 years and together for 8.
It has been only the last few years that I have let her know about this side of me.At the moment it is playful/erotic spankings.Though I know she would like to punish me sometime.I have several fantasies about this,even in role-play and hopefully we will.
I like to be spanked with hand or leather implements,find wood a bit too much,at the moment though I get excited thinking about having the cane?We have tried tying up and handcuffs and I have some bed restraints which involves a fantasy.When this happens I will let you know.
Wife gives only and that's fine with me.Neither of us are dominant.We look to each other for support,help,etc though we have our own areas of expertise.
Example: Wife is very social,I'm not,but getting better.She's not afraid to speak to anyone.
I'm more technical,build my own computers,fixing things(stereo,etc),making/copying/correcting photos,printing,getting things to work,etc.
We have a great relationship and communicate about virtually everything even when we argue.Never thought I would find someone who loves ME with all their heart and more. |
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 206
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Friday, October 13, 2006 - 03:17 pm: |
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Lucky man Atomic.Sounds like a great realtionship. |
Blushingbride
New member
Username: Blushingbride
Post Number: 7
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Friday, October 13, 2006 - 08:27 pm: |
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I think I was a bit vague in my earlier post, so I'll attempt to elaborate. My hubby and I have been together for 12 1/2 years but married for almsot 8 months. We've been talking about my interest in spanking for several years, with an occasional attempt that didn't work all that well.
While on our honeymoon, we discussed this more, and we decided to give it a better go once home. He's enjoying it, more than he expected, and I am loving it. 
We've gotten to the implement collecting stage, and he's even started making suggestions about what to get next.
I don't know why it wouldn't work for us before, but does now that we're married, but why question. I'm just grateful it works now. But it does make it a bit awkward when I'm asked (often at work) "Has anyhting changed since you've gotten married?"  |
Garet
New member
Username: Garet
Post Number: 13
Registered: 09-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, October 14, 2006 - 10:41 am: |
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I received my first when I was 19 and I've been hooked since. I've tried to leave the scene a few time but I have always returned to it. So now I am just trying to accept that it is a part of my life and probably will always be. I thought I was alone in this interest until I came online, what a wonderful feeling knowing that you aren't the only one! More and more I am starting to feel comfortable in this "life style".
I am 100% "bottom", I do not think I have a "top" bone in my body. Mostly it's for discipline though I've tried the role playing before. My favorite implement is the hand (is that considered an implement?)I've determined that all wooden implements are pure evil lol, I hate those things. If I have a choice between leather or wood, I choose leather (but the choice is rarely given to me) I'm able to handle leather a lot easier.
I do not receive them very often, if I had my way I would receive a few a week lol. I like having the soreness last for a couple of days. It's nice having those reminders throughout the day.
I've explored some other punishments that go along with the spankings-- corner time, mouth soapings, writing lines, etc... just the basics I guess.
So what flavor does that make me? Well I do know it's not vanilla  |
Wolfie
Prime Spanko
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1803
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 10:30 am: |
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Hmmmm...I would like to be butter pecan, or black raspberry. 
Im a middle aged single woman who has been fascinated by spanking all my life. Literally. I read every book, watched every movie and re-run that had a spanking in it...and prayed it would happen to me someday. Thank goodness I found websites like the Den online. Ive met a lot of lovely people by now in r/l, been to clubs and play parties, found a Dom who cares for me and who I love. So far it's been a wild ride!
Im definitely a submissive, although I've recently had my first experience as a switch. I enjoy all kinds of spankings...disciplinary, erotic and just for fun. I love most toys except for the cane, especially anything leather. I adore otk and bondage, erotic tickling and being allowed to let my submissive side free.
I worried that because I now have to take blood thinners all the time, that I wouldnt be able to be spanked due to excessive bruising. Thankfully this wasnt true, and I look forward to a long life of spanking fun.
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 212
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 12:52 pm: |
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Every spankers dream girl Wolfie!! |
Ladygator2904
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 278
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, October 15, 2006 - 07:44 pm: |
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Isnt it grand that the world is so full of wonderful flavors? Color mine Sweet unless I am a brat then I guess I am a bittersweet. I first become interested in spanking around the age of 30. I was reading one of my first husbands playboys and the article was about a male spanking a female. Oh my goodness! That article made me incredibly HOT, HOT HOT!. I guess I waited a few days before I confessed to my husband. He was more than happy to help me fulfill my then, fantasy. Rockets glared as I came to extreme fulfillment. We played for yrs but did not know of DD or punishment spankings, etc. My spaankings at the time were merely for erotic reasons. Now, comes my divorce and dating. I did not discuss spanking desires with my dates but I did share them with one special former lover who was willing to accommodate me on occasion. When along came my 2nd husband, I told him via email before we actually met in real life of my spanking tendencies. Then I met the den!!!! I am happy to say it has enhanced my marriage 100% and I love our new DD lifestyle. Thanks Gang!!!!!
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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Katie_spades
Supreme Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 719
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 16, 2006 - 04:58 pm: |
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Wow, for me i always had this fascination with spanking, even the word itself. I got my first spanking almost 3 years ago (it will be in Dec.)
Jake and I have been together for over a year and just recently set the date, which is very exciting.
We do practice DD but it's not as strict as one might think. For every time I could do something "on his list," and get a spanking, he could cross mine and bear my wrath, which isn't fun, LOL.
It's odd, I think I used to prefer harder spankings but not so much anymore. I don't know why, nor can I explain, nor do I know if it is a phase, but I just can't seem to take it anymore.
Jake and I like to role-play and have other spanking fun as well. So I guess I too have many spanking flavors.
xoxo,
Kate
The Princess of Spanking™
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Weasel
Advanced Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 169
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 17, 2006 - 01:19 pm: |
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For us, spanking is still fairly new, and D, while nobody's sissy boy, is just not a dom. He spanks me because I gathered the courage and swallowed my pride and asked him to do it. He would have never thought of it. I have to ask him when I want a spanking, or strongly suggest that a spanking is desired.
I talked him into receiving a spanking, so he could feel what I felt. He likes to get a spanking too now, so I have to switch off. I prefer to receive, but it's fun to smack his bottom til it's red too.
I wish he would spank me til I have to use the safe word! He's never spanked me so long or so hard that I wanted him to stop.
What really turned him on was when I asked him if he would spank my breasts. He enjoys that more than spanking my bottom so it has become part of our repertoire. It doesn't take much to leave a mark though. I like seeing the marks, even if the sting is gone, those little bruises remind me of his ministrations!
Toys? His hand packs a good wallop but we also have a nice big wooden spoon, a 1 & a 5 gallon paint stick, a shoe horn, a leather covered paddleball paddle and of course, the good ol' hairbrush.
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Atomicpuppy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 181
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Friday, October 20, 2006 - 06:33 am: |
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Congrats Katie on setting the date.
As for flavour I guess I started as a vanilla,but now,mentally,something dark,black with little taste.In reality,however,it's much lighter and fun,love strawberry/raspberry.
Thanks B. My wife is a wonderful woman and because of her love my life has changed and still is.With each day my "dark side" is evapourating and my caring,loving nature is emerging which she loves.Though I still eat,sleep,breathe football.love fast cars and looking at sexy women(fantasy only
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Sarah_aless
New member
Username: Sarah_aless
Post Number: 19
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, October 20, 2006 - 03:05 pm: |
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Hi,
As far as flavours go can I be Raspberry Ripple? Not cos it means anything in terms of my spanking life, just cos I like the flavour.
I have been fascinated by spanking for literally as long as I can remember. With the advent of the internet and chat rooms I got to know more of the BDSM side of things and tried out my new discoveries with an ex. I loved just about everything we tried; particularly restraints, blindfolds and using implements.
That relationship ended quite a few years ago now and mostly my spanking life was online. I had an online Mistress which might sound weird to some as I am not gay, but we were good friends first and met through our writings and things just progressed and it just felt right.
Since that ended none of the guys I've been with have been interested in spanking to the level that I am  I do have a spanker, though there is nothing sexual between us - again may seem weird but it works for me. I enjoy being spanked, he enjoys spanking me why the hell not - that's my motto.
This relationship has showed me that you can compromise on what your idea fo a perfect spanking is. In my first relationship my partner and I had almost exactly the same 'buttons' and at times it was almost like there was telepathy going on about how hard, what with, tone of voice needed when to start up the more intimate parts. My current spanker has different apporaches than that first one but it doesn't mean that I don't enjoy the spankings. Sure there are times when I'd like him to be firmer or more demanding but it's a different situation and I know my cues to him are not exactly the same.
Ultimately what I enjoy boils down to just about anything as long as I trust the person spanking me. As long as I'm certain they will stop if I use the safe word (which I have done only once, with the current guy and he stopped immediately). I adore role play and the tried and tested old favourite is teacher/student. I just love the 'I'm in trouble with sir' feeling. Still a lot of it is about the voice and words used before and during spanking. The BDSM side has kind of drifted away slightly with me, probably because things I associate with bdsm have more overwhelmingly sexual connotations to me than spanking itself. Not being in a sexual relationship with my spanker means I'm not experiencing that stuff just now and I'm more focussed on the purely spanking side which I love.
I love OTK, have a big thing for both the belt and the cane (prob the school discipline thing again). You know, I've babbled so much here because I'm trying to put my finger on what exactly I really really enjoy the most and I guess I can't do it. Just bend me over, take me over your knee, grab me and spank me - or any of the above - and I'll be happy!
I don't really enjoy switching because I just always feel like I'm not doing it right and not 'doing it' for the other person. In a sexual relationship I'm definitely submissive although in day to day life and some sexual situations (ie without spanking or bondage) I can be as independent and assertive as the next person. I guess I just like to not have to make the decisions sometimes and to be taken care of and not just by being hugged ;)
Sorry for the babble
Sarah
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Sarahsbrat
Spanko
Username: Sarahsbrat
Post Number: 55
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Friday, October 27, 2006 - 04:54 am: |
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I'm sorry this is so late but I've been off the machine redecorating.
Sarah is a British Top and if you don't know what that is a friend of mine in the US says there is nothing like one. She's not a domme or mistress though and we don't get into that type of thing in our home. If you've ever read Rangers spank stories with Nick and damien I think that would give you a better idea of how we are together.
No role play, no age play, nothing sexual, just DD 24/7.
I'm a brat and the only times that I get spanked are when I've broken a rule or been naughty. She doesn't always spanke me right then and there though, sometimes the cheeky or snarky can go for days before she says it's time and once she has decided there is no turing back from it.
We used to do maintainence spankings but then she said she felt uncomfortable with spanking someone who hasn#t misbehaved and it seemed more like a dom/sub thing and we stopped.
I don't consider myself and I know she doesn't consdier herself a spanko but it all comes down to what your definition of the word is.
Our flavour then would be Top/brat domestic discipline if we need to cubby it.
Reading the other people's I've learned that there are many different ways of living this way or playing with it and it is all acceptable in the spank community which I think is much more open and caring than nonspanking communities (my personal opion there folks).
I have to admit there is one thing that does fascinate me and really want to try sometime. You know how they (the spankers) always threaten to spank so we won't sit for a week? I have yet to experience that, am I missing something? Does it really exist?
I know that some people switch and that interests me in a looking in the window type of way. I could never spank anyone though, it just isn't in my makeup. But for me that's a good thing because Sarah told me about the one time an exboyfriend did it to her and she was livid!! LOL!!!
Not just any naughty brat...Sarahsbrat
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Nvsweetie
New member
Username: Nvsweetie
Post Number: 2
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, October 29, 2006 - 09:32 am: |
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I am fairly new to being spanked, but I love it. I have played a little with the BDSM lifestyle, not much, but met with a couple of doms, and found I didn't like it. There were components of it that I liked, which brought me to spanking. I love feeling my ass warm up, and I love the sting that stays there for a while. One time I got spanked with a belt, with no warm up, and had bruises. I was so seriously disappointed, because the spanking didn't even hurt.
As for what flavor? Well, I am the most dominant women I have ever met, type A, go getter, but any man that can step in and be assertive with me without denigrating me is the type that works best. My last boyfriend tried to accomodate me, but one time he really spanked me for being naughty, not erotically, and he flipped out afterwards. I loved the feel of it during and after, but he never erotically or dd spanked me again. So, I would say I love erotic spankings, I love punishment spankings (as long as the man doesn't cuss at me), I just love to be spanked. 
I think that I am definitely still learning, and I hope that someday I will find that special someone that can give me what I need, while getting what he needs. In the meantime I look forward to learning from all of you. |
Misspanked
New member
Username: Misspanked
Post Number: 3
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 13, 2006 - 07:50 pm: |
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After confessing my deepest spanking wishes to my current boyfriend of two years, he has taken to swatting my bottom whenever I walk by him, get out of the car or otherwise entice him in any way.
While I like the physical sensation of being spanked, I am now beginning to understand that it is the relationship, role playing and discipline that I'm really craving. I want someone to guide, correct and look out for me, as well as offer the occasional erotic spanking just for fun!
I think when it comes down to it, it is important for me that my partner enjoys, looks forward to and gets excited/turned on about spanking as much as I do. Because spanking isn't my boyfriend's "thing", I'm not pushing it - anything more structured or severe than the occasional slap makes him uncomfortable.
It's a process, isn't it? Trying to understand and be understood. Good question Bethie about our flavour - it's amazing how different AND alike we all are! |
Mfb
New member
Username: Mfb
Post Number: 3
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, January 04, 2007 - 11:25 pm: |
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My wife has been spanking me for some 30 years and it is mostly for pleasure. She enjoys having me across her knees and I love having a very sore bottom. Sometimes it's serious and I am left in no doubt as to my transgression but normally it is for total pleasure.
Spanking is a great release for both of us and ocasionally I will spank her. But mostly it is me with red rear. |
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