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Kryssi
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kryssi
Post Number: 105
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 14, 2006 - 09:29 pm: | 
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Hey everyone,
I have decided that I am going to dissappear from the world of spanking.. probably forever.. it led to nothing but pain and heartache for me. My husband and I are seperated and getting divorced, and I'm just going to let go of everything that tied me to this relationship.
Don't get me wrong I love you all, but I can't go on living this lifestyle. My family is distroyed, and I can't do it anymore.
Don't worry about me, I will be fine!
I love you all,
Kryssi
"I wasn't armoured, you were king, I gave my everything, Because sometimes you showed me just a hint of you and then. For just a moment I romanticised the notion, I can take away the torment, I can love you like they never did"
~Darren Hayes~
Unlovable
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1189
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 14, 2006 - 10:54 pm: |
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Kryssi I'm so sorry. If there is anything I can do or if you just want to talk please let me know. |
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 162
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Friday, September 15, 2006 - 12:48 am: |
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I,m sorry Kryssi it,s a real downer when a relationship ends and even though it feels like the end of the world it will eventually pass.When you,re 22 even though you feel like you,ve come to end of the road it,s really only the biginning.You,ll find that you,ll go up again and probably come down and go up many times in life.Learning from your downs so that next time it,s not so hard is what we try to do.If spanking was just to please him then you,re right to leave it but even then count on us for support.Feel free to write any of us when ever you need it. We,re here for you. |
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 163
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Friday, September 15, 2006 - 12:52 am: |
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I,m sorry Kryssi it,s a real downer when a relationship ends and even though it feels like the end of the world it will eventually pass.When you,re 22 even though you feel like you,ve come to end of the road it,s really only the biginning.You,ll find that you,ll go up again and probably come down and go up many times in life.Learning from your downs so that next time it,s not so hard is what we try to do.If spanking was just to please him then you,re right to leave it but even then count on us for support.Feel free to write any of us when ever you need it. We,re here for you. |
Ma_vie_en_rose
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 226
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Friday, September 15, 2006 - 01:10 am: |
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*hug* ._.
Whatever you do, don't stop being who you are. No good comes of repressing yourself, but do do what you need to and what your heart is telling you do. Even if you were older, the breakup of a marriage--or even a serious relationship--can be devastating, but you'll find your feet again even if it may not seem like it right now. You can be strong and powerful and wonderful, even--or especially--without him.
Take the time you need, do sort things out. In no way am I trying to say "No, you can't leave spanking! NEVER!!!" Just do what you feel's right. Maybe it's best to leave for now and see what happens. Now might be a good time to regroup and refocus and work on healing, yourself and your relationships with others.
If you come back here, you'll be just as welcome back. If you don't, good for you too. Whatever happens, we're wishing for the best. Take care  |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1129
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 15, 2006 - 02:02 am: |
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 I'm so sorry to hear about all of this, Kryssi. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you.
I wish I could say something that would help, but I doubt that's possible at this point. Just remember that you have friends here and you're in our thoughts and hearts. Good luck and please take care of you!  |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 838
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 15, 2006 - 08:48 am: |
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You have some very good advice here, hon - take care of you.
"If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of advice for all humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high. Look it squarely in the eye, and say, "I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.
Ann Landers
Kryssi....this sad turn of events in your life will not defeat you. You are part of our community always.
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2697
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 15, 2006 - 04:04 pm: |
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Kryssi, take care of yourself and your daughter right now, nothing else is more important. As difficult as things are, they will get better.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Kryssi
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kryssi
Post Number: 106
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 15, 2006 - 11:14 pm: |
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Thank you everyone. The break up was ultimatly my disision. The spankings he didn't like anyway. I talked to fanny a few times as to ultimatly why I wanted spankings as opposed to other things, but right now, I'm not sure anymore. I have a friend that I am currently staying with who has threatened a few times, 'cause I have been really depressed and not thinking straight the past few weeks. (yes, I will admit talk of ending my life has come up, but for the sake of my daughter I will not)
I know I'm being really vague right now, but for the sake of protecting myself, and my husband I am not going to go into extreme detail, but this is ultimatly for the better that we seperated. I have been emotionally and physically hurt the past few years (And not from spankings). I'm going to leave it at that.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know that I am okay, and for my daughter I will be strong.
I love you all and thank you for your kind words.
Kryssi
"I wasn't armoured, you were king, I gave my everything, Because sometimes you showed me just a hint of you and then. For just a moment I romanticised the notion, I can take away the torment, I can love you like they never did"
~Darren Hayes~
Unlovable
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2703
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 16, 2006 - 02:42 am: |
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Kryssi, Don't loose your confidence now. Feeling down or depressed is a normal reaction to what you are going through. Sweetie, just try to relax a bit and don't think about getting into another spanking relationship until you are feeling stronger. Even though your friend may think he is being helpful, threats right now are not going to do anything positive for your self esteem.
Hang in there, babe, you will get out of these woods.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Atomicpuppy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 124
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, September 16, 2006 - 12:23 pm: |
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Hi Kryssi,
Sorry to hear about your situation.Don't know exactly what has happened to you,but I know how you feel.I have a big family and lately it has been a disaster.My Mum and Dad have split and my Sister and her Husband.The complication does not stop there either,infact it gets a lot worse.
How to cope with these situations is never easy.
Infact they are hard,time consuming and very hurtful.At times you will feel so low that all sorts of things will cross your mind(as it already has).This is when you need to be careful especially as you have a daughter.
Making her your No.1 prioity will help you not to think about what is going on,but then I'm sure you know this already.
It's easy for people to offer advice,but it's a lot harder to do.Time,as they say,is a great healer.You have probably heard this before,but it is very true.
Recovering from this situation will make you stronger.For now you may want to stop the spanking scene,but that's a knee-jerk reaction to what has and is happening.Your feelings on this topic will not change and you really don't want them to.It's not fair on yourself either.You might want to put it on hold for a while until you feel better.
Eventually things will get better.Hang in there and if you need anything I'm sure the Den will help.Good luck to you. |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1343
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 16, 2006 - 06:01 pm: |
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Kryssi, you just do what you need to do for yourself right now. It's not easy leaving a relationship like yours. I have done it myself. I left an abusive relationship after 30 years. Give yourself credit for seeing that it was not going to work before you left it too long. I almost did. And I was able to find a good man, kind, caring and supportive, never abusive, never mean...and can spank like the dickens!!
There is hope Sweetie, pm me if you want to talk about it.
Otherwise, get yourself in order and the relationship with your daughter will improve as your mood and self esteem improves.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Kryssi
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kryssi
Post Number: 107
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 24, 2006 - 01:02 am: |
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Hey guys, me again! I'm just dropping a line to let you all know that I'm okay.. and not to worry. I'll be fine.. it's not easy finding a place to live when you have no money, but I am working on it.. staying with a friend right now, so everything is fine!!
I miss you all and hope to be back online soon.
Love ya'll
Kryssi
"I wasn't armoured, you were king, I gave my everything, Because sometimes you showed me just a hint of you and then. For just a moment I romanticised the notion, I can take away the torment, I can love you like they never did"
~Darren Hayes~
Unlovable
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Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 860
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 24, 2006 - 11:31 am: |
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You sound much more upbeat Kryssi  Glad to hear everything is fine...and don't worry, I am sure something will come your way in terms of a place to stay.
You take care and let us know how you are doing
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1220
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 24, 2006 - 04:43 pm: |
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I'm glad your doing better Kryssi hang in there everything will fall into place. Hope you
get back on line soon!! |
Katie_spades
Supreme Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 714
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 24, 2006 - 08:43 pm: |
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That is awesome that you are better and back online! Really great news Kryssi!
The Princess of Spanking™
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Kryssi
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kryssi
Post Number: 108
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 30, 2006 - 11:56 pm: |
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Hey guys, just a quick update, since I know alot of you were worried about me. I am doing alright concidering the circumstances. I'm living in my truck, nothing I haven't done before. Only have internet access on the days I work... so I might be able to sneak in for a few on those days..
Don't worry about me guys, I'm going to make it
Love ya'll
Kryssi
"I wasn't armoured, you were king, I gave my everything, Because sometimes you showed me just a hint of you and then. For just a moment I romanticised the notion, I can take away the torment, I can love you like they never did"
~Darren Hayes~
Unlovable
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1187
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 31, 2006 - 02:49 am: |
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Kryssi, I'm glad you checked in, but I'm still worried about you. Please take care of yourself and keep us updated! |
Katie_spades
Supreme Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 732
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 31, 2006 - 06:43 pm: |
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Kryssi,
I'm sorry to hear things aren't their best right now, but it was very sweet of you to let everyonee know how you ar doing.
Take care of yourself and check back soon!
xoxo,
Kate
The Princess of Spanking™
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Kryssi
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kryssi
Post Number: 110
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 18, 2006 - 05:08 am: |
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Okay, Okay, I know it's been a month or so, but I'm checking in again. I'm doing alright.. a friend of mine is letting me stay with him for the winter, and hopefully some of the churches here can help me get a place since I am not working.. (Long story, lots of miscommunication, and a co-worker that hated me) So hopefully I will have constant access to the internet here sometime after the new year, and a place to call mine.) As for the divorce, it's not official yet, and I only get to see my daughter when it's "convenient" which I think is a load of crap, but at this point I have no place to say anything. Maybe one of these days I will go into the reasoning behind the seperation, and divorce, but right now I don't have alot of time to explain.
Just wanted to let you all know that I'm doing alright. I know some of you had PMed me, and I can't remember if I replied to all of them, and I appologize if I didn't. I love you all, and hope you have a great christmas!
"I wasn't armoured, you were king, I gave my everything, Because sometimes you showed me just a hint of you and then. For just a moment I romanticised the notion, I can take away the torment, I can love you like they never did"
~Darren Hayes~
Unlovable
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Prissietl
Spanko
Username: Prissietl
Post Number: 92
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Monday, December 18, 2006 - 10:24 am: |
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Oh sweet girl, i am so sorry for all your going through. I (like many of the other older moms in the den) would love to be able to wrap my arms around you and tell you everything will work out.
I will not say i know how you feel because i don't. But they say that God never gives you more than you can handel, and if it is, he will be there to carry you.
I hope you get to be with your child more than anything!
And remember we are ALL here for you if you need us.
Once a princess always a princess
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1596
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 18, 2006 - 12:21 pm: |
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Hi Kryssi!!
It sounds like maybe things are looking a little better for you. I'm glad you have a place to stay for the winter. I'm sure you can find another job and get back on your feet. After that you can work on getting your daughter back!!
I'll be keeping a good thought for you!! |
Dakota
New member
Username: Dakota
Post Number: 1
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, January 04, 2007 - 07:42 pm: |
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Hey guys, it's me. I had to start a different name for safety reasons. My husband (will be ex soon) has been getting into my personal things again.. e-mail, blogs, etc and starting alot of crap. He has my family convinced that I'm a whore, and I'm just trying to be on the safe side, before he goes off the deep end again.
I said I would go into the details about why I left my husband. Aside from the spankings, he was verbally and physically abusive. (kicking, hitting, punching, etc) So, like I said for safety reasons I had to change my name.
In case you all are worried, he probably isn't going to read this post because it doesn't have "Kryssi" in the title and I have created a new name that I've never used before.
I wanted to let you all know that I'm okay.
much luvin, |
Mainframe
New member
Username: Mainframe
Post Number: 3
Registered: 01-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, January 04, 2007 - 09:52 pm: |
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Not to butt in, but: Pro Bono means Free- Every state Bar Association, look in any yellow pages for 'State Bar Association' requires that members freely volunteer their time each month to freely (ie at No Charge to you) handle cases for indigent (poor) people. As a mother you are in better position of getting custody than a wife-abuser. Talk to your local bar association. |
Dakota
New member
Username: Dakota
Post Number: 3
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Friday, January 05, 2007 - 09:38 pm: |
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Thank you Mainframe... I will look into that. The local YWCA is probably a good place to look, my case worker actually mentioned something about that today.. so first thing monday morning I am going to give them a call. |
Ma_vie_en_rose
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 323
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, January 06, 2007 - 03:41 pm: |
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Definitely look into local women's centers. Apart from legal assistance (which is great like whoa), they can sometimes offer you a place to stay, help getting a job, and more importantly, a community of people who have been through your, or similar situations. Almost every city has one. Some people kind of edge away from it, especially when there's been a power exchange aspect of the relationip, but a support group could be a really great thing to look into.
I'm sorry for what you've gone through love, but I'm really glad you're working on moving on and taking your life back. |
Dakota
New member
Username: Dakota
Post Number: 5
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 24, 2007 - 02:49 am: |
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Hey guys, just checking in. I'm still looking for a job, but other then that I'm doing okay.. going to be moving in with another friend tomorrow, the situation with my current roomie is getting way to hard to deal with. Alot of stuff I don't need right now. He's a guy, and very demanding (not sexually or anything)so I'm going to be moving tomorrow, which hopefully means more internet access. YAY!!!
Emotionally though I'm a nervous wreck, my "master" roomate that I mentioned in another post, decided he didn't want to take on that role, which is understandable, but he decided that for now I need to take care of me, so my best friend of all time is moving over 3500 miles away  for 8 months - 2 years which is going to kill me all over again (He moved away 3 years ago because Tyrnal threatening to get rid of him if he didn't leave) I understand why he's going, (He has a business deal happening down there) but it doesn't make it any easier on me.. he moved back to help me .. and now he's saying I have to help myself and is leaving again... I'm so confused right now.. what did I do so terribly wrong that everyone is playing games with my emotions?! I dunno..
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