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Tplayer
New member
Username: Tplayer
Post Number: 14
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, May 14, 2006 - 12:31 pm: | 
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One of the responses to a question I posted said that spanking and sex go hand in hand (or hand on bum!). Does anyone like the spanking just for what it is and leaving the sex for later. Spanking is a turn on, but can't it just be enough at times? I would especially like to hear from some tops on this. I know I can get pleasure just from being spanked. Can you also get the same mental pleasure from spanking someone? |
Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 409
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 14, 2006 - 01:04 pm: |
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Not a top here...but I can tell you that I have often been spanked just for the sake of spanking - no sex involved....and this goes for discipline spankings as well as spontaneous ones....For example...
I am sitting on a very warm bottom right now because hubby decided to spank me in the kitchen with a wooden spoon (THANKFULLY jeans stayed on!) Even that spanking was enough for me (at least right now!) 
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Sarah_aless
New member
Username: Sarah_aless
Post Number: 7
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, May 14, 2006 - 01:22 pm: |
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Hi,
not a top either but my current spanking 'relationship' (for want of a better word) does not involve sex at all. I definitely enjoy spanking just for the sake of it - the feeling of having control taken away, the butterflies when you get 'the look' and 'the voice' and you know whats coming (and how much you want it) the squirmy corner feelings the praise for taking it so well. These are just a few of the things that make me like it for it's own sake............not that I have a problem with it in sexual situations. Hell no! not by a long shot - it's definitely an either or situation for me.
I love sexual spanking and it turns up the heat QUITE a few notches but it doesn't have to be about sex.
Sorry if that was a ramble i have a head cold and am a little fuzzy just now!!
Sarah |
Beachley
Advanced Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 369
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 14, 2006 - 05:34 pm: |
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Sex and spanking usually don't go hand in hand in this house either.
In fact, I prefer each separately so that I can enjoy the excitement of each on its own merit.
Maybe I just get confused easily, 
but I like them separated.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 830
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 12:36 am: |
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Dan and I are both spankos so spanking is a sign of affection and intimacy between us. Spanking is very erotic for us but we don't do true discipline so that may make a difference. We're more into the power play aspect of it. He's the dominant one and I'm the submissive.
I can't speak for every spanko, we're all different in how we approach this lifestyle. Kissing and cuddling is great, but if I don't get at least a few swats a day to go with them, I can feel downright needy.
I can have sex without a spanking, but if I get a good spanking I want the sex. Spanking is truly erotic for me and I'm lucky that Dan and I feel the same way. He can't separate the spanking from intimacy either. The whole experience is erotic for him as well.. |
Subbie
New member
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 33
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 08:13 am: |
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sex is a big part of our spanking life. we both like erotic spankings and then there are times when i get a lot more of a spanking but those times aren't for discipline but rather because i get an itchy butt and need him to take control over me.this almost always leads to me getting a mighty sore butt with marks that will last 3 or 4 days.and some bondage for good measure. sooner or later it leads us to the bedroom.
we have talked about DD but neither of us see it as something what me want to get into, at least not for now.
my name says it all
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Victoria_wood
Spanko
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 95
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 09:43 am: |
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When I used to play at parties, we couldn't have sex right after spanking. I really enjoyed spanking just for itself. I get really high and liked to revel in that for a while.
Now I am partnered and we play only at home. I get short spankings all the time, which I enjoy. I get long spankings on the weekend, followed by sex. I really enjoy the combo, but I don't get to just revel in the endorphin high that way, which I kinda miss.
So, yes, they can definitely be separated and spanking can be great in and of itself, imo.
Cheers,
Victoria
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Pagan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 435
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 09:57 am: |
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To me, spanking IS sex. It just isn't penetration.
I think Squire has given me one spanking that didn't end in sex. Ever. (Now, I'm not counting the times we played in public - I'm not that much of an exhibitionist).
I think a big part of the reason I have gone to two meets and left as the only woman to have not been spanked by other men is that I consider it to be such an intimacy.
I've had sex with more men than I've let spank me. This is me, without any masks. Not something I care to share casually.
Now, I've spanked women, and let women spank me, in a party setting. That was a lot of fun, and wasn't remotely sexual. It was just play.
Actually, when my own partner spanked me in a party setting, that wasn't sexual either. It didn't have it's...usual effect, although he gave me a couple of sustained spankings. Mind you...once we got back to our room, I got a short intense one, and we made up for lost time. 
We don't do punishments or DD, so spanking doesn't have any negative connotations for me. It's something to look forward to, not to avoid.
But it's sexual. All the way. And he feels the same way. He said something to the effect than any time he has a woman over his lap with his hand on her bare ass...it's sexual.
Reason #237 why he didn't take anyone other than me OTK at our last conference. |
Tigerman
Spanko
Username: Tigerman
Post Number: 83
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 10:18 am: |
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I believe that the two can definitely be separated.Some spankings are erotic and usually do lead to sex that is true but there are definitely those spankings that sex is the farthest thing on your mind.These can be discipline spankings with my wife or those spankings given to those who want mentoring or guidence.The two types can be separarted easily depending on the mindset of the people involved.I realise that everybody is different and some may not want or be able to separate the two but I do believe that it certainly is possible to do. |
Redhinney
Advanced Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 431
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 10:52 am: |
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We do do DD and for us a discpline spanking doesn't always lead to sex in fact most times it doesn't Like Beachley said I want them to be seperate and maybe because It would be confussing. That being said Bill and I usually willahve sex later in the day after discpline becasue it is a big turn on for both of us.
Now for the gg spankigns of course they end up in sex the spanking is part of the foreplay.
A Bethie said I also get amny well palces swats during the day and if I don't I think I become very needy and when that happens I tend to ask to be spanked which than means we are ahving sex again. it's big circle spanking -sex- spanking- sex
Love can't always be seen or heard but will always be felt with your heart
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Gypsygirl
Advanced Spanko
Username: Gypsygirl
Post Number: 269
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 01:01 pm: |
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Wonderful way to get dizzy, Red.
My spankings always lead to some sort of sexual activity, although not always full intercourse, but although I am always turned on by the act of the spanking, sometimes I don't need it, the spanking in itself is enough to relax me and make me feel satisfied.
I foresee spankings........LOTS of spankings
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2299
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 05:01 pm: |
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I agree with Pagen. Spanking in itself is sexual. That being said, there are times when sex isn't possible or even necessary as the spanking in and of itself is a wonderful stress release.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1675
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 11:34 pm: |
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For me its both.
When I am playing with a stranger, or when I am being spanked for discipline, I rarely get turned on. I may have the physical response to a spanking, but theres little inclination for anything else. Sorry Squire. 
But if Steve is spanking me for fun or erotic reasons...katy, bar the door! I want him, and I want him NOW! 
quote:Now, I've spanked women, and let women spank me, in a party setting. That was a lot of fun, and wasn't remotely sexual. It was just play.
Wow, am I relieved! 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Otter
Spanko
Username: Otter
Post Number: 81
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 16, 2006 - 02:03 am: |
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For me, even when I don't need/want to have sex afterwards it is sexual because it all relates to the power dynamic of our relationship. That makes it a turn on even if it only turns me on to totally glomming all over and worshipping him, LOL! The one time I have been spanked by someone else, it was still very sexually charged because my husband was there and it turned me on because I thought it was turning him on.
I am not sure if someone else spanking me, without my husband's participation would be a sexual turn on or that I would even want it. If it didn't have the relational power dynamic to go along with it and I don't trust this person enough to take me across my limits of pain tolerance, I am not sure what the draw would be.
I am, again, the opposite of many people here. I can't really imagine wanting to be spanked by someone else for it's own sake but I do have sex with people besides my husband on a regular basis (we're swingers).
"Sometimes love don't feel like it should." -John Cougar
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Victoria_wood
Spanko
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 96
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 16, 2006 - 08:19 am: |
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Otter,
I don't know about the rest of the gang, but you and I are opposites on that one thing. I would never have sex with anyone besides my partner, but I wouldn't mind being spanked by someone else. I don't really want to be; I get more than enough from M, but I've never been onee to turn down a spanking!
Cheers,
Victoria
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Sarahsbrat
New member
Username: Sarahsbrat
Post Number: 16
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, June 15, 2006 - 06:07 am: |
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Oh MY! Spanking and sex do not go hand in hand for me. They arent even on the same planet!
Spankings are for naughtiness and sex is for other people. LOL
Not just any naughty brat...Sarahsbrat
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The_rake
New member
Username: The_rake
Post Number: 3
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 04, 2006 - 09:47 pm: |
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First, apologies for bringing this one back from the dead somewhat, but I'm new around here and have a lot to catch up on.
As a top, I could never separate the two completely. While a spanking might not lead directly to sex, in fact it might be amplified by leading to a definite lack of sex, it will always be sexual, for me and any sub I share feelings with at any rate.
As I mentioned in the "Spanking Substitute" thread, I could never let anyone else spank a partner of mine, any more than I could let them fuck them. It's all a very intimate affair for me, and while within a relationship I might be able to separate the two long enough not to have them follow each other directly, the only reason I could do that would be that I know denying myself would also be denying my sub, and more so.
In response to the initial question however - sure I can get plenty of satisfaction just from spanking my sub - but is it enough? Well, for a while perhaps, but I know we are basically just setting up the grounds for sex at some time pretty soon. It's just too damn delicious seeing the glow and the foot stamps, hearing the squeaks and slaps and feeling the quivers and post spank cuddling. Why would you not want to get even closer?
Except to be cruel, naturally... |
Wilson
New member
Username: Wilson
Post Number: 1
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 05, 2006 - 08:07 am: |
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Spankings take two forms at my house...
Erotic spankings always involve sex...even if they have a maintenance aspect. 
If I cross a line and show any form of dis-respect to my wife IT IS ALL TOGETHER DIFFERENT !
 } At that point I can expect her wrath in a very pointed way. There is no sex involved and my comfort is not on her agenda. I will have to think twice before sitting for several days. And when I do sit I reflect on my mis-deeds. |
Katie_spades
Supreme Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 682
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 02:05 am: |
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Well said!
Katie Spades: The Princess of Spanking
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 871
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 11, 2006 - 12:36 pm: |
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Wilson is about the same at my house.
There is a difference and there isn't always sex. For a punishment spanking there is hardly ever sex. |
Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 86
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 07:23 am: |
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I veer towards spanking being part of sex play even if it is punishment.
This goers to show that
a) spanking can be just that and with varying form of sexually overtones but no actual sex
b) I include punishment spankings as part of the former category
and c) it can be part of foreplay or erotic play which involves or leads to orgasms from one or both parties.
The latter can include punishment spakings as well.
Nick |
Atomicpuppy
New member
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 45
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 03:53 pm: |
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I don't think that spanking and sex go hand in hand.I think it all depends on the situation.
A punishment spanking should be left as just that.
I love sex,but if I'm to be punished surely I should be left to think about that and if erotic then,yeah baby!!!
But sometimes a spanking is just enough |
Nicenick06
Advanced Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 130
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Friday, August 11, 2006 - 12:53 am: |
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Nice to see you back Katie.
I feel that at least 50% or more…
(here is that finance background coming out and no I don’t have too much time on my hands…)
…have partners who do not or did not share their interest
and then grew into it.
The distinction between domestic discipline and erotic/good girl spanking is a fine line.
I think in reality it is a spectrum with many members enjoying both.
Subbie (above) enjoys the erotic side as I do.
Pink cheeks enjoys both. As does Blistering Blonde.
Shylah is probably a bit of both.
Katie is a DD.
Prissietl in a similar position to you Jeni but it sounds as if she isn’t going to do anything about it.
My input is to have courage and then see what happens.
If he doesn’t like it at least you’ll know and can either go without or look elsewhere.
But as above you'll probably be able to convert him to participation if not liking it.
Here is another statistics supplied by (was it Reader Girl?) about 3-5% of us are probably into spanking in some way.
I now think this is an underestimate as in the survey (in the-clitoris.com with 2,000 sample),
about 10% of the female respondents wanted to experience a degree of real pain when stimulating their nipples during masturbation.
And my experience is that pain with nipples also equates with pain to bottoms….
For spanking stories try this free site….
http://www.spanking-stories.co.uk/
So for me it mainly sexual.
Even punishment sessions (in the few times I have managed them – mainly giving) had an enormous sexual overtone either before or after if not during.
Take care
Nick |
Vixen
New member
Username: Vixen
Post Number: 3
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 12, 2006 - 01:12 am: |
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O.K. here we go. I am still abit nervous about throwing in my two cents worth.
If it is erotic in nature or part of foreplay then the whole point is to enhance the sex anyway.
If I am in a situation that calls for discipline or correction of some sort then I still want and need the sex afterwards for the connection I get from it. It reassures me all is forgiven, that yes I may have screwed up but he still loves me and wants me.
And that's the way it is for me. |
Nicenick06
Advanced Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 133
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 12, 2006 - 01:48 am: |
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Vixen yes I agree with you.
But we are different.
Nick |
Vixen
New member
Username: Vixen
Post Number: 5
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 12, 2006 - 05:50 am: |
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That is O.K.
Different can be a good thing.
It points us towards new possibilities, which in turn can help us to learn and grow.
That is part of the reason I am here, so I do not get so closed off from the world and other people
(I mean the grown-ups as I get starved for conversation that doesn't involve cartoons and video games)
that I quit growing as a person and as a wife. |
Naughtyboy50s
New member
Username: Naughtyboy50s
Post Number: 37
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 12, 2006 - 12:52 pm: |
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Sex and Spanking-I am a true spankophile. How can a true spanko not get aroused at the sight of bared cheeks getting punished? How can a true spanko not get sexually excited while across a member of the opposite sex's lap? There are a bunch of people here that simply are not spankophiles. It's like a straight person going to a gay site just to make conversation! Now that's boring!
Ok go ahead and stone me-Come on, who's first? |
Atomicpuppy
Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 55
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 12, 2006 - 02:17 pm: |
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I'm surprised that no-one has stoned you Naughtyboy as you have made rather a lot of assumptions based only on what you have read.
Heard the phrase "Don't judge a book by it's cover"
The first thing to say is who are any of us to judge anyone else.We are all different.
The one thing you would find,if everybody was asked,is that all spankos find it horny either to spank or be spanked otherwise we wouldn't be doing it.
From what I've read there are a lot of people out there that need some sort of help with spanking or maybe just "coming out" or maybe just to chat and get ideas.Many people find it hard to talk about.
One thing I've learned is that there seems to be no right or wrong these days only opinion.
Everybody is entitled to their own opinion whether anyone else thinks that it is wrong or not.
Plus spanking or being spanked does not have to lead to sex.It's up to each couple to decide that,isn't it? Cheers from a spanko. |
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 121
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 13, 2006 - 12:05 pm: |
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Naughtyboy:Re:I am a true spankophile what the hell does that make the rest of us phony spankophiles come on give us a break.Nobody has a monopoly on anything. |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 734
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 13, 2006 - 02:56 pm: |
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I don't think any of us has the right to judge the other. I am here for good conversation, fun, and learning from my fellow spankees/spankers.
We are all different (well said Atomicpuppy and Buenaventura) - so I am not going to throw any stones - (not my style)
Just wanted to say that like Bethie, my hubby and I are spankos, and it IS a sign of affection between us - more often then not there is sex that follows a spanking. Sometimes there is not -
When there isn't sex, does that mean we are not "true spankohiles"?
I just don't think its fair to make this statement, Naughtyboy ---> "There are a bunch of people here that simply are not spankophiles. It's like a straight person going to a gay site just to make conversation! Now that's boring! "
(don't mean to hijack this threat - but I think what I said still applies to the topic
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1029
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 13, 2006 - 08:56 pm: |
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WOW
I'm not sure how sex and spanking turned into being "real spanking" people or not.
Like some here my husband and I LIVE this lifestyle 24/7. Do I get spanked 24/7 HELL NO nor would I want that.
That being said...just because you get turned on by spanking doesn't mean sex ALWAYS follows. To each his own!!
We are all different we do this in different ways.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
We shouldn't judge anyone...I don't want to be judged, anymore then we can lump us all into one group.
Naughtyboy you made a HUGE statment that you can't know to be true. There are many aspects to spanking That doesn't make any of us any LESS or MORE of a spanking person then the next.
You might want to keep that in mind when you comment. |
Vixen
New member
Username: Vixen
Post Number: 9
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 13, 2006 - 11:39 pm: |
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I am going to take a chance here and try to do a better job at answering this question. I am sorry if I have stepped on any toes. I don't mean to, it's just that I am new here and really nerveous that what I have to say will come across the wrong way. First off I am assuming that in the section this topic was in the questions are of a serious nature, and your looking for honest and serious replies. If I am wrong please let me know.
Do I get spanked for fun---Yes
Do I get spanked as foreplay---almost every time
Do I get spanked for discipline--Yes
Do I get spanked for punishment--Yes
Do I take advantage of the fact that I know spanking me for any reason is going to turn him
on to some degree----You Betcha!
Does it always lead to sex, 95% of the time Yes,
but the sex isn't always because of the spanking. There are times when it is a wonderful act of reconcilation. Though for me that falls under the catagory of Making Love.
I guess I am very unusual. To me there is Sex, there is Making Love, and there is the other one with that word I am pretty sure I can't use on here. I happen to enjoy all 3, and anything that falls in between.
Now I realize it is not like that for everybody, and that is O.K. I wouldn't expect it to be. We just happen to live a life that incorporates more than one aspect of spanking and for me this is the result of that.
I did not join up to tell anyone else how a thing should or should not be done. I joined for the companionship and support of people who benifitted in one way or another from the spanking in their lives, just as I do. I am happy to share what works for me and what doesn't if someone ask, but it is just that sharing. If I caused a stir, or if it seemed like I was just trying to make conversation on a topic I know nothing about, I am realllly, trulllly, sorry. Just bear with me, I will try to do better. |
Vixen
New member
Username: Vixen
Post Number: 10
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 13, 2006 - 11:49 pm: |
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Sorry, I left out the most important part, a direct response to the original question.
Do I get mental pleasure from just be spanked--Yes
Does he from spanking me---Yes
There have been times when sex was impossible for one reason or another but we were both still satisfied.
As far as physical pleasure yes I can reach an orgasam just being spanked.
Can he by spanking me--pretty close, but not yet.
It is on the list of things to accomplish in my lifetime though |
Naughtyboy50s
New member
Username: Naughtyboy50s
Post Number: 38
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 05:47 am: |
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Vixen,
Well said! In my opinion, you are a true spankophile. My desires started with my earliest sexual arousals. (I have to be very carefull now),Can't say anything suggesting under 18. I wonder if your arousals started during those early years? |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 124
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 07:49 am: |
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I like to read everyones posts and am glad we are different, it would be very boring if we all thought the same.
my name says it all
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Vixen
New member
Username: Vixen
Post Number: 11
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 08:22 am: |
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Um,let's see. I want to be careful in my response also.
Sexual arrousal and sexual fulfillment are two different things.
Were the early stirrings there probably yes, I just did not recognize them for what they were.
But then again it was not until I was 28 years old, divorced once, and had met my current husband that I was finally taught that it was more than O.K. for me as a woman to enjoy and seek my own pleasure in sexual encounters of any nature. Hard to believe in this day and age but there you have it. |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 736
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 10:47 am: |
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Vixen..."a better job answering the question?"
I think the majority of us did a fine job - we stated our opinion, and that is what this forum is all about. We all get spanked for a variety of reasons - but that does not give anyone the right to make a blanket statement - fiting us all into one catagory.
Tammy was right when she said: ..."just because you get turned on by spanking doesn't mean sex ALWAYS follows. To each his own!! We are all different we do this in different ways."
A true spankophile? I think everyone would give a different definition to that don't you think?
We are who we are...we enjoy what we do....does it need to have a title?
Just my 
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1287
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 11:25 am: |
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Naughtyboy...sometimes I wonder if you have ever been in a real life situation.
Those of us that are KNOW what we are. Sex and spanking don't always go together and you don't have to be a "true spankophile" to know that.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Vixen
New member
Username: Vixen
Post Number: 13
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 01:00 pm: |
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I was worried that my first response(a few comments back) to the post wasn't done correctly. In other words I messed it up. So I thought I better try again, and organize my thoughts a little better. I'll get the hang of this eventually. Thanks for letting me join in! |
Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1032
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 01:53 pm: |
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Vixen your doing fine!!
Some of us just didn't care for being grouped the way naughtyboy grouped us.
Like Pink said this is a forum for all kinds of comments and opinions.
I think if your here in this Den reading and or posting your a spankophile and it doesn't really have anything to do with how often or HOW for that matter any of us are spanked and what it does for us.
We are here because we like spanking in one way or another. End of story!! |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 740
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 03:01 pm: |
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I agree Tammy...time to put this puppy to bed
And Vixen - I'm sorry if I sounded "curt" or "short" with you - blame the hormones!!  I am happy you are here and sharing your thoughts and opinions with us~~
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Mfb
New member
Username: Mfb
Post Number: 2
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, January 04, 2007 - 11:18 pm: |
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For me spanking is normally for pleasure, particularly when receiving. Sex can follow but not always. Punishments are serious at times but forgiving afterwards. |
Admin
Board Administrator
Username: Admin
Post Number: 79
Registered: 03-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 07, 2007 - 12:53 am: |
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In case anyone is wondering, I deleted some off topic and inflammatory posts here so we could get back on topic. Please excuse this interruption and let's get back to the subject of this thread. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3038
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 07, 2007 - 05:05 pm: |
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Never and always are not realistic concepts. Therefore nothing is always sexual.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Blushingbride
Spanko
Username: Blushingbride
Post Number: 54
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Monday, January 08, 2007 - 07:43 pm: |
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Most of the time it is sexual for us, but not every time. |
Sorehand
New member
Username: Sorehand
Post Number: 4
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 09, 2007 - 07:02 am: |
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I agree with Vixen, very well written. My wife and I are new to spanking and are enjoying every swat I mean minute. For us it is a means of defining our roles as husband and wife and has allowed me to become the man I need to be to please her. Right now all our spanking leads to sex as it is a way for us to bond. |
Rasenite
New member
Username: Rasenite
Post Number: 5
Registered: 01-2007
| | Posted on Monday, January 22, 2007 - 01:50 pm: |
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Nearly always leads to sex,but sex not always the result of a spanking. My lady gets as much pleasure as me so it is a mutual need. But that is just us.
Yes lady you know whats coming
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