Author |
Message |
Bratattitude
New member Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 30 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Wednesday, February 14, 2007 - 06:24 am: |
|
OK I have to vent/ask/get this off my chest/see if I am the only one... all of the above HA HA HA I am in a domestic discipline marriage and it is great..but my husband wants me to take punishment quietly. As in NO ouches no Oh's No nothing other than counting.... Has anyone else had this or gone through this? I can take erotic spankings for hours but discipline ones just put me in a whole different place. I wiggle, cry and plead from almost the first swat. Any advice and or tips on taking them better is most appreciated. |
Wilson
New member Username: Wilson
Post Number: 23 Registered: 10-2006
| Posted on Wednesday, February 14, 2007 - 07:07 am: |
|
Have you discussed this openly with your husband? When punishment is involved...Good spankings are supposed to hurt ! When it hurts...we react...it is as simple as that ! Hope this helps... Good spankings are SUPPOSED to hurt !
|
Bratattitude
New member Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 33 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Wednesday, February 14, 2007 - 01:37 pm: |
|
Oh yeah... adnauseum. Thats why I was wondering if any other tops out there wanted silence.... |
Ma_vie_en_rose
Advanced Spanko Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 328 Registered: 01-2006
| Posted on Thursday, February 15, 2007 - 02:53 am: |
|
You know, I was always the opposite way. I squirm and cry out and gasp during erotic spankings but am stone still during a punishment |
Pixiekitten
New member Username: Pixiekitten
Post Number: 8 Registered: 02-2007
| Posted on Thursday, February 15, 2007 - 01:49 pm: |
|
My Husband accepts my natural outbursts but will not tolerate verbal outbursts like begging or trying to get out of the spanking. It may not be totally realistic that you make no noises at all (maybe if you have a bottom made of steel LOL), it's only natural to react as Wilson said. "Naughty Pixies Always Get Caught."
|
Bratattitude
New member Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 34 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Thursday, February 15, 2007 - 02:32 pm: |
|
I wish i could be... I'm working on it...It's just not the easiest thing in the world LOL |
Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1691 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Thursday, February 15, 2007 - 05:26 pm: |
|
I can't ever remember a time when I was silent while getting spanked. Different noise for different spankings. |
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 450 Registered: 04-2006
| Posted on Thursday, February 15, 2007 - 07:24 pm: |
|
This tops point of view.I like a little noise.Kinda like applause ya know!! |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1632 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Friday, February 16, 2007 - 08:49 pm: |
|
Hmph!! Typical male response Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
|
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3088 Registered: 05-2005
| Posted on Friday, February 16, 2007 - 10:07 pm: |
|
I am a squirmer, wiggler, oucher and pleader. Couldn't keep me still or quiet with a whole roll of duct tape. Queen of Innocence "Well behaved woman rarely make history"
|
Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 457 Registered: 04-2006
| Posted on Friday, February 16, 2007 - 10:52 pm: |
|
My kinda gal! |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1634 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Saturday, February 17, 2007 - 10:31 am: |
|
Ok...I don't cry but I do wiggle and squirm and holler and hold my breath and "owchie" and "dammit!" and put my hand back (which gets held to my back when he can catch it) and kick and huff and puff. Satisfied? Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
|
Bratattitude
New member Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 38 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Saturday, February 17, 2007 - 02:36 pm: |
|
Thanks everyone for you input.... it really has helped! |
Ohyehright
New member Username: Ohyehright
Post Number: 2 Registered: 02-2007
| Posted on Saturday, February 24, 2007 - 09:46 am: |
|
Have you told him that's what gets you to that "whole different place". He might understand it if he knew how important a part of the scene it is. |
Aka
New member Username: Aka
Post Number: 15 Registered: 03-2007
| Posted on Saturday, March 10, 2007 - 08:16 pm: |
|
Loud bottom, huh? =) As a top I would have to say I like reaction, not over reaction, I would never expect silence on a real spanking punishment, but I have been turned off by drama queen screams before the swat happens, in such a way that it sounds like a civil war amputation. Natural reactions are a turn on. As a guy I can tell you we can feel threatened when a girl gets too loud at any thing, like I felt like the drama queen was trying to turn the spanking into abuse, even though she was concenting, it just made me uncomfortable. My advice is tell him you want the spanking and just need to vent while your getting it. Most guys really want girl to be honest, but just don't want to feel cornered. Smile when you say it, he will understand, a good bottom is too hard to come by for him to get to ugly over it! |
Diamondgal
New member Username: Diamondgal
Post Number: 7 Registered: 05-2006
| Posted on Saturday, March 10, 2007 - 09:19 pm: |
|
That's funny, because when I am being spanked he just keeps swatting harder until he does get a response. He'll say something like "hmmm. only one ouch for that one" then he'll try harder or move to a different spot....or God forbid the back of my thighs!!! That is a quadruple ouchie! |
Badgirl
Advanced Spanko Username: Badgirl
Post Number: 142 Registered: 11-2005
| Posted on Sunday, March 11, 2007 - 12:11 am: |
|
I agree.... I wouldn't be able to keep quiet if my life depended on it. That being said, isn't audio a valid an important source of stimuli? |
Buenaventura
Supreme Spanko Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 540 Registered: 04-2006
| Posted on Sunday, March 11, 2007 - 02:17 pm: |
|
YES!! |
Bratattitude
New member Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 46 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Monday, March 12, 2007 - 01:12 am: |
|
I think my problem is I over-react. As someone pointed out reation is good over reaction is not and I think that is what I have been doing and not meaning to be or not realizing I was doing. We still have not had a chance for me to talk about it with him but I hope to soon.... |
Bratattitude
New member Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 48 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Thursday, March 15, 2007 - 02:51 pm: |
|
OK Here is my update... Last night I talked about it to my DH for the first time and Aka -- you were right. It was not that I react but OVER react. It's not the crying he hates its the "drama" and "protesting" that I do. So the new rule is now... I can be emotional but there is to be no Pleading to "Stop" no kicking and blocking his swats and no pulling away. I feel much better since talking to him |
Pixiekitten
New member Username: Pixiekitten
Post Number: 22 Registered: 02-2007
| Posted on Thursday, March 15, 2007 - 08:51 pm: |
|
I'm glad you got to talk to your DH. I always feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders after a good talk about our DD. "Naughty Pixies Always Get Caught."
|