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Wilman
New member
Username: Wilman
Post Number: 2
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 28, 2007 - 10:23 am: | 
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As I stated in the welcome area, My wife is into spanking...she will even get smart and do things so to get a spanking. Which I pick up on at times. Here is where I am at...it is not that I am uncomfortable spanking, its just hard for me to get it going,set it up....
I know she has told me she wants me to tell what to do and be in charge,do rolyplay...she the bad girl! But how do I get it started and I have a problem talking to her during the spanking She wants me to talk to her or scold her during the spanking. This may sound stupid, but I don't know what to say and how to get the "scene" I guess you call it going.
On a positive note, she really likes the spanking and it gets her very hot and we have a good time. But I know she wants to be spanked more that I do...and it is simply because I don't know how to get it started.
Sorry for the long post,any ideas, and thanks in advance. |
Weasel
Advanced Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 199
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 28, 2007 - 11:15 am: |
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finding spots on the dishes? Seeing dust on the tv screen? any little "transgression" could be a perfect set up for a "well you naughty girl, shirking on housework... we'll see if you do that again. naughty naughty... blah blah..." It doesn't have to be huge...
type "erotic spanking stories" into your search engine and see what comes up. Perhaps some of the stories will give you the idea.
Congratulations for being willing to indulge your wife in her desires, that is awesome!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Buenaventura
Supreme Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 501
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 28, 2007 - 04:00 pm: |
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I had a problem with the words too Wilman.It gets easier with time.Try thinking of her as a naughty little girl.Download some spanking movies and listen to the dialog.Remenber it,s a game and she likes it. |
Wilman
New member
Username: Wilman
Post Number: 3
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 28, 2007 - 04:08 pm: |
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Thanks for the advice...
I just wish I could get it to flow! Its the first few minutes that I have to work on... |
Weasel
Advanced Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 202
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 11:38 am: |
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one thing you can do when you find yourself at a loss for what to say/do next is *corner-time* send her to the corner for starters. You could ask her what she thinks a proper punishment would be for her actions. You could send her to the bedroom to make a "presentation" on your bed, butt-up and make her wait for you for a few minutes in that position. You could have her bring you 3 different instruments to spank her with. Meybe you would like to blindfold her, it might make you feel better if no one is watching your every move.
The first thing to do though, is identify a reason - "ah I see you are wearing a skirt/jeans that are very tight/short/whatever", "You know, I'm disappointed that you didn't get the laundry put away, my socks are wrinkled". And so on. The point is, anything will work for this. "Dinner was great, but I wanted apple pie for desert not sherbet..." is as good a reason as any to spank your naughty naughty girl!
Have fun with it, she wants this!
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Badgirl
Advanced Spanko
Username: Badgirl
Post Number: 117
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, March 09, 2007 - 11:03 am: |
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Given that it's the first few minutes that you are having trouble with why not write up a script? You don't have to stick to it exactly, but it will give you a framework. Check out some of the stories in the story-areas. It may help you get some ideas, and a structure. |
Leannan02
New member
Username: Leannan02
Post Number: 4
Registered: 03-2007
| | Posted on Friday, March 09, 2007 - 06:12 pm: |
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As a spankee, I love the idea of being made to wait bent over the couch while he goes to get something. I also love the corner suggestion. Make her wait in the corner with her panties around her ankles and her skirt pulled up while you go stand back and "decide what punishment she deserves." Just a suggestion, of course. It depends upon her personality and preferences.
"I do not understand words and will not accept them in exchange for my feelings." -Shirley Jackson
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Aka
New member
Username: Aka
Post Number: 10
Registered: 03-2007
| | Posted on Saturday, March 10, 2007 - 02:31 pm: |
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When all else fails you need a written plan. Sit down make out the rules, add to them as need be. When she breaks the rules you say: "You know the rules." Calm and firmly. Have a written punishment for each rule. She will take care of the rule breaking so most your job is done.
When at a loss for words ask questions: Do you know which rule you broke? Do you know what the punishment is? Why are you still dressed? Why are you not in position yet? Do I need to double your punishment? Can you offer explaination for your behavior? (Never accept one, just say "Not good enough." or "If your not going to face up to the truth I will double your punishment." Few things scold like having to explain one's own actions.
Piece of cake, above all relax your the boss, remember? And you know she wants this. Do it for her. |
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