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Nicole
New member
Username: Nicole
Post Number: 2
Registered: 01-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 16, 2008 - 11:50 pm: | 
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Hello Everyone!
So, I recently started seeing a really great guy. Like a lot of other people on this forum, I am a bit shy about my desire to be spanked, and I turn red at the very thought of telling my new guy (we've been together four months, but he lives on the opposite side of the country, so we only see each other for about a week at a time once a month) about my *interest*. However, I feel like I might be able to drop some pretty big hints, or maybe even work up the courage to say something to him if I could only gauge ahead of time whether or not it seems like something he could possibly be okay with. I have gotten some pretty mixed messages so far, so I thought I would throw it out there and see if anyone has any thoughts about it.
It's actually amazing - I've been interested in spanking for a long time, but I never realized until I started dating this guy how much it turns me on to be dominated in general. I mean, I have never been with someone who acts at all authoritative, and I am finding that I absolutely love it! I consider myself pretty head-strong (some might call me stubborn) and I didn't think I would ever like to be told what to do, or have my partner be stern and authoritative with me. Boy,was I wrong! Though they are just little things, there have been several times when my guy and I have had a difference of opinion and he says something along the lines of "Well, you don't have a choice in the matter, you're going to do it, and that's the end of it". I must say, I was relieved to read some of the posts on here and discover that it's not so abnormal to be really turned on by that kind of statement from a significant other. Also, we play around a lot (wrestling and that sort of thing), and he often pins me to the wall, or the floor. It turns me on so much to have him dominate me that way! I love the fact that he is so much stronger than me, and that he's not afraid to use his strength to his advantage. One time we were in bed (just talking, I swear!) and we got to bickering a bit about something, and I got upset and went to climb out of bed. He was instantly apologetic for hurting my feelings, which was sweet, but at the same time, he wouldn't let me get out of the bed! He caught my arm and pulled me against him (being very sweet and saying nice things), and when I struggled to get away, he just said "Sweetheart, I'm bigger than you. You're not going anywhere". Even through my tears and anger, I got instantly turned on at those words and the fact that he is indeed bigger and stronger than me!
As for my hope that he might be willing to spank me...well, I thought it was a good sign that he seems to be a dominating sort of guy by nature. Then there is the fact that he very frequently will give me very light little swats on the bum when we are just lounging around together, or sometimes even just when he walks by me. A lot less frequently, he will give a slightly less-light swat (still barely enough to sting in the slightest) when he's just feeling playful. A couple times, when we were wrestling around, he has actually given me about a dozen very light swats in rapid succession - but they are just so darn light, it leaves me desperately wanting more! So, I was encouraged by the fact that he is at least playful about giving me tiny little love-taps on the rear, but it doesn't seem that he associates it at all with sex, and he doesn't seem to use it in response to being provoked or when I'm bratty. I think there might be hope, though! There was one time when he was a little irked with me for trying to delete a few photos off his digital camera (pics of me) that I really didn't like, so to keep me from touching them, he picked me right up, tossed me over his shoulder, and carried me out to the livingroom. He actually slapped my butt a few times as well! Again, they were pretty light, but a little more meaningful than the playful ones he had given before.
Oh! And when we were talking on the phone a few nights ago, we had a difference in opinion, and I was admittedly being a bit stubborn. He commented that I was very stubborn, and I agreed that I was. He sort of chuckled in that way he does when he's annoyed (I can just picture him shaking his head at the same time), and said "If I was there right now, I'd pick you up and start slapping your ass like you wouldn't believe". Ooooo! You can imagine what those words did to my system! I said something along the lines of "I'd like to see you try", to which he replied "oh, you'd see it alright". What does this mean!?? I really want him to spank me, but he hasn't mentioned it at all since then - even when I purposely provoke him in the same manner.
So, what do you guys think? It seems like he might be somewhat open to the idea of it, right? Or is that wishful thinking on my part? I'm really crazy about him and don't want to lose him by freaking him out (he is very sensitive even when we are playing around to making sure that he doesn't hurt me). Plus, the relationship is so new that I'm really just not comfortable asking to be spanked. What should I do?
Thanks in advance for any feedback, and sorry for the long-winded post!
Best regards to all,
Nicole |
Otk_brett
New member
Username: Otk_brett
Post Number: 10
Registered: 01-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, January 17, 2008 - 06:00 am: |
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Nicole....there's nothing wrong with you. If you'd like, send me a private message and I'll give you some ideas that I used to get my wife to get into and really enjoy the lifestyle.
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 2048
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 17, 2008 - 02:27 pm: |
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Nicole, I think you have a true Dom there. He's probably thinking the same thing you are...do I tell her or not??
Send him an email, put what you just posted in it or send him a link to this site and let him find it.
I honestly don't think you are going to freak him out. I think you are going to find him relieved that you can both start to enjoy being open and honest spankos!
Paddle Faster!!!! I hear Banjos!!!
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Oftenred
New member
Username: Oftenred
Post Number: 39
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, January 17, 2008 - 05:22 pm: |
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Nicole, I think you just have to be open and don't be afraid to talk to him and explain how you feel...I know that is putting yourself out there a bit...but nothing ventured nothing gained. I know it is hard to do. I was married for several years, before I had enough courage to tell my husband. He was a little cool to the idea at first, but since then it has been wonderful...and we have been married 10 wonderful years now. And I am still getting spanked regularly. |
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