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Missy
New member
Username: Missy
Post Number: 1
Registered: 07-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 11, 2007 - 06:12 pm: | 
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Hi, I'm new. Both to the forum and spanking, sort of. I'm married and my husband is the ONLY one I could ever let spank me. He has spanked me playfully - but all that does is turn me on.
I want him to dominate. I want him to spank my bare bottom until I cry. I need the emotional release and I think it would really help my nasty little attitude problem. I worry and stress all of the time and I just really need the release - but I'm not sure how I can get him to REALLY spank me. Any suggestions?
Thanks,
Missy |
Blushingbride
Advanced Spanko
Username: Blushingbride
Post Number: 119
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 11, 2007 - 07:05 pm: |
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In my experience, the biggest thing is communication. In whatever way works for you, you need to let him know what it is that you want. It may be a face to face discussion or ten, an e-mail describing what you want, having him read your post, or e-mailed or printed stories from the internet that capture what you are looking for.
Be prepared that it may not be an easy leap for him to go from playful to painful. Many men understandably fear that once things get to that point, it will make them abusers, either in reality or in their own mind, or that you will change your mind and resent him for hurting you.
It was dificult for my husband to understand that I craved more and harder spanking than was simply pleasurable, but that the pain was in fact welcome, despite being painful.
Good luck, and keep us posted. |
Bratattitude
Spanko
Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 77
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 12, 2007 - 01:42 am: |
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I'll back that up COMMUNICATION is the biggest key factor in this type of relationship. I have an attiude problem from time to time too, and like you, I stress and worry and that is when it comes out the most. My husband knows a good spanking can stop what he calls "the spiral" btu he has also been quick to tell me it is not the easiest thing to give. There are times I fight him, and that makes it really hard on him to deliver a stern spanking. The reason I tell you this is because while he may agree to go into a more stern spanking relationship he may have moments where it is harder on him or uncomfortable for him as opposed to the playful sexy spankings. Thats why communication is so very very important.
People will say have them read the boards - not all men will. To me it is better coming from your mouth. If you want him to read a post...show him with you there and discuss it with them. It is the ahrdest thing in the world to talk about. You can search my posts and see I have had to learn how to communicate better, too!  But you have posted to the right place - people here are great with advice and stuff - they really are. I hope they can help you as much as they have me!
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Missy
New member
Username: Missy
Post Number: 3
Registered: 07-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, July 12, 2007 - 11:47 am: |
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Why thank you, ladies. I do communicate with him - but I do think this one is going to be a bit of a leap for him. I'm pretty sure he'll get there....but he's going to have to be eased into it Infact, he spanked me last night a little harder than usual - so maybe he is starting to understand my need a little better. |
Bratattitude
Spanko
Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 78
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 12, 2007 - 12:57 pm: |
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 Hey it was a small step but you are right he could get there. Good deal!
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Oftenred
New member
Username: Oftenred
Post Number: 25
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, July 12, 2007 - 10:43 pm: |
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I hope you can both get to the level that you desire. How long have you been married/together, just curious about how long you have been trying to get your desire met. |
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