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Neoserenity87
Advanced Spanko
Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 298
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 03, 2007 - 10:31 am: | 
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Hello there everyone, for those of you that remember me it's good to be back! For those of you that are just meeting me I'm Neo/Christy. I've been deployed in iraq for a year and have not yet had access to the den until now. Anywayz here's my scoop. I've been with the absolute sweetest guy you could imagine, for nearly the entire deployment. I know that he's spanked girls before, but not me, and he still has a lot to learn. I guess my main problem is that he doesn't spank me for as long as I'd like and I can't seem to get an otk spanking out of him either. Does anyone have any tips for "training" or otherwise getting him into it??? I just enjoy it SOOOO much more when he plays along with me, girls you know how it works, love taps here and there, the threatening of an immenent spanking is what gets me the most. Any ideas of how I can explain this to him? That if he takes the time to work with me on this then what he wants in bed will also be a lot better? Help????
-from a very naughty girl that just wants a spanking from her man
.....dang, back to Iraq again.......oh well, watch out Iraqis! Here comes Rudy!!!!
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Rose
New member
Username: Rose
Post Number: 16
Registered: 06-2007
| | Posted on Monday, September 03, 2007 - 11:38 am: |
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I think I'd need to know a little more before I attempted to answer your question. You say that he has spanked girls before. Is this because he is a spanko, or did he do so at their requests? Are you looking for discipline, or fun spankings only?
The rule of thumb around here is communication. Depending on your comfort level and his, I'd say that your best bet is just being direct with your wants and needs. Also, I've found that making sure to let my husband know when he's doing something that I enjoy seems to inspire him to do it more.
It is nice to meet you, by the way. I haven't yet been on this board a year, so we haven't met. I hope you'll let us all know how it goes with your man. And thank you, for what you've done for us in Iraq.  |
Neoserenity87
Advanced Spanko
Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 299
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 03, 2007 - 01:36 pm: |
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Hi there rose, thank you for your post. So you think if I just let him know how much I enjoy spankings, love taps etc....it's good motivation?
As far as I know it's only at their request, he never does anything like that without it being requested. He's actually very good about letting me call the shots in the bedroom, the only problem is that it takes all the suprise element out of it. Honestly, one of the things my ex did that I absolutly LOVED (but of course pretended to protest against) was when he would randomly take me over his knee for a little playful spanking. Anyway, if you or anyone else has advice as to how I can involve him more in this matter in a positive way, I guess get him "into" it with me so to speak. Please let me know!  Thanks much rose and nice to meet you.
-from the one who pines for a red bottom
P.S. don't mention it, I like doing the whole soldier thing.....especially when I've been a naughty little soldier and need a spanking over my little PT shorts. ;)
.....dang, back to Iraq again.......oh well, watch out Iraqis! Here comes Rudy!!!!
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Rose
New member
Username: Rose
Post Number: 18
Registered: 06-2007
| | Posted on Monday, September 03, 2007 - 02:07 pm: |
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Well, the great thing is that spanking is something that he is open to trying. I think all that you really need to do is let him know more specifically what you want - the spontaneity and all. If you have trouble speaking to him about it, write him a letter. That is what I do with my husband, because it is far easier for me to write about it than speak to him about it. Write about the things that he does that you absolutely love. In my experience, stroking a man's ego always makes him more amenable to wanting to please you. Then tell him about the things that you wish he would do as well. And make sure you let him know that you love him and that he is the only one you trust and want to do this for you.
Good luck, and let us know how it all turns out! |
Buenaventura
Supreme Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 792
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Monday, September 03, 2007 - 05:01 pm: |
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Rudy,You might try leting him read some of the other posts here in the den.Most of the girls here say that you have to stick our noses in it( )for us to understand.Hmmmm ain,t never spanked a soldier!!! |
Monkeymomsc1
New member
Username: Monkeymomsc1
Post Number: 36
Registered: 05-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 04, 2007 - 06:28 am: |
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sorry in advance, i'm going to hijack.
THANK YOU SO MUCH! THANK YOU THANK YOU}
I want to thank you for helping create a world where everyone is safer, where children can play, and people can live free. Thank you for all the sacrifices you and everyone else overthere with you is making. Thank you to your families for raising such wonderful adults. I will pray for you often.
It seems to inadequit, but THANK YOU RUDY.
God bless you in your mission.
as to your question. listen to Buena, he helped me get some of the best spankings ever! he gives great advise. have your Mr. read what you wrote. i "accidentally" left it up on the computer for Mr R to read. worked great. |
O4mstrsnee
New member
Username: O4mstrsnee
Post Number: 4
Registered: 08-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 04, 2007 - 04:05 pm: |
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I agree that you should share information with your guy. I have always sent links to stories that excite me and pictures as well. I also believe that your own words can be very helpfula s well. Write him a story about the two of you. See how he reacts. Good luck I know how frustrating it can be when you long for a sore bottom and just can't make it happen. |
Neoserenity87
Advanced Spanko
Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 302
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 06, 2007 - 02:12 pm: |
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WOW!!! You guys have been SO helpful! Thanks so much for all the good comments. I think it's really helped me to realize that I just haven't been encouraging him as much as I could. It's always the most simple things you don't think of right?? :-D Unfortunatly I'm leaving Iraq soon, so it will be a few months before we see each other again. I'm planning on returning to Iraq as an interpretor (I speak fluent arabic) so we'll see each other when I come back around late november/early december time frame. Anyway the advice you all gave is excellent for any situation I may encounter in the future. (I mean come on, I'm only 20, the odds of this guy being "the one" are slim, but then again you never know) So thanks for all of your posts.
Also, our last "session" together was better, however he stopped just as I was reaching a REALLY good spot, he didn't want me to bruise, but it damn near killed me because it was SOOOOO good and he stopped!!! We'll be exchanging e-mails while I'm gone so I'm sure that will give me a good chance to commuicate what I'm looking for. Thanks again to you all.
-from your naughty little soldier
Naughty little soldiers are always caught shaking in their combat boots.
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O4mstrsnee
New member
Username: O4mstrsnee
Post Number: 10
Registered: 08-2007
| | Posted on Friday, September 07, 2007 - 09:50 am: |
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Safe trip home. Perhaps you could send him a link from the states to this site and other spanking links. As an educational tool while you are away from each other. |
Neoserenity87
Advanced Spanko
Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 309
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 08, 2007 - 02:37 am: |
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thanks, sounds like a good plan, maybe he'll enjoy it...do you think I should tell him which user is me? or let him put two and two together?
Naughty little soldiers are always caught shaking in their combat boots.
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Buenaventura
Supreme Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 801
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, September 08, 2007 - 08:35 am: |
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Well you do have your foto up!I suppose that,s you.At your age (and maybe any other) it,s hard to be completely up front with a boyfriend but when you are and it doesn,t backfire it makes for a much better realtionship. |
Cherrybrewer
New member
Username: Cherrybrewer
Post Number: 49
Registered: 07-2007
| | Posted on Saturday, September 08, 2007 - 09:16 am: |
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Hello Neo....
I am someone that has been "exposed" to this whole "lifestyle" and was unaware of those who adore it so much. I didn't think about it or anything, but have learned so much, and will continue to do so.
Your friend, may need your help, like with your letter, or whatever...just remember there are those of us that love to do it, just have never had any "real" direction or instructions on WHAT to do, start it up, etc...
He may not be open to just going and reading.... I know a lot of guys that have trouble doing that with anything. Heck, most people won't even read the directions on how to cook what they are about to eat, so you think they want to sit and read about something like spanking???
Of course everyone here that knows me, knows I mean no disrespect what-so-ever!
Just talk with him, your words, your wants... You know how special, fun, and important this is to you... Don't make it "text-book" to him...he will respond much better if it's you talking to him rather than you saying something like "can you read this so you know what to do..." I hope you understand what I'm saying... It's so much better when it's coming from you...
GOOD LUCK! And Thank you so much for keeping me/all of us safe...that blank check you wrote... I am forever grateful.
Cherry
Dreams are born in the heart,
Limits are only there because of your mind...
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Neoserenity87
Advanced Spanko
Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 312
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 17, 2007 - 09:27 pm: |
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thanks for your comment cherry, I think that it's very helpful to hear things from more or less "his side" from you and the other tops out there. I'll see what I can do but it'll be a while before we have a face to face. Thanks again. -Christy
Naughty little soldiers are always caught shaking in their combat boots.
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