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Beachley
Advanced Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 122
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 11, 2005 - 07:07 pm: | 
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Mr. B my hubby who used to be a vanilla until I introduced spanking into the relationship has come a very long way in 1 1/2 years. He spanks very nicely. However sometimes he simply does not remember to give a warm up, when I tell him to go gentler, his usual response is that he is. He generally goes for the sits spot as it gets the most reaction from me and he likes the reaction of my squirming all over his lap trying to get away. LOL
My question though revolves around the fact that his hand can be much worse than most implements. As he thinks that his hand is not something he has to worry about much. In his opinion a hand can't hurt that much. BTW there are never any bruises, so maybe it is just me. But his hand is hard and it does hurt until I do eventually get warmed up even if the first swats are as hard as the last swats, the bottom does eventually warm to it.
The funny thing is though that if he has an implement in his hand he is more careful. The worse the implement, to his mind at least, the more careful he is with it. Such as: he is much more careful with the cane than he is with CB he is less careful with the leather paddle than he is with the CB or the cane. You get the picture.
Has anyone else ever experienced this situation with your Top/Dom/Spanking Parter??
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1132
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 11, 2005 - 07:50 pm: |
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R has no idea how hard is hand actually is so he uses it with much more vigor than any impliment. He does do warm ups though.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Biggirl
Spanko
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 64
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 11, 2005 - 11:57 pm: |
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Beachley:
I just told G of my spanking desires in spring. I have tried to explain "warm up" to him. I have even saved articles from the internet about how to give an erotic spanking & it detailed warm up info. Still he just doesn't do it for long enough & I too adjust. I haven't said anything as I do not want to be critical. I have such difficulty talking openly about what I like with him because of my own emotional block.
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Spankin4me
New member
Username: Spankin4me
Post Number: 10
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 28, 2005 - 09:22 am: |
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Hey Beachley, have you suggested that your husband try his hand on his own thigh or somewhere to guage his force? It's probably hard to compare because his thigh is likely tougher than your bottom but it could help some. I would suggest that you give him a real life demonstration of how it feels but I doubt you enjoy the thought of spanking him and besides he'd probably just argue that you hit harder than he does to start.
Another idea though...there is more than one way to warm up a bottom...why not start with a rub or massage? Have him start with lighter rubbing and graduate to deeper massage. This will get the blood flowing to the area and create some of the warmth you need. Then his spanks won't be landing on a cold bottom and it might solve the problem. And if not, it's fun anyway!! lol |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1379
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 28, 2005 - 10:27 am: |
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Spankin4me, You have an idea there with trying his thigh. By nature most woman have that extra padding on their bottoms, so it might be a good comparison.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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