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Youngsubmissive
New member
Username: Youngsubmissive
Post Number: 1
Registered: 11-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, November 05, 2009 - 01:35 pm: | 
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Hello all,
I am 18 years old and have only just entered a spanking relationship. My boyfriend has decided that he wants to correct my behaviour and punish me when i don't meet his expectations. In the most loving way, he punishes me as he wants me to achieve the best.
I would like some advice if possible, on how to take a spanking. Even when i know i am deserving of a spanking, i find it difficult to lie still and submit myself fully. I would like to learn more about how to endure a spanking and learn from it. }}
Thanks. x |
Vixievamp
Spanko
Username: Vixievamp
Post Number: 43
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, November 05, 2009 - 07:45 pm: |
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I still struggle with this. I am not very good at holding still. I have to be in a certain frame of mind. I guess that's not much help, but at least you will know you are not alone in finding it difficult, and also know that it doesn't make you a bad submissive or a bad girlfriend. He may have to hold you in position until you can find it easier. That is what my husband and I are now trying, and I did find it easier last time to stay still myself since I had been held down the last time. Do you get erotic spankings as well? Maybe you could practice holding still for erotic spankings and get your tolerance up during them. |
Youngsubmissive
New member
Username: Youngsubmissive
Post Number: 2
Registered: 11-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, November 05, 2009 - 08:29 pm: |
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Thank you  its a comfort to know i don't just have a stupidly low pain thresh hold!!
We have played around with erotic spankings for a few months now, but only light, playful and jovial.
Earlier this week He introduced the belt, - i'm sure i'll get there in the end. x |
Vixievamp
Spanko
Username: Vixievamp
Post Number: 44
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, November 05, 2009 - 09:48 pm: |
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Do you guys do a warm up spanking before you get a hard spanking? That really helps me as well. Don't worry. You don't have to take the biggest, baddest implements right away to be a good spanko. Your heart's in the right place. Just some advice I wish I had gotten when I started out. |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 260
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 07, 2009 - 08:53 am: |
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Hi, YS,
There is not right or wrong in this, everyone is different and we all have different levels of what we can take. best advise I can give is just go slow and easy, find out what you like, can handle and go from there.
The warm up is good and lets you get in the mood for what is going to come, as you go along you need to set limits on what you can handle. as well as having safe words,
Small hairbrush, or small paddle is good to start with, don't need to think of a belt or strap right now or maybe not even ever, depends on you two guys. depends on your limits so don't worry too much, you'll do great....erotic spankings are so much fun, you may want to try them out. good luck
my name says it all
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