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Daldrw
New member
Username: Daldrw
Post Number: 4
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 14, 2005 - 09:27 pm: | 
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So what is a spankophile to do when he or she has a a good marriage with a vanilla spouse? Is it adultery or cheating to pursue getting one's needs met with someone else?
Any of you have experience with this? Advice? |
He_who_is_himself
New member
Username: He_who_is_himself
Post Number: 2
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 14, 2005 - 10:19 pm: |
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I've not been in a situation like this before but what I would do is talk to my spouse first. See their reaction, what they think. |
Babyj4
New member
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 40
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 14, 2005 - 11:31 pm: |
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that is a tough question. I know I am currently dealing with a vanilla spouce as well, but I am exploring every way I can think of to discuss and persuade him to be other wise. Every one on this site has been a great help with this, I suggest asking for advice about talking to your spouce about your needs. Good luck
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1453
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 15, 2005 - 08:51 am: |
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This is a tough one, Will. It can only be answered within your own mind on what YOU consider the definitions of the words to be. Spanking without sex, in my opinion, is not considered adultery. Cheating is more iffy. If you have your spouses consent than it wouldn't be. My guess that a vanilla who doesn't understand the need would likely not be open to the idea of you doing anything with another person. It would depend on their own self confidence and the state of the relationship. That being said, and of course it being such a personal decision, no-one can answer it for you. My personal take on it? You do what you need to do. I am happily married and I don't see an issue with me playing here in the Den. In fact it makes my relationship with my husband more enjoyable, it expands my horizons. I equate it to having friendships with members of the opposite gender. Some spouses cannot even deal with that, but I think a solid relationship can only benefit from having your needs fullfilled.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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