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Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 119
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 26, 2005 - 09:31 pm: | 
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well I've been quite the little brat lately, and today when my husband got home from work he told me I was going to get the spanking I'd been asking for. All evening my insides tingled with anticipation of the spanking. Now don't get me wrong it hurt, I could barely keep myself from putting my hand in the way, but still not what I am looking for. After the spanking we talked about it and he asked if I felt better. I told him that it helped a little, but that it wasn't the experience I was looking for. He was very calm and quiet durring the spanking, I told him I wanted him to take charge, tell me what to do and to lecture, I want to feel completely helpless. Now I must wait in anticipation of our next encounter. but my bottem is a but sore still.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Kennysspankee
New member
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 36
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 03:23 am: |
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Babyj4, how long does your spanking take? I find if it isn't long enough I have that lost, incomplete, unfulfilled feeling. Try starting out slow and build how hard he spanks and get him to take you to where you can't take anymore, then keep going for a bit. That way it can be stretched out and maybe you'll feel happy and satisfied (like you just ate your favorite desert). Does he use his hand? Try a belt but not doubled. Doubled is heavy on the end and tends to hurt deeply. A satisfying 'set your bum on fire' might be what your looking for rather than the deep muscle hurt of a heavy spanking. |
Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 123
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 08:08 am: |
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Well, they are to short, but the more he does the longer and harder they get. He uses his hand most of the time, but he has ocasionally used a belt. Sometimes doubled and sometimes not. I do want that "set your bum on fire" fealing. But the bigest problem is that he is to calm and quiet about it. He just spanks, no lecture or stern voice or anything.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Zippo
New member
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 25
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 11:50 am: |
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Have you tried sassing back at him during your punishments, I agree with Kennysspankee in that instead of just hard smacks the cumlitive effect of many more moderate smacks can get your bottom burning without getting too much deep muscle injury. I do agree that you need the dialouge between top and bottom to reinforce the spankings, try leading him into dialouge with sassing and questions like what do I have to do to get this punishment over with..goad him a little. Do what you are best at...BE A BRAT. Consider buying a leather paddle. They are comfortable for the top to use and it is easier to direct they smacks where he wants them to be, and my s/o will testify they have plenty of bark to thier bite. Good luck and play safe. |
Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 128
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 12:50 pm: |
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Where could I find a leather paddle? And if I sas back at him he just leaves the room and I do not get the spanking I know I deserve, and that drives me nuts. He doesn't know how to give a proper disapline spanking, he just spanks, and if I don't cooperate he leaves me their even more frustersted with myself than before.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Zippo
New member
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 29
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 02:08 pm: |
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I got my leather paddle online from a place called extremerestraints.com Does he respond to questions about your punishment while he administering them, if he does what does he do when you make a promise and then dont comply? It sometimes takes some time to find the right buttons to push to get things started, but once you do it should progress naturally. A new implement might help as it takes some of the routine away, and encourage him to explore the possibilities in the way he uses it |
Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 132
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 03:37 pm: |
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I don't ask questions durring a spanking, I am more consintrared on the spanking itself. Every time I've been spanked I had to ask for it, he doesn't take it upon himself to do it when needed. I also try not to make promises, because I have a hard time behaving, knowing that I will not get spanked unless I ask him to. I wish he would just take me in hand on his own.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Kennysspankee
New member
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 37
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2005 - 09:11 pm: |
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Be patient Babyj4. Just keep coaching and coaxing him on how you like it done. I used to say "I should get a spanking for that" if I screwed up in even the smallest way. After a while it worked. He wants me to turn off the extension the hair dryer is plugged into, has been trying to convince me to for years (we've only been spanking for 2 years approx.). Then one day he got a wood paddle after we had been playing (mostly erotic spanking) and took my arm and steered my over to the hair dryer. He then said to turn if off. When I bent to do that (it sits on the floor) he spanked me with the paddle when I got half-way there, then I would pop back up. It must have taken us 10 minutes for me to stay down and take more than 1 spank at a time in order to press that button. I remember every time I look at that thing after I've dried my hair. That's just one example, I have a few more. We bought the Boudoir paddle from The London Tanners, but if you want a real biting, stinging strap try the Ruler Strap. It's the worsest one we have and we have quite a few. |
Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 145
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 12:42 pm: |
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well day three any I can still feal the soreness from monday, so he definatly got the idea of how hard to spank.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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