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Zippo
New member
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 23, 2005 - 11:07 am: | 
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Greetings to all. My s/o turned me on to this blog hoping I would learn a few things to enhance
our relationship. To start, we have been into spanking for about 7 years but prior to that point, I had never spanked someone before. She feels that I am timid and do not spank her as much as she wants. I have told her that I do not want to inflict a lasting injury, but I do understand that her tolerance has gone up. We usually start with an OTK hand spanking to get her warmed up and then proceed with a variety of implements, like the wooden and leather paddles and cane. I am comfortable using the leather paddle, but after seeing the bruising left by the wood, I have become reluctant to use it although that is what she says she enjoys. Sorry for the novel, but am looking forward to any insight you might have. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 510
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 23, 2005 - 11:46 am: |
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Welcome Zippo, so glad you could join us. Perhaps if you do some reading in our discussions area, then ask any questions you might have, we can be of assistance. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *pout*
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1462
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 23, 2005 - 12:40 pm: |
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Hello Zippo. You do not have a unique situation. I am thinking that rather than her tolerance having gone up, her emotional needs have increased. This will not be solved with bruises and I am glad to hear that bruises are not in your comfort zone. Possibly you need to experiment with adding non spanking type discipline in addition to the actual spanking. I find that spanking meets a lot of emotional needs, but the way you go about administering them is more important than just the actual swats. Find out what her real needs are and meet them, you will both benfit highly from this.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Babyj4
Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 86
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 23, 2005 - 04:08 pm: |
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Hello Zippo, and 1st of all welcome to the den. I have a spouce who is also afraid of injuring me, I can't seem to explaine thiongs very well to him, but I'll try my best to help you out. The 1st thing I have to say is that you should remember she is not a child, but an adult, and there fore has a much higher pain tollerence than you might think. If she has givin birth than that ups the anty even more. If she is open enough to tell you what she wants from you then I'd give her what she asks for, once you do if she changes her mind she will tell you. If you are afraid of hurting her to much then designate a safe word, and when she says that word agree that you will stop. She's not going to let you do something she doesn't want you to, and she'll let you know if it is to much. I know from experience that the longer you make her wait for what she has told you she wants the more frusterated she will become. The little spankings I get my hb to give me every week are mearly tideing my over untill he is ready to dish out what I've asked for. well I hope this helps, good luck.  oh and remember if she didn't want it she wouldn't ask, it's not easy for an adult to ask to be spanked to tears.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Zippo
New member
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 6
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 25, 2005 - 03:06 am: |
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First of all thanks for the ideas. We have always had a trust level where it has been the punishment is over when I decide its over, We liked the idea of a safe word and have agreed to really give her what shes been asking for and deserves. Fanny, I do incorperate non spanking forms of disipline also such as assigning her specific chores though I have found things like cornertime not especially beneficial, some may do that to admire their handiwork, but I tend to use a variey of posistion to ensure good coverage. I usually will rub her bottom down with a lotion after the punishment is over as some of the implements dry out the skin. Gotta keep that skin nice and supple!! I get all the view I need then, plus its the first stage in the make up process to reinforce to her that I am not mad at her and still care.
After having had the chance to do some reading in the discussions area, I have found many of you to be very honest and insightful as well as friendly. Look forward to talking with many of you in the days to come. Have fun all. |
Ziggy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ziggy
Post Number: 431
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 25, 2005 - 09:15 am: |
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 welcome Zippo, it is nice that you have decided to check us out, we had some good tops, but they have since gone up in a puff of smoke. I think they like to lurk in the shadows. But now we have you.} |
Babyj4
Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 93
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 25, 2005 - 10:40 am: |
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Zippo, I am glad to hear you and your s/o were able to resolve your problems. I am sure that the both of you feel lots better. And I think that the safe word is the best bet for you. If I can help in any other way,let me know. best of luck, and be safe.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Zippo
New member
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 13
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 25, 2005 - 10:39 pm: |
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Hi Ziggy! Living in Minnesota you learn to appreciate light and the sun..so no shadow lurking for this for this guy . Just an update on last nights punishment..it was the longest and most intense I have ever administered It ended with her physically spent, but with no long lasting effects. She didnt cry though Babyj, but after the punishment was over she clung onto me and told me she could have gone for more, but repected my decision to end the punishment, and thanked me for 'crossing a barrier'. We also changed up the routine a bit, to aid to anticipation. She means the world to me and I hope to cross into new frontiers
Have fun all and stay safe. |
Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 102
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 25, 2005 - 11:26 pm: |
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Well Zippo, I can tell you really love her and that is great, and it sounds as though the two of you have come to an understanding. And changing things around is a great idea, it'll keep her on her toes. Have fun and good luck.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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