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Ouchie9166
New member
Username: Ouchie9166
Post Number: 4
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 25, 2005 - 08:15 pm: | 
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My boyfriend of two years recently decided that he needs to start spanking me for bad behavior. the first time he put me over his knee and the second time he bent me over the side of teh couch. Both times hurt a lot but I did not cry. I did something bad today and he said he was going to spank me later until I cry. Any suggestions on how to deal with the pain during a spanking? I know I need to be spanked and I accept them but I can't help put my hand back to stop it which gets me even more spankings. What do I do? |
Zippo
New member
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 12
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, September 25, 2005 - 10:09 pm: |
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My g/f continues to be a brat even as she is being spanked. She likes to remain defiant, but does not physically resist her punishments. I believe it is the interaction between top and bottom that make each spanking unique and memorable!  Keep in mind thhat as your boyfriend is administering your spanking that he loves you and wants what is best for you.
You can try to clench your cheeks to ease some impact felt, but I'm sure your boyfriend ensures that you are properly posistioned. Have fun and stay safe. |
Vulcano
New member
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 35
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 26, 2005 - 09:36 am: |
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Don't worry, Ouchie, just react as you feel it... yes, it hurts, it's a spanking and for you even a punishment, the pain and the troubles you feel are a necessary part of it, it's exactly what makes it work. If you're given extra for trying to defend yourself, then your partner either teaches you not to or stops doing it if he sees that you simply cannot cope. It's just a matter of communication and progress. If you feel it's all deserved, it's much easier... and if he knows you know it, he might stop giving you extra, it might be enough for him to see it's really hurting you. I think it's very much also up to you to realize where's you limit... whether the pain is really too much and you need him not to punish you for defending yourself or whether you're just trying to evade your punishment and then you definetely need to be given extra strokes to learn that there's no escaping a deserved punishment. That's the role of the top. But remember, if you're really on the limit right now, let him know and don't let him punish you extra for feeling so and defending yourself... still it's a spanking and not an assault. I myself try to defend myself by my hands from time to time too when it hurts very much... and it's enough for me just to hear him order to bend over and assume the position again, relactuntly, but I do it as I know I deserve every single stroke. That's what I really call a submission for a spanking. Once I got a really severe caning and I reacted very wildly, it hurt like hell... he wanted to punish me extra for taking too long to assume position after a stroke, but I begged him not to, for me, the fear and relactance was the natural part of the severity. But a accepted extra strokes for kicking around myself... you see, being punished for defending myself was over my limit, but the very way of taking the punishment with a sort of decency and not waking up the neighbours was not. On the other hand, I'm the person who's not opposing punishment once I know it's justified, I even ask for it. But I know there are people who'd initially get angry for being spanked trying to defend themselves. I guess, it's quite OK to give them extra then to teach them to accept their fate  |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 511
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 26, 2005 - 10:15 am: |
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Ouchie, I cant tell from your posts if spankings are consensual between you or not. If this is not something you have talked about and agreed to ahead of time, then it should be considered abuse. All of us here who accept disciplinary spankings do so because it's what we want.
If this is consensual, then there is no way around the pain...or what would be the point? I have found that tensing up can make it worse, so I would try and relax instead.
And guys...sorry, but I'm human. Disciplinary spankings hurt and I dont think anyone should be penalized for struggling, kicking, or putting a hand back. The next time your injured, try just standing there quietly without moving and see how easy it is. Give us a break already! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *pout*
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Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 103
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 26, 2005 - 11:10 am: |
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I know that when I am being spanked because I did something wrong, I do everything he tells me to, I don't want to upset him anymore. I also lay over his knee or lap and grab onto a pillow or the bed. If it really hurts I ouch and owe about it, but I do not put my hand in the way, because it just upsets both of us and he stops before he should. Try grabbing onto something while being spanked, it helps. the harder he spanks the harder I grab on.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Ouchie9166
New member
Username: Ouchie9166
Post Number: 5
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 26, 2005 - 03:27 pm: |
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The punishment spankings are consensual! I am not in intolerable pain when I put my hand but. I am just trying to get out the spanking and my bf knows that. Basically I am just being a brat and get further punishment for being one. But I still like to learn little tricks to make it hurt less. Oh yeah and teh hand thing does not work because now if I put my hand back he spanks the back of my legs until I move them.
Thanks, I will try the grabbing a pillow thing! |
Beachley
Advanced Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 136
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 04:49 pm: |
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OH NO spanking legs are bad bad bad. I don't like that at all. In my opinion keep the spanks where they belong. I have put my hand back a couple of times, but then he grabs it and holds it and that seems to really upset me more. I need the use of my hands. So I learned that way not to put my hands back there. I don't want them immobilized. I think holding onto something tightly may help some.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 160
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 28, 2005 - 04:55 pm: |
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yah, the pillow helps me keep my hands in place.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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