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Julia
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Username: Julia
Post Number: 3
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 02, 2005 - 11:00 am: | 
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I know that this won't be the univeral case, but in my own case and in many of the blogs that I frequent there seems to be a commonality:
Many women either discover or wait to express their spanking desires until they are in their mid to late thirties.
Why do you suppose this is? Sexual peak? Greater sexual confidence with age? |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 43
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 02, 2005 - 11:25 am: |
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Hi Julia. I didnt "come out" until I was 45, hiding my spanking fantasies from boyfriends and X-husband alike. I never had the nerve to tell anyone, expecting to be labeled freak and pervert.
Then I stumbled onto a website very like this one. I met people of like minds, people just like me...and guess what? They were perfectly normal! No different from anyone else except for this one little kink. You can imagine my shock and amazement. *grin*
I made many friends, learned a lot and met the man who is my Dom today. Coming out has given me a greater sense of confidence, just as discovering my submissive side has made me complete. Anyway, this is how it happened for me.  |
Rocco
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Username: Rocco
Post Number: 6
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 02, 2005 - 11:51 am: |
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Hi Julia.
I'm not sure what it is but I know it can be the same for us guys too. It took me a while (almost two years) before I could tell the woman I'm with now about my kink for the same reasons Wolfie expressed. I was too afraid she'd think I was a freak or a pervert and run screaming for the hills.
Why it is we deprive ourselvs of what makes us happy is beyond me. But when we do get to that comfortable place with ourselvs and those we're with the fun can begin. |
Beachley
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Username: Beachley
Post Number: 7
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 02, 2005 - 05:00 pm: |
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I was a very late bloomer I did not tell my hubby until I was 51 imagine that. All those married years wasted.
He was not very shocked to hear me admit to my wanting to be spanked and dominated. I have to admit that most of our lives, he has always been the dominant one. The decision maker in the family, but he wants and listens to my input so it was just pretty natural to add in the spanking part, both for fun and discipline as needed which is very seldom.
I think a lot of it is maturity, confidence level and as with Wolfie when I discovered another site and found out I was not alone, it gave me to courage to admit it out loud.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Naughtybynature
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Username: Naughtybynature
Post Number: 14
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 02, 2005 - 09:14 pm: |
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My first marriage I didn't disclose my love of spanking it definitely wasn't the right person to confess it too.
When I met Mr. NN I disclosed it pretty much right away. I wanted my second marriage to be what I enjoyed in TTWD. He made it quite easy for me to be confident in telling him anything which is what made it very easy to talk to him. He even went to a couple of Play Parties with me so he could have a understanding....he definitely was a little wide eyed mind you but he did ask alot of questions which was great. So my Vanilla isn't so Vanilla now
Did is a word of achievement, Won't is a word of retreat, Might is a word of bereavement, Can't is a word of defeat, Ought is a word of duty, Try is a word of each hour, Will is a word of beauty, Can is a word of power.
*(Unknown Author)
Don't take life so seriously.....it isn't permanent
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Lily
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Username: Lily
Post Number: 3
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 02, 2005 - 10:22 pm: |
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I do think that some of the reason why there are more women who deal with their spanking needs later is that it takes that long to get comfortable with such aspects of sexuality. I knew for a long time that I was a bottom but I waited until recently to deal with it.
I have a younger half brother who I haven't seen in a long long time, due to family circumstances. In the last few years we have struck up an online relationship, though we live hundreds of miles away. Recently while talking about our current relationships, he told me he was seeing a much older woman, which would seem unusual for a pretty sexy, family oriented, wage earning, responsible ex-Marine in Tennessee. I told him I passed no judgments, but he went on to say that she shared a lifestyle, that he didn't want to discuss with his sister. A light bulb went off for me. Some subtle talking later revealed that, indeed, he is a dom/top. He was still a bit apologetic about the older woman. I counseled him that he would probably have difficulty finding a younger woman who was comfortable enough in her sexuality to fully participate in his life, especially in his fairly uptight world. He seemed happy that I understood. As I've talked about it with other younger men I've been involved with here, it seems that, while many want a young sweet thing, they've figured out that older women are more likely to know what they want.
Although times are always a changing. My mom would have been shocked by the choices I made when I was in my late teens/early twenties. I would hope that with the internet, more younger women will figure out earlier that they aren't alone. |
Julia
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Username: Julia
Post Number: 4
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 02, 2005 - 11:50 pm: |
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I wonder if it doesn't take that long to throw off parental influences? I was raised by a grandmother whose opinion of sex was, uh, less than positive.
Boy, wouldn't she be horrified by my abandoned enjoyment now! |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 49
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 03, 2005 - 10:10 am: |
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Thats a very interesting observation Julia. My parents enjoyed sex with each other, but also were very uptight about it. So perhaps that inhibited me as I was growing up? |
Kendra
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Username: Kendra
Post Number: 28
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 03, 2005 - 03:38 pm: |
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I must be the odd man out here, because I told my husband (Then boyfriend) when I was 19. We had been close friends since we were both in diapers so trust wasn't an issue. Not to mention we dated off and on all through out Middle and high school. |
Softbreeze
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Username: Softbreeze
Post Number: 7
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 03, 2005 - 04:33 pm: |
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The internet definately helped me accept and figure out what I want..and it also felt good to know that I wasn't the only one who had 'these desires'...so now I'm a happier person than a year ago or so... |
Redtail
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Username: Redtail
Post Number: 2
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 09:25 am: |
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Although I've always been interested in spanking, my wife and I never really "got into it" until our 50's. And in fact, my wife never wanted to be spanked until she was over 50. My personal theory is that when we were younger and more into sex, we never took the time or needed the extra stimulus a spanking can provide. |
Headteddy
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Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 33
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 12:37 pm: |
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We are more like Kendra. We have been practicing erotic spanking with light D/D siince we were dating 27 years ago. I casually threatened her over something and she responded by bratting and responding erotically to the quick spanking that followed. That was it. for us.
Now that we are a lot older we still enjoy the stimulation, role play and bonding it actually makes us feel younger. We have had to stop play for the last year because of TD's illness but we still do everythng but the actual spanking. She brats, I growl, reach out for, tap her butt once or twice, she squeals, sticks her tongue out at me and we dash for the bed.
I've been thinking about a thread about erotic spanking d/d after age 50. What's different? Whats the same? More or less now that the kids are out of the house? How much do us over 50 spankos have to spend on chiropractic bills and medical bills related to play?
Best
HeadTeddy |
Kennysspankee
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Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 07:31 pm: |
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I got the nerve to tell my husband of 32 years (two years ago)that I would like him to spank me. I credit a show called Kink for giving me the courage. Our sons were 31 and 27, no longer in the house, so there was no problem with interuptions in our fun. I was 50 and my husband was 53 at the time. I thought about telling him for about a year before I actually did. If it hadn't been for that show he probably still wouldn't know. |
Kennysspankee
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Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 8
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 01:58 am: |
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Oh and to answer a couple of questions. We have sex every other night so that didn't change but it sure made it hotter! We ride motorcycles and are pretty active so we haven't had any injuries due to our extra playtime activities. |
Daddysgrl1022
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Username: Daddysgrl1022
Post Number: 4
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 05, 2005 - 07:03 pm: |
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Same with me. I had played around with spanking, but I truly wanted a real DD relationship. I started visiting sites like this and lo and behold I met the man of my dreams and we are very much in love and I don't have to hide anything from him and I wouldn't dare anyway. He is so touchy about things like that. Imagine! |
Passaspliff
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Username: Passaspliff
Post Number: 2
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 11, 2005 - 02:47 pm: |
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I have never before come across a site where there are so many women expressing the exact same fears that men have
do i tell
will i sound foolish
will they think i'm peverted
will i lose them
i'll be a freak
just shows honesty is the best policy |
Sweetdew
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Username: Sweetdew
Post Number: 1
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 11, 2005 - 04:56 pm: |
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Theinternet did it for me also. Finding out that I wasn't a freak, I was just part of a ever growing number of people who are coming out of the closet with their desires. Haven't actually gotten in the action as of yet ... but I have only been divorced for a year. And, I Love Younger men! It seems as if everytime I have Any sort of sexual relations with a younger man ... they are Always swatting or spanking my bare cheeks! I think they are much more open about it all ... of course, so am I. After years of a sparkless marriage, it seems as if I stay hot now! It's like finally being free to be a bottom! And loving it! |
Smartnnaughty
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Username: Smartnnaughty
Post Number: 17
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 11, 2005 - 05:47 pm: |
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I agree with Sweetdew. Younger men are fun, but older men have advantages also. Right now I have one of each and a few others hanging around. I have discussed spanking with the younger and older and both are open to it.
I too am free after a spankless, sparkless marriage and I'm looking for what makes me happy. I'm in my mid 40's but I have know this side of me for a very long time. |
Jodima
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Username: Jodima
Post Number: 8
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 12, 2005 - 06:42 am: |
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Finding sites like Spankingblog and Patty's site are probably what made me comfortable enough to admit this side of myself. I've been divorced two years after a pretty much sexless marriage, not to mention spankless. I'm now ready for something more in my life. Here's to new beginnings for all us women coming out of the closet with our kink. *lifts her coffee mug* |
Phantomlillith
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Username: Phantomlillith
Post Number: 8
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 12, 2005 - 02:44 pm: |
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It's actually kind of a blessing and a curse to be very sexually self-aware when you're young. I happened to see that movie Exit to Eden when I was eight, and it blew my little mind--didn't even know exactly what sex was, but all my life I'd had a thing about certain types of pain. So I realized I was a bottom, and that there were plenty of other people like me.
The curse part happens when you're raised in an uptight household and are sent to a Baptist school... By the time I went to college I had to basically lose the entire worldview my parents attempted to give me to have any fun.
On the other hand, my guy is a couple months from thirty. Before me he'd never spanked a girl and now it's rare that I walk past without a swat. He also had a few fantasies he'd never told a partner for fear of being thought of as a freak. I can't even imagine having to contain a fantasy for so long... Well, I can, but I just refused!
Anyway I do think more people are discovering young that they're kinky. There's a college in Iowa--no joke--with a BDSM club, and even in my small group of friends I had quite a few "deviants". Kink has gotten a lot more mainstream--even the pitiful little porn shops in this Republican neck of the woods have paddles and whatnot. I think now that BDSM--whether it's a spanking here and there or M/s stuff--has gotten into the public eye, people won't be able to resist. Or think it so strange. |
Julia
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Username: Julia
Post Number: 14
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 09:50 am: |
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I just finished a Psychology course (Human Growth and Development.) The last few chapters were the most interesting to me, at least in terms of "where I am now."
A person's personality is pretty much "set" at a young age. As we get older, we all become slightly less neurotic, and slightly more open, but otherwise stay pretty much the same. Major life events that we think have completely changed us really only allow old personality patterns to emerge.
I think, at least for me, kink was set early. But being raised by Talibangelical grandparents gave me such a deep sense of sexual shame that it took decades to overcome. |
Pagan
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Username: Pagan
Post Number: 17
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 09:01 pm: |
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I've known my whole life that I wanted to be spanked. I can remember playing spanking games with a male neighbour when I was four.
Obviously, I didn't recognize the feelings as sexual (much less know that I was officially a "bottom") until much later.
My first love was a spanko (switch), so I got started when I was 16. While we dated for three years, we also spent the next 5 playing together occasionally (between vanilla partners). So, I enjoyed 8 years of play.
Then I met my husband. Due to him giving me an initial playful spanking very early in our relationship, I thought he was a shy spanko. Hope, just a playful vanilla.
For reasons that escape me now, I didn't tell him about my desire to be spanked (beyond making a couple of shy requests, which he didn't follow through on because he thought I was just making pillow talk) for 12 years. I can't believe I didn't just tell him, particularly since he's just fine with this.
It took us awhile to get going, because he had the normal male conditioning to not hit a woman, and was concerned about hurting me. Last week, he tackled me, held me down, and over sincere objections, walloped me with a rubber strap! I'd say he's converted! 
I fearfully brought up the possibility of attending a spanking event together. Not only did he agree immediately, but when I stated that of course we would not play, he told me "not to be so uptight", "be open to new experiences", oh, and my personal favourite "stop being such a prude".
Anyone want to tell me why I wasted 12 years of my butt's prime?  |
Bigfoot1408
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Username: Bigfoot1408
Post Number: 1
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 02:12 pm: |
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I too am a middle aged beginner [61] my first two wives were up tight with many issues that combined with mine ended the relationships.
my present ladyfriend let me know early that she enjoyed a spanking {hand only} and since i recently discovered that i am a dom i regularly give her one...
my question is how do i get around the fear of hurting her, she says i can't ,,,,
i asked her" how do you want it done",,,, she said " i aint telling you ,,you figure it out for yourself."
i have given her a safe word but her squeals and groans still bother me,,,,
is it like anything else practice,,practice,practice. and be careing and careful and go for it... |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 199
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 02:44 pm: |
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I say go for it since she's urging you to. There are ways to check and see if she's enjoying it. *wink wink*
It's hard for some to explain what exactly they want. Maybe you could steer her in our direction and let her read some of the stories and discussions. Then she could tell you who she agrees with or what stories she enjoyed.
The squealing and groaning are part of it for some. You should read some of the threads here like "Fiesty or quiet?" or the one about long-term relationships. The one about spanking advice could be helpful to you, too.
And don't be afraid to just jump in and ask us questions. Remember, we love to talk about spanking so be prepared. |
Bigfoot1408
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Username: Bigfoot1408
Post Number: 2
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 04:03 pm: |
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thank you.. i will read and ask many questions... |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 200
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 05:59 pm: |
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Pagan, your butt is still in its prime. As long as you can still wiggle it, it's prime. Just ask the tops here.  |
Headteddy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 115
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 06:26 pm: |
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Absolutely right on Bethie. A wiggle and a cocked hip from the women I love is all it ever takes. Admittedly a pouty "You can't make me!" helps.
Best:
HT
Every Challenge is An Opportunity
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 352
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 06:30 pm: |
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How about "and just what do you think you are going to do about it?" LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!
"Queen of Innocence""
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Smartnnaughty
Spanko
Username: Smartnnaughty
Post Number: 60
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 06:39 pm: |
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Or you and what army? |
Headteddy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 116
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 09:17 pm: |
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That works!!
Every Challenge is An Opportunity
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 355
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 07:35 am: |
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I told you, Teddy, we know EXACTLY what we are so innocently doing! That is what gives us the ultimate power. It takes a very smart and crafty woman to make a man believe he is in control.
"Queen of Innocence""
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Headteddy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 118
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 09:48 am: |
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Teddy singing softly "Hold on loosely but don't let go-if you cling too tight you're gonna lose control."
And it takes a smart, sensitive man to figure out what you want and how to give it to you!!
Later all-off to picnic!!
Every Challenge is An Opportunity
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 362
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 11:52 am: |
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Touché Teddy:
Sooooooo "and just what do you think you are going to do about it?" 
"Queen of Innocence""
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Smartnnaughty
Spanko
Username: Smartnnaughty
Post Number: 66
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 30, 2005 - 01:13 pm: |
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I may be a middle age beginner but a closet spanko for years. All I need now is someone to spank me regularly. I'll make up for all those closet years.
tehehehehehe
(Somehow writing lines just doesn't do it for me. R gave me 100 lines last night and an assignment to buy some special lingerie. Now that I like!)
(Message edited by smartnnaughty on May 30, 2005)
Sassy Sassy Sassy
No one can be as Sassy as me!
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Katy_spankwish
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Username: Katy_spankwish
Post Number: 2
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 31, 2005 - 03:34 pm: |
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For me Julia, it had alot to do with time and where I was at in life. My husband has always known and we did some erotic spanking early on. Then the infertility and the kids and the death of his parents etc. I just supressed my desires for a long time. Also we didn't have a computer for a long time. I still did the reading every romance novel with spanking in it or finding every movie I could and rewinding the spanking parts until the tape broke, but it wasn't until I typed the magic word into the computer in Feb or 2002 that spanking really came a live for me. |
Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 11
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 12, 2005 - 01:33 pm: |
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I performed my first adult spanking when I was in my mid-40's, and I wish like heck that I'd started sooner. I had one girlfriend that was such a brat that it would have done her a world of good, but that's another story...
One good thing about doing this in mid-life though: As a kid I found those paddle-ball things *so* frustrating - you know, the CB paddles. Now, I'm sure I would work one just fine.
- Ben |
Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 792
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 12, 2005 - 03:14 pm: |
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You won't know until you give it a try, Ben.
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 13
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 12, 2005 - 03:51 pm: |
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> You won't know until you give it a try
I'll supply the paddle, if someone else can provide the cheeks. I'm without spankee these days.
Hey, has anyone found a good use for all of those long rubber bands and balls that get yanked off? |
Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 794
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 12, 2005 - 04:28 pm: |
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Look around Ben, I'm sure you will find a brat or two roaming around.
As far as the balls go, they are too small to have the dogs chase and the rubber bands break if you try to tie the recyling, so I haven't a clue
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 15
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 12, 2005 - 04:44 pm: |
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> a brat or two roaming around.
One will do, thanks. I'll keep my eyes peeled.
As for the balls and bands, maybe if I had a dozen or so, I could tied them together and make some kind of whacky flogger, or the ben-wah balls from hell... Nah, I'll stick to the paddle. |
Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 16
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 12, 2005 - 05:54 pm: |
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Ok, I thought of the perfect use for the leftover rubber ball and rubber band taken from a CB paddle.
Place the well-lubricated ball into m'lady's orifice of choice, then grab the rubber band and stretch it. Strum the tight rubber band with a guitar pick, while adjusting the tension until the perfect resonant frequency gives her maximum pleasurable stimulation. Continue until the desired effect is reached.
Extra points if you can play any tunes.
More points if it can be done with the paddle still attached.
There! I promise an unforgettable evening!
- Ben |
Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 796
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 12, 2005 - 06:38 pm: |
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Okay, now I think you have gone a bit over the top!! Just throw the darn thing out.
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 231
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 09:55 am: |
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wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 28
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 10:01 pm: |
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Oh great. I've gone over the top on a spanking site.
Well, skip the lubricant then, and snap the rubber band when you're done. Is that better? |
Biggirl
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Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 32
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 13, 2005 - 11:11 pm: |
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Geez I feel so boring. My suggestion is that although they are to small for dog toys they would make "purrfect" play balls for kitties. I know the ones my kitties play with are similar in size to the paddle balls I remember from when I was a kid.
Blessings,BigGirl |
Stevie
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Username: Stevie
Post Number: 6
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 16, 2005 - 09:55 am: |
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I like Bendover's idea with the ball, in theory anyway. I don't think it would work for real. As I recall, the rubberband was kinda fragile and the ball quite soft. But it's been a long time...I could be wrong. How about using the ball as a gag? With something appropriate attached to keep it from being swallowed, of course. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 250
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 16, 2005 - 10:28 am: |
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Eeeeek! How about...NOT! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 36
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 16, 2005 - 11:36 am: |
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Stevie, I thought about the ball gag too, but it seems kinda small for that. Not sure - no experience with that here.
Maybe if we replace the rubber band with something sturdier if could be used as a gag or butt toy though. If that teeny rubber band broke while the ball was in there where the sun don't shine, we could have a problem.
I don't mind playing doctor, but I've never tried an anal Heimlich maneuver. |
Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 820
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 17, 2005 - 12:34 pm: |
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I don't think that would make a very explainable trip to the ER.
How about "somehow, I was naked and accidently sat on this little ball"
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 41
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 17, 2005 - 04:46 pm: |
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Well, easier to explain than a piece of peeled ginger. Or a gerbil. 
(Kidding, just kidding! Some gerbil owner will start jumping all over me for this comment, I can tell...)
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 829
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 17, 2005 - 04:55 pm: |
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LOL...I would guess that a piece of ginger would be a lot easier to expel. Small animals should be kept in their cages. I have yet to hear one actually concent to want to burrow in places better left to medical personnal.
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Biggirl
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Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 44
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 17, 2005 - 10:33 pm: |
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I always thought the gerbil things was an Urban myth of somekind. Oh my.
BigGirl |
Blondie
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Username: Blondie
Post Number: 1
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 18, 2005 - 12:06 pm: |
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I am a ferret owner. Does that count?
Greetings all. |
Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 838
Registered: 05-2005
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Hello and welcome Blondie. A ferret? Now you are talking BIG trouble!!!
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Blondie
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Username: Blondie
Post Number: 3
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 18, 2005 - 01:16 pm: |
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I suppose if you like 2" x 12" of warm, wriggling, fuzzy flesh, that's the way to go-wink, wink. |
Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 840
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 18, 2005 - 01:44 pm: |
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I guess that depends if the flesh has teeth! OUCH!!!
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 46
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 20, 2005 - 06:14 pm: |
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Biggirl: You're right about gerbils being an urban legend... thank God for that!
Blondie: What was the name of that Frank Zappa album? "Weasels ripped my flesh"? I certainly hope yours are more well trained than that... (can you train a ferret?) Any how, you'll have to share your experiences with us.
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 864
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 20, 2005 - 08:13 pm: |
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Sorry, Ben I do believe you are incorrect, it is not an urban legend. All you have to do if know an ER nurse/doctor or two. Wild stories!!!
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Biggirl
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Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 50
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 20, 2005 - 10:11 pm: |
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Ok everybody...what does it say about me that I never even thought of the teeth?????????
BigGirl |
Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 50
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 12:21 pm: |
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Fanny, re: gerbil stuffing...
They say it's false, though there are so many *other* things that people put up there that nothing would surprise me. So bend over and assume the pose Fanny... (It's always fun to lose an argument with me!)
Maybe some enterprising spanko here can design a ferret muzzle, if teeth are a problem. But I really don't know about any of this stuff, other than the occasional monkey spanking.
Down with pink panties!
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Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 51
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 12:27 pm: |
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That's it, use the leftover ball from your CB paddle as a ball gag for your ferret, wrap the rubber band around it's little snout, and stuff away.
Just when we thought this tread couldn't get any sillier!
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 868
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 12:34 pm: |
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I will not admit defeat on this one, Ben. I have a sister who is an RN and she saw such a case in the Chicago area. SO....who is going to do the posing now?
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 52
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 01:43 pm: |
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Well Fanny, I looked into this, probing deeply into the annals of medicine, trying to shine the light of truth on our gerbil story...
 ...and it seems that every such story turns out to be false.
Now if we could find that ER report it would put many urban legend sites to shame. So don't pull your pants up just yet. 
Just don't make me bring out the heavy artillery on this...
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 871
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 01:56 pm: |
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I accept your scientific evidence, but it does not prove me wrong. Give me enough time to find my own proof.
Don't be so sure of yourself, my pants never came down. 
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 872
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 02:02 pm: |
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The book is called "The Hospital Emergency Department: A Guide to Operational Excellence". (ISBN 1-55648-088-1)"
On Page 66 of the book in question it has a Figure 5-3. Sample ED (Emergency Department) Visit Classification Categories Category II 25 minutes does include "Rectal mass-gerbils"!
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 873
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 02:10 pm: |
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an awful lot of stuff has been found where that gerbil was found. The medical journals list, among other things, the following astonishing array:
A bottle of Mrs. Butterworth's syrup, an ax handle, a nine-inch zucchini, countless dildoes and vibrators including one 14-inch model complete with two D-cell batteries, a plastic spatula, a 9-1/2-inch water bottle, a deodorant bottle, a Coke bottle, a large bottle cap, numerous other bottles, a 3-1/2-inch Japanese glass float ball, an 11-inch carrot, an antenna rod, a 150-watt light bulb, a 100-watt frosted bulb, a cucumber, a screwdriver, four rubber balls, 72-1/2 jeweler's saws (all from one patient, but not all at the same time, although 29 were discovered on one occasion), a paperweight, an apple, an onion, a plastic toothbrush package, two bananas, a frozen pig's tail (it got stuck when it thawed), a ten-inch length of broomstick, an 18-inch umbrella handle and central rod, a plantain encased in a condom, two Vaseline jars, a whiskey bottle with a cord attached, a teacup, an oil can, a six-by-five-inch tool box weighing 22 ounces, a six-inch stone weighing two pounds (in the latter two cases the patients died due to intestinal obstruction), a baby powder can, a test tube, a ball-point pen, a peanut butter jar, candles, baseballs, a sand-filled bicycle inner tube, sewing needles, a flashlight, a half-filled tobacco pouch, a turnip, a pair of eyeglasses, a hard-boiled egg, a carborundum grindstone (with handle), a suitcase key, a syringe, a file, tumblers and glasses, a polyethylene waste trap from the U-bend of a sink, and much, much more.
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
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Username: Bendover
Post Number: 53
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 02:27 pm: |
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Yeah, that list is from "Rectal Foreign Bodies" -- from Surgery Magazine (1986)
Pretty amazing stuff! The gerbil legend has been around since a report of rodent-based infections showing up in gay men in NYC, but no specific cases were ever found and it was dismissed as legend. Since then gerbil stuffing has been around in countless Internet stories, at least three movies, a couple of TV shows, etc.
With umpteen million people seeing this stuff, I imagine that somebody somewhere has or will find a cooperating rodent and try it. And, wind up in the ER, with no doubt!
However, the idea of it being a common practice in gay communities, and lots of people showing up in ERs is certainly false. I've yet to see a single documented case, but one will surely come up given how prevalent the story is.
Anyhow, I'd rather be spanking than beating gerbil-stuffing stories into the ground. I think we can agree on that!
Down with pink panties!
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Bendover
Spanko
Username: Bendover
Post Number: 54
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 02:35 pm: |
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One more thing - if you find a medical report, and the patient's name is "Fanny", it doesn't count!
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 874
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 02:40 pm: |
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I don't think I would make a good poker player, Ben.
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
Spanko
Username: Bendover
Post Number: 55
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 04:28 pm: |
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When it's Spanko poker, its the bad players that have more fun. 
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 877
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 04:33 pm: |
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I thought the fun went both ways. A bluff sometimes works.
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
Spanko
Username: Bendover
Post Number: 56
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 10:18 pm: |
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It depends on the stakes, my fair Lady. What prize is offered, if the bet is won?
If you are right, I will personally insert a gerbil (well trained and with closely trimmed nails) into the bodily orafice of your choice. That will be after your spanking of course.
Now If *I* am right, hmmm.... that's for a whole 'nuther post.
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 878
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 10:52 pm: |
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Ben you may keep yout critters in their cages!! My body offices will stay virginal in that sense.  Yes, I was playing your devil's advocate, I cannot prove that stuff has happened, but I am pretty sure someone has to be stupid enought to have tried it.
As far as the spanking goes, think you can outrun me?  But I think we had better move this topic to the play area before we get in trouble for going off topic.
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
Spanko
Username: Bendover
Post Number: 58
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005 - 11:35 pm: |
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play area it is... gerbil stuffing is the topic.. or spanko poker!?
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 879
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, July 22, 2005 - 08:23 am: |
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I'm quite finished with the gerbil topic, I concede. I told you, I was just giving you a ride.
(Message edited by fanny on July 22, 2005)
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Katherinell
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Username: Katherinell
Post Number: 5
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 23, 2005 - 07:45 pm: |
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I 'came out' in my early 40's - but I feel it had more to do with discovering the internet than with me being comfortable with my 'kink'. younger women do seem to be coming out now more than ever
'Ours is not to question why ours is just to bend and cry'
Spank me if you Dare!
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Bendover
Spanko
Username: Bendover
Post Number: 62
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 23, 2005 - 08:58 pm: |
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That's good to know, Katherinell. I suspect it's a process of discovery that includes both experience and finding new resources, especially the Internet. Reading the experiences of others have helped me get a better grasp of the whole concept, and to help me see who I really am on this.
But I'm still ok with older women discovering their spanking desires... wink wink
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 893
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 23, 2005 - 10:01 pm: |
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Okay Mr. Dover. You have been a lot talk with your wink, wink, but I don't believe I have seen any action. Do you walk the walk or just talk the talk?
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Bendover
Spanko
Username: Bendover
Post Number: 64
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 24, 2005 - 09:45 am: |
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That would be Mr. Dover "Sir", girl. That should give you a hint. Don't make me come over there now...
Down with pink panties!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 896
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 24, 2005 - 11:04 am: |
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Okay, Mr. Dover SIR! Does that make you feel more powerful?
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Cpl444
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Username: Cpl444
Post Number: 1
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 06:16 pm: |
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we are a married couple w kids,middle aged conservative upbringin. Since I have been a child I have been facinated by spanking. Had masturbation sessions with spanking fantasies.I have been always anxious due to my religious upbring,...we have had some play accting during or sex. My husband has played the submissive several times and he has enjoyed it. He is not like that in real life.I enjoy getting my high heels and watch is reaction when he sees me,but my religious upbringing is always there....I have great orgasams w the fantasies. |
Biggirl
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Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 53
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 11:32 pm: |
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Cpl444:
God LOVES US ALL. Pray about it. Seriously! Maybe after you pray about it the negative feelings you are experiencing might subside.
BigGirl |
Smartnnaughty
Advanced Spanko
Username: Smartnnaughty
Post Number: 200
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 11:58 pm: |
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Cpl444--
I struggle with the same issue: how does God feel about all the spanking stuff. I haven't reconciled it to my faith but then I'm having a crisis of sorts anyway and haven't been to church since Easter. If you come up with any ideas, please share them. I can use all the help I can get.
SNN
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No one can be as Sassy as me!
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Cpl444
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Username: Cpl444
Post Number: 2
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 12:06 am: |
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Intellectually I understand that there is nothing wrong w some light spanking as a prelude to sex and as a fantasy,but its difficult to get rid of your religious prejudices ,I dont know if I enjoy the fantasy in my mind.it is difficult to play the part in real life,although im the spanko and the husband is the vanilla. Since chilhood I have been tyurn on in my mind but find it difficult to play the part, |
Katherinell
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Username: Katherinell
Post Number: 9
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 05:58 am: |
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SNN
I did used to struggle with this issue - I am not religeous, but I am spiritual. I believe that if we are to Love ourselves then that means Loving every part of ourselves and accepting those parts; and that includes our darker desires. So long as they do not bring Harm to others. Spanking does not Harm me, it makes me feel Loved & Alive!
'Ours is not to question why ours is just to bend and cry'
Spank me if you Dare!
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Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 944
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 07:55 am: |
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Here's my view on it. I am a spirtual and religious person, and I believe anything that goes on between two consenting adults is okay as long as NO-ONE gets hurt. Remember God created us as sexual beings. What turns us on is all part of the sexual package. Abuse is wrong on many levels. Playing or even needed discipline is not wrong, it is simply meeting needs. I've read the Ten Commandments many times and have yet to see a "Thou shall not spank"
"Queen of Innocence"
If you can't be a good example, be a horrible warning!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Naughty_girl
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Username: Naughty_girl
Post Number: 2
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 04:49 pm: |
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I agree with Fanny. Although I'm not in a relationship with anyone, I am trying to establish a relationship where I would receive punishment spankings. I think if two consenting adults agree that one of them will spank the other, whether for play or for discipline, then that's their business. And I think God will know if they're abusing each other. And I would hope that people in an abusive relationship would be able to get the help they need. |
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