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Vulcano
New member
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 41
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 04:08 am: | 
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I'd actually like to know if any of you ever dreamt of or even went through a spanking that would go beyond your pleasure/erotic pain threshhold but wasn't a discipline spanking (which is expected to be unbearable...)?? I dream of it, yet I'm hell afraid of it and the notion of taking it as a discipline one helped me to go through such painful ones, yet my partner doesn't wish to discipline me and I'd actually prefer not to be disciplined. How to take such strong pain then?? |
Shadowrose45
New member
Username: Shadowrose45
Post Number: 14
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 31, 2005 - 08:34 pm: |
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threasholds gradually increase, but that can only happen with soemone that knows you well enough to gently increase your limits without scaring you to death.
Of course, I'm also one that doesn't think dicipline needs to be unbearable, either. It's the mindset.
I used to spank a sub harder playing than in punishment- because the mindset for her was different, and my demeanor was different. |
Vulcano
Spanko
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 52
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 01, 2005 - 04:26 am: |
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Yes, it's the mindset. This is the place where the pain starts to be unbearable for you, it doesn't have to be because the Top would be spanking me harder. Yes, I can bear harder swats during playing (at the end of it), but the discipline included no warm ups, so the pain cut me unexpected and in my mind, it was unbearable. What's beyond my question is another question, I guess, how to (and is it possible?) find joy where the pain goes beyond your erotic pain threshold. It should go beyond, it's not about pushing the threshold further. It's really something quite exciting for me, sort of finding pleasure (probably rather spiritual than sexual)in real pain, not just the one that usually pleases you erotically. Further on, deeper and harder... Another set of mind... And one feels soo great then... maybe it;s something similar to breaking spankings... unbearable, not erotic, yet rewarding... |
Vulcano
Spanko
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 53
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 01, 2005 - 04:53 am: |
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You know what, it's funny, I used to push forward my notion of discipline spankings, I could find so much good and help in it for me, but my partner is not very much into it and as I said, when he's not really punishing you, than, at least for me, it's not real punishment even for me. The pain itself is helping in discipline but it's not enough. Once I accepted also his notion of spanking (what turnes him on the most is my pain, not my pleasure that much), I started to uncover a whole range of things about me that really surprise me... I'd never admit to myself before how much I'm turned on and fascinated by pain itself. To accept it just as it comes, not shielded by the notion of discipline that helps you to take it, you have A REASON to take it, not to say "no". And I'm soo excited by what I'll find the moment I enter there and say "yes". I think that a lot is changed exactly in the moment when you stop fighting the pain... He sometimes says that he wishes me to accept the spanking with courage... I cannot help myself being surprised by how much stress we both put into the notion of courage.... in fact, I have no reason not to be courageous, he wouldn't really hurt me, I trust him. I know that it's not easy for him to feel he prefers this kind of spanking with me, often I cannot get him to spank me at all... and sometimes he spanks me to way I myself with, but most often, he doesn't spank me even as hard as I myself wish... |
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