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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 85
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 01:50 am: | 
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In the meet and greet area, Fanny, asked how often others got spanked. I answered that I get mini-spankings on a daily basis.
Dan likes to give me a few swats whenever he can and I call those quick or short spankings, mini-spankings.
The longer more involved spankings happen less frequently. It depends on what's going on in our lives because we like to prepare and have plenty of time for long, intimate spankings.
Like most busy people, we have to grab it when we can and savor it when we're able. It varies. |
Kendra
New member
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 34
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 06:51 am: |
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I would say that I get spanked maybe once a week, sometimes once every two weeks... it just depends.. and if I get this job it will most likely be less frequently. |
Redtail
New member
Username: Redtail
Post Number: 4
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 09:38 am: |
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It seems as if we go in waves. My wife and I might pretty much go with spankings every day for 3 or 4 days, then go withough for several weeks. Sometimes even multiple times a day. Then it seems as if the lust is satified for a while. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 63
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 10:11 am: |
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I get spanked a lot whenever I'm with my Dom...but that can be every 4-10 months for us since he is in England and I'm in the US. When I can, I go to a club in New York on their OTK night and play with friends. It helps to keep the cravings at bay. |
Naughtybynature
New member
Username: Naughtybynature
Post Number: 26
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 12:35 pm: |
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I receive alot of small spankings and of course as everyone else longer ones are done when the time is available. Now that my son is home from University for the summer I have a feeling they will be less frequent.
Did is a word of achievement, Won't is a word of retreat, Might is a word of bereavement, Can't is a word of defeat, Ought is a word of duty, Try is a word of each hour, Will is a word of beauty, Can is a word of power.
*(Unknown Author)
Don't take life so seriously.....it isn't permanent
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Kennysspankee
New member
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 2
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 03:45 pm: |
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I get spanked every other day and sometimes in between there, too |
Fanny
New member
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 18
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 03:53 pm: |
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We have a lot of kids (6) all ages, and they don't make for alone time very frequently. Since our budget doesn't allow for hotel bills, we have had to be somewhat creative at times. (for everything) Over the years I can see where there have been times where we have gone maybe as long as a year between spankings. Then there will be an intense several days or weeks. Mostly when tensions run high, things get "heated up". When it has been longer than a month or so, it is a great release for both of us. I think that is when I (innocently)intentionally <weg> start to act up, looking for attention. |
Simplekindoflife
New member
Username: Simplekindoflife
Post Number: 7
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 04:01 pm: |
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I wish i could say all day everyday!!!
But now that I think about it my butt might not like that very much, but I should would! |
Lily
New member
Username: Lily
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 04, 2005 - 05:12 pm: |
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Not often enough!
My boyfriend lives in a different state, so I don't get spanked nearly as much as I want or need it - I sometimes meet up with other tops to tide the gap, but more and more, only my boyfriend really gives me what I need.
I haven't seen him since the last weekend in March, because we both had busy Aprils, but now, I'm meeting him tomorrow for a long weekend - he's promised to make up for lost time. |
Phantomlillith
New member
Username: Phantomlillith
Post Number: 3
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, May 06, 2005 - 12:37 am: |
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I usually get a few swats every day... and something a bit longer several times a week. Usually on the weekends we go all out and get out a bunch of toys.
I was actually going to post on this topic--it seems it's too often for me, I have quick developed a high tolerance all over again! |
Fanny
New member
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 31
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, May 06, 2005 - 10:07 am: |
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Too often and not often enough. Are we never happy?  I go to both ends  of the extremes myself, on a week to week basis. Since I have joined this forum, I have been getting than my fair share. I think I have reawakened the spanking monster in my husband. EEK and AAK!! |
Opal
New member
Username: Opal
Post Number: 6
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, May 06, 2005 - 10:37 am: |
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I am poutfully awaiting my spanking, Dan has so much on his mind lately that spanking has been put on the back burner.
But let me tell ya I NEED A GOOD LONG SPANKING!!!
We also have children at home and thought that we were safe doing our spanking after they went to bed late at night until Dan swated my bottom and my twelve year old announce to the whole room that he hears that sound alot (out of the mouths of babes) needless to say that has cut down on my spankings.
We have taken a few trips out to the barn though- like any one else spanking runs in spurts could be a couple times a day or I could be waiting forever-like I am now.
Hope everyone gets a very long,sound spanking today! |
Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 4
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 07, 2005 - 09:23 pm: |
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Eek, Opal!!!! I live in fear that our kids hear us too. 
How often do I get spanked? Not nearly often enough!!!! I'm just coming off a long dry spell (by choice), and I don't think daily would be enough right now. |
Opal
New member
Username: Opal
Post Number: 7
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 12, 2005 - 10:54 am: |
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Feeling much better now! Dan instructed me to go wait for him out in the barn (I woke up very emotional and distant from him and everything) He arrived with a leather strap, switch and wooden paddle and informed I would be getting a long spanking, that it would hurt and he would make me cry. He was right in all three areas and I am feeling more like myself again |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 110
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 12, 2005 - 02:14 pm: |
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Good for you, Opal. Glad to hear you are feeling better emotionally if not so in other areas. |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 111
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 12, 2005 - 02:15 pm: |
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Glad to hear you are feeling better emotionally, Opal, even though probably not so good in another area! |
Sandy
New member
Username: Sandy
Post Number: 7
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, May 13, 2005 - 04:53 pm: |
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I'm pretty greedy... I would love to be spanked every day. Truly. I had a partner once who would do it, too, but he got concerned over the bruising. They weren't intense spankings... just enough to leave me warm, fuzzy, and ready to either sleep or, um, get cuddly. ;)
But my current partner works a LOT and we have opposite schedules, so we only get to play once or twice a week. I do wish it could be more often, but real life gets in the way. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 134
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 14, 2005 - 12:21 am: |
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Sandy, I hear you, girl. Real life really can get in the way sometimes. I've been working a lot recently and it's been tough.
The heart is willing but my butt is dragging. And it's not easy to spank a dragging butt, just ask Dan. LOL |
Sandy
New member
Username: Sandy
Post Number: 9
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 15, 2005 - 06:44 pm: |
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Hahaha, but I hear you're enjoying that school master's strap quite a bit, hmm? ;) |
Jookiegirl
New member
Username: Jookiegirl
Post Number: 3
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 08:35 am: |
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Too long for me, as my profile says "out of pratice" though i don't know for sure how much i could handle in a row. We also have kids, 3 all under the age of 4 1/2 so that makes it hard too, among other things. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 144
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 01:45 pm: |
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Sandy, yeah, we've managed to find time to play with our new straps a little. But that's because they're new and need to be broken in. It's tough but it has to be done!  |
Rocco
Advanced Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 106
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 02:02 pm: |
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You're a real trooper Bethie
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Chantryss
New member
Username: Chantryss
Post Number: 6
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 10:36 pm: |
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I don't get spanked as much as I'd like. I also don't get spanked in some of the ways that I'd like, but that is another story.
I get lot'o'swats, as I call them. You know the kind, a swat as he walks by you, or you walk by him, swats during hugs, or as you are washing the dishes.
It's the long, sound, spankings that life doesn't allow enough time for, even with the kids out of the house (though that will be ending soon, as our son and his fiance are coming back home next month...pray for me..please!)
Joe and I don't do much play spanking. We've been talking about adding more in though, as I've starting having a penchant for impact play that I haven't had in a good long while. To date though, spanking has been about discipline or the occasional role play with he and I.
Hugs,
Kelly |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 130
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 11:10 pm: |
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I would love to get spanked every day...
wolfie doesn't want Steve to be Queen, she prefers him as a Dom.
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Lisa
New member
Username: Lisa
Post Number: 2
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 11, 2005 - 08:27 am: |
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I don't get spanked at all anymore...  |
Rocco
Advanced Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 356
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 11, 2005 - 02:58 pm: |
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Sorry to hear that Lisa.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Lisa
New member
Username: Lisa
Post Number: 6
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Monday, July 11, 2005 - 08:10 pm: |
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Thanks. |
Biggirl
New member
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 28
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 12, 2005 - 10:57 am: |
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lisa:
How come you aren't getting spankings? Did something happen? Or is it like the other posts where people are saying that life can get in the way when it gets busy?
With G & I it is way too infrequent for me. But I am thankful for what I do get. And we are just starting so I am hopeful that as time passes he will be more comfortable & spank me more often. And not just for fun sexy spankings either but also when I am being "bratty" which is not accurate....for me I can be the other "B" word when my hormones start raging.
The reason I asked if something happened was because something happened between G & I about 6 or 7 weeks ago & it put a huge damper on our spankings & we are finally starting to work it out.
Brightest Blessings,BigGirl |
Wuqi
New member
Username: Wuqi
Post Number: 2
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, October 27, 2005 - 10:39 pm: |
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How often do I get spanked? Dunno, really. I never count, but seldom more than once a week because I do not like getting it while there are bruises to be seen.
(And by spanked I mean birched, not spanked with his hand)
But another answer would be, often enough to keep me happy. |
Pagan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 186
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, October 28, 2005 - 11:26 am: |
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Most of the time, I get spanked once or twice a week.
Twice a week keeps me happy, relaxed, and well...content, in the way that being kept well-spanked does. I'm sure you all know what I mean.
Once a week is enough for me to be seriously craving it by the time it comes. And to be feeling a bit irritable too.
We only do erotic spankings...no discipline.
So it's hard to understand why they are also so emotionally fulfilling. But they are. |
Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 5
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, October 29, 2005 - 09:31 pm: |
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In the begining of our relationship we both thought that "maintaince spankings" would be a good idea. Foolish me throught it would set off from the start who was the HOH- so we decided on 2 maintance OTK bare bottom spankings a week. Rules were established that to this day I still follow. I helped establish the rules so that they would be fair to me as well as master- so what do you think happened. There was a period of about 4 months that I got spanked everyday and I am not talking erotic spankings that make both of you so hot that you are totally glad you are bare bottomed because if you weren't you aren't sure you can wait any longer but deep red blistering bare bottom spanking along with corner time (which by the way to this day I still hate)I know I spend on Saturday afternoon in the corner for 2 hours because I was being a brat even after my bottom was deep red.
Now usually get a spanking at least 3 times a week and I can be hinest and tell you that at least one of them is a punshment spanking (when will I learn to keep my mouth shut)or a spanking for disregarding the one of the "primary rules" of taking care of myself and not letting others get to me. So when I said in another post that at least 90% of the time I am either getting spanked or in the healing phase of just got one I am nit joking. Master is a big strong man who works out daily so when his hands strick your butt you kniw it. |
Hunnybunny
Prime Spanko
Username: Hunnybunny
Post Number: 1516
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, October 29, 2005 - 10:21 pm: |
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Well last week I got 8 spankings. 2 were foreplay, 3 were light spankings for being braty, and the other 3 were for serious infractions. My boyfiend and I just got into spanking though so most were just to remind me that my actions have consequences! All I can say is "someone bring me an ice pack!"
The best way to behave is not to
-Abercrombie & Fitch
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Vulcano
New member
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 40
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 03:59 am: |
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Oh, Redhinney, I cannot help envying you a bit... at the beginning of our relationship, we both were so entranced that we'll go and live our fantasies finally that I was spanked I'd say almost every day. I had to stop going swimming because most of the time I was bruised. I even had to ask for a "pause period" - a period of being guarded agaist being spanked. Unfortunately, with the time, I'm not spanked so often, the life consequences (busy as hell) stepped in and we had also hard time settling what we both need in this game. I'd never thought how difficult it can be for a top and a bottom to find a common way. I was never spanked before and as I found out what I like the most, I wanted him to do it this way, but obviously, topping from the bottom is really my favourite game.  . And unfortunately, my top doesn't play it very much with me. Paradoxically it almost looked like we won't find the right way, acceptable for both. Well, I hope it's just natural way of settling a relationship so that both are satisfied and that things will get better in the future again. Sometimes I dispair and then I got two wonderful spankings in 2 days  . |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 323
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 04:49 am: |
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I can't remember the last time I got spanked. We met in a spanking chat and when we met up r/l, it was lots of em. Now it seems I can't even beg for one cos it just don't happen. I got needs that aren't being fulfilled. I try really hard to be what he wanted and I try to anticipate what he needs. Is it selfish of me to want the same?
I am the Queen of the F***** Universe!!! Any questions???
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Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 324
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 04:51 am: |
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Sorry, I read the posts and got jealous. I'm having a bad day today...emotions are high, depression and all. Between the financial problems we are having and the death of my son in law, I'm just a wreck lately.
I am the Queen of the F***** Universe!!! Any questions???
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Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 6
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 10:17 am: |
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In all relationships things tend to come to a a comfortable point. I don't get any maintance spankings because if I still did my bottom would in a consist state of hurt Currently my spankings are either for foreplay and the bad things that either I do(when will I learn to keep my mouth shut) or I allow to happen. Master feels that I can control my life a little better. I have to admit I do find myself overwhelemed.
In the last 3 years I started a business watched it grow and went back to school to get a masters degree. You can bet that there were many what I called "stress relief" spankings during that time.
Last night I asked my master what happened to the maintance spankings and he said that because I have learned and accepted him as HOH that they are no longer required but if the time comes that I shoukd forget he would be glad to tan my bottom. I answered that I am a very lucky person to have met a person who is my lover, husban, best friend and master. He answered that he is the lucky one. I guess as long as your relationship is based on love and respect there would be anything that either of you wouldn't do for each other.
By the way so that you all know my temper matches my red hair and of course is the main reason my butt also match |
Vulcano
New member
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 44
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 10:45 am: |
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I wonder, Redhinney, do you just submit to the spankings whenever and however he wants to deliver them (of course, taking into account the agreed upon rules?) not needing anything else from him or did you find out about yourself that you need also other kinds of spankings and you managed to get them from him... or you simply don't care if you get them or not?? I don't know, can I expect him to give me what is not appealing to him that much? And would I even like him to give it to me under such conditions? Actually, I'm trying to meet his needs as much as I can, yet I wouldn't go for certain things too however much I love him... Maybe it's just like with any other sex issues... one simply has the needs much more than the other and the one who has them more simply have to respect the other one doesn't feel like it at the very moment. I guess, there's a lot of dissapointment behind my words, simply because I was sooo happy when I started with spanking, but naive, not seeing that even spanking has sooo many different ways and that people might not give each other exactly what they need. But just as I once said... "You want to spank me, I want to be spanked, so there's actually no problem." I guess, the problem might be just in my head. We didn't have any problems at the beginning, he likes giving me severe spankings, I'm able to take them and I like them... I just put sooo much emphasis on how to do it the best... while he, I suppose, simply loved the way I used to let him spank me however he wanted at the beginning... he loved mainly my submision... the problem is, in heart, I'm not that submissive . I sort of submitted now, though, but I'm not sure if it's right. THough, right now I cannot say I'm that unhappy... |
Redhinney
New member
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 7
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 11:44 am: |
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I think my situtation is different than most. He told me from the very begining that he belived in a "traditional Marriage". I wasn't sure what that was or if it would be good for us. I agreed because I truly felt at the time that he had the best intentions. I had no sexual expereince before my husband and remained a virgin until our wedding night. Because of my lack of experince I didn't think it was odd that I got aroused when spanked.
Now I don't accept spankings just because he wants to but because I really did soemthing wrong, or I showed a total disrespect for him (never say whatever to your spanker), or a total disrecept to his belongings (meaning me). The other spankings I get are erotic spankings.
I think your problem is that you are really a top who is bring forced to be bottom. I don't know but if you look at pj's and try to but the top one the bottom it doesn't work, your legs aren't covered and they don't stay up. As for me I am a submissive by nature and that may be why I was attracted to him in the first place- his a cop who is 12 years older than me but looks very much younger as do I (know ever guesses our real ages) I think that you both have to discuss what you want from spankings and how you would like your realtionship to go. Maybe even setting some rules up on. I have never been spanked in public so I don't know if I would like that I know that we have left parties etc because of soemthing I did or said but that was mostly in the begining. Rules are like intrustion on how to play the game just think if you got Monoploy with out any instruction book how would all the players know what to do. But than again I come form a strict catholic background catholic schools all my life including colleg and masters so rues to me are a way of life.
Just my 2 cents |
Spankynyc
New member
Username: Spankynyc
Post Number: 9
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 16, 2005 - 02:23 am: |
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Not nearly enough. And I love to be spanked but believe it or not it is hard to find a woman in NYC who love to give me a good bare bottom spanking. It seems all the female spankers are in California. Hopefully one day some nice lady will enjoy role-playing,scolding and putting me across her lap so that she can spank this round brown jouncy bottom of mine. :-) spanky,nyc |
Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 179
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 16, 2005 - 06:44 am: |
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Spankynyc, I know dozens of women in NYC myself, and I don't get there nearly enough to meet more. I think you have to get "out" to actually meet them. Try Paddles on Spank Night...it's the first Saturday of the month. And I don't know where SCONY will be having their "Socials," now that I hear the Fetish Warehouse is closing up, but they have plenty of Fem Tops at Socials, which are (or at least were)open to everyone...more than I've seen at any group function. Traditional type discipline is the theme at SCONY.
Parties may be uncomfortable for some, but I think it's a good way to force socialization of the shy types, and it also gives you an opportunity to watch the technique of those that you might enjoy being spanked by. It's good to be safe, and "watching" first will tell you if the person is a good spanker, or a fake (or even an unsafe man hater, which happens).
Hope you find a lap soon....and a good woman attached to it. 
K |
Katie_spades
New member
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 35
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 09, 2005 - 03:22 am: |
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Well given my chosen profession, I pretty much get spanked all the time, LOL...
Please sir, I don't need a spanking. I'll be good, I promise!
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Tmichellebrat
New member
Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 27
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 09, 2005 - 12:26 pm: |
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I don't get spanked as often as I would like but that is because my Dom lives over 1109 miles away from me right now. Currently he comes to town every four months or so, so it's every four months that I get spanked but even then it's only one session...not as much as I would like but at this point I will take what I can get LOL. We are in a fairly new relationship with complications therefore we have only explored the disciplinary spankings so far and I have put a halt to the erotic spankings. |
Redhinney
Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 115
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 09, 2005 - 08:32 pm: |
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Katie-spades,
Just what is it you do for a living. As much as I try I can't think of a profession that includes spanking. |
Katie_spades
New member
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 40
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 10, 2005 - 02:45 am: |
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LOL... I am a spanking model....
Please sir, I don't need a spanking. I'll be good, I promise!
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