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Tmichellebrat
New member
Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 19
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 10, 2005 - 12:25 am: | 
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I am so confused and frustrated that I could literally SCREAM. I am having to deal with a long distance D/s relationship and it has been more than challenging for me that is for sure. My Dom lives in Ohio and I live in Texas ...so there is over a 1100 mile distance there. We chat every nite online and we talk on the phone as much as possible but there is just something about having him near. He visits every three to four months so we do see each other but sometimes it seems like forever in between visits, but it's the way it is until circumstances allow one of us to move closer to the other. My question is ...is anyone dealing with this? And what do you do to cope with it? I mean I find myself "bratting" a whole lot more and testing him a whole lot more too ...more than I would if he were closer. I mean my nickname is "Brat" ...but somedays it's plain ridiculous and I sure do fit that nickname LOL. Any advice or comments are appreciated. |
Make_me
New member
Username: Make_me
Post Number: 23
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 10, 2005 - 03:04 am: |
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Hiya Hun,
I can sympathise with you in every way.I am in the same position as you.
I also do exactly the same as you lol i Brat and say things to push my luck, just to see how far i can go lol. Things i would never dream of doing if he was here.
We talk on the phone and on here constantly but you are lucky, mine lives in Australia and im in the UK!!!!
Luckily he travels alot with work and we have discussed him coming here as soon as the opportunity arises.
It is really frustrating because some days i would like nothing more that to just come home, snuggle up to him and piss and moan about my day lol.
The time difference is a pain in the ass but we work through it.
Personally for me ive never met anyone like him, so nobody comes close to him.So although its a pain and frustrating to death, im happy to have him in my life any way i can until we can get to change our circumstances.
I hope that helps at least you know you are not alone x |
Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 143
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 10, 2005 - 08:45 am: |
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My only caution to you long distance folks, is to remember, that most Top/spankers have really GOOD memories  , and any bratting that you do, won't be forgotten, in spite of the distance between you when it's happening. That long memory will help give you a reminder as soon as you DO see them again. 
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 757
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 10, 2005 - 10:31 am: |
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Oh K, truer words heve ne'er been spoken! 
I'm in the same boat ladies...Steve is in the UK and Im in New England, 3000 miles away. *sigh* We do the best we can, and I will say that it is getting a little easier with time. We've been together now for a little over 2 years. Usually we try and get together every 4-5 months, but before the last visit 10 months went by...and I truly didnt think I was going to make it! Missing him has become a constant ache that I wake up with each morning and take to bed with me every night.
As for bratting...K is right, most Dom's have excellent memories and they will make you pay when you finally do get back together. Mine also makes me keep a book of my transgressions, and although some of it is for silly things (pouting, whining, being too bratty) some is for serious as well. Not taking care of myself, procrastination, breaking curfew...its right there in front of me in black and white to remind me of what will happen the next time I'm over his knee. 
I dont really have any tips to make it easier. We talk on the phone daily, send e-mails and text messages and sometimes YIM online. Knowing what each other is up to makes you feel more like your really with him, ya know? We also have webcams, so we can see each other when we're talking, which helps as well. Maybe not a good thing when you hear "Stop pouting!" and realize he caught you at it. 
I wish I could be more help, but mostly you just have to tough it out. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
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Tmichellebrat
New member
Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 20
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 13, 2005 - 01:52 pm: |
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Hi Ladies...
Make_Me....thanks for your advice and I am glad to know that I am not the only one who does the "bratting" thing....I guess I just try and push my luck with him because we are at such a distance lol.
Ftopinmichigan....thanks for the warning ...and your right he doesn't forget a thing lol. He has a better memory than me it seems.
Wolfie...just like you I also have to keep a trasgression book ...and when we do meet up for a visit that is what we go over before any punishment takes place so it does help for me to remember things because after a few months go by I forget ...but he sure doesn't seem too lol.
Ladies ...thanks for your advice and it's good to know that I am not alone. |
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