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Badwife
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Username: Badwife
Post Number: 15
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 02, 2005 - 10:06 am: | 
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Thought I would see if there are any others out there like myself that Self Spank. I would be interested to know if you do, how often, what you use, where do you do it at, what positons & what you use. |
Badtom
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Username: Badtom
Post Number: 2
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 21, 2005 - 08:20 am: |
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Hi Badwife, I grew up on self spanking until I had a partner I could tell. I still do it for a number of reasons a)it's fun, b)she's not always there, c)to catch a mood or when the neighbours are out, d)I have stronger arms than my partner, e)I know what I want.
On the last point, do you find it difficult to keep going when it really hurts? That's the drawback for me - I'm too much in control.
How often? Depends on when I get an opportunity coinciding with the mood. Practically, this is once a month - I'd love more. I like a good hard slapping often with the sole of an old slipper. This implement is good for a quick effective session. Longer spells start with a warm-up with a long leather strap, then slipper, hair-brush, bathroom brush in that order. When I've reached saturation point with this lot, I find something whippy, a riding crop, leather cord whip, etc to keep it going.
More later, and I'd love to hear how you go about it. |
Kendra
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 269
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 21, 2005 - 11:31 am: |
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I am just curious to know what position you use, because I can't seem to find one that works for self spanking.
May the Spirit of the Elves guide you.
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Badtom
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Username: Badtom
Post Number: 3
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 21, 2005 - 09:33 pm: |
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I agree that simulating OTK (over the knee) is tricky - the best I get is lying over the arms of a sofa and an armchair pushed up together, maybe plumped up with pillows or cushions. It's stimulating pushing your bottom up in the air, even if you don't do much.
But I often adopt a very simple position - kneeling on floor, hands on sofa seat (when they're not swishing about). This bends me very slightly. I bunch into a 90 degree bend if I want to tauten my buttocks to make it hurtier (that isn't a word is it!) I find it an exciting challenge to role-play my arms to keep punishing, trying to overcome my natural instinct.
I tried the method above yesterday - hence my bee-line for Badwife's thread. It got pretty intense, because I rapidly alternated the implement from hand to hand - the momentum made for harder smacks & less easy to halt. I came back for several top-ups - mmmmm! And with any luck my partner will get a chance to give me another spanking over my handiwork. Yaaah... |
Golfguy186
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Username: Golfguy186
Post Number: 5
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 30, 2005 - 06:31 pm: |
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I enjoy just simply laying across the bed...I use a paint stir stick...go to Home Depot and ask for a 5 gallon paint stirrer...they work awesome...and they are free!!! |
Neoserenity87
Advanced Spanko
Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 282
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 30, 2005 - 09:01 pm: |
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 lol, this isn't a topic I normally consider, but hey I'm still new at this. (recently coming out of the closet and all)
I find it hard to self spank with just my hands alone....lol, they end up hurting more then my bum! I've taken to an old tabble tennis paddle. I do find it very hard to keep going when it starts to hurt. I can get a pretty good warm up going and I've brought myself to a dark shade of pink...or light red..whatever you call it.
Anywayz I've found that I just can't seem to get myself nice and red without applying several hundred strokes (i guess I'm still getting over being afraid to use full force) so I find that my arms get tired even when I switch between the two.
As for positions....I bend over the couch or I just bend over standing maybe using a chair to balance myself with my free hand. But well, nothing beats the real thing. (especially OTK)
I guess the real draw back is that I'm in control. That and the difficultly of overcoming my fear of using full force.
Kuwait here I come!!!
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Naughtybry
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Username: Naughtybry
Post Number: 9
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, December 04, 2005 - 02:18 pm: |
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Hi all, one thing that works for me is a back scratcher, it's the perfect length, cause it's made to reach hard to reach areas. If you really want to get a good spanking, I suggest setting a number, and don't let your self fall short of that number. Say 10 sets of 10, or 10 sets, starting with 5, and adding 2 each set, even try making the last 2 of each set as hard as you can. The other alternative, is to find some one on line who will coach or instruct you what to do, which cheak, and how hard. I had a great session with some one once, and WOW! was my bum sore. Hey Specialist, I wish I could give you a thank you for all you do spanking.
Have a great one,
Bryan |
Hunny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Hunny
Post Number: 838
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 05, 2005 - 01:21 pm: |
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I have self spanked before, but I hated being in control and I always missed a few. As for me I used a ping pong paddle. |
Katie_spades
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Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 29
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 09, 2005 - 03:10 am: |
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I've never done this before and am not sure it would suffice. Would be curious to know how this works for people? I don't think it would acheive the same end for me because I'd probably be too lenient with myself.
Please sir, I don't need a spanking. I'll be good, I promise!
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Naughtybry
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Username: Naughtybry
Post Number: 12
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, December 11, 2005 - 02:34 pm: |
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Hi Katie,
one of the best ways for this to work, is to have some one coach you using either a chat, or an IM, i've done this my self, and it really works. You might even be able to find some one to write you a spanking instruction letter, and if you do, I suggest you fallow it with all your heart and bottom can stand. |
Hunny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Hunny
Post Number: 940
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, December 11, 2005 - 02:44 pm: |
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I should try that next time my boyfriend goes away! |
Humblebutt
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Username: Humblebutt
Post Number: 1
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 12, 2005 - 12:28 pm: |
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Hi everybody,
After lurking here for a few months, I just registered in order to respond to this thread.
I've been self spanking since I was a teenager and I find it to be incredibly exciting. I spank myself while I'm standing because it gives my the widest arm swing and makes efficient use of gravity. I like to use a heavy ridged implement like a brush or a paddle, and I've also had good experiences with a handle mounted strap and I have no problem making it hurt enough! I have taken many approaches to making it "real" enough and not be too easy on myself. I've found if works best when I commit to giving myself a certain number of strokes at a certain intensity level. Then when I give myself the spanking, Any strokes that aren't hard enough don't count. Sometimes I like to set a timer and then spank myself as hard and as fast as I can. If I feel I haven't been severe enough, I'll give myself penalty minutes!
Unfortunately, I live in an apartment. I don't get the opportunity to spank myself very often. Sometimes, when my closest neighbors aren't home, I spank myself in the shower with an electrical cord. It's very quiet and it hurts like hell! In the last few years, the only times I've been able to spank myself for real have been when I've house sat for my parents while they've been away.
Recently when I thought everyone in my building was out, I gave my self a good hairbrush spanking. I spanked myself hard, fast and relentlessly for three or four minutes before I stopped for what was to have been a short break. But then I heard my downstairs neighbor turn on the water and knew I'd exposed my kink! I've never heard a thing about it, nor have they even shot me a look (they're very nice and people are pretty liberal and accepting in this part of California anyway), but whichever one of them was home that afternoon definitely heard it. I'm not ashamed of being a spanko, but I'm certainly embarrassed about it -- especially to be heard self spanking! Oh well...
For whatever it's worth, I prefer being spanked by a woman to self spanking. However it's not because I can't deliver a hard enough spanking. It's because of the control issues. As much as I love a sore butt, I also crave to be "punished". "Punishment" is more effective when accompanied by scolding and ritual. It just doesn't work for me to imagine a scolding dialogue in my head if I'm playing solo. The sore butt part works just fine though!
I'm going to go away for a few days in December and I'll pack an electrical cord for at least one sound thrashing during my trip.
Bottoms up! |
Ohio_john
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Username: Ohio_john
Post Number: 3
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 12, 2005 - 12:51 pm: |
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hi its mon 12/12 and i called of work today so i just finished giving my ass 20 swats on each cheek for calling off for my punishment with a hairbrush anybosy ener give themselfs punishment for anything like that |
Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 238
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 12, 2005 - 01:29 pm: |
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Hardly seems like enough Ohio John! 
K  |
Ohio_john
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Username: Ohio_john
Post Number: 4
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 12, 2005 - 01:43 pm: |
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what would you suggest f top |
Humblebutt
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Username: Humblebutt
Post Number: 2
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 12, 2005 - 02:15 pm: |
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ohiojohn,
Since 40 strokes seems like a lot to you, I'd suggest you give yourself at least three nonstop doses of 100 hard, fast relentless strokes. Do not stop or lighten up at any point during the administration of each dose. Allow no more than 5 minutes between doses and no rubbing your butt -- or your dick for that matter, this is a punishment, it's supposed to hurt and it's not supposed to be pleasant! |
Tmichellebrat
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Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 39
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 12, 2005 - 04:26 pm: |
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This is probably a stupid question but I am going to ask it anyways! I have never done the self-spanking thing for punishment ...is it possible to self-spank for erotic/pleasure purposes...I mean would it work? I have never tried it so that is why I am asking. |
Hunny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Hunny
Post Number: 954
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 12, 2005 - 07:26 pm: |
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I have never done that, but I'm sure it is possible...do you mean like spanking for fun, Tmichellebrat |
Tmichellebrat
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Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 40
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 12, 2005 - 09:07 pm: |
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Hunny ...yes for fun ...I wonder if it would work or not LOL...I guess the only way to find out is to try it but I was just wondering if anyone here has tried that or not ? |
Hunny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Hunny
Post Number: 960
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 12, 2005 - 10:09 pm: |
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I tried it once, but it wasn't much fun for me. |
Naughtybry
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Username: Naughtybry
Post Number: 13
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 13, 2005 - 12:47 am: |
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Hi Tbrat, I'm sorry, i'm not sure if you're asking if it's possable to spank for punishment or pleasure, butt I've done both, the simple answer is, if it's for being naughty, simply fallow the suggestion of Humblebutt, if it's for pleasure, well, undress and simply spank your bum till it's got a good burn, then find a good mirror, put some nice music on, and enjoy your self, i suggest right before bed, it just might give you sweet dreams. |
Naughtybry
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Username: Naughtybry
Post Number: 14
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 13, 2005 - 12:50 am: |
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To Hunny: Write me if you want to, I"ld love to help.
To Humblebutt: I wish I were your neighbore |
Tmichellebrat
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Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 41
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 13, 2005 - 02:43 am: |
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Naughtybry ..thanks for the advice ..I just might have to try it, if anything it might just release alot of this stress that I have been going through lately LOL. |
Badwife
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Username: Badwife
Post Number: 28
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 13, 2005 - 06:51 am: |
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I am so glad to see people posting on this subject more & more. I personally break up my self spankings into categories. They are
1. Pure Pleasure spankings
2. Attitude Adjustment spankings
3. Self Punishment spankings
4. Combination of all of them
No matter what type I am giving myself I always give myself a good warm up & then proceed with the spanking I deserve. My favorite position for these is straddling the arm of the couch w/pillows underneath me & a rough towel. I use a variety of implements. I also divide my spanking into sessions. The reasons for this is one my arms do get tired, I need to move from that position cuz of a bad back and if I feel I am getting too close to cumming. I never allow myself that pleasure until I am completely done with the spanking, unless of course that is the type I'm giving myself. When I do these I allow myself quite a bit of time. By doing this it gives me the chance especially if it is a punishment spanking to really get my ass very red & sore. I have been able to give my self thousands of swats on each cheek doing it this way.
I have also found watching videos on my computer while doing this helps. By doing this it helps to get me going. I love to see other woman getting their asses spanked. Sometimes I will write a letter to my husband detailing what I am doing & that as well helps. I am actually trying to find a woman who would write me an Instruction letter to follow one day. Men getting self spanking or getting spanked does nothing for me.I am straight, by apparently from what a freind said Bi-Curious, but have never acted on it, so is probably why the woman turn me on.
Hope this helps some of you |
Tmichellebrat
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Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 42
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 13, 2005 - 09:56 am: |
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Badwife...thanks for the insight on the self spankings. This is something I have never tried but I am seriously thinking about trying for the pure pleasure of it. I am not so sure that giving myself a disciplinary spanking would help because I probably would be to easy on myself LOL. |
Badwife
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Username: Badwife
Post Number: 30
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 13, 2005 - 10:43 am: |
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I'm glad I could help. I am willing to help you in any way I can. I could even though I have never done it before, give you an Instruction letter. I would like you to do the same for me. We really could explore this further if you want. |
Humblebutt
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Username: Humblebutt
Post Number: 3
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 13, 2005 - 02:06 pm: |
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>I love to see other woman getting their asses spanked. Sometimes I will write a letter to my husband detailing what I am doing & that as well helps. I am actually trying to find a woman who would write me an Instruction letter to follow one day. Men getting self spanking or getting spanked does nothing for me.I am straight, by apparently from what a freind said Bi-Curious, but have never acted on it, so is probably why the woman turn me on.
Badwife,
I understand your feelings. I'm a heterosexual male, but as a mostly submissive switch, I mostly like watching and reading F/M videos and text. I can also enjoy F/F, but I'm not into M/F or M/M.
>No matter what type I am giving myself I always give myself a good warm up & then proceed with the spanking I deserve.
Try a self spanking without a warmup sometime. It hurts a lot more that way. For extra sensation, take a quick shower or bath to get your butt moist and wet.
>My favorite position for these is straddling the arm of the couch w/pillows underneath me & a rough towel. I use a variety of implements. I also divide my spanking into sessions. The reasons for this is one my arms do get tired, I need to move from that position cuz of a bad back
Try spanking yourself while standing, it's much easier on your arm and probably also your back. You can also look in a mirror while you spank yourself.
>I never allow myself that pleasure until I am completely done with the spanking, unless of course that is the type I'm giving myself.
Try coming before you give yourself a punishment spanking. If you're not aroused (or at less aroused) it will hurt more. This is very effective for men, who have a refractory period between erections. I don't know how well it'd work for women though.
> I have been able to give my self thousands of swats
It's quite amazing how much one can take once he or she gets to that point where it feels good. Even though I'm often frustrated not to have a place to spank myself or play with others, sometimes I think it's a good thing because if I could get spanked as much as I want, I might eventually turn my butt into leather!
>I am so glad to see people posting on this subject more & more.
Me too! |
Badwife
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Username: Badwife
Post Number: 34
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, December 13, 2005 - 07:30 pm: |
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I have tried giving it to myself standing up & for some reason I can't seem to get enough strength behind the swats. There have been times that I have spanked myself for pleasure, gotten off & then gone back & busted my bare ass for a punishment spanking & I agree it does make it more intense & painful. Someone suggest that I try & ice my bottom before getting it. They said allows you to less force, but give you the same results. Or something like that. Has anybody tried this? |
Kennysspankee
Spanko
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 74
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 14, 2005 - 01:27 am: |
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I read somewhere that applying lots of lotion just before increases the intensity of pain. If you use the Vermont Country Store bath brush or a weighty paddle (something with a fairly long handle) you shouldn't have to swing so hard for optimum effect. |
Humblebutt
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Username: Humblebutt
Post Number: 12
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 14, 2005 - 03:06 pm: |
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The bathbrush is probably the optimum self spanking implement. The long handle increases the force of the swing exponentially! It's even great psychologically because it hurts so much that it's difficult to make yourself put a lot of elbow grease into it. Badwife, if you can't get enough strength behind swats with the bathbrush, you have a much higher pain threshold than I do. |
Naughtybry
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Username: Naughtybry
Post Number: 15
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 14, 2005 - 04:14 pm: |
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Hey ya'll, try this site "www.hansonpaddle.com"
it looks like there's plenty of fine implements to excite a bare bottom.
As for the icing, yes i have done this many times, when I want a quick sting, or if I need to give my self a good spanking, but limit the bruising. |
Rex138
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Username: Rex138
Post Number: 13
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 14, 2005 - 05:42 pm: |
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Here's something that I ran across while surfing one day. It's always perked my interest. If it works good and you have the money and space for it, here's your answer to self spanking!
http://www.robospanker.com/robospankerpg6.html
There's even a couple of videos of it in use. Has anyone maybe seen this at a show or know anything else about it?
rex 
"Stixn'Stones Luv"
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Kennysspankee
Spanko
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 77
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 01:12 am: |
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Hanson Paddle Werks has lexan paddles. We have the ferule 1/4" thickness no holes. It has a long handle and you don't have to swing hard, it has a very intense burn. Perfect for self-spanking. |
Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 62
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 01:41 am: |
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Naughty: thanks for the advice but I still am a bit hestiant, probably because I get spanked pretty much all the time, LOL.
Please sir, I don't need a spanking. I'll be good, I promise!
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Badwife
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Username: Badwife
Post Number: 39
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 12:49 pm: |
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I've seen the Robo Spanker site & would love to have this. It is way too expensive for me. Somebody somewhere & of course I can't remember where I came across it made there own spanking machine from a ceiling fan. I didn't quite get how they did it. From what I figured out was it was one of the blades still attached to the main housing and a switch of some sort to control the speed. How or what is what mount on I don't know. Any one else hear of something similar? |
Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 75
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 16, 2005 - 11:19 pm: |
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I saw it used on Howard Stern and the girls that he had on said it didn't really hurt so then there becomes the question of effectiveness, especially considering it is so expensive.
Please sir, I don't need a spanking. I'll be good, I promise!
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Zippo
Supreme Spanko
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1427
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 16, 2005 - 11:58 pm: |
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Heres a few cartoon prototypes I ran across
  
  
  
(Message edited by zippo on December 16, 2005)
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 254
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 17, 2005 - 08:54 am: |
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 You've got quite the collection there, Zippo. Nice. Thanks for sharing. I used to collect photos, and drawings (although not in years), and haven't seen most of these. 
K |
Humblebutt
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Username: Humblebutt
Post Number: 15
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 17, 2005 - 01:45 pm: |
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I don't remember where I saw it but recently I saw a post complaining that the problem with the Robospanker is that it always hits in the same place on the butt. I suppose you could move around a little, but probably not enough to get the kind of variation with which you could spank yourself. It also seems like a big chunk of change to spend on a machine that is so limited in what it can do. As for control, unless someone else is operating it, you're still in control with the Robospanker, or any other spanking machine. I think I'd prefer to spank myself. Maybe I'm a wuss, but I have no problem getting self spankings to hurt enough! |
Hunny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Hunny
Post Number: 1003
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 17, 2005 - 01:53 pm: |
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Oh Zippo those all look positively painful! |
Tmichellebrat
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Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 49
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 17, 2005 - 08:23 pm: |
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I have a good friend who's husband invested in the robospanker and she told me that it does not hurt enough but for an erotic spanking she says it's a great warm up  |
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