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Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 444
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 20, 2005 - 06:07 pm: | 
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We have had a "guest" visiting with us since Tuesday. She is from Scotland and is a very addicted spanko. Only problem is...she drinks all the time and tries to get me to drink with her. She wants to spend all day in a pub. She doesn't like what I cook. We went in town, and on a VERY crowded bus, as we were getting off, in a loud voice, she says...come on bitch! She THINKS she is being funny. She insults thinking she is being funny. She does all kinds of bratting to get anyone...and I mean ANYONE...to spank her. I have instructed everyone that we know around us to NOT spank her...to NOT give in to her bratting.
You see, people that drink all the time make me nervous and stresses me out. She doesn't leave to go home till Tuesday and I just don't think I can take much more. No matter how much she gets beat, she keeps on, no matter how hard, she PUSHES AND PUSHES for more. I've just had to put a complete stop to it.
I have liked and loved her as a sister but after this visit, I don't think I want her to ever come back. My nerves are shot. I can't take much more before I BITCH SLAP her.
Sorry guys, I just needed to vent. Pray for me to make it to Tuesday when I dump her on that plane back to Scotland.
Once I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1755
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 20, 2005 - 07:02 pm: |
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Case in point, Shylah, this style of so called "bratting" is not appreciated by anyone. That is why I have been discomforted by it going on in the Den as well. It turns people away.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 445
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 20, 2005 - 07:18 pm: |
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Fanny, she just don't know when to quit! She is absolutly driving me insane. I don't like to lose my temper and rarely do, but I'm about to lose all control and will do her bodily harm.
Once I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken
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Tammynx
Advanced Spanko
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 154
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 20, 2005 - 07:28 pm: |
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Sorry to hear about your guest Shylah.
Fanny I just have to say that I'm glad that I'm not the only one that doesn't care for some of the stuff I have read lately. That kind of so called bratting...just makes me mad....I would NEVER and I mean NEVER act like that or use that kind of language to get attention. Playing is one thing but that is another.
Shylah....I wish I knew what I could say to you...but I've never been around anyone like that. Don't do bodily harm...it won't do you any good and could get you in trouble. Hang in there!! |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 446
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 20, 2005 - 07:49 pm: |
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Bratting can be taken too far. It's one thing if it's playing, for fun, not to hurt or insult. But the bratting I have been subjected to this last week is uncalled for. I won't do any harm to her...not physically anyway...but I'm gona make her think I will if I have to!
Once I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1756
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 20, 2005 - 08:08 pm: |
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Shylah, Keep in mind that you can't control anyones actions, only your reactions. Rise above it and try to keep from giving her any attention. With no audience, there is no show. Grit your teeth and get through it and never invite her back.
Tammy, unfortunately, I think the worst offenders never make it into the discussion area to read this. They are too busy trying to out do one another.
(Message edited by fanny on November 20, 2005)
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 447
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 20, 2005 - 08:17 pm: |
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You are so right Fanny...no audience and no show. I'm just so tired and stressed out my brain is shutting down.
I am NOT having her back again. I made that decision already.
Years back, Tammy and I were in a chat and we had fun bratting but it was harmless. We didn't hurt anyone. And we didn't push it to the point of people wanting to avoid us. As time went by, we developed relationships and now, speaking for myself, bratting is not a way to achieve anything. I am a grown, mature woman and my relationship now might have some fun bantering but the bratting has been outgrown.
Once I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1757
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 20, 2005 - 08:56 pm: |
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Exactly, Shylah, teasing and bantering is good fun. Anyone who goes to extremes to get attention needs counseling. Name calling, throwing things and tantrums are a juvenile way to act and it is not "cute" in anyone.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 514
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 20, 2005 - 11:56 pm: |
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I'm with you ladies! There's the fun-loving style of bratting and then there's the type that goes to extremes and is just plain aggravating, mean-spirited, and never ending. I've been worrying about this and have been planning to address this issue but I'm afraid it will fall on deaf ears. Fanny's right about how they don't seem to come over here for serious discussions. *sigh*
Shylah, I don't blame you a bit for feeling like you do. How awful for you! Someone who would put you through so much isn't really a friend. At least she's just visiting.  |
Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 183
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 21, 2005 - 06:43 am: |
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Shylah, you've got my sympathies for the situation. I knew a woman that never turned it off, and she absolutely pushed "everyone" away with her behavior. She was so self centered, that she never even realized it was happening, and then of course when she found herself without her friends near, it was all "their" fault.
I knew another woman that needed my assistance with some things, and I hesitated to get involved with her, due to her bratting at parties. I had not known her in any other context, and feared it may result in the same situation. I was so pleasantly surprised to find an intelligent and mature woman behind her "brat."
Some just don't know when to turn it off. Fortunately, some do.
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Pagan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 289
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 21, 2005 - 09:52 am: |
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I don't really 'get' bratting.
I do like to banter and tease, but I do that in the vanilla world as well. I don't really behave differently around spankos.
If anything, I'm more careful to NOT do it when I'm around another Top, unless he knows that I'm just kidding around, and not engaging in spanking 'foreplay'.
But physical bratting? Silly putty, etc? I'd never do that. Not my style, or my partners. Luckily, my hubby likes me being a smart ass. He usually laughs. If he's not in the mood for it, then I don't do it.
The only time that banter leads to a spanking here is if we want it to. If he says something like "You're being disobedient again" (when I'm never obedient), then I know he's open to playing and will likely respond by saying "Ha - I'm the boss here. If I want you to bark like a dog then you're going to do it". Code for "Yes, I want you to spank me".
It's never mean spirited.
Have you tried just telling her that her behaviour is getting old, and that it's a source of annoyance to others? |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1758
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 21, 2005 - 10:50 am: |
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Pagan, I'm in total agreement here. I love to tease and flirt in real life, but I only do it with men I am comfortable with. Well, there was the one postal clerk who was just asking for it!! It usually leaves a smile on both of our faces. My husband is secure enough that it doesn't bother him. (In fact I think it secretly turns him on)
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Sdhrts
Spanko
Username: Sdhrts
Post Number: 72
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 21, 2005 - 12:47 pm: |
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Shylah,one more day and it's over. Bratting in a playful way is fine, but not being able to stop? This girl sounds like she may have many problems and makes them the problem of people she's closed to. Being around her would ware on me quickley. To not spank her is probably best. I put an end to a similiar situation a few monthes ago and can't be more happy I did. I met Tina shortley after anad that is a progressing story in it self, but a good story.
Is IT Better To Give Than To Recieve?
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Zippo
Supreme Spanko
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1298
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 21, 2005 - 07:13 pm: |
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This should be moved to the top every so often, so more will read it.  It definitely made me stop and think how I portray myself to others. Ultimately you can not control anothers actions, you can be honest with them and let them know how their behavior is affecting you. Your other choice to me, would be to begin to disassociate yourself from that guest in the future. It is a shame that you usually get only one chance to make a good first impression, because many do not always put their best foot forward. For myself, I try to be tolerant of others, but tend to remove myself from people who lack basic manners and courtesy.
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Tammynx
Advanced Spanko
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 155
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 22, 2005 - 09:24 am: |
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Whew!!!! I'm so glad that there are some in agreement with me. I was afraid of making people mad with what I had said.
Today is the day Shylah!!!! Peace tonight for you!!  |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 448
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 22, 2005 - 06:37 pm: |
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SHE'S GONE!!!! GONE!!! Put her off at the door of the airport and drove away after the obligatory hug and RAN!!!
Yes Tammy, there is peace here tonight. All I could do was sigh with RELIEF at knowing she was out of my house. Last night was a nightmare. She bratted, was rude and insulting but I would not let anyone spank her. I told everyone here (all spankos) to ignore her actions and NOBODY was allowed to spank her.
Zippo, she wouldn't know basic manners and courtsey if it hit her in the eye. My trash is full of empty wine, brandy and vodka bottles and I'm embarressed to put it out for collection even tho it's all in a black trash bag!
I tried on several occassions this last week to try and make her understand why her drinking was upsetting to me. I lived in an abusive marriage for 30 years on top of having parents that drank all the time. I am out of that now and although my new hubby and I do like to have the occassional drink, we never get drunk. It seems like all she wanted to do was get drunk and spanked. It will never happen in my house again. I will never have her back.
I'm sitting back with a nice mug of hot chocolate (with marshmellows!) and relaxing.
Thank you all so much for your support, understanding and kind words. It really means a lot to know that I can come someplace to vent without being judged. Bless each and every one of you.
I just hope that those that think excessive bratting will read this and understand that it is neither wanted or appreciated. If you want attention to get spanked, just say so. Nothing says you can't just approach a Top to know that your needs are understood and you can receive what you want and need without being obnoxious!
Once I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken
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Kennysspankee
Spanko
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 59
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 22, 2005 - 11:45 pm: |
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Glad to hear your trauma is over! Try that canned whipping cream on hot chocolate. Real whipping cream melts too fast. You should tell her you're moving and that you'll send your new address next month, then never send her your new address OR send her an address of really far away so maybe she wouldn't come to visit that far. Sneaky, eh? (You wouldn't really be moving) |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 453
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 23, 2005 - 08:47 am: |
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That's an idea...lol
Next time she hints to coming, we have already devised several ways to keep her away. We plan to be very busy each and every time. WEG
Last night was the first time we had a good nights sleep since she got here. The relief I felt when she was gone just flooded over my body. I didn't realize just how tense I was. Even tho we rarely drink...that girl is enough to drive you to it! I feel like having a party now!! Everyone to the UK to my house!! Hot chocolate all around!!
Once I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken
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Kennysspankee
Spanko
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 61
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 23, 2005 - 07:06 pm: |
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Sounds like a stress release spanking is in order. Stress release spankings all around after the hot chocolate! |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 455
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 24, 2005 - 07:54 pm: |
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After? Why not before AND after?
Once I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1783
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 24, 2005 - 08:05 pm: |
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Greedy little bugger arent't you, Shylah!!!!
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Tammynx
Advanced Spanko
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 165
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 24, 2005 - 09:40 pm: |
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Yes Fanny she is!! |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 456
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 25, 2005 - 06:11 pm: |
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HELL YES!!
Once I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1798
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 25, 2005 - 07:13 pm: |
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Gotta love a woman who knows what she likes. 
Especially one who also knows how to properly acquire it.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 459
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 25, 2005 - 07:33 pm: |
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I have been celebrating since we let her off at the airport...
CHOCOLATE CHOCOLATE CHOCOLATE
maybe that's why I'm so hyper?
Once I thought I was wrong but I was mistaken
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