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Valleybrats
New member
Username: Valleybrats
Post Number: 15
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 30, 2005 - 03:48 pm: | 
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I've been spanked to tears a few times, but I've never gone to the true breaking point. Usually, I just let go and start crying when my needs have been fulfilled emotionally, but lately I've been thinking... what if you held it in (like guy subs do) until you get to the point where you simply can't anymore and just start bawling? Obviously we're talking about a really serious spanking but I can't help but wonder if the emotional and pyschological benefit is just that much more palpable.
I can't really do it now; I would need a dom I REALLY trust for that because it's a scary enough idea in and of itself. So a question for all you ladies in serious relationships with your doms: Ever tried going completely over the edge like this? Did it feel different afterward? |
Tmichellebrat
Spanko
Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 83
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 31, 2005 - 01:22 am: |
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Yes I have gone completley over the edge in a past relationship with a Dom and to be honest with you I didn't like the way it made me feel. It makes you feel almost like your out of control....and I don't like that feeling. But I have gone way past that breaking point and I guess you would have to try it to see how you feel afterwards. For me getting a good spanking to where it produces tears is enough ...but to go beyond that breaking point for me is not something I like. |
Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 277
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 31, 2005 - 07:14 am: |
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Just FYI, a male submissive/bottom is quite capable of crying too, when he's taken to the edge, when in a vulnerable emotional state.  They really are not immune, and in fact, some have the same desires to be taken to the breaking point, but in many cases are not able to find a willing woman to take them there.
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Valleybrats
New member
Username: Valleybrats
Post Number: 18
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 31, 2005 - 02:48 pm: |
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Boys in a vulnerable emotional state?
Is it not legend? |
Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 281
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 31, 2005 - 05:03 pm: |
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Boys....are easy.  I'm talking about men. They really DO cry!
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Gandalf302
New member
Username: Gandalf302
Post Number: 13
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 01, 2006 - 01:40 am: |
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hi Ftopinmichigan, I think you are exactly correct -- Us fellows just rarely find lady willing or i guess capable of taking a man to the edge and getting him to let go and cry as we have been taught iit is unmasculine to do so for soo long we just find it VERY DIFFICULT. Thanks for saying it -- it need to be out there many know but few are willing to write or say it let alone do it with someone. |
Naughtybry
New member
Username: Naughtybry
Post Number: 18
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 01, 2006 - 11:19 pm: |
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This is a subject that is very close to my heart, as I have longed for a ver long time to find a woman who would be willing to bring me to that point. I've been across the knees of several friends, and have always been left feeling unfulfilled, or felt worse then I did befor my bottom was bared. Men who have this need, belive me, feel the need to have that emotional release just as much as women. Also, it has to be more then that simple quick, sharp spanking that produces crying mostly out of supprise to my bum rather then actually setting my bum on fire, I'm refering to that point where I really do want you to stop spanking me, even though you know deep down, I need you to keep spanking me untill I've found that threashold, and surpased it, that point where I stop fighting the spanking, and just give in to it. That's the true point where real emotional release begins. Women aren't the only ones who need a good long cry, it just comes easier for you. If I could do it my self, belive me, I would, I've tried, and just couldn't do it. |
Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 283
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 02, 2006 - 06:44 am: |
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I'm sure I've seen this discussed previously  ....but I think a lot of the fallacy of "crying from a good hard spanking" comes from thinking the actual "spanking" itself will get someone to cry. The spanking, or the pain of the spanking, for most Spankos, is primarily a good thing..the "good" pain.  To get past that "good" pain, one has to "know" their partner. Sure there's a physical threshold to pass, but more, the emotional connection is what usually brings someone over the edge.
For those that I've helped take the leap, it had "nothing," whatsoever, to do with the spanking I was giving them. The spanker has to get into their head, not just to their "bottom."
To Spankees with the desire to cry: Know your partner, love (or at least care deeply for) your partner, and have them do the same in return, and the crying, if desired, will mostly likely work it's way to your eyes...through your bottom.
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Hexo
New member
Username: Hexo
Post Number: 6
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 31, 2006 - 12:02 pm: |
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Vellybrats, I am a male bottom/sub and I have to say please don't generalize the behavior of all male subs!
I agree with Ftop that the emotional connection is the main thing if you are wanting the emotional release of crying.
However, if what you want is to really experience the "breaking point" I believe that is attainable just by getting your ass seriously beat. Hard. If you just want to know that you can be taken over the edge by pain, I think you can get that from a trusted partner with a paddle and alot of resolve |
Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 330
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 31, 2006 - 10:18 pm: |
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I really feel psychologically better when I cry from a spanking... but my bottom certainly doesn't.
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Spankingcouple
Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 75
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 31, 2006 - 10:24 pm: |
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i feel better too after a good spanking. i know it's strange but a good hard spanking really makes me feel sooo loved and satisfied. |
Hexo
New member
Username: Hexo
Post Number: 9
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 01, 2006 - 01:37 pm: |
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I feel the same way Spankingcouple.
The emotional and physical feelings after and during a hard time with the paddle give me really intensely gratifying feelings.
Why this should be is a bit of a brain twister at times though.
I chose the road less traveled. Now where the hell am I?
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 349
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 06, 2006 - 06:50 pm: |
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It's so true though - I am so much more at ease and relaxed (well when my bum stops hurting that is, LOL) after a spanking - I feel settled and like all is okay - well because it is!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Kennysspankee
Spanko
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 121
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 06, 2006 - 07:36 pm: |
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I feel unfulfilled if it doesn't reach a certain level of severity. We started into the sex a few times and I told him I didn't feel right yet, like something was missing or just not happy, or unfinished. Then he gets out the ruler strap or/and the reformatory strap and finishes me off. Then I feel complete inside, calm and at ease, (endorphins?). |
Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 364
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 07, 2006 - 08:50 pm: |
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I so know what you mean spankee - like because you have accumulated so many infractions or because one was just so severe that you need that firm discipline to center you back - I couldn't agree more!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Kennysspankee
Spanko
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 126
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 08, 2006 - 03:09 am: |
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I don't think it's that because we only play. |
Spankingcouple
Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 79
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 08, 2006 - 08:12 am: |
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good morning,
when andy first started spanking me i felt unfulfilled because andy would only spank me over my panties and just a few swats. i wanted and needed a hard spanking to satisfy me. i can take a very hard spanking,more so now. andy really knows how to satisfy my need for spanking.
i am a very lucky girl!!!!
trish |
Kennysspankee
Spanko
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 127
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 08, 2006 - 06:18 pm: |
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My husband really knows how to give a spanking, he's got me all figured out. Just the rare time maybe about twice it didn't go on long enough past what I could take. Maybe it is feeling like I've been punished, like it was thorough enough. |
Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 372
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 01:49 am: |
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You ar lucky spankee; Jake is the same way! He een pracgtices on pilloes and himself when we get a new implement, before he uss it on me. To be honest, ther has only one that's been snet to us that we hae not used as it was poorly made, but other than that, he tris on the pillow, then himself and then, unfortunatly he moves on to me... 
BTW you area lucky one. Enjoy!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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