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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1041
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 12:23 pm: | 
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Another thread got me to thinking (I know, scary thought). How much nakedness in scene-ing or parties is ok with you? Do you feel uncomfortable even in semi public places like a club, if you see someone totally in the buff? Being a spanko, are naked bottoms ok, but nothing else?
I can get used to total nudity at a club...people are paying for the privilege of using the clubs equipment and are allowed to do it anyway they want. But if I go to a party put on by fellow spanko's, it bothers me to see someone get spanked in the nude. It's easier for me if their only naked from the waist down.
I'm not trying to foist my antiquated prudishness onto anyone else, I'm simply curious how others feel. My hesitancy probably has more to do with my age and upbringing than anything else, and is no reflection on anyone else's choices. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Pagan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 309
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 12:27 pm: |
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I don't even do naked from the waist down. I wouldn't be spanked in front of others without a thong on...even by my husband.
I've gotten comfortable (sorta) with someone seeing my butt. But not the other bits that would be exposed by panties being pulled down.
I personally don't need to see anyone's genitals. But maybe I'm a prude. |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 590
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 12:39 pm: |
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Once awhile back, my hubby bared my bum in front of some friends when he used a rattan cane on me. I never felt it cos I was so mortified that my big old saggy butt was on display. I don't think that will ever happen again.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1949
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 03:05 pm: |
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My feelings are that being partially clad is more sensual than total nudity, and that has been my feeling forever, nothing new.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 357
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 04:01 pm: |
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 My name is K, and I am a Prude! 
The following is in response to my own experiences.
When I first started attending parties/clubs, I was shocked by the naked folks. Maybe cause most of them weren't at all attractive, and I was really somewhat surprised that such unattractive/unfit people would be so proud to show themselves off, in all their glory. With time, I came to envy their confidence and ability to just be themselves. I view them differently now. They are mostly hot and attractive now, even though it's the exact same folks. It's also helped me to get more comfortable with myself.
Spanking parties, here, don't usually allow any nudity, and in fact the spankees must wear thongs in the party room. Even private home spankin' parties don't usually have full nudity.
The more BDSM oriented parties usually have full nudity, but mostly only in scene. It's not like naked folks are all over the house. They stay in the dungeon area of the home usually.
Most private parties have strict rules for nudity, and the hosts will dictate what that is, and what procedures are needed if someone is nude. Such things as to never sit on furniture without a towel or garment, or to wipe down equipment after use, etc. Club rules are much of the same, although I've seen them more lax in clubs. [I don't want to sit on a chair where someone else was just sitting after....well, who knows what.]
For me...I think it helps to know the person too. I don't mind being at a Club Fem party with a half dozen nude men around me, as long as they keep their distance and don't offer to stir my drink. 
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Pinkwench
New member
Username: Pinkwench
Post Number: 45
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 07:50 pm: |
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 My name is Pink, and I am second in line as a Prude.
I think it is age and upbringing, but you all talk about parties, and I think oh my god (in valley girl accent) there is no way in hell I could possibly do that, unless I had a paper bag over my head. And I would definitely need the thong also. I have problems walking around our house in the nude when we have a no-kid weekend. I'm always thinking that the neighbors will see or worst thought, someone will come to the door. Jake just laughs and says, "What, you think I would let them in the door, are you wacked?"
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1051
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 08:13 pm: |
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Like this Pink? Heeheehee 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Tammynx
Advanced Spanko
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 213
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 09:20 pm: |
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Hi my name is Tammy and I'm 3rd in line for the prudes.
I would never let anyone spank me in a public setting even a small party...nude even from the waist down.
I've been to several parties with friends from an on line chat group, and there hasn't been anyone nude that I can remember. Most people take care of that in their own rooms.
I can't imagine my husband ever spanking me bare in front of anyone, or letting anyone spank me that way.
I guess at a club it is more likely to happen...and I wouldn't say anything but I probably wouldn't watch either...well...maybe I would watch  . |
Beachley
Advanced Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 251
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 10:10 pm: |
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I would not do nude in public either. So does that make me number 4. I don't even do the thong thing. I am quite confident that a spanking over slacks, light weight, or shorts in the summer, or thin skirt can have the same impression. Maybe not on the first swat, but then who ever just gives a spankee 1 swat.
The only one that can spank my bare bottom is Mr. B. Oh btw, he will not spank any nude bottom either and he will not even use his hand. An implement is fine and he is careful with them, but his hand is personal and he says it is reserved for my bottom.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Kryssi
New member
Username: Kryssi
Post Number: 15
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 10:46 pm: |
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I used to be the type of person who wouldn't even take off my sweater for anyone, but since my husband and I have been together (almost 4 years) I have become more open with my body. I think for the most part I am still very self conscious, I usually don't let my husband spank me without at least my panties on. Sometime it's just my bare bottom, (pants around the knees, shirt on etc) but nothing less then that. Seeing other people naked, doesn't really bother me.. but then again I'm not going to go looking for naked people either..
Anyway, my .02 worth
Kryssi
"I'm so tired of being here... supressed by all my childish fears"
Evanescence ~ My Immortal
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Pinkwench
New member
Username: Pinkwench
Post Number: 46
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 15, 2006 - 11:02 pm: |
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yep, that would be me Wolfie 
Pink |
Celticbratt
Spanko
Username: Celticbratt
Post Number: 130
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 12:23 am: |
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Well, I'm a hospital nurse...I'm very used to seeing the various parts and pieces of the human bod, and almost NONE of them are what you would see in a magazine...I think I tend to be more "forgiving" of body flaws in general. As for the nakedness at the party next month, as I've said, It will be my first, so I really don't know...A few of the things that Big G has said have made me think that there is nudity, at least partial, involved.So I guess I can go to the head of the non-prude line with K...YIKES...imagine what trouble the two of US could get into!!! Boggles the mind F-Top in Michigan...just BOGGLES it... |
Darwins
Spanko
Username: Darwins
Post Number: 109
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 05:17 am: |
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I have been to a few clubs over the years, and one or two private parties. I have found there is a marked difference between the two in respect of how much nudity is permitted or even expected.
Most clubs permit nudity but are carefully policed as far as touching is concerned, although in one or two I saw things that were definitely sexual going on and it appeared quite a commonplace occurrence. I’m definitely NOT a prude but the sight of some of these things going on in public I just found personally distasteful, as well as dangerous, since they very much against the law and you never really know who might be there watching. I don’t go to these clubs anymore and one has actually been shut down for the very reasons l have mentioned.
It has to be said that there are those amongst us who get their kicks from revealing themselves to others and indulging their exhibitionist streak and I see nothing wrong with that. If your busy yourself you don’t tend to either notice it much or take notice of it. I suppose if there was either a male or a female with a fabulous body the sight of it may catch and hold your attention, but lets be honest most of us do have a few wrinkly bits so we’re not going to be staring at others wrinkly bits are we?
Private parties in my experience tend to be far more circumspect and nudity is rare. Oh it happens, but behind the closed doors of bedrooms or other rooms set aside for it, and, as everyone is aware that is what these rooms are for peoples privacy is respected. I think it has something to do with the intimacy of small groups that does tend to raise the inhibition levels, simply because everyone is aware that it is easier to offend when you are in a tight group. Generally there seems to be an unspoken rule that you gravitate to the lowest level of the group, perhaps this is to ensure that everyone feels comfortable and no one is pressured to go farther than they would wish. After all it’s about everyone having a good time isn’t it?
I would not want anyone to be worried if they felt uncomfortable about exposing themselves in front of others, it may surprise you to know that you are in the majority despite what it might seem.
I'm a king bee baby Buzzing round your hive
we can make honey baby if you let me come inside
Come on babe lets buzzzzz a while.
(Rolling Stones)
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Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 358
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 07:12 am: |
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Celtic, you must've missed the sentiments of my post. I "AM" a prude! ...at least when it comes to "me." 
One thing about the public party groups in Detroit, is that while nudity is not allowed, they get around it some. The men can wear the tiniest of thongs, with nothing else (but a smile  ), and women can do thongs, as long as covered too. The breasts can be exposed, as long as the nipple is not.  Crazy, but true.
I'm not much for being ogled and followed around like I've experienced in the past. I wore a corset out once, and even though I had a jacket on, I don't think one man (or woman) talked while looking at my face that night. I truly felt like I was only two large breasts that night, and felt as though I was treated as such too. I did not appreciate that kind of attention.
I'm quite conservative in my own dress, and honestly don't appreciate the looks and comments that come from revealing even a little bit. Sure I wear low cut, and vinyl or leather fetish dress sometimes, but I do so conservatively, if that's possible. It works for me, and still affords me a bit of respect that I think goes along well with being a prude! I'm a bit larger on top (okay, a LOT larger on top) and it seems that no matter what I wear, someone feels the need to be crude about it. I don't tell them how big their NOSE is, do I! 
I've always joked about wanting to dress like a "slut" when I got thinner, and now that I'm thinner...I've found it's just not in me, to go scantly clad. I like to dress where there leaves something to the imagination, yet revealing enough to entice, but not tease. I think they call that style: Prude...it's all the rage!
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1054
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 10:41 am: |
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I'm actually grateful to those ladies at our club who are so comfortable with their bodies...it has helped me feel better about my own weight problems. So has the fact that the men at our club want to spank me, and arent put off the way vanilla men seem to be.
I would love to dress in a kinkier fashion when I go to the club, but I have a hard time affording the good quality stuff. And funnily enough, I have had men there get really turned on when I dressed more quietly....when one guy found out I was wearing a slip under my skirt, he asked me if I ever wore stockings and a garter belt as well. He thought that was really hot! 
Maybe men prefer spanking someone who dresses like their schoolteacher, instead of the village tart? At any rate, I think I'll save the sexier clothes for Steve. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 592
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 11:03 am: |
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In case you all didn't notice....I think I was the
ORIGINAL PRUDE!!!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Tammynx
Advanced Spanko
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 217
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 08:04 pm: |
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sheeshhh shylah..we all know your a prude now!!
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1065
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 10:40 pm: |
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The whole world knows! 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Poofette
New member
Username: Poofette
Post Number: 42
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 17, 2006 - 01:32 am: |
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Amazing to think how many of us spanko's are prudes isn't it???? I'm a prude too at least in this instance. Save the nudity for private time. Revealing is quite alright and fetish dress...is hot. Leaving something for the imagination is much better. Don't know if the guys agree, they are generally more visual then us. |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 598
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 17, 2006 - 06:05 am: |
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I just don't like showing off my wobbily bits. And I have plenty of them. At 52, you tend to hate gravity. Don't even get me started on my boobs! Now if you will excuse me, I need to gather them up off my knees and mold them into a bra.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 366
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 17, 2006 - 06:09 am: |
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I'm with ya, Shylah. If I had the guts to have any kinda surgery... it would be a reduction AND lift.
My neighbor is 96 (larger lady in her youth and big on top then too), and her daughter actually told me that she once had them just tucked into her pants. Kinda reminds me of the old men that pull their pants up to their neck. I guess it goes both ways.
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Pinkcheeks
New member
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 17
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 17, 2006 - 07:47 am: |
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**runs to get into the "prude line"
I love a bare-bottom spanking - given by Hubby only - and I agree with Fanny, there is something very sensual about being partically clan for a spanking~~
My favorite color? pink of course
"But honey...wait...I didn't mean it!!"
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