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Bluepencil
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Username: Bluepencil
Post Number: 3
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 14, 2005 - 01:41 pm: | 
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Just curious -- has the behavior of your partner been such that a "real" disciplinary spanking had to be administered? |
Darwins
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Username: Darwins
Post Number: 18
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 14, 2005 - 01:54 pm: |
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The answer to that question is yes ......twice to date.
Wolfie can explain why if she wants to or I will if she agrees to me sharing it with you.
Steve
Wolfie is the Queen of everything
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 115
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 14, 2005 - 03:00 pm: |
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Why dont you explain for a change my love, I'd like to read your take on it.  |
Celticbratt
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Username: Celticbratt
Post Number: 17
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, May 14, 2005 - 04:04 pm: |
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Sigh...how romantic Darwins/Wolfie- you guys are killing me in a good way...  It's really too bad more people don't understand the dynamics like we do. Nothing makes you know your s/o loves you , like their willingness to help you by correcting you. |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 127
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 15, 2005 - 06:31 pm: |
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If you reverse the question and put me on the receiving end, the truthful answer would be yes. I know you find that hard to believe, but I do remember one than one occasion.
If Wolfie decided to give more details, I may consider confessing to my offenses. |
Celticbratt
New member
Username: Celticbratt
Post Number: 18
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 07:46 am: |
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Come onnnnnnnnnnnn!!! Don't make us beg and whine-Spill the info |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 132
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 09:02 am: |
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I love to hear you whine and beg Celticbratt!
I'm sure Wolfie and I are not the only ones there who have had a dose of DD. |
Beachley
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Username: Beachley
Post Number: 35
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 09:03 am: |
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Boy that is a hard one for me. As many of my spanking are real to me. Mr. B does not play around with just those soft spankings very often. His play is a swat here or there.
However there have been a couple of times where they have ranged from a bad girl to punishment.
Most of the time however, I'm questioning in my mind is Mr. B serious or just playing and his usually response is "What do you think". So he normally leaves it open for me to ponder and draw my own conclusions.
So where are the Tops - who should be answering this question as it states "administer a real spanking" So far we have just confessed to being on the receiving end.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 135
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 11:48 am: |
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To me a "real" spanking is when I have finally got to the end of R's fuse. He has a very long fuse and he rarely gets angry. In all the years we have been together I can only think of three times when his fuse has blown and then he always waited about 24 hours before he actually spanked. OH MY GOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Rocco
Advanced Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 105
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 02:00 pm: |
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24 hours not long enough Fanny?? 
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 138
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 04:01 pm: |
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Actually 24 hours can be a LONG time when I know R is really upset with me. As I said it only has happened a few times and I knew I had messed up BIG time. I was nearly as angry with myself as he was. He just knows himself well enough to give himself time to cool off. That is not to say that he is any more lenient just because he is in better control of his emotions. Actually I think it gives him time to plot his revenge better. |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 139
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 04:03 pm: |
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Come on, Steve, we are all waiting for your versions of the two events. Time for "show or tell" |
Headteddy
Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 80
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 04:44 pm: |
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Once and only once did I give my wife a real punishment spanking. TD ran up over $13,000 in 3 months on our charge cards (Bloomingdales and Saks) and hid the bills. (Watch Dan looking around at his implements and watch Bethie twitch.)We had been married just over a year and I was making 16,000 a year. Her father bailed us out and I spent the next 5 years repaying him.
What triggered the actual punishment was her response to her father's lecture which is one of maybe three times in 27 years I have ever gotten really angry at her. After her father had agreed to pay the bills (and put half of it a savings account for our daughter) he asked to talk to her and began to lecture, she responded by angrily saying "You can't talk to me like that-I am all grown up now". She than threw the phone down and stalked off into our bedroom slamming the door. I picked up the phone and finished my conversation with her father. I apologized and he laughed and said he would send the checks as soon as he got our credit cards in the mail. I went into the bedroom and told TD if she was going to act like an insolent, spoiled child I would treat her like one and without any further discussion upended her, pulled off her pants and spanked her very, very hard and very, very long with my hand. I spanked her until her crying changed from anger and pain into remorse. There were hugs and kisses a little later but no sex that night. The next morning which was Saturday we fixed that. And mailed her father the credit cards along with an I'm sorry note from TD.
Needless to say the tale has a happy ending as we have stayed married for 25 more years but my sweetie definitely did not have a happy time sitting down for a few days.
There is much more to this story and I am writing it as part of a series about us featuring our funiest and most memorable moments of which many are spanking related. I will be posting chapter 1 sometime this week. These stories will also be bound (in heavy stitched leather of course) and given to TD in July as one of her 26th anniversary presents along with all of the other presents I've talked about in earlier posts.
What do you guys think of that collection of stories as a present?
Enjoy:
HT
Every Challenge is An Opportunity
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 129
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 04:52 pm: |
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I love the idea Teddy, I think its a great gift and one she can read over and over again.
Be patient Fanny, he's in the UK and a busy man lately. He promised me he is working on his version of my spanking, and will post as soon as he's able. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 146
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 04:57 pm: |
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HT, that sounds absolutely wonderful! You're so sweet and thoughtful. TD's a very lucky gal.
And I'm really looking forward to reading about your adventures.
Now where's Wolfie with that reading smilie? |
Kendra
Spanko
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 82
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 05:07 pm: |
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I think it's a Wonderful idea Wow.. 26 years. I haven't even been alive that long (not trying to make u feel old or anything)
"you must tie her down and spank her, spank her well and after you've spanked her, spank me.."
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 144
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 05:08 pm: |
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I love personal gifts so this sounds wonderful. I'm sure it will brings much laughter and a few cheerful tears. I, too, am looking forward to reading more. |
Headteddy
Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 82
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 05:38 pm: |
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Bethie:
Seriously, I'm the lucky one to have a love like TD. Being apart for the last 5 months has been almost unbearable. As you guys know the most important part of our kind of relationships is having somebody to take care of or of having somebody to take care of you and right now I don't have anybody. I know that will change in a few more months so it's ok.
BTW: She was very catty about a neighbor in Missouri on the phone Saturday so I ordered her to go into the kitchen, grab a spoon and spank herself ten times as soon as we hung up. Any bets on whether she did it? I'm new to the telephone spanking part did I do it right?
Thanks Guys:
Enjoy
HT
BTW: Anybody want to go for TD's spending record? Walgreens was having a sale on Chillo- a reusable icepack that you slip into a pillow case. Maybe we could get a bulk discount?
Every Challenge is An Opportunity
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Darwins
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Username: Darwins
Post Number: 25
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 06:09 pm: |
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As Wolfie said just lately I’m not sure where the days go but I will give this a go – even if you forgive me it is a slightly shorter version than I would like but I don’t want to keep you waiting too long.
The first spanking goes back to the very first time we met. We had been corresponding playing in cyber and talking on the phone for a long time but when she came to the UK for the first time to meet me she knew she had a punishment coming.
Now let me say, you have to go a long way to get a punishment from me and generally speaking they only occur for 3 reasons: (1) endangering your health (2) endangering someone else (3) disregard of yourself and your personal esteem. In my book those are serious things and warrant punishment – anything else just gets various degrees of a BG.
I tell you this because punishments to me are lousy things, they make me feel bad – and you can rest assured that if I feel bad, then I will make sure you dam well will too, and you WILL remember it.
The essence of the first punishment were over esteem issues, how she looked she was fat she was ugly she was useless she was worthless etc etc. Now many of you will know those words and actions and most certainly the feelings, since many of you probably have them now – I warn you all – Don’t voice them around me unless you want the rough edge of my tongue!
The young lady was warned repeatedly until enough was enough and the punishment was awarded. It was to be a special event. A paddle was mailed to her and she had to bring it with her, she knew from the outset the ritual that would take place, how the punishment would be carried out.
Wolfie has more time and she can explain the actual ritual behind the spankings.
I am more concerned in getting across to you the why it was done rather than the how. The young lady that I had come to know was a warm, strong, intelligent, articulate and attractive woman. I was convinced that inside all the doubts the insecurities, and behind the wall of ages past hurts there was a beautiful vibrant sexual woman, and I was determined to get it out in the open – one way or another!!
Don’t tell me your fat or ugly I won’t listen to you – I’ll just spank you so hard you’ll wish some one else owned your backside! Don’t judge yourself by how you look, that is what others of shallow and small mindedness do, because if you do – you become as shallow as they are.
Everyone is beautiful – if they let themselves believe they are. Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself I am beautiful and you would be lucky to have me. That was what Wolfie had to do – and I have to tell you that I was right and she was wrong, she is everything that I knew she was – and she will be more!
Part of the essence of this story is that I have a bottom line that is set in stone and a left hand of iron, the line does not move and neither do I, cross it at your peril.!!
Wolfie is the Queen of everything
Except
When I'm Around
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 145
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 06:53 pm: |
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I agree with you on the first two points, Darwins. Two of the times I was at the receiving end of real spanking, was due to endangerment. As a society women are judged so much by our looks, it is hard at times not to judge ourselves against all the air brushed, size 1, 6' tall models and celebrities out there.
I, for one, do buckle under the pressure at times. Especially when you come from a family like mine, always commenting on everyone's weight, hairstyle etc. I have a big family event coming up in a month and today I started on the stupid South Beach diet to lose 10 pounds. Just coming off of chemotherapy, it is probably not the smartest thing to do, but I just want to feel really slim. It is a hard habit to break. I think women are harder on each other than men are of us. |
Beachley
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Username: Beachley
Post Number: 37
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 07:40 pm: |
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I agree completely Fanny - we women are much harder on ourselves. I believe the male species sees women in a different light than we see ourselves. However, you have to admit that men do seem to be attracted to the young, slim, perfectly figured woman.
Don't bite my head off Steve - because I have also learned from the many Tops I have talked to that they do indeed appreciate women of all types and sizes. Men who enjoy spanking seem to like a bottom that is spankable and not a boney bottom as Mr. B puts it.
Generally if a ladies bottom has some substance to it so does the rest of her and that is a good thing or so I've been told. 
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Chantryss
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Username: Chantryss
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 10:24 pm: |
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Steve, doesn't give real spankings. DD isn't part of our dynamic. Spanking for us is an erotic extension of our lovemaking.
With Joe though, I do spank for real, for only one offence. Deliberate Disobedience.
He wont' get it for messing up while trying. He won't get it for forgetting to do something.
He will get it, if he does something knowing quite well that he isn't supposed to be doing it.
It doesn't happen often. When it does happen, retribution is quick and sure. 50 with the shot loaded hairbrush. No warm up. No mercy.
Then it's done. We can cuddle and move past it to whatever the real issues might be that triggered him to do whatever it was that he did.
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 150
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 08:10 am: |
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R and I went many, many years without ever getting near "real" spankings. That has only happened in the last five (?)years or so. Basically, when R has gotten truly angry over something I had done, I have felt a lot of guilt. He didn't feel comfortable giving me a disciplinary spanking, and I frankly didn't feel he had the right to. Sometimes it did result in a wall between us, both of us really upset and no way to deal with it.
THEN, I did something stupid and dangerous, I admit it. Now that I think about this, is was more like about 8 years ago. I was home alone with the kids, they were all pretty young. It was late evening and I started a fire going in the fireplace, but forgot to check if the flue was open. I don't know where my head was at, hectic day I guess. Anyway, I started the fire and went upstairs. After a few minutes the smoke detectors went off and I ignored them. We have very sensitive smoke detectors and they go off with the slightest smoke. I can't remember what I was doing that was so important that I didn't bother to see why they weren't turning off after a minute or so like usual. When I finally came back down the stairs, I realized what had happened. Flames were shooting out of the fireplace, and we had a grapevine wreath on the wall above the fireplace and it had caught on fire. The wallpaper was smoldering and blackened, along with the ceiling. Smoke was everywhere. I grabbed the poker and got the flue open, put out the wreath on fire and opened the entire house up. When R got home, there was no way to hide this and I felt really badly. He was furious at the danger I had put us in, but he clammed up. The next day, I stripped the wallpaper and ended up, within a week, repainting the walls and ceiling myself. The next evening R was still upset and I was walking on eggshells. He finally told me he was sorry he had to do this, but if I had ever deserved a real spanking this was the time. He also told me that if any bruises resulted (never had before) to wear them well as I had earned them. I guess it did clear the air between us, and I have never made that mistake again, but I still wince thinking about it.
The other two spankings I earned were totally unrelated, so I guess I did learn something. |
Julia
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Username: Julia
Post Number: 13
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 09:37 am: |
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Only once to date. I hope that it never happens again. I had caused a lot of emotional pain, and was very stubborn about staying in my own mind-set and not seeing the damamge that I was doing.
When I finally saw the light, I felt so bad that I asked to be punished. He was not enthused about the idea, but after reading some other blogs - notably Patty's, he decided that he was willing to do it. |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 152
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 10:24 am: |
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That story brings up my third and most recent punishment in December. That averages me one every four years, not too bad. It was all a huge misunderstanding that got out of control. I lasted almost two full days, and I was the one doing all the shouting. I said several things I shouldn't have, to this day I don't know what my problem was, but it just escalated. It think I was just so very stressed out, right after Christmas. Our house rule is that I can complain, yell and rant all I want, and R can spank whenever he wants. He let me dig myself into quite a hole, let me realize what I had done and I apologized profusely. Then he announced that it was his turn to express his emotions. There wasn't a darn thing I could say. In 27 years of marriage that is the only time that has ever happened. I am known to be sassy and a tease, but I have never lost control like that, not before and certainly not since. |
Beachley
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Username: Beachley
Post Number: 43
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 05:34 pm: |
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My most serious spanking which was pretty much a punishment spanking occurred last October. Basically I was putting our relationship in danger, or at least projecting possible damage to it. I still don't think Mr. B saw where I was coming from or my point of view and maybe he was right as I certainly changed my point of view.
Mr. B was on the road a LOT and I was left alone a LOT. Everytime he came and went it was almost like he took a little bit of me away even though I knew it was business and he had to go. My solution to my problem of dealing with his leaving was to simply stop caring. Not that I did not love him as much as always, but to try to distance myself from the actual relationship so that when he left it did not hurt so much.
He was obviously not impressed with my solution and definitely let me know by paddling me over the chair with the CB paddle in three installments. When I could take no more and popped up rubbing my bottom, he was kind and loving and hugged and kissed me, but then would push me back down and told me we were not finished yet. This happened 3 times. I decided my solution of distancing myself from our relationship was not a very good idea.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 161
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 09:18 pm: |
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(Light bulb goes off in my head) My goodness, Beachley, I didn't even think about this possibility. My husband travels a lot on business too. During the fall he was gone a lot, 3000 miles away. Maybe my meltdown was due him having been gone so much.
Now it is beginning to make some sense. |
Beachley
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Username: Beachley
Post Number: 46
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 10:06 pm: |
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Fanny - I'm glad that I'm not the only one. I glad that perhaps it has put a different perspective on your meltdown. It is hard when they are so far away so often and you are the one that is always left behind.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 145
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 10:53 pm: |
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Very difficult indeed. 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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