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Redhinney
Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 163
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 01, 2006 - 08:45 pm: | 
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As you all know this past week end was a week end of the 3 s - submission, spanking and sex. we had a great time I can totally understand why some couple really live in a toal D/s way 24/7. I do submit to Bill all the time but it was so different this week end because I think my limits were tested and push much more and harder than ever before. I loved it was great and I really didn't want it to end. On monday I was still high as a kite and many times I find myself playing the events over and over in my brain and each time it was better and better. Tuedsday I came down a little but still dam happy. Today it was like I hit a brick wall. It was as if saddness took over. I am anxiously hoping for a repeat but also know that it wouldn't happen for a while due to life getting in the way. This feeling has never happened before and to be honest I am a lttle scared. Why, how what are all running together. I want my Monday feeling back I will even take Tuesday's .
Bill is still as loving and as attentive as before so it's not that he isn't there.
I hope I am making sense because I am not sure that I can even explain what is happening. What is this can anyone explain? Thanks
Love can't always be seen or hear but will always be felt with your heart
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1224
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 01, 2006 - 11:00 pm: |
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Awwwww sweetie, your suffering from sub drop.
I know its hard; as the endorphins that have built up in your body from all the spanking, orgasms and such start to fade away and leave you with this terrible sadness. It will pass in time, but you do need Bill to lavish a lot of cuddling and care on you until it does.
I go through this every time I leave Steve after a visit...not just the sadness that comes with being seperated from the man I love, but also sub drop after a large build up of endorphins. It does make it easier knowing your really being affected by something chemical and that it will pass. If you are apt to feel depressed at times sub drop can make it much worse, so watch for signs.
You'll be ok. Take it day by day and be sure to get lots of hugs and kisses from your hubby. You should start to feel your old self soon. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 442
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, February 02, 2006 - 05:05 am: |
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Red, I'm sorry you're experiencing the drop. It is quite common (for both bottoms and tops), and even with your partner near.
As Woflie said, all your activities got your endorphins really pumped up that weekend, and then unfortunately, they had to go back to normal. Think of it like a sugar high from eating too much candy...how the body gets all hyped up on sugar energy and then when the sugar level drops, it drops to the point you almost go to sleep.
You were probably just in a condition of being overdosed on that fabulous weekend.  I think ya just need another fix.  Here's hoping you get it soon.
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Tmichellebrat
Spanko
Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 107
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, February 02, 2006 - 04:51 pm: |
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Red ...I have experinced this feeling too and it is normal although it does not feel good when it happens. Like Wolfie....my "sweetie" and I are seperated by 1100 miles ...so after his visits every three to four months ...I go into that same sadness and depressed state  .
What I do to try and get over that sadness is I love on myself a whole lot by treating myself to something fun ...like go and get a manicure, go shopping, take a nice bubble bath, do some aroma therapy....anything fun and that you like to do in order to get through. I find that this helps me alot. But the sadness does pass |
Redhinney
Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 165
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, February 02, 2006 - 07:59 pm: |
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Thanks everyone. I am normally a very upbeat person you the type of peron who says the glass is half full, but this feeling was so different than before and it maybe because we did test limits like we never did before. I am trying to adjust to this and Bill has been great.
Love can't always be seen or hear but will always be felt with your heart
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1228
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, February 02, 2006 - 11:00 pm: |
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Endorphins are funny things Red, I had no idea they could affect a person so strongly. You should be back to normal before the week is out. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Redhinney
Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 168
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 04, 2006 - 09:53 am: |
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Hi everyone,
Frist thank you for all of your support. I did have a bad case of "the drop" I woukd say that I m 90% better now Wolfie you were right it does take about a week. Top and everyone else thanks for your thoughts and suggestions Bill was great during this he gave many hugs and kisses and even suggested a tiny spanking but we both decided that it wouldn't be a good thing because once that worn off we would be back to the same place (does that make sense). I say we because both of us are affectd if the other is not themself.
Tonight we had plans to go to a movie with another couple. I really would perfer to stay home but Bill thinks that if we go out it might help me be my complete self again, so it's off to the movies.
Thank you again
Love can't always be seen or hear but will always be felt with your heart
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1237
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 04, 2006 - 10:05 am: |
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Good for you sweetie! I think the little stress relief spanking would have been fine, but I understand your reasons for abstaining. Getting out and socializing is a very good idea...you should be your old cheery self asap. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 345
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 06, 2006 - 06:43 pm: |
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I agree with Wolfie! Congrats and do what you need to do for you!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Kennysspankee
Spanko
Username: Kennysspankee
Post Number: 119
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 06, 2006 - 07:21 pm: |
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Redhinney, sounds to me you need more upkeep! I get spanked every other day (and sometimes in between). I sometimes feel a little sub-drop 'on my due day' but not much. Who needs sub-drop. I say we need more spankings!!! |
Redhinney
Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 181
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 06, 2006 - 09:07 pm: |
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Kennysspankee,
Belive me I get spamked alot I think that this past week the drop was due to a total submissive weekend and as everyone mentioned my endorphines were at an all time high. William is very much aware and accomadating if I should need a spanking just because I just need a spanking. The problem was I didn't feel like getting spanked until saturday and then we got caught.
we don't have a schedule but I do usually have a red butt at least 3 times a week.
Love can't always be seen or hear but will always be felt with your heart
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 371
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, February 09, 2006 - 01:36 am: |
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Just take a break an things will get better, at least I hope so.... Hang in here! We're all routing for you!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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