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Laszlo
Spanko
Username: Laszlo
Post Number: 54
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Monday, February 13, 2006 - 01:44 am: | 
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Most of the spankings that i have given were to women that i had introduced into spanking and we had alot of fun with the spankings i have administered. I would love to meet a bottom that like myself has had this fetish since before memory. I cannot find any point in my life in which i was not a spanko. |
Ma_vie_en_rose
New member
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 39
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Monday, February 13, 2006 - 02:47 am: |
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Oh, I completely know that feeling where you can't really say where something's developed; it's just always been there. And then, it's always so nerve-wreckingly horrid confessing your kink, introducing someone else to it too because, to the untrained eye, the popular line between DD or the D/s lifestyle is so fuzzily separated from abuse that there's always the "You want me to WHAT?!?" moment. I nearly have a panic attack whenever I confess my love of spanking to a lover. ^_^; (Although, it hasn't really been recieved with repulsion ever..perhaps kind of a subtle disinterest at worst...)
And then starting it out. Is it an alien sort of trust for non-spankos? The power exchange. I know initially, my former dom was terrified he'd hit too hard, so would barely hit. And even when he got past that, was still never horridly enthusiastic about it. ^_^; It was a lot of not so subtly topping from the bottom on my part.
As a bottom, you're asking someone to overcome what they would normally consider abusive and not consider at all... to a degree that opens up the slippery slope which one may not be able to handle--I know not in every case, but it does happen.
As a top with a new bottom, I would be petrified of overstepping someone's boundaries and that they wouldn't speak up. Although I'm not particularly versed in that angle ^_^;
It is nice to know there are tops who have had the fascination with spanking since who knows when though  . |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 658
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 13, 2006 - 07:59 am: |
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I've always said that any man that says he has never fantasized about spanking a woman over his knee on her bare bottom...is LYING
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 677
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 13, 2006 - 01:02 pm: |
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As a spanko, it may be hard to imagine, but they're out there, Shylah. Just as there are plenty of women who've never fantasized about being spanked. It actually repulses some people. Some people just fantasize vanilla that's all. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1303
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 13, 2006 - 01:17 pm: |
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Ive been this way as long as I can remember. And until finding sites like the Den on the internet, I dealt with all those vanilla's and their attitudes towards spanking. It's what made me hide my kink for so long.
I'm so much happier being the me I really am, and enjoying my fetish the way I do. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 409
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2006 - 12:46 am: |
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I agree with Wolfie - I even rememver wanting to hear stories about my friends hen I was younger when they talked about getting spanked. I was so curious because my parents never spanked me, and I was so curious and it just continued to buil; well let's just say, I'm certainly making up for it now, LOL.
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Ma_vie_en_rose
New member
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 42
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2006 - 01:03 am: |
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I was horridly shy about my spanking love. ^_^; It was really getting into the GLBT community and seeing how openly and just frankly all sorts of lifestyles are discussed really helped me be more open about this part of myself as much an aspect of my sexuality--and personality--as anything else.
Open Relationships, S&M, What's it really matter? Different strokes for different folks, after all.
except watersports, ew. XD *aw, just kidding ^_^;*
...somethings people just aren't going to understand, it's personal preference, it's just not their cup of tea, but that doesn't make one better or worse than the other.
but in a lot of cases I think it's one of those "agree to disagree" or a mind your own bleeding business >O sort of things. |
Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 448
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2006 - 09:05 am: |
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Laszlo, I understand the lifelong interest. I can remember having it as far back as I can remember. I surely didn't understand it back then though, and when I finally started to enjoy my interest, I too have found the need to be with someone that also shares my passion for it. Just "doing it" for me, or tolerating it, or submitting because that's what a sub does, is not enough for me. I love a man that loves and craves it cause it part of them!
K |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1328
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2006 - 11:04 am: |
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Ma_vie, what does GLBT stand for? 
Welcome back K...
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 449
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2006 - 12:04 pm: |
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Hi. Wolfie. Been here...just quiet.
BTW, GLBT is for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered.
K |
Ma_vie_en_rose
New member
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 46
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2006 - 06:52 pm: |
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Wolfie, like K said, It's Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered. ^-^ |
Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 420
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 22, 2006 - 10:22 pm: |
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well you learn something new everyday, LOL. Thanks!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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