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Pagan
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Username: Pagan
Post Number: 11
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 03:52 pm: | 
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I should start off by saying that while I'm a bottom, I'm not a sub, and we don't do DD.
I first brought this up with my partner about 2 years ago, and we have come a long way since then.
Initially, he thought a few light swats with his hand was too much. Now, he has his own toybag with a small (but satisfactory!) assortment of wood, leather and rubber toys.
I really have no idea where my threshhold is, but I suspect that it's way down at the low end. He doesn't agree, but I suspect that because he's a converted vanilla, and has no idea just how hard some Tops spank.
In two years, he has never given me a spanking that I found unpleasant (although I do hate that CB) or even painful. Stingy? Sure, but that's the point.
I've only bruised lightly once, although I've gotten those red dots quite a few times, particularly when we first started using a paddle.
I don't stay red for more than a few minutes (just long enough for the after show), and it's rare that I can even feel it for more than 5 minutes.
So, I'm pretty sure he's not using much force, despite the fact that he thinks it's definitely moderate.
Now, I read all the time about how people end up bruised, sitting on pillows, etc., and I was wondering just how common that is.
Do most of you like things light, moderate, or hard? Does it have to really hurt to be satisfying?
We're heading to our first official spanking event, and I was just curious about what a "normal" spanking intensity might be.
(I'd like to know BEFOREHAND, on the off chance that I end up over a lap that isn't his)! 
I realize that a good Top will respect the limits of the bottom, even if they're low.
I just want to know if I'm a complete wimp!  (Not that I want to change our level of intensity - it works for both of us). |
Beachley
New member
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 39
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 07:49 pm: |
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Pagan - Mr. B spanks I think spanks pretty hard, but the sting and pink does not last long either. I've hardly ever had any after affects and no bruising since the first couple of times he spanked.
I think the after burn, or redness that many talk about stems from the continual spankings given one after another, or one that lasts a very long time.
My spankings are normally pretty short and to the point therefore although at the time they may be hard, they do not leave any lasting effects.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 146
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 08:50 pm: |
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I agree, the length of the spanking is more important than the strength. A warm up followed by a volley of alternating swats and pats for a longer time seem to leave the area more sore and/or red. |
Pagan
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Username: Pagan
Post Number: 12
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 09:10 pm: |
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That would explain it, then. Most of mine are only 2 or 3 minutes. I've only had one that lasted for 7 or 8, with the CB. I had Venn Diagrams of red dots on my butt after that one - for almost 10 days!
He thinks he's using quite a bit of force (almost full force if he uses his hand, which I have no trouble taking), but it doesn't feel that way. Obviously, he backs way off with an implement.
Some of it might also be technique. He tends to alternate, unlike an evil person who might concentrate on one area for awhile, which is much harder to take.
The only time I've had any residual tingling (soreness is too strong a word) is with the CB, or the rubber strap. Even then, it was very subtle.
Thanks. |
Beachley
New member
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 40
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 09:20 pm: |
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Mr. B is one of those evil people. I think he believes in getting the most effect without exerting himself too much. Therefore, he is one of those Tops who likes to concentrate on ONE Spot. OUCH
I'm forever saying swat the other side, or rub... sometimes he listens, most of the time not though.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Chantryss
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Username: Chantryss
Post Number: 4
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 10:18 pm: |
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My Steve, has hands of STEEL!!
10 years ago, He spanked me much harder and much longer than he does today. I KNOW that my pain tolerance is much lower than it used to be. That's ok though. 
I've worn my share and more of bruises, from both his hand and implements, and I do agree that for the most part they come from the duration of the spanking. Some things though, can bruise rather quickly, say an oak or lexan paddle, and canes too can leave lasting *impressions* on an impressionable bottom.
If you are going to a spanking event, you'll likely see some of both the intensity you are used to feeling yourself, and some tushes that you will be sure must be made of cast iron! No worries though...especially at group events, Spankers tend to be very gracious to the bottom adorning their lap, and there is always a Monitor Type keeping a watchful eye on the proceedings. Remember too, don't be shy about telling them how you feel and what you would like to experience.
Huggles,
Kelly |
Headteddy
Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 84
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 10:24 pm: |
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While I guess subbies should describe how hard their tops spank my perception based on TD's comments are that I probably spank very hard or at least did when I was younger.
Obviously I back off with an implement and try to use a brisk motion snapping my wrist right before the spank lands to maximize the sting and burn. With the CB I tendto go fast, with a hairbrush slower and whenever I use the big paddle I never use more than a dozen total swats that are all very hard.
I always used the overlapping technique. Spanking 1 area, land next one just below the first, next one just where the first and second intersect. Switch cheeks and repeat, Return to first cheek and repeat the same sequence only harder in a slightly different area. Switch cheeks-well you get the idea. I generally repeat the overlap at least a 10 times on each cheek. I always finished with either a half dozen or dozen super hard smacks to the sit spot of each cheek. Then I massage her, and cuddle and explore other areas until--well you probably know that too.
That was then, now that we are alot older I have to be very careful because of her back and even the involuntary jerk of her hips in response to a hard smack can cause her hip joint to go out and result in two weeks of chiropractic care, no play and $200. There should be a guide for "Erotic Spanking After Age 50". WEG
Night all. Enjoy.
HT
Every Challenge is An Opportunity
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 147
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 16, 2005 - 10:28 pm: |
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My husband is a full coverage man. He doesn't miss a spot. He likes this little game where he sits up against the bed headboard, legs straight out it front of him. Then he has me lie naked across his lap. He gets out the massage oil and massages my my entire back from neck to feet. He frequently does this during an hour tv show. Once a minute he gives me a swat always varying the intensity and spot. Just as I am starting to relax. SWAT! Massage, rub, spank. It starts a whole realm of mixed emotions. I never know exactly when his hand is going to change gears and I am always nice and warm afterwards. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 133
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 09:47 am: |
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Wow Fanny, that sounds like a lot of fun.
I am one of those who considers herself a real wimp. It doesnt take much before Im kicking and squirming, ouching and eventually begging for mercy. I know Steve is very gentle with me, he doesnt have to use much force to have me become a very contrite young lady.
He has assured me that he enjoys playing at my low levels, that its about what's fun for us both and not how much I can take. We have experimented with all manner of toys, including the dreaded cane and I now believe that it isnt the implement itself but how its used that matters. We have played for quite some time with paddle, hairbrush and such and I was giggling through it all...but 6 hard and fast with his hand when he's displeased is more than enough to get the point across.
Pagan, its not about how much you can take, or with what...its about what you enjoy. And anyone who spanks you next week will be more interested in fun, than how hard a spanking you can take. 
wolfie doesn't want Steve to be Queen, she prefers him as a Dom.
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Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 13
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 11:03 am: |
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Thanks Wolfie, but I'm not worried, just curious.
I'm bringing my own monitor type - Squire. Even if he got comfortable with me being spanked by another man (far from a certainty), there's NO WAY he would get comfortable with somebody just walloping me. There is no doubt in my mind that he would call an end to the festivities, whether I felt it was too hard or not!
I think I will have to be careful not to say so much as "ow" or there may be one very annoyed male saying "Get your hands off my wife NOW".
Hence, I suspect we will be spectators. 
I'm not concerned about my low levels. I would think it's easier on the Top anyway - no need to wear out your arm/shoulder. 
Hm...what's more fun? Spanking one iron butt, or three low levels? You can get yourself a blonde, brunette and redhead, all of whom yelp fetchingly. |
Rocco
Advanced Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 113
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 12:35 pm: |
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I like the way you think Pagan. "yelp fetchingly" I like that, that works for me.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Darwins
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Username: Darwins
Post Number: 27
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 01:51 pm: |
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I don’t mean this to sound patronising Pagan, but questions like yours always amuse me. Let me (hastily) explain why.
Every time I hear it, it reminds me of how women often laugh at men who (in their view) are always worried about the size of their equipment. It just seems that in the spanking world at least, this is the women’s version of comparing size!
“Can you take it harder than me? Should I be taking it harder? Am I a wimp if I don’t?”
Where does it all come from? When did doing this become a competition?
It is supposed to be FUN, and fun by the very term of the word denotes pleasure. That is what you get out of doing this pleasure – and if pleasure for you is being walloped by a six foot pole after a ten pace run up, or if it involves being spanked with a feather – it makes little difference – its your pleasure.
From my personal point of view – remember that please it’s my view only – apart from the tactile feel of a young ladies bottom under my hand (oooh yeeaa) the real pleasure that I derive from the actual act of spanking is the pleasure that I am giving. To hear the sounds of pleasure and to watch the look of satisfaction on a ladies face after she has been satisfyingly spanked is such a turn on. It didn’t matter how soft it was or how hard it was or how much “she took” – it was in the knowing that I, ME, gave her that pleasure.
It has taken me 2 years to convince Wolfie that just because I can play at the more extreme ends of the spanking spectrum, a simple light hand spanking would give me no pleasure at all. She knows differently now. Hard or soft, long or short, hand or whip, it is all about the same thing, the giving and receiving of pleasure and whatever it takes for that to happen.
I suppose the ideal would be to have a woman over your lap going into a multi orgasmic state or indeed swooning away under the pleasure your giving her. Never happened to me yet but I’m still learning and I live in hope!
A tip that may be useful when playing with someone new. Try a few swats using the traffic light system, green yep that ok, amber that’s hard but yep ok, red ouch nope that’s too much. Most tops I know will understand and do use the system and once its in place will occasionally ask “what colour are we now young lady?” and judging by the response will perhaps up or down the tempo accordingly.
I wasn’t making fun of you honest, just the question amused me, I hope you have fun next week it’s my loss that I can’t be there.
Wolfie is the Queen of everything
Except
When I'm Around
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Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 15
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 02:15 pm: |
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Steve, the spanking woman's version of comparing size is "Is my ass too big"? lol (I've already worried that one to death - over that).
I do know what you meant though. I am genuinely very happy at the levels we play at - as is he. I have no wish to up the ante. Because the possibility of doing this publicly is new to me, I just wanted to be sure that I wasn't going to completely disgrace myself!
I have visions of reacting with shock and horror while blurting out, "OMG!!!!! That HURT! WHAT do you think you're doing?????"
For us, it's all about eroticism, pleasure and fun. I don't need or want welts or bruises to experience any of those.
Oh, and no teasing the public spanking newbie.  I get enough of that from a certain canine. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 138
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 04:29 pm: |
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But that's my JOB! 
wolfie doesn't want Steve to be Queen, she prefers him as a Dom.
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Beachley
New member
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 41
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 05:20 pm: |
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Pagan you cannot possible be more embarrassed than I was last year in the DC conference when my vanilla hubby at the time, took me over his knee and swatted hard enough that I tried to get away and landed in a heap on my back on the FLOOR of the hotel room where everyone was gathered I might add. I think everyone was so stunned to see me lying there, it took a little bit for someone to offer to help me up. 
I am not doing that again this year.
Makes note to self - remain on Mr. B's lap at all cost.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 139
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 07:19 pm: |
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Yes, please do Ann...that was scarier than any actual spanking that took place.
Do you remember me trying to spank Raven? She was so much taller than me that when I tried to get her otk, I ended up on my back on the bed with her laying on top of me. I could barely breathe, but I got a couple of swats in!
wolfie doesn't want Steve to be Queen, she prefers him as a Dom.
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Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 16
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 08:31 pm: |
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Oh, I'm pretty sure that I could be more embarrassed. Squire seems to think that it's ridiculous to wear clothing (any clothing, although he did say that I should "buy a couple of thongs if you're feeling shy") while being spanked.
I do NOT need to get into a desperate wrestling match with my husband in someone else's hotel room because he thinks there's no point playing if it's not on the BARE!!!!!! |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 142
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2005 - 10:39 pm: |
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Ummmm, I wouldnt mind being spanked by your husband...but if he thinks he's pulling my panties down he's getting his hands slapped! 
wolfie doesn't want Steve to be Queen, she prefers him as a Dom.
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Naughtybynature
Spanko
Username: Naughtybynature
Post Number: 58
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 12:11 am: |
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First time in public I was scared shitless but of course it became easier over time. But of course it is comfort level also. I have to be comfortably with everyone plus the spankers before I would initiate into a spanking situation. If I don't feel comfortable I don't play.
Of course all of us at the event will try are utmost best to make sure you are comfortable and in position for a spanking. Just leave that rubber thingy at home would-ja!!! 
Level of play is so different for each person I never really though about how much more I can take next to little ole Jane here. (example only lol) I am only concerned on my own pleasure from a spanking that I don't even concern myself with everyone else's level of play. Selfishly it's all about me when I am spanked.
Did is a word of achievement, Won't is a word of retreat, Might is a word of bereavement, Can't is a word of defeat, Ought is a word of duty, Try is a word of each hour, Will is a word of beauty, Can is a word of power.
*(Unknown Author)
Don't take life so seriously.....it isn't permanent
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Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 18
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 09:31 am: |
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He wouldn't try that with anyone else!!!!
He just seems to think he has a God-given right to whip my pants down. Not a problem, in the privacy of our bedroom (in fact, it's encouraged). But in public? EEEKKKK!!!!
I think he's just pulling my chain. He wouldn't try to get me naked in a room full of clothes women.  Evil man.
About that rubber strap (which I'm definitely bringing). Squire used it on me again last night, only on the bare, and COLD. He seems to think that a strap is a great warmup device. (Leather maybe, but not rubber).
When I complained vehemently, he stopped and got something else. The CB.
Later, he was stroking me, and casually mentioned that my skin felt a little raised, and that you could tell that I had been spanked. Duh. |
Wyatt
New member
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 42
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 10:59 am: |
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I'm not sure if I've mention this here before, but the favorite paddle in our house is homemade. I fashioned it out of balsawood, yep, that light wood the toy planes are made of. It started as a 1/2 inch sheet and you buy in lengths that can easily yield two paddles. Now I'm sure you hardcore CB paddle subbies may be groaning right now, but here's the kicker....
Remember what Fanny said at the beginning of this thread? It's the length of the spanking that leaves a bottom red and sore. I tend to agree with her. And I find I can moderate the sting of this balsawood paddle over a very wide range.
Think about this.... typical wooden paddles have a heavier mass. In order to make them sting they have to be swung harder. It also takes more collective tissue layers to stop that paddle's moving mass. This causes bruising in no time flat. With the balsa paddle I can swing it easily and get it moving quickly. Even adding wrist to it, if I choose. But its light weight causes very little deep tissue damage. Are you with me so far? Still don't believe me? Imagine the sting of a small, light implement like a wooden kitchen spoon. Now increase the effective surface area of that spoon by 500%! Ah! Now I have your attention. And because this paddle causes no deep tissue bruising I can use it for AS LONG AS I WANT!
I have used this paddle on DB to the extent that her bottom was STILL red the next day. She told me it was like having a very sunburned butt and was still reminded of that spanking when she sat down . But without the bruising.
I plan to sometime make a full size 'school paddle' version to compliment the paddling bench we have. I look forward to the 'field tests' but I wonder if my 'test subject' does.
On a last note, I also agree with Darwins. The play should bring pleasure to both parties.
I would much rather apply a pleasurable, GG spanking, than a punishment, BG spanking.
Because the GG spankings are much more fun! |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 181
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 03:53 pm: |
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Wyatt, my husband wants to know where you purchased 1/2" balsawood that is big enough to make two paddles. He tried Home Depot with no luck. I have no idea why he wants to know. |
Darwins
New member
Username: Darwins
Post Number: 32
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 04:41 pm: |
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Thank you Wyatt! I never thought of balsa wood before ...........but I know where I can get some
I'm a king bee baby Buzzing round your hive
we can make honey baby if you let me come inside
Come on babe lets buzzzzz a while.
(Rolling Stones)
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 186
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 05:43 pm: |
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Sure, Darwins, but I am assuming that place is not in this country. Doesn't help R any. |
Simplekindoflife
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Username: Simplekindoflife
Post Number: 26
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 06:18 pm: |
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Fanny, just to be the helpful person i am, he can buy it online (in this country) for like 65 cents a sheet!!! But im not sure what the shipping charges are
I am always running around topless!
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 190
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 06:23 pm: |
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online where? (she asks nervously) |
Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 51
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 06:59 pm: |
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Fanny, make a few calls to the largest hobby stores in your area. You may want to check the yellow pages first and find one that sells model airplane supplies. Modelers use the stuff to home build their planes. You might also find it on the web. And when I said two paddles, I was speaking of the short OTK version. I believe the wood comes in three foot lengths, which will make 2 OTK's or 1 full paddle.
After I finished ours I did not lacquer or seal it in anyway because I wanted to try it as is. And if you want something thicker, wafer different thicknesses together with Elmer's glue. This will make cutting the shape more difficult. You can seal it later on if you wish which will probably increase it's sting a bit. And for custom touches, seal first, decorate, and seal again. Good luck with your projects and let me know how they 'work'. |
Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 52
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 07:04 pm: |
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Kelly, You may want to check out 'Paying the Price' in the Reading Area. |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 192
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 08:08 pm: |
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GULP! thanks for the info Wyatt, POSSIBLY I will be passing it on to my husband. OTK is our preference, but certainly we don't need TWO.
Also, I read your great story, you are an inspired and wonderful writer. I really enjoyed reading about the poor unfortunate girl, but I can't relate to the story, as I have not purchased one thing by credit card lately and besides all of my perfume is bought for me by my loving husband who is known to spoil me rotten. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 144
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2005 - 10:48 pm: |
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Wait a minute! What do you mean you know where you can find some? Dont you have enough toys?
EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEK!!! 
wolfie doesn't want Steve to be Queen, she prefers him as a Dom.
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Pagan
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Username: Pagan
Post Number: 19
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 19, 2005 - 07:55 am: |
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Can you take pictures????? Pretty please? |
Beachley
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Username: Beachley
Post Number: 48
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 19, 2005 - 09:00 am: |
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I don't know about Balsa wood, but I know that little plastic molded thing Darwins sent Mr. B is a stinger for sure. If he does not have one himself he needs to add that to his toy bag. It can make quite an impression and it has never left one bruise it is so light weight.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 149
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 19, 2005 - 09:36 am: |
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Must you remind him about that Ann? I keep hoping he'll forget!
Oh Pagan...
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Darwins
New member
Username: Darwins
Post Number: 36
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 19, 2005 - 11:22 am: |
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1? I have 3 or 4 ............all different shapes and sizes and all different levels of sting from ouch to yeeeeeouch!!!!
And Trust ME Wolfie will feel them ALL!!!!!
I'm a king bee baby Buzzing round your hive
we can make honey baby if you let me come inside
Come on babe lets buzzzzz a while.
(Rolling Stones)
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Beachley
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Username: Beachley
Post Number: 49
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 19, 2005 - 08:25 pm: |
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Hehehe -- 3 or 4 huh. I'm sure they will all be worth feeling.
Glad it's you Wolfie and NOT me.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Headteddy
Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 93
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 19, 2005 - 09:15 pm: |
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I've been so busy this week I forget to mention that I found a wonderful store for implements. It's called Bay Brush. I don't know if it is a chain or not so check you local malls.
They sell old fashioned hair brushes, bath brushes, clothes brushes and razor strops along with towels, shave creams, razors, and wide array of shower products. These are very high quality items. One hairbrush was over $350.
There were about 4 youngish couples looking. All were holding hands. Any guesses on how many were spankos?
Enjoy.
HT
Every Challenge is An Opportunity
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 152
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 19, 2005 - 10:54 pm: |
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Razor strops? OMG! 
Putting toys out where just anyone can buy them...this cant be legal! Ladies, we should picket this place, shut them down...can you imagine the repercussions? 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Headteddy
Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 97
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 19, 2005 - 11:01 pm: |
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I asked TD if she would like that $350 hairbrush for her birthday spanking in July but she said should spend hald of that on dinner and the rest on hair replacement formulas.
Enjoy
HT
Every Challenge is An Opportunity
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Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 82
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 22, 2005 - 01:04 pm: |
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Has anyone finished their balsa paddles? Just curious to know what you think. And remember Tops, it takes a very long application to achieve the desired results.
That's the FUN of it! |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 256
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 22, 2005 - 03:09 pm: |
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Balsa wood? Balsa wood? Doesn't ring a bell with me, Wyatt. |
Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 83
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 22, 2005 - 10:42 pm: |
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Fanny, just look back a few posts.
Now really, I believe this calls for a new thread. |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 261
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 22, 2005 - 11:18 pm: |
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A few posts, Wyatt? I can't seem to figure out what you are talking about.
Balsa wood...nope.
I checked around post #22, couldn't find a thing. |
Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 84
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 11:50 am: |
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Well, I see you're back to your old ways. |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 266
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 11:56 am: |
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Is that considered good news or bad news? I had you going you a minute!! |
Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 85
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 12:23 pm: |
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It seems you recover very quickly. I'd say that's a plus for your bottom. The only downside being you're just that much closer to your next OTK session. Perhaps I should talk to your husband. We could then talk 'shop', and I could recommend he put several seal coats on that paddle. Just to make sure it has a generous STING. |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 268
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 01:03 pm: |
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Do the sealing coats really make a difference, or our you just teasing me? R has been very busy lately, but he has gone online to look for balsa wood. Damn....I had to open my mouth and tell him your suggestion. I just don't know when to quit, do I? |
Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 86
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 01:22 pm: |
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Ours is not sealed, as I occasionally use it on a friend of ours for her birthday spankings. If she's more than a week late, she also gets paddled. And it seems she always is.
But back to your question, Yes, I believe it does. Especially if it's put on thick.
We once visited a 'toy store' and I spotted a paddle made of ABS plastic. And on one side it had gripmat which is the black sandpaper like stuff you see on outside steps. I picked it up to feel it's weight, and DB took one look at it and said "I don't THINK so!" I had to agree, that thing looked nasty! |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 275
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2005 - 03:51 pm: |
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Late for what, pray tell?
Boy, you after everyone, don't you? |
Wyatt
Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 87
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 24, 2005 - 09:33 am: |
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I just don't like the thought of all those
pale, white bottoms strutting around!
So call me an activist.........
"SPREAD the RED!!.....SPREAD the RED!!" |
Sundance
New member
Username: Sundance
Post Number: 1
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 15, 2005 - 10:45 am: |
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I am new to this site and have enjoyed it very much so far. My wife spanks me for every little thing that ticks her off.I do not know if this is the right way to say this but,she uses a 1x4 paddle with holes in it full force and she can hit really hard.I am crying at the end and have marks and brusies that will still show a week later.To me that is the way a spanking should be.Painful but,very enjoyable for both. |
Pagan
Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 53
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 15, 2005 - 01:46 pm: |
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As long as it feels right to the two of you, then it's the way a spanking should be.
If I ever got spanked that hard, Squire would be explaining himself to the nice officer.
I don't know if it's widespread, but I do think that men may be able to take more than women. When I topped my former partner, I used a level of force (at his urging) that I would have definitely considered real discipline if he had used it on me. |
Opal
New member
Username: Opal
Post Number: 16
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 15, 2005 - 04:50 pm: |
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Things around my house have been extremely hard there has been one drama after another and I am at the end of my rope..unfortuanetly when I reach this state of mind I make poor choices which I did last friday night.After having a tantrum I stormed out of the house..rented a hotel room and had some very much needed Quiet time!! No one knew where I was and that is just how I wanted it but that action got me a very severe discipline spanking from my husband the next day when I returned home.
He has a 4 foot long bamboo rod that is about 1/2" in diameter which was harshly applied to my backside while laying on my tummy in the middle of the bed He told me it would be severe and he wasn't joking..He wants to make sure I won't make this mistake again and if I do he says it will be even worse next time, seeing how it is 4 days later and I can still feel the effects of my spanking I don't think that will be a choice in the future. |
Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 572
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 15, 2005 - 06:19 pm: |
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OUCH Opal. Maybe next time you had better let someone know where you are. I respect the need for quiet, alone time, we all need it, but my husband would have had the police out looking for me after a few hours. I think I would have rather been arrested than go home!
"Queen of Innocence"
"oooooo", she says!!
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Opal
New member
Username: Opal
Post Number: 18
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 15, 2005 - 11:11 pm: |
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OUCH is right Fanny and I'm almost sure there won't be a next time at least not in the next few years it'll take that long to forget how hard the discipline for such a mistake will be.
I'll have to come up with another option for quiet time. |
Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 575
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 16, 2005 - 07:47 am: |
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Opal the only mandatory quiet time I have is in my bath. I insist on 30 minutes ALONE soaking and reading each evening. It is not much, but everyone knows they better not knock on that door unless there is major blood loss or a protruding bone.
A friend of mine has an agreement with her husband that she spends one night a month at a local bed and breakfast. Two days and one night to herself a month and it gets her through everything else.
"Queen of Innocence"
"oooooo", she says!!
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 68
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 16, 2005 - 08:34 pm: |
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Boy Opal - I don't think you had better make that mistake again ever. OUCH!!
I like Fanny's friends solution. A monthly get away 2 days and 1 night at a Bed and Breakfast, but the bath daily is a good idea too.
(Message edited by beachley on June 16, 2005)
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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