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Onda_bianca
New member
Username: Onda_bianca
Post Number: 2
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2006 - 08:19 pm: | 
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I have some questions for those that do punishment spankings in their relationship:
1. How did you first introduce punishment spankings in your relationship?
2. What offenses do you actually get punished for? What is the actual punishment/did you agree on the punishment beforehand?
3. How long did it actually take to integrate punishment spankings in your relationship?
4. How does the spankings change the dynamics of your relationship (and was it ever for the worse and not the better)?
I am asking because this is the next aspect of my relationship that I want to incorporate (me being the spankee). I feel as though I am somewhat needing/wanting this aspect (as well as still maintaining our 'play' spankings) but with my fiance, I know it might take a bit more time. Anyhow, I was still interested in how other people manage this aspect of their relationship. |
Jasmine_1958
New member
Username: Jasmine_1958
Post Number: 35
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2006 - 10:18 pm: |
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That's alot of questions to answer. We have been married 28 years, but only 10 or so spanking. Punishment spankings came into play a couple years after the erotic ones. As he likes to spank me more and more, he thinks up reasons to spank me: disrespect, lying, neglecting responsiblities, and my mouth get me in trouble most of the time. I am the one that first asked to incorporate punishment spankings. I had felt that I had done a very bad thing at work one day and wanted to be punished. I asked him to spank me 4 or 5 nights in a row. Finally, I was able to lift some of the burden. He really wasn't into it at that point, because it wasn't something he really knew about. But when I asked him to help me improve my behavior, we just moved toward that end. I've only really had about 3 tremendously hard punishment spankings. The last for drinking and driving, (for the second time.) It was very harsh and something I will never have to endure again, because I will NEVER drink and drive again. As for changing the dynamics...yes definitely. I think for everyone it is a little different. I am always angry for awhile after. I always get spanked before bed if I've done something wrong. About 1:00 I always cuddle and hug and beg forgiveness. I am extremely stubborn so it takes a bit longer for discipline to sink in with me than some others. In the end though, it is always for the better. |
Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 124
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 22, 2006 - 08:36 am: |
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Like Jas, my husband and I have been married for over 25 years, and for us, spanking started as erotic foreplay. I was the one who developed an interested in D/s and BDSM (about 10 years ago- through reading various sites on the net) but did not introduced it to "R" until 4 years ago. After attending some fetish fairs, and researching, He revealed to me his discomfortable with some aspects of BDSM, but the both of us realized that domestic discipline could (and did) play an important part in our marriage. It started out slowly - then gradually deepened into something more. I am spanked for 3 offenses: dishonesty, disrespect, and disobedience. As far as changing the dynamics of our relationship - it has been the most beneficial thing we have done! I am very much in touch with my role here at home and as his wife - while still maintaining my independence (if that makes sense). Punishment spankings (although sometimes harsh and/or severe) are intended to teach me a lesson and let me see the errors I have made within this strong bond we have formed. The spankings are done in love - never in anger. There is always a discussion afterwards, and cuddling. *Unless I have to stand in a corner now and then 
Domestic Discipline is a lifestyle that needs open discussion, trust, honesty, and love. Take all the time you need....talk a lot....and see what happens from there~~I wish you the best~~
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 431
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 22, 2006 - 10:48 pm: |
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Punishment spankings are something that Jake and I discussed right from the start and set rules that we both agreed with and can ammend at any time. Pretty much if he does something I don't agree with, I yell at him until I feel better and acept his apology, and when I do something that we have agreed I shouldn't do, i get a spanking, but we always talk about it both and after the spanking. Sometimes we have talked and I have expressed that I felt I didn't deserve to be spanked; we talked about it and I wsn't. Although this is a rarity, LOL, it has happened. The spankings started right at the beginning of our relationship and has only brought us closer as a couple.
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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