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Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 463
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 18, 2006 - 02:21 pm: | 
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Just generally speaking, and definitely not aimed at anyone in particular, but have you ever read posts/stories/opinions, or gotten emails from folks where you just knew something wasn't right with what they wrote/said?
I've gotten e-mails and have read posts, where I just knew the person contacting me was full of sh**. I seen posts from "women," and would bet all the money I have, on the fact they were actually men, posing as women on line. Or the ones where you just know the story they're telling is so phoney, as it's all the general cliches stuff that we've all heard, or fantasized about.
Some stories that are told are same thing over and over again. Now seriously, if someone lived that life, over and over and over again, it would be boring, right? Isn't it boring to hear the same thing over and over and over again, from the same people? Do you think they don't realize they're repeating themselves, and their same tired fantasy over and over and over again?
I recently was contacted by a bisexual man (in spite of my profile showing interest ONLY in heterosexual males), that claimed to be a "submissive." Later that day, his profile reflected that he was a "straight" sub, and that evening he became a "Dom." Of course people have the right to change their minds, or their orientation, but all in a couple of hours? His profile was then deleted, but the next day was back with a slight variation, and now HE was a "female switch." (Not kidding!) Again he makes contact, and I deleted the e-mail without opening it. Two days later, he's back online, making contact with me, under another new name, as a "male switch" (same photo all the time), and he's writing as if it's his first contact. Either he's VERY confused or playing games, and I tend to believe the latter.
I've learned to take it all with a grain of salt, but it's interesting to note how many actual "players" there are out in cyberland.
Fun is fun, and play is play, but I think when people are sincere in seeking partners (or even playmates) that the game playing is beyond reason.
While I think the advent of the Internet is wonderful, and I'm glad to be a part of it, I have to wonder if it's not sparked more "players" than sincere folks.
Has the "fun" online taken over for reality, and is playing games with emotions, and people, now a sport? (I know some gold medal winners!)
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Ma_vie_en_rose
Spanko
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 57
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, February 18, 2006 - 03:19 pm: |
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O.- He used the same picture when he was a female switch? 
"Sorry dear, I'm going to have turn you down. Apart from not being interested in women, you are frankly the ugliest woman I have ever seen."
It sounds like you get a lot of bad results when looking for people on-line, chaton.  . I hope that we just hear about the bad ones and that there are really good ones too.
quote:Just generally speaking, and definitely not aimed at anyone in particular, but have you ever read posts/stories/opinions, or gotten emails from folks where you just knew something wasn't right with what they wrote/said?
I get that feeling -all- the time. I guess everyone will have the proclivity towards slight exaggeration, and every story will have its bias. Hell, the temptation to lie on-line, to present yourself in the most desireable, if misrepresentative light, is ever-present. Everyone wants to be seen in the best way possible.
Even if that means, taking what you really aren't to an extended degree. Maybe it takes on a bit of a fantastic element in saying that your hidden fantasies are a reality. It's easier to manipulate people if you can be whatever they're looking for, regardless of reality.
And if, odds are, this person is never going to be anything more to you than a screenname, I guess that explains why it happens.
Explains, but not justifies. ~.~
I like to think that people can be as genuine over the internet as they would be in person. Since high school, I've actively made friends over the internet, I've found remarkable people, I've even fallen in love.
...I suppose I've never grown deeply involved enough with someone who revealed themself to me as a lie, or if it were a lie, it was merely a triviality.
Then again, I roleplay on-line, a person's false wishes and desires can be portrayed in their character, and to a degree a mask is expected, but then, the person behind the mask still exists and you can get to know them without the artifice.
But yes, I've met people like that before, just fortunately kept my distance.
(( Oh! Except for my best friend in high school liked to pretend he was a girl. ^_^;; Silly boy.)) |
Ftopinmichigan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 464
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 18, 2006 - 08:03 pm: |
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I appreciate your view. Helps to see how another may see things. 
I guess part of my disbelief comes in that I'm actually only seeking a real life relationship/connection, and I keep getting contacted by players (and not in the good sense). I suppose it is "their" enjoyment, and my frustration. I would think they'd more appreciate someone that would go alone with their games, but perhaps their contacting people is their challenge.
I have no issue with pretend fun, and role playing, but me thinks both parties should know about it (and agree to it)...."before" it starts. 
K
PS Oh, and I finally did open Mr. DontknowwhoIam's e-mail, and he said he's been very out of it and confused lately, as well as his computer mouse having a mind of it's own. Well THAT explains it, doesn't it. |
Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 437
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 22, 2006 - 11:25 pm: |
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K I have read the same crap and it used to annoy me - now I just laugh because it's hilarious that they actually think they are belieivable, but it's sad too, because there are those that get caught up and cannot spot the fallousy that is going on. Good post!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Sarahsbrat
New member
Username: Sarahsbrat
Post Number: 7
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 14, 2006 - 09:25 am: |
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I know several like this, but not to that extent, thankfully.
Both are just plain ol' spankos who want to lurch from spanking to spanking, all the time acting out so horribly that no one wants to deal with them.
I don't personally get into the *play* part of this lifestyle but if a good story pops up or a topic is interesting I will read and maybe reply to it.
I couldn't imagine being so desperate that I would do anything just to belong and the sad part is they don't realise how much they are alienating themselves.
Not just any naughty brat...Sarahsbrat
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