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Onda_bianca
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Username: Onda_bianca
Post Number: 3
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, February 23, 2006 - 08:19 pm: | 
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Very recently, I had my first bad girl spanking experience...so I thought I'd share and make this a thread where others could share theirs if it applies:
So after quite a long time talking about it off and on I got my first bad girl spanking last night/this afternoon. We are both new to this and my SO has been pretty reluctant in previous conversations, but something must have clicked in him. Perhaps it's because it was only a few days ago I brought up the subject.
Long story short, I was pretty grumpy over something stupid and was acting in a way that I shouldn't have; I was basically being a bitch. We were on the phone as he was returning home from an event when I made the mistake of saying something very inappropriate just to see if I could get to him. He pretty much told me that was unacceptable and when he came in, I immediately found myself in a position to be spanked.
I recieved 20 strokes with the belt. At first, I was still angry with him for whatever my silly reason was. I was then shocked until my butt was stinging. I managed to keep silent and not make a sound until around 15 when I had to let out some noise.
After the spanking, I faced him to talk about it when he realized I had dyed me hair (only a slight change). It doesn't seem like that big of a deal, but it is because I broke a promise I made. My fiance doesn't like change and likes my hair the way it is. About a month ago, I made a promise I wouldn't do anything to my hair (cut or dye it) unless I let him know first. I realized I did this mostly out of my immature anger and wanted to get to him a bit.
Well, once he saw that, he confronted me again. I told him I was just upset but I was reminded of this promise. Once again, I was on all fours and I was being given another 20 with the belt. This time, it started off right away on fire and I didn't really take it very gracefully. I truly wasn't sure if I could take it much longer at all. The strangest thing happened though because I became numb and although I felt the sting, I felt able to take it a bit longer. It wasn't too long after this feeling that the punishment was over. We talked about it a little and went to bed. I was feeling better about everything. I wasn't angry, bitchy, or grumpy and I realized I needed what I just recieved. I was in a good state of mind and after awhile of reassurance, we went to bed.
Today my bum was fairly sore and each time I sat down, I remembered it and realized that I did deserve to be punished. I returned home and had a talk with him. I ended up asking him spank me again for how I was yesterday because I felt like I needed another little reminder. Throughout the day, I realized I was acting inapproriately yesterday and the behavior I was exhibitting was one that I did not like to see in others, let alone myself. I felt that if I was reminded again and felt the sting a bit longer, I wouldn't behave poorly for awhile.
So when I arrived home, I willingly recieved more spankings on my already sore bum with a belt. I'm not sure how many because he didn't ask me to count until the last 5. It did hurt, but I felt that by submitting to them on my own was making everything better. I was completely forgiven and now, the issue is completely closed and I am completely at ease and calm.
Unfortunately, my butt isn't at ease. Although it wasn't intentional, I ended up bruising quite a bit and every time I sit down, my butt becomes sore as a reminder of what had happened. It isn't intolerable, but I know it's there and I am sure I will be much more thoughtful in my words and actions.
We are in the beginning stages of taking spanking to the next level (not just sex related). We have discussed the things that I can get spanked for (not following through with promises and displaying bad behavior/being a real bitch) and we have discussed what is and is not appropriate in the way of spankings. I don't think I'll really need to deal with another one of these spankings for awhile...or at least I'll try not to...but I do like the idea that it is there so that I can be a bit better and we will have less fights over stupid stuff caused by me (it is unbelievable how grouchy I can get over VERY SILLY things). Overall, I feel like was a positive experience; although I say this after a great deal of thinking time when it is all resolved.
Sorry mine was so long...does anybody else have something to share about their first bad girl/punishment/otherwise non-playful spanking? |
Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 446
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 02:27 am: |
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AS long as you feel it as a positive experience than I am happy for you and that is good. I am punished by my fiance for infractions that we have discussed, rules rather, and should I break them, I get a spanking.
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Jasmine_1958
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Username: Jasmine_1958
Post Number: 46
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 10:15 am: |
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I get spanked for "being a bitch", too. That's one of my infractions that I really want to be punished for, and was my first bad girl punishment as well. I hate myself when I'm acting that way, and want it to change. I'm starting to go through premenopause and have asked him to help me with the moodiness. So far I've been spanked twice for bitchiness, and afterward I felt so much better. It's amazing. |
Slc
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Username: Slc
Post Number: 7
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 08:17 pm: |
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Being a "bitch" is also one of my rules and is also wh I got my first real spanking. I know I have needed to be "helped" with my moods for awhile.It's only taken almost 11 years for my husband to get tired of them and take action!!! |
Redhinney
Advanced Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 269
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Friday, February 24, 2006 - 08:56 pm: |
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My first real bg spanking was for pushing his mean druck sister in a pool at her annual summer party after I was told in no in uncertain terms that if I let my temper get in the way I would be given a spanking that I woukd rememeber for the rest of my life. here it is 25 years later and I can tell you each and every spank hurt like none other I have gotten since
Love can't always be seen or heard but will always be felt with your heart
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Beachley
Advanced Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 307
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, February 25, 2006 - 09:01 am: |
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My first BG spanking, was also my first spanking.
It was when I was discovering this interest in spanking and bringing it up to Mr. B. He was not judgemental at all but he was concerned about me being in a forum on the computer and about the information in my profile. I told him not to worry about it. He suggested I change it and again I told him not to worry about it.
Then Wolfie's Steve came along saw my profile and told me in NO uncertain terms to get it changed NOW Your Lady. Which I then changed it. Mr. B was NOT happy that I listened to someone I did not even know at that time instead of him. The next thing I knew I was over his lap and away his hand flew. It was not even so much the hurt as he spanked over my jeans, but it was the fact that it was the first time I'd ever been spanked in my life and it was the shock effect, the he was actually unhappy with me, I'd screwed up in not listening to him and he actually took me over his lap. A definite shock for a persons first spanking, not even knowing one was coming or that Mr. B would even give a spanking.
After that the flood gates remained open. Now the spankings come when I want them or Mr. B wants to give one. Very few punishment or BG spankings though thank goodness.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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