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Ftopinmichigan
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Post Number: 494
Registered: 09-2005


Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 07:18 am:   Edit Post

A friend of mine, who is in her late 30s, has a profile listed on a site, and recently was contacted by a 20 year Dom. (Insert laugh here!)

She shared his e-mail with me, which was hysterical, in my eyes. It was one of those "how ru, u nee me" type emails. Now maybe English is not his first language, and probably not his second language either, but my guess is that he's not only immature, but he's probably REALLY stupid, as well. I found his approach atrocious and laughable. (You know how judgmental I can be. )

I personally could not, and would not meet a man that was young enough to be my son. I wouldn't consider someone that young as a play partner, let alone for a relationship. Even the fact that 21 years of age is required to drink in MI, it would surely be a limit for meeting a man too.

She found it ridiculous for her to even imagine being topped by a 20 year old, but I saw it more an approach by a man that was seeking to have a woman take care of all his needs, BDSMwise, and financially. I can't help but see a young man, seeking a woman soooooo much older, as having an ulterior motive behind it. (I'm thinking it goes the same way from a young woman seeking an older man.)

Could you as a spankee be spanked by someone young enough to be related by birth? Do you think there's a special power dynamic with the age difference, or is it too creepy to even consider?

Maybe as a spanker, it might not be as much of a concern for some, but does it make a difference to you?

Does age matter to you, when it comes to a spanking partner?
K
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Redhinney
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 07:35 am:   Edit Post

Top,
Bill is 11 years old than me. I never considered his age a factor but it may be different because he s the Dom in our relationship. Aslo I think because we dated for 8 years before marriage that we had time to devolpe a mature relationship.

If something was to happen to Bill (pray that never does)I wouldn't feel comfortable to be with a younger man as my top maybe as a boy toy but top never.
Love can't always be seen or heard but will always be felt with your heart
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Youngone
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 08:35 am:   Edit Post

K,

Well I have had a couple good and a couple bad expierces with Age.

First there is when I was 14-18 I was with a guy 5 years older then me. He is the one who first helped me realize this lifestyle. At the time it started out great a nice relationship. I do not have a good relationship with my family and that caused challenges and I guess I could have been seeking the wrong things but he was able to give me strength and guidance. After about 6 months of a good relationship something happened one night and the spanking went abusive. After that things went so bad he is still sitting in a jail cell.

To me age the age didnt make much of a difference in that relationship because I think that even if he was my age that he would still be abusive. I have always dated older then me, I dont know why, maybe I cant relate with people my age. I have never dated anyone really older then me though.

I think it comes down to personal perferance. Doms any age can be good it just depends on maturity. If you can make sure that the feelings are appropiate and that they are in it for the right things then age might not be a problem.

If you dont feel comfortable with him/her then it will not help the relationship at all.

Another expierece I have had is I had a Top for a little while who was almost old enough to be my dad. It was never a sexual relationship it was strictly for discipline purposes. So the age really did not bother me during that.

I guess its just a matter of personal choice. But I agree with Red that I dont know if I could be spanked my a younger man.
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Pinkcheeks
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 11:06 am:   Edit Post

"R" is 7 years old then I am, and with that difference comes maturity, stability, and life experience. We have been together for a longtime, and thinking about the question, I can say that I would not feel comfortable with a younger man (topped by a 20 year old?? - wow - I have a son older then that! )
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Fanny
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 12:18 pm:   Edit Post

Not that I think age really matters, experience does. Sorry if I offend anyone, but I haven't worked my way "up" only to train an inexperienced boy.
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Shylah
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 12:22 pm:   Edit Post

Bob is 16 years older than me. I don't want a younger man topping me. That would seem...well...strange, uncomfortable. I don't think I'd be able to get "into the zone" with a younger man smackin my backside. The word that comes to mind for me is "EWWWWW!"
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Bratattitude
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 12:42 pm:   Edit Post

My DH is younger than me by more than 5 years but he is def our HOH. I never thought I would be with a younger man but he is the one for me for sure!
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Tmichellebrat
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 01:32 pm:   Edit Post

My Dom is 26 years older than me ...I am 32 and he is 58 ...I could never have someone younger than me Top me ...it wouldn't feel right to me. Now alot of people have looked at my relationship with "B" with gasps and they have thier opinions which is fine ...all I can say is I fell in love with him , and I wasn't thinking of his age as a factor at all and that is because I love him so who cares that there is a 26 year age difference.
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Shylah
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 02:19 pm:   Edit Post

I agree with you all the way Tmichelle!!!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Ftopinmichigan
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 02:37 pm:   Edit Post

To preface, the majority of my post is related only to having a relationship, and not casual, or spanking play alone.

I prefer men younger than myself. Now that can mean chronologically younger, or even my same age, but the more youthful type of person, like myself.

I find most people I know, my own age, are far too "old" for me to enjoy. It's not their age number, but rather how they live, and how they look, and how they seem to have give up on having fun.

Many of the men I've met over the last few years have lied about their age, to shave off 5- 15 years. Not only do they "look" older than their stated years, but they "move" slower too. It's the first time in my life that I realized how many men lie about their age. It's not just a thing for women, like it's always joked about.

Before I met a man, I asked his age. He told that he was "over 40." What he neglected to say was that he was also over 50, and very near sixty. When I found him out, he said, "well, I didn't lie, did I? I am over 40." I didn't laugh.

My serious relationships have been with men six years younger to just over ten years older. I don't see either being as much of an age gap, especially since being now categorized as middle aged. I also feel the older we get, the gap lessens, regardless of the age. (Although I have to admit when my friends that are in their 50s or 60s say, "you know...people OUR age"...I have to wonder if they know I'm still in my 40s and don't particular enjoy being lumped two decades up.

Spanking parties are difference, and age doesn't bother me, as much as having fun, with someone I know. I've spanked a man as young as 22 years old, and another over 80 (think I mentioned that before). Fun is fun, but within a relationship, I like a man that can share my interests, and can keep up with me.

I'm newly 48, and within a specific profile listing, I may show my preference range of 35-45. But, I also say that I don't limit the high range, as I would enjoy a man as youthful, healthy and strong as myself, no matter if he's older.

I think it was Cher that said, "I'd rather be a babysitter, than a nurse!"

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Redhinney
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 05:37 pm:   Edit Post

I think that others have a different view of age than the people in the relationship. One of Bill's fellow police officer's wife had the nerve to ask if the reason why we didn't have children was that Bill's hands were full with reparenting me. Of course she was referring to our age difference. Yes we are only 11 years apart but to be homest I guess I do look much younger than my stated age.
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Ftopinmichigan
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Posted on Thursday, March 02, 2006 - 06:41 pm:   Edit Post

, Red. "Nerve" indeed!!!!

It's surprising sometimes, what comes out of the mouths of, supposedly intelligent, people, that also claim to be friends. I'd put my money on that women being VERY jealous of you and Bill, and your relationship!

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Redhinney
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Posted on Saturday, March 04, 2006 - 11:30 am:   Edit Post

You never really know what motives people to say things. Less than 1 month ago we were at a funeral and unfortuantely finally met the 2nd wife of an acquinace there who said to Bill I knew she was younger than you but did you have to rob the cradle. I never met this women I don't even know her husband that well the one comman thread was that we all knew the person who died.
I think my young looks has a lot to do with genes (my grandmother died at 94 and didn't have any wrinkles) and the fact that even with being tall I'm small framed (except were in god's name did my breast come from- D cup's)

My point is that I feel others make more of the age differeance than the people int he relationship do. I for one know I can't be comfortable with a men my own age never mind a younger one but I know many females that do have younger man as causal relationships and they are very comfortable. I give them credit.

My view is I don't care what ages people are as long as they are happy.
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Rob
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Posted on Sunday, March 05, 2006 - 12:10 am:   Edit Post

Regarding Ftopinmichigan's post, I think you will come to realize, quite quickly, that people who were idiots, and who managed to be idiots rather quietly, are now over-exposed on the web. The fact that they are illiterate does not stop them from sending embarassing messages to people they don't know. Stupidity is not a function of age. If the poster were Oscar Wilde witty, cultivated, and mannered, you may have given it a try. If he were your age or older, and he posted the illiterate crud that he did, you would (hopefully) still have ignored him.

That said, my girlfriend is older than me, I am the dominant and this has never been an issue.

Oh yeah, and size does matter
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Poofette
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Posted on Sunday, March 05, 2006 - 02:06 am:   Edit Post

Rob, your last comment made me laugh out loud and arouse the curiousity of the entire household!! Thanks for the giggle!

Poofette
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Tigerman
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Posted on Sunday, March 05, 2006 - 09:41 am:   Edit Post

I think that age has little bearing on a relationship...my wife is 16 yrs younger than I and there are very few times that I even notice the difference.If two people click and the dynamics are right for whatever type of relationship you are in then it is more a matter of like personalities meshing together no matter what the number of birthdays one has seen.
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Ftopinmichigan
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Posted on Sunday, March 05, 2006 - 11:24 am:   Edit Post

It does appear that the older man/younger woman is still the majority, and always acceptable. The other way around, still gets looks, and is not readily seen. Just look at all the publicity that Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher received, just because of their age difference.

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Redhinney
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Posted on Sunday, March 05, 2006 - 11:36 am:   Edit Post

I would think that in coming years we are going to see more older females with younger males. females live longer so it makes senses that there will be a shortage of men for the older more mature female.'
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Ftopinmichigan
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Posted on Sunday, March 05, 2006 - 06:56 pm:   Edit Post

I agree, Red. Women do tend to live longer than men, in general.

Funny thing...those very young men, send me instant messages pretty regularly, and when I ask them why they contacted me, they say, "I like OLDER women."

For me, that's just NOT a flattering opening line.

K
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Phallatio
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Posted on Tuesday, March 14, 2006 - 02:34 pm:   Edit Post

I am 45 but recently had a young lady tell me I wasn't old enough! Nevertheless, I am happy to have reached 45. I know finally know what I'm doing and I seem to have reached a desirable age for young female bottoms.
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Fanny
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Posted on Tuesday, March 14, 2006 - 04:31 pm:   Edit Post

Yeah? and what about us "not so young" desirable bottoms?

What defines young anyway?
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Carly
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Posted on Tuesday, March 14, 2006 - 04:55 pm:   Edit Post

Hey who cares about young!! You have your years, your earned them! Wear them proud!! The only alternative to not getting older, is Dead!! So lets all say Yeah!!for the young at heart!!!

Carly
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Phallatio
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Posted on Tuesday, March 14, 2006 - 05:05 pm:   Edit Post

Hey Fanny! If you are still excited at the thought of being spanked, then you are 'young at heart' and someone I'd definitely love to be acquainted with! My point is: women of a certain age do not view a 45-year-old top as being old enough! I will happily discipline women of any age, but every woman has very specific requirements. So, tell me, are my years advanced enough for you?
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Fanny
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Posted on Tuesday, March 14, 2006 - 05:57 pm:   Edit Post

They certainly are sir. My only requirement is that the top is experienced enough to know what he/she is doing.
Queen of Innocence

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Kryssi
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Posted on Tuesday, March 14, 2006 - 08:03 pm:   Edit Post

As a Top, I think they could be younger then me, if they are the same age.. like, only a few months younger.. but not anything more then 1 year. Tyrnal is only 17 days older than me, and I think that is about my comfort range.. not too much older and not too much younger.
"I'm so tired of being here... supressed by all my childish fears"

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Fanny
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Posted on Wednesday, March 15, 2006 - 08:09 am:   Edit Post

Kyrssi, Any much longer than you would be ilegal!!


Queen of Innocence

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Me_home_here
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Posted on Wednesday, April 19, 2006 - 07:37 am:   Edit Post

I think that if the chemistry works, then go for it. age should not be a question as long as there are two (or more) consenting legal aged adults involved. I admitt to not understanding some of those small message service type things, but i'm a young at heart guy who was educated the old fashioned way. (in more ways than one). as for knowing if size matters. Well I think we have enough problems with what we have already.
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Changeling
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Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 11:57 pm:   Edit Post

my problem is I need to have an intellectual/head partner before I trust someone with my butt (etc) or take up a cane myself. No, I don't want anyone younger.

'life goes on...and than one day it doesn't. Everything else is just there to make things interesting'
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Otter
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Posted on Friday, April 21, 2006 - 09:23 am:   Edit Post

Hmmm, well, my husband is just over two years older than me, but I think that's close enough to be called "the same age as me".

I am a bit of the opposite of some people on here. I think a huge age difference would matter less in a serious relationship than in a casual encounter (we don't do spanking parties but we do swing and I can see the parallels). If I loved a man, it wouldn't matter to me how old or young he is. However, I can not bring myself to have sex with men who are older than my father. And (when my children become the age of consent) I will not consider people who are younger than my children.

Now I have revised my standards since we started swinging in that my criteria used to be "no one old enough to be my father" and now it is "no one older than my actual father". I am the youngest of four so this is a difference. Techinically a man 50 years old (or even slightly younger)is old enough to be my father (I'm 32) but my actual father is getting ready to turn 62.

I think that for swinging, we are just talking about sex and it's mostly physical. In a long term relationship, however, I think that compatibility and affection can overcome more surface objections like age difference. This is how people of different religions end up together, I think.
"It was something magic out of something frightening. That's how I live my life, I take it as it comes. In my mind I see the rocking horse inside the tree." -Sara Evans
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Sissy9
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Posted on Monday, April 24, 2006 - 02:13 am:   Edit Post

I need someone older,than myself,respect follows the age for me,providing he has lived life,and has an intelgence level higher than mine,this is related to the disciplianarian end of spanking for me,I guess? If my Dom now happened to be younger with all of the qualities I said, minus the age, I guess it wouldn't matter. I know I'm a lot to handle at times,and I think I need the age factor,for expierence in life. If I were looking for a better speller than myself,that would leave it wide open,LOL.....
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Dreamspank
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Posted on Monday, April 24, 2006 - 03:07 am:   Edit Post

Re the age issue, I am a single female, "mature",
rather than tell the age, and most of the males are younger so I will have to learn to accept it.
Besides, it's often said that younger men and older women get along great!
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Victoria_wood
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Posted on Monday, April 24, 2006 - 09:50 am:   Edit Post

I tend to like older women in general. But I have been topped by a woman several years my junior and she was very good. I think it has more to do with the energy b/w two people than age per se. Of course younger people tend to bring out my desire to top ...
Cheers,
Victoria
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Doublecee
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Posted on Thursday, May 11, 2006 - 10:07 am:   Edit Post

On balance, I think there may be some hope for us more "mature" gentlemen. What do you ladies think?
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Buenaventura
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Posted on Thursday, May 11, 2006 - 12:03 pm:   Edit Post

I,m 65 and work with people between 18 and 45
most of them have a hard time keeping up with me.My spanking prospect for the weekend is 45 and I,ve already told her that she deserves a good spanking.Hmmm she,s a blackbelt in Karate so if I,m not on-line on monday you,ll know I,ve been chopped.Hell maybe she,ll end up spanking me.(Never tried it).At my age most of the women that I go out with are obviously younger than meI find that younger women relate easily to an older man.Couldn,t see living with a woman in her twenties or early thirties but you never know.Young women today are much more mature than when I was in my twenties.(I think)
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Subbie
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Posted on Thursday, May 11, 2006 - 04:29 pm:   Edit Post

My Husband is 8 years older than I am and it just seems to fit, he is mature and has both feet on the ground and has that authority figure air about him. that works for me but everyone has to find their own path and what ever works for you, go for it
i am so good, so spank me and make me bad
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Sarahsbrat
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Posted on Thursday, June 15, 2006 - 06:22 am:   Edit Post

I don't think age should matter. <under age related information deleted>
My friend Hoshi is just a few years younger than her brat so maybe that doesn't count.

But why should age play any more part than anything else?

(Message edited by fanny on June 15, 2006)
Not just any naughty brat...Sarahsbrat
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Weasel
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Posted on Saturday, June 17, 2006 - 09:55 am:   Edit Post

My Mister is only 5 years older than me. While we were seperated (8 years) and I was a "free agent", I dated younger guys. I found they just weren't on my wave length. I always felt like I was their mommy. Then I went back to dating guys my own age or better and felt much more comfortable.
I think I'm too Alpha myself to be beta to a younger man as far as the spankings and D/s thing goes unless he was a real Alpha. Alpha is alpha. When I recognize it, I defer to and respect it. Just because someone wants to be Alpha, doesn't make them so. I would have a hard time with some wimpy milquetoaste or some young whelp who wanted to play at being dominant no matter his age.
You can take the wolf out of the woods but you can't take the wolf out of the wolf. Real Alpha will be Alpha and beta will always know it.
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Sarahsbrat
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Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 01:07 pm:   Edit Post

I did something wrong!!! I'm so sorry!! I don't think I meant it that way but I can't remember what I wrote now WAH!!!

I seem to get in so much trouble here, *sniff*
Not just any naughty brat...Sarahsbrat
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Bailey
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Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 02:05 pm:   Edit Post

For me I'm not sure that age is as much of a factor as maturity. Unfortunately these often go hand in hand. Sometimes I feel hypocritical, because I hate being told by so called lifestyle experts that I'm too young to know what I want, and I need to go away and come back when I've found myself at age 45. I've been this way since..well for as long as I can remember. Literally. I couldn't wait until the day I turned 18 so that I could pursue all of this ethically and legally. I was very disappointed to find 1. that for involvement in most BDSM groups (and many spanking groups as well) you have to be 21, but also that most people simply won't take me seriously because of my age. Fellow submissives told me flat out, "I have grown kids your age, and I don't want this for them." Sooooo I think because of all of that I tend to feel very strongly about supporting young people in the lifestyle.

That said, we are now getting to the part where I am a bit hypocritical. I don't really take young Dominants seriously for the most part, especially if they've made it very clear that they don't have much experience at what they are doing. I know, I know, you have to actually do things to gain experience and it's hard to do that if noone will give you a chance...but I still can't get my head around it. My own Dominant is 10.5 years older than me, and he's actually the youngest of the men I play with. With women I can be a little bit more open minded, but I sill find I gravitate towards older women.

I honestly am not sure the reason for this. I know I am a perfectly capable and competent person at my age, and I assume the same is true for young Dominant people. I guess I just feel that the power dynamic is much more stark and clear with someone who is older than me and who has more experience.

Ok this is sort of rambling, I hope it makes sense to someone!

Bailey
"She makes love just like a woman ... but she breaks just like a little girl."
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Nicenick06
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Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 07:01 pm:   Edit Post

Perfect sense.
Nicely written.
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Katie_spades
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Posted on Monday, June 19, 2006 - 10:14 pm:   Edit Post

Bailey,

It really seems that you have encountered some serious things with this. This is unfortunate. How long have you known you wanted this lifestyle? It is sad that you have wanted this for so long and waited to keep it legal,and then encounter so many issues about people not taking you seriously. That is really sad! It's clear that you seriously know what you want and that is awesome that you can be so forward about it; it's funny, we all talk about how "open-minded" we are in this lifestyle, yet you have dealt with such the opposite and that frustrates me.

I'm sure people don't take me seriously but I have never seen nor heard about the problems you are dealing with for that I am sorry. I didn't think this went on and it's a real tragedy.

But I hear you on the whole dominant needing to be older thing. I need my spanker to be older or I couldn't take them seriously and I don't know why, but for as long as I have thought about spanking, it has always been towards someone older. Although I have never been spanked by a woman, I think I would also gravitate towards older more mature women.

Honestly, I thought it was all written and made perfect sense. Hope you are doing well!

Love and Hugs,
Katie
Katie Spades: The Princess of Spanking
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Tina
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Username: Tina

Post Number: 16
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 07:21 am:   Edit Post

I can't imagine going with someone younger than me. Ick. Prefer at least 5 years older.
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Nicenick06
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Username: Nicenick06

Post Number: 56
Registered: 02-2006
Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 07:40 am:   Edit Post

Well I am pretty old
and I take the younger Bailey and Katie very seriously.
I think when it comes down to it
they could have fun with me but
would they want a long term relationship with me?
(As a theoretical question
as I know both of you gorgeous girls
do have along term relationship)

Going out to discos every night isn’t my scene
(though I love to dance)
but eating in romantic restaurants by the sea is.

Take Care
Nick
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Bailey
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Post Number: 22
Registered: 04-2006
Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 11:10 am:   Edit Post

Nick,

This is sort of a standard answer, buuut.... I'd have to say it depends. I do have a lot of fun with significantly older play partners, but my Dominant (LTR) is the youngest of all of them. Yes, he is still significantly older than me, but as old as the others. I think the reason for this is that we are still *barely* in the same generation. We relate to many of the same things. We have some things in common that we can connect over. I think if the age difference gets to get too great it can be harder and harder ot find those common elements. That isn't to say it isn't possible, people connect to those who are older than them and younger than them all the time, but it does become less likely "in general".

Bailey
"She makes love just like a woman ... but she breaks just like a little girl."
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Katie_spades
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Username: Katie_spades

Post Number: 594
Registered: 11-2005


Posted on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 06:12 pm:   Edit Post

Nick

Bailey explained quite well and I'd have to say I agree with her. Jake is almost 7 years older than me - not much older but old enough that I listen to him but young enough that I can relate and we can connect on so many things. Now I could definitely be spanked by an older male or female but the possibility of anything other than a spanking relationship might be difficult, not to say that it would be impossible; I just have no experience in that. As Bailey said, older people connect with younger people all the time but myself personally, I have no experience with it.

Kate
Katie Spades: The Princess of Spanking
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Buenaventura
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Username: Buenaventura

Post Number: 93
Registered: 04-2006
Posted on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:40 am:   Edit Post

I have a 1 month old relationship with a 22 year old who had never been spanked before.Thats a 43 year difference.I,ve been very honest about there not being any chance of a permanant relationship because of the age difference she insisting that that,s what she wants.The spanking started out as purely erotic and is gradually evolving into a semi punishment thing.This weekend we tried tying her hands behind her and it was a tremendous turn-on for her.She,s suggesting that this weekend we try a gag as she tends to scream a lot when she climaxes.As you can see I,m getting into a(I think you call it DD)relationship that,s very pleasurable for me and the age difference probably enhances.The spankings this past week were semi punishment and i think that this week will be harder still.I,ve been going slow because I have no idea when too much is too much so am depending completely on feedback from her.I,m enjoying it very much and so is she and because of my age just living for the moment.Well probably too long but there it is.
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Amarie
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Username: Amarie

Post Number: 18
Registered: 10-2005
Posted on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:08 pm:   Edit Post

Illiteracy on the web (and elsewhere) has less to do with age than you might think. I've been in chatrooms and on the internet at large since I was 15, and I promise I've been speaking in full sentences with *gasp* punctuation the whole time.

I've seen people of all ages type so wretchedly it makes my stomach churn. I once, I repeat ONCE and never again, signed up for spanking personals. I got emails from all ages, and they all had one thing in common: lack of spelling, grammar and coherency.

That said, my current partner (and hopefully last one) is 7 years younger than me. I have NEVER dated anyone younger until him, and it took me a long time to realize the problem I had with it, is that it is still considered a "social faux-pas" for the woman to marry younger. So I'm mostly over it and I love him dearly. I wouldn't say we're in a "traditional" (is there such a thing?) dom/sub type of relationship, but he is definitely the more dominant partner. Though we don't do much spanking, which is another story. Now if it were 15+ years that might matter, but only in the beginning, I think. Perhaps 20 and 35 are different, but I wouldn't say 40 and 55 are so very different. Or, maybe I'm wrong. Just my thoughts. :-) Not to mention there's a certain arrogance and dominance associated with young men that I think some women find attractive. (Like, my best friend! Who has a penchance for younger men. :-)
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Changeling
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Username: Changeling

Post Number: 57
Registered: 04-2006
Posted on Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 02:27 am:   Edit Post

Hello,
back again with a little more experience under my belt. It's a matter of personal taste. To each his/her own. I cannot realistically see myself with someone much younger than myself. (59)
My no-strings Dom, at 61, continues to be my mentor ( Lucky Me.. and I've got the bruises to prove it! ) however he has also given me the courage to explore elsewhere. Younger? not by more than 3 or 4 years. It's a matter of life experience and commonality of mind, not just the
numbers.
C
Life may not be the party we hoped for
but while we are here we might as well dance
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Butterfly84
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Username: Butterfly84

Post Number: 81
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 09:54 pm:   Edit Post

Personally, I prefer older men. But then again, I'm 21, so I don't really have wiggle room when it comes to "younger" men. For me, a big part of it is that feeling of authority. I just don't get that with guys my own age. My comfort zone is 5-20 years older, but I have dated older. But, no offense meant here, I don't think I could date a man older than my dad. Throw in the fact that I really am looking to get married and have kids, and anyone in their 50's/}60's is probably not going to be interested in starting a family.

Who knows though? Maybe when I'm older, I'll be more comfortable with it, depending on the guy. In the end, it comes down to the individual and his level of maturity/dominance.
~*butterfly*~

Nobody suspects the butterfly...
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The_rake
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Post Number: 1
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Thursday, June 29, 2006 - 09:35 pm:   Edit Post

It's interesting, if not surprising, to hear most of you say that you find an older top to be more natural feeling. There's definitely the "show your elders some respect" thing going on there. I'm 30 and I do quite look forward to the possibility of spanking someone quite some years younger than me when I'm quite some years older than I am now. I've never dated much outside of my own age, with my spankees never more than two or three years older or younger than my age at the time.

Sadly, I don't really see the spanking some delicious young slip of a girl when I'm grey as fitting in with my desire to have a family and so forth in the relatively near future. Some things must remain fantasy, I suppose. No harm in that.

There again, for sheer humiliation, the idea of a much younger top does have its appeal. In reality it must be hard to find someone who is both young and capable enough to capitalise on the potential for humiliation locked into reversing the "respect your elders" reaction that almost all seem to share. I guess I might be pretty much at the perfect age to try such a thing out. Maybe I shouldn't wish my life away quite yet.

In any case, I do think that age has a significant part to play in fantasy, even if it's not one that can always sit well in reality.

Oh and hello. Nice to meet you.

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