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Janusboy
New member
Username: Janusboy
Post Number: 1
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, March 23, 2006 - 04:00 pm: | 
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why at the age of 41 do i have this yerning to be spanked?}} |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2063
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, March 23, 2006 - 08:09 pm: |
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When you can answer that question, please explain it to the rest of us!!
Don't concern yourself with why, just enjoy it, dear boy.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Beachley
Advanced Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 330
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, March 23, 2006 - 08:47 pm: |
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I like the spanking, but I almost like the control aspect as much as I do the spanking. I don't think I'd like one without the other though. They seem to go hand in hand.
Maybe you just need it too, just because, and there is nothing wrong in that, in my opinion.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Redhinney
Advanced Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 359
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, March 23, 2006 - 09:23 pm: |
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After years of doing this I finally realized why ask just enjoy.
Beachley,
I like the fact that he has control as well and to me they do go hand in hand
Love can't always be seen or heard but will always be felt with your heart
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Sassyaawaa
New member
Username: Sassyaawaa
Post Number: 13
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, March 23, 2006 - 11:35 pm: |
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Wow, I think I have lots of reasons at the age of 50+
1)it is a stress release
2)it means giving up control for
awhile
3)it holds me accountable when I am
not being responsible
4)it makes me feel cared for and
protected...from myself
5)because I am a spankee and I do
my best to just accept who and
what I am.
I hope you find your answers Janusboy but it took me years to figure it out and even now sometimes I question it myself but when that happens I just shrug my shoulders and repeat #5.  |
Pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 196
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, March 24, 2006 - 11:03 am: |
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Sassy...your answers are great! It has taken me awhile to figure it all out and you pretty much hit the nail on the head! I just LOVE the feeling of submissiveness when I am over his knee, and I can't think of a better way to relieve stress (at least for me). I, too, no longer question WHY - I just enjoy being who I am. 
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Sissy9
New member
Username: Sissy9
Post Number: 11
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 26, 2006 - 05:08 am: |
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For me it's giving up control,I crave the Dominance over me while being spanked. It's having a man thats man enough to spank,I know that sounds funny.After the pain, there is sub-space.The closeness that is felt after,between my Dom and myself.The fact someone cares enough to spank,if correction.The fact I wasn't spanked as a kid,no one in my family,was strong enough to. The secure feeling I get after,the spanking.It makes me feel like a real woman.It turns me on,after the fact,not during.There is a certin sence of security in knowing you can't get away with everything,and the fact I was in the closet most of my life,and now I reached a point in life, I'm comfortable with me......? |
Me_home_here
Advanced Spanko
Username: Me_home_here
Post Number: 218
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 26, 2006 - 05:11 am: |
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I understand what you say here and I feel the same way except that its my wife who spanks, Its obvious to her that even if its a punishment, that i'm turned on by it and yes there is almost always sex after she has given me the "I love you " hug
All depends on how you feel and if your right or left handed
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Louiseoc
New member
Username: Louiseoc
Post Number: 5
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 26, 2006 - 08:08 am: |
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Damned if I know. I'm 49 going on 50 and I still want it as much as ever, if not more so. I also feel as someone else said, that the control aspect is just as important as the spanking. The control is a fairly recent development in my own relationship, but it has made the whole thing much more satisfying. |
Victoria_wood
New member
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 25
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 26, 2006 - 05:59 pm: |
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I don't really know either! ... But
1) The thought of spanking turns me on.
2) The act of spanking turns me on.
3) I crave that stinging feeling on my bottom.
4) It leaves me with a sense of euphoria.
5) It leads to great sex.
6) It makes me feel powerful and satisfied.
Cheers,
Victoria
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Gypsygirl
Spanko
Username: Gypsygirl
Post Number: 199
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 26, 2006 - 06:11 pm: |
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I think it's great that people can actually quantify their reasons for wanting/needing to be spanked and I particularly agree with Victoria's list although I couldn't have listed them myself. My answer would have been 'I like being spanked because I do' the same as 'I like carrots because I like them and I don't like brussel sprouts because I don't like them'. I haven't looked further into than that.
I forsee spankings........LOTS of spankings
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Victoria_wood
New member
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 27
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 26, 2006 - 06:24 pm: |
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Well, I was inspired by Sassy.
Cheers,
Victoria
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Otter
New member
Username: Otter
Post Number: 46
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 26, 2006 - 11:28 pm: |
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Well, I'm only 32 and we've only been doing this a short time but I have some ideas why I like it.
1. I like the dominance it demonstrates better than anything else. I love feeling like he owns my body, has total power over it and nothing reminds me of that more than spanking.
2. I like the endorphins. Who doesn't like a nice natural high every now and then?
3. I like the connection it brings. Nothing makes me feel closer to him than trusting him to see how far I can go and trusting him to know when and how much I need it.
4. I like seeing how much I can take, pushing the limits, seeing how far I am able to go and how far he is willing to go. Knowing that I just bore a really intense whipping makes me feel strong and like I don't have to worry about anything.
5. I like the reconnection after a fight or infraction. I like the air clearing of it and the deep knowledge that we are fine. I never got that from fighting and three days of silent treatment. Even after we would "talk it out", there was never any way to be sure he wasn't still harboring some resentment or something. Now I know that if he is still bothered by something, he will just spank me more or tell me about it. If he says it's done, it is.
6. I actually like the pain. The more pain, the more I like it until it gets too much to bear but I have only been there a couple times and then only needed a little break.
7. I like the intensity of it and I like the intensity of the relief when it is done.
8. It has sort of a mind clearing effect for me. I like to meditate but it is REALLY hard for me to calm my thoughts and empty my mind. When I am getting a whipping, I am not thinking of anything but dealing with the pain. The way I do that is to concentrate on breathing and my mantra, "It can't last forever. He's gotta stop sometime. Eventually his arm will fall off." Breathing with mantra? That's meditation!
9. I like being the center of attention, especially my husband's. He says, "Good attention is better than bad attention but bad attention is better than no attention, huh?" I replied, "Sometimes, honey, bad attention is good attention!"
10. How much it turns my husband on. Almost nothing turns him on as much as giving me a good whipping. We live our sexual fantasies and still what turns him on is giving me a good whipping. I love knowing that. That is the most amazing feeling. Knowing that my husband is so turned on he has to have me NOW. That might be my favorite part.
Okay, I am sure there are more things I like about it but this is probably too long already.
o*
"It was something magic out of something frightening. That's how I live my life, I take it as it comes. In my mind I see the rocking horse inside the tree." -Sara Evans
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Gypsygirl
Advanced Spanko
Username: Gypsygirl
Post Number: 211
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 27, 2006 - 06:51 am: |
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I particulary like the mantra in point 8.
I forsee spankings........LOTS of spankings
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Victoria_wood
New member
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 30
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 27, 2006 - 08:29 am: |
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Otter,
With the exception of 5 and 10, I feel the same way you do. Well put!
Cheers,
Victoria
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Otter
New member
Username: Otter
Post Number: 47
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 27, 2006 - 03:33 pm: |
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***I particulary like the mantra in point 8.***
Yeah, it usually goes more like "it CAN'T last forever. it's GOTT-a stop sometime. e-VENCH-ally, his arm will fall off." Because that is about his usual rhythm, lol!
"It was something magic out of something frightening. That's how I live my life, I take it as it comes. In my mind I see the rocking horse inside the tree." -Sara Evans
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Eyesdowncast
New member
Username: Eyesdowncast
Post Number: 1
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 30, 2006 - 12:18 am: |
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This is my first post and I'm just gonna dive right in.
I'm 41 and just found out about my spanko/submissive side about 9 months ago.
It started when my husband told me he wanted and needed me to take his sex needs more seriously. I told him I would not make him wait or dismiss him anymore. Basically that I would not say no.
As soon as I said that, my whole being was transformed.
Unfortunately I'm not getting what I need right now and am going through a pretty hard time of it.
Almost wishing I'd never discovered it at all....
But I have a theory that it's an evolutionary survival instinct especially for women who are getting older. |
Eyesdowncast
New member
Username: Eyesdowncast
Post Number: 2
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 30, 2006 - 12:21 am: |
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oops. duplicate post
(Message edited by eyesdowncast on April 29, 2006) |
Changeling
New member
Username: Changeling
Post Number: 39
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Monday, May 01, 2006 - 09:20 pm: |
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I understand Eyes....
It has been a hidden need of mine for decades.(I'm 59)
Alas, when I finally got what I so needed ( and wept for in thanks) two weeks ago it was with with a loving dom who 'clicked' on all levels does not want a relationship (long story)
So here I sit, with no man
wanting what I can't have and hoping to find someone, somewhere.
In the interim I fantasize.
Life may not be the party we hoped for
but while we are here we might as well dance
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 476
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 10, 2006 - 03:31 am: |
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why wuestion it? Just go with it. I used to question and think I was wierd but now I don't because there are so many people that are like this and into the scene, and there is nothing wrong with it.
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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