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Padwangirl
New member
Username: Padwangirl
Post Number: 1
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 12:29 am: | 
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Hi All,
Never posted anywhere in my life, but got up the nerve, was worried about privacy and all, afraid some one I know will find me out.
Any way, a while back I met this very sweet, good looking, tender hearted guy, at church of all places. We became friends w/ the group things and in casual conversation he read me like a book and said he could tell I was into spanking. Guess I slipped one time too many in small talk. SHOCKED, I finally admitted to fantasies about spanking. He was so open and easy to talk to it was amazing, I could tell him things that I could never tell any one. Most TN guys are poor listeners or for that matter guys from anywhere!
He had had his heart broken so badily he said he just prefers to be friends w/ girls over guys, (Because girls are deeper) but slowly as our friendship grew he became my spanking mentor. It started by discussing spanking, he told of ones he had given his exgirlfriends. I started asking spanking questions, he knows it all too. He taught me about warm ups, implements, positions, everything! Soon I just felt comfortable enough to ask him to spank me, never could I have done that w/ any one else! He slowly broke me in and I always felt safe. He could read my reactions and know when to pick up the pace harder or faster. After basic training he introduced me to his personal spanking style he called "Shock Waves". Wow! It involves being required to get nude in a emabarrassing position (Over a spanking bench booty up and every thing visible) waiting in front of a ticking clock in a silent room alone. Told when it would begin (Top of the hour). Then there is nothing to do but think about what is coming and listen to the ticking as it grows closer and watch the hands move on the clock (For 10 minutes). Being there vulnerable and naked is unreal! Then the first minute it is one HARD swat w/ a school paddle, the second 2 (At the 1/2 minute marks), then 3 / 20 seconds, 4 / 15 sec., then 6... until I'm getting 12 per minute one every fives seconds. It is unreal! Dread, then sting, dread then more sting, til I exploded! With the clock you know just when it is coming. I wanted it, but trembled and yet laways felt safe and secure, it is hard to describe. It was the best of both worlds, security and vulnerability.
Well that is my story about the best friend I have ever had. I fell hard for him at first, I was heart broke over his non-interest in a relationship, but I soon learned guys that want your body are everywhere, I had a friend who I could tell anything, trust, and who would fulfill my every spanking need. No sex to get in the way. I know a few girls w/ female spanking mentors, but none w/ a man. Is this rare or is my secret a common one w/ girls out there who also have a male mentor? |
Padwangirl
New member
Username: Padwangirl
Post Number: 2
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 12:32 am: |
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How embarrassing! I hit the wrong smiley! I was going for red faced from embarrassed, not mad! Oh well, I never claimed to be smart! |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 708
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 01:25 pm: |
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Padwangirl, no worries, I fixed your smiley! Thanks for your story. I think it belongs in the discussion area though so I'll movie it now. |
Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 237
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 01:25 pm: |
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Hi Pad and welcome to the den...Sorry I can't relate because I am wayyyyyyyyyy older (lol) then you, and my spanking mentor happens to be my husband. But I am sure you can find lots of advice and friendships right here in the den - we are a very friendly group 
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Pagan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 382
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 02:59 pm: |
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My husband is my Top, but I have a male friend who is a Master. He has never spanked me, but I have asked him many, many questions - ones that I would feel comfortable asking few people. I really appreciate getting a male perspective from him.
Most of my spanko buddies are women though.  |
Gamesmas
New member
Username: Gamesmas
Post Number: 1
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 03:35 pm: |
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Hey there all. I'm brand spanking (lol) new to this stuff. I just met my fiance about 6 months ago and January found out that she was in to spanking. I was very skeptical at first but what the heck, I could at least try. I found that the way it turned her on I REALLY liked it. A couple of weeks ago we received a video about spanking (total waste of money) and we got frisky. The twist was that she wanted to spank me. I've never gone there either but I liked that too. Now we take turns, unless one of us is really naughty. The point is that we are our own mentors / students and that is the way we like it, we have only used our control word once. I am planning on changing that word without notice though. |
Pillow_girl
New member
Username: Pillow_girl
Post Number: 18
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 03:56 pm: |
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Hi Padwangirl
My Hubby is the King of the Realm,aka His Lordship, Mentor, and Holder of the leash that is attached to my collar, ....it's a good group, enjoy..
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Beachley
Advanced Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 346
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 03:59 pm: |
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Padwangirl I think your relationship with your spanking mentor is probably one many a lady would like to have. I think you are going to find yourself to be in the lucky few.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Needspankin
New member
Username: Needspankin
Post Number: 9
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 06:05 pm: |
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Padwangirl,
I am in a spanking relationship with a guy friend that I actually met online. I desperately need accountability and discipline and he provides that for me. I am a serious caffeine addict, but I have been almost 3 weeks without it! After being seriously spanked for disobeying the "caffeine rule" and then lying about it...I decided it wasn't worth lying about anymore! I stopped lying and it only took one more severe spanking for me to decide that caffeine is NOT my friend anymore! Anyway, I think that is awesome that you have him! I have a strictly D/s relationship with my friend, too...NO SEX! I have to say that I'm barely 30 and he is 25...so, although he is younger...he is bigger, stronger, and way more dominant than I am. When he's being serious with me I answer him with "Sir"...it fits! I never imagined myself with a Dom that is 5 years younger than me, but stranger things have happened I suppose. |
Blistering_blonde
New member
Username: Blistering_blonde
Post Number: 37
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 07:17 pm: |
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Gamesma.....
your planning on changing the safe word
**** I am planning on changing that word without notice though.********
not to be critical ..BUT is a safe word not just that ...one you BOTH agree on to keep you SAFE ???
this is ONE thing thats dangrouse to change ....
please do it safe ...its all fun and games ..till it becomes abuse
sorry did not want to add ..but that hit my red alert button |
Blistering_blonde
New member
Username: Blistering_blonde
Post Number: 38
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 07:25 pm: |
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OHHH ACK thats in the WRONG area ...sorry ! i just responded then read the upper posts .. |
Sassyaawaa
Spanko
Username: Sassyaawaa
Post Number: 72
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 07:54 pm: |
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Hi Padwansgirl, Quite awhile ago I, too, had a younger but wiser mentor. I am stictly into disciplinary spankings as a way of accountability, guidelines and motivation, as well as using it as a great stress release. I don't think I am as brave as you as I would never be able to consent to a totally nude spanking session but I do understand, fully, what you mean about the aniticpation, the ticking of the clock, etc. I think that have a mentor, without having a romantic relationship, was one of the best things that I ever did when I finally came out of hiding about my need for discipline and stress release. I wish you the very very best of everything and I am very happy for you that you have someone you can trust and be comfortable with (well as comfortable as one can be when being disciplined). I do hope your friend works past his broken heart and can open his heart to find true love and happiness.  |
Ma_vie_en_rose
Spanko
Username: Ma_vie_en_rose
Post Number: 167
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 09:52 pm: |
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But how do you find one of those, it's such an intimate and sexualised act in a lot of ways, even punitively that I think it would be hard to keep it strictly platonic. |
Sassyaawaa
Spanko
Username: Sassyaawaa
Post Number: 75
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 11:32 pm: |
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Actually, Ma_vie_en_rose, it isn't really all that hard if that is really something you want, just discipline. You see, there are a lot of disciplinarians out there who are married and really do not want to cheat on their wives, it is just that their wives are in to the scene and so their need to spank just isn't met. The only real problem is that it takes two people being totally upfront and honest with what they are looking for and, of course, it takes a lot of time and chatting and emailing to get to the point where you would want to sit down and talk with them face-to-face in a public place. One of the things I used to do is make sure that they knew that I told someone their screen name, their real name, their email address and where I was meeting them.
I made them give me pertinent information such as a cell phone number, a work number with the promise that I would never contact them at work unless I had to cancel a session, and have even had them give me their license number and make them show it to me when I met them in public. Keep in mind, I never met anyone that wasn't strictly into the disciplinary world of OTK. |
Gamesmas
New member
Username: Gamesmas
Post Number: 3
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Friday, April 07, 2006 - 01:43 pm: |
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 I wouldn't really change our safe word, but I do make that idle threat once in a while. Safe is truely the only way to be and since both of us, myself and my fiance, have been abused in the past, safety is a very serious issue. I would never change that rule, just don't tell her that. |
Sassyaawaa
Spanko
Username: Sassyaawaa
Post Number: 90
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Friday, April 07, 2006 - 11:43 pm: |
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Good thinking Gamesmas!!!
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Tammyc
New member
Username: Tammyc
Post Number: 1
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, April 11, 2006 - 11:26 am: |
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 Hi my name is Tammy ...this is my first time at this ...I am a 32 yr old female
(Message edited by bethie on April 11, 2006) |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2104
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, April 11, 2006 - 11:58 am: |
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Tammy, please introduce yourself in the "meet and greet" section. Stay tuned and I am sure you will find lots of helpful information. This site does not match people together, but many have become friends on their own.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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