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Me_home_here
New member
Username: Me_home_here
Post Number: 30
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 10:34 am: | 
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I have a 360 account on Yahoo. I try to be honest about things, am polite and try to respond when someone pm's me . Trouble is, there are lots of people who don't know how to read. They send pm's and once you reply with a hello or hi, they send. ASL? Well if they had read whats in there on my ID they would know. so they get weedled out quickly. There are other people who are online but they have pushed the lurkers button , (yahoo call it the invisible button.) If they are online in the spanko blogs, they are looking for something that we are happy with, So why are they hiding?  There are the others who send a message asking you to sign on to their "friends" list. Once you are on there they never contact you again and if you pm them while they are online, they don't answer. I have had people trying to force their kinks on me too. I don't wear and I dont want to wear my partners sexy (I'm a lucky guy) underwear! so why do they insist once I tell them I'm not interested thank you? well sorry about all of that but I just had to get all that off. Do any of you have problems like that here? I know that we can't send PM's from here but you never know.
I feel a lot better now , thank you for letting me let off steam. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2159
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 12:07 pm: |
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I think there are many members here who have experienced the same things, I know I have anyway. The asl thing bothers me too, it is not very friendly at all. Be careful with who you trust and be prepared that there are people who send out mass "personal messages", although I have yet to really figure out why. It doesn't sound like they want to be "personal" at all. The ones that really annoy me are the ones that won't quit, even after you have made it VERY clear that you are not interested, and they think you want them to push themselves on you. JEEZ!!!
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Gypsygirl
New member
Username: Gypsygirl
Post Number: 18
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 01:29 pm: |
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What does ASL stand for? Sometimes all these initials are confusing.
As to the annoying pm's, can't you block their addresses? Doesn't help though if they change their name slightly, they still have access to yours, but it might put them off a bit. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2160
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 02:18 pm: |
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A(ge) S(ex) and L(ocation)
Kind of like a pre-test to see if you meet their needs.}
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Gypsygirl
New member
Username: Gypsygirl
Post Number: 22
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 02:38 pm: |
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That's fairly offensive, especially if that information is included in the details already. And it gives the impression as though they are checking you out for something else. I know it must depend on the sort of site contact has been made through, and what the aim of that site is but if it's a site for chatting about shared likes instead of a let's-meet site.... Even if it was a let's-meet site, I think a little bit of time spent in correspondence wouldn't go amiss without trying to get down to the nitty-gritty so quickly.
Thanks for the info. |
Otter
New member
Username: Otter
Post Number: 25
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 04:02 pm: |
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The thing about A/S/L is that it is notoriously the hallmark intro question of people who are looking to just hook up, often for cyber sex but sometimes IRL (In Real Life).
It's sort of one of those early warning signs, like if you saw a greasy guy hanging around the playground, you would assume he is a pedophile? When someone says "a/s/l?", it's kind of a red flag that they are a pervert...and not in that good way, either. Normal people generally either check out profiles to get that info or they find it out through standard conversation, ya know? The cyberperv doesn't have the patience for that.
"It was something magic out of something frightening. That's how I live my life, I take it as it comes. In my mind I see the rocking horse inside the tree." -Sara Evans
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Me_home_here
New member
Username: Me_home_here
Post Number: 40
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 06:01 pm: |
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one of the worst things is when someone sends a pm with something like, "hi put your cam on" there is'nt even any ponctuation!!!!!!!! Its like he's already out of breath. I assume its a he, because my mom said that I should always be respectfull of ladies. |
Tammynx
Advanced Spanko
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 363
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 06:14 pm: |
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The ASL thing bugs the HELL out of me....how about a HELLO first. I'm not even nice to people who say ASL first thing. You are so right, they could at least read and then ask questions. I've given up on the yahoo thing. I like the Den for the very reason that you can read and get to know people. An e-mail here and there doesn't really bother me and I've only had a couple and they were nice. |
Shylah
Advanced Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 763
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 06:29 pm: |
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I HATE the a/s/l thing.
I just don't respond to that. Like TammyBrat says...how about a "Hello".
OH...did I say TammyBrat?? I meant Tammynx. (tee hee)
I've had so many pm's in chats that are so lame, sometimes I just HAVE to mess with them! I got one last night that started out with...
Hello, are you free?
I said......
NO. I'm very expensive.
Well, it kinda went downhill from there. The fella was so desperate, he didn't click on the fact that I was not serious.
I'm bad...I know. So sue me.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Me_home_here
New member
Username: Me_home_here
Post Number: 47
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 06:48 pm: |
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Another thing in those places is the guys who pretend to be women! what do they get out of it? |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2161
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 07:19 pm: |
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I have heard about that, apparently if a man is a sub, he gets more attention if he pretends to be female.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Gypsygirl
New member
Username: Gypsygirl
Post Number: 28
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 07:30 pm: |
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I'm not sure I can get my head round that. Does that mean that being a sub can overtake your sexuality? If we're talking about a chat-site or forum and they take on a different persona to get attention, surely they would want to get the attention from the gender that they go for. OK, I can understand a sub getting a thrill out of mucking around a bit with people they have had contact with before and when all concerned knows what the real score is...but to do it to unknowns? I must be more innocent than I thought I was. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2164
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 07:46 pm: |
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There is such a thing as being "too" innocent when you try to play along with some of these people. You have to be careful who you trust and even who you talk to.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Gypsygirl
New member
Username: Gypsygirl
Post Number: 32
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 07:52 pm: |
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The trouble being that when it's all done through Internet, you have to take people's word for what they say. If someone tells me they are a women interested in such and such, I believe them, because I don't lie about what I write, I don't expect others to do it. And even though this is a sexual theme, there aren't always sexual undercurrents in the conversations, if I talk to a women, it doesn't mean that I want to do anything with her.
I suppose it comes down to experience and you get a feel for when people are telling the truth or not. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2166
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, April 20, 2006 - 09:43 pm: |
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I also guess it comes down to whether you really care or not!! If you aren't planning on meeting with someone, I don't think it really matters.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Naughtybynature
Advanced Spanko
Username: Naughtybynature
Post Number: 139
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, April 21, 2006 - 02:29 am: |
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I have my 360 basically to keep in touch with my friends and read there blogs. Same as I set my 360 page up...I have my stories posted in my blog so everyone can enjoy. I receive personal messages, but they have been polite, friendly, sometimes bantering lol and complimentary.
I never set it up to meet like minded people, more of keeping in touch.
Did is a word of achievement, Won't is a word of retreat, Might is a word of bereavement, Can't is a word of defeat, Ought is a word of duty, Try is a word of each hour, Will is a word of beauty, Can is a word of power.
*(Unknown Author)
Don't take life so seriously.....it isn't permanent
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Me_home_here
Spanko
Username: Me_home_here
Post Number: 53
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Friday, April 21, 2006 - 03:08 am: |
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I just go to get any mails now and we're far better here anyway. I might go and look see if I can read some of your stories naughtyby nature
Its like work. the harder its done the better it is!!!!!!!
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