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Slipperings
New member
Username: Slipperings
Post Number: 27
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 24, 2006 - 08:55 pm: | 
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Just have to ask this, how many of you ladies on here like to give spankings...? Are you a top or bottom or do you like to switch...? Just wana get a idea as to how and there the number sit on this... |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 989
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 24, 2006 - 09:21 pm: |
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strictly a bottom - in the sense that I have no interest in spanking my husband (nor would he let me!)
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Chinnook
New member
Username: Chinnook
Post Number: 17
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 24, 2006 - 10:12 pm: |
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I do perfer the bottom but just yesterday my other half did let me spank him. He was annoying me 
So I figured if i was bratty it would get me one so I picked up the brush and gave him a good whack and he let me do it. Now he knows how it feels lol. |
Slipperings
New member
Username: Slipperings
Post Number: 30
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 24, 2006 - 10:19 pm: |
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That is just what I mean...! How can you be JUST and spanker if you have never felt what your dishing out. I think its very fair, if your going to give it, then know what it feels like. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2943
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 24, 2006 - 10:35 pm: |
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Again, I beg to differ. I am not a switch nor is my husband. That is not to say that he has no idea what pain feels like. We live a DD lifestyle by agreement, so we do what feels right for us. In our relationship it would upset our balance of orderliness to switch. That is not to say that DD can't work well in another couples switch relationship. I don't judge and therefore don't like others to declare what is fair or not fair in my personal life.
I don't need to have a pot of boiling water poured on me in order to know it is not what I want.
(Message edited by fanny on November 25, 2006)
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Chinnook
New member
Username: Chinnook
Post Number: 19
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 25, 2006 - 12:34 am: |
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We actually haven't established rules yet.(remember i said yet). It was just a play session between him and I. I think it is ok as long as you can separate play from serious stuff. I do want him to dominate me. But we are two lighthearted and humerous people. We fine humor in anything and everything. Its is just our character. I can spank him playfully and still know he is the boss. I would never spank him for punishment. We don't switch. I do agree with Fanny it depends on your relationship and what works for you. Just with us I know someday he will be trying to punish me and someone will say something funny, it is just our nature. |
Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1521
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, November 25, 2006 - 12:35 am: |
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Sorry but I don't give spankings at all. I'm in a D/D relationship and we just don't switch.
He is the Top and I'm the bottom. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1197
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, November 25, 2006 - 12:56 am: |
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Just so you all know, since Slipperings has hijacked his own thread, I don't mind going off topic at this point.
Slipperings, it wouldn't do Dan (my partner) a bit of good to know what any toy feels like to him because he's not the one who likes to be spanked. I'm the one who enjoys being spanked, I'm the masochist in this relationship, not him. He doesn't enjoy pain in the least so any toy isn't going to feel good to him...but it might to me! How would knowing how much a tawse stings do any good to him when he can't process that sensation the way I do?
Besides, depending on my mood and the timing, a toy that felt like too much last week can feel just right this week, and vice versa. Dan has to depend on my reactions (verbal and non-verbal) to gauge how any implement affects me on any given day. And knowing how a toy feels to him isn't going to help him at all at that point.
That said, I'd never spank Dan. |
Slipperings
New member
Username: Slipperings
Post Number: 31
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 25, 2006 - 02:19 am: |
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Ok....now your statement...."Slipperings has hijacked his own thread"....I have..??? Ok if I have..so be it..OK FLY ME TO....I will get back to you on this one...that is what a hijacker does..Right?
WOW a simple question and it seem that many are getting really bent over it. So much for being open about things... I wonder, is there a DELETE this whole topic botton...I can not find it, but if I do..well you do the math. |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1496
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, November 25, 2006 - 05:23 am: |
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I am a bottom by nature. I have given a brat friend of mine a good walloping tho cos she deserved it! And did it feel GOOD to give her what for!!
Other than that, I don't spank anyone else. In the past I did but not anymore. In my case, it's better to receive than to give.
Not that I haven't threatened my hubby several times. But that's not likely to ever happen.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Buenaventura
Advanced Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 331
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 25, 2006 - 08:23 am: |
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Hi Bethie long time no see.(estoy pendiente)Hey Slipperings nobodys bent out of shape.It,s a good topic.Me I recieved enough spankings when I was a "much younger"(never did like them though)and sometimes have a hard time understanding how my spankee can take what I dish out.A few of the ladies here have shown an interest in spanking me but I guess I,ll pass.
(Message edited by fanny on November 25, 2006) |
Superbrat
New member
Username: Superbrat
Post Number: 21
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 - 02:52 am: |
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Hey again Slipperings:
I think that I could have enjoyed "topping" a man in the past as long as:
a. It was not an over the knee type arrangement because I am small and it would just be too silly
b. It was not to my husband because he is totally not machochistic and is way too alpha male-ish
c. If I got to totally dress up and do the whole BDSM thing, complete with masks and the dungeon.
So - yes in acting out a fantasy, I might have liked it. Not as a lifestyle, but just to see what kind of "endorphins" I might have gotten from the whole scene. Would have needed some "slaves" to do some of the "hoisting" but they could have been part of the whole production too.
Not sure if I would have felt sexually turned on by it during the stroking....but I love theatrical scenes, role-playing and such, so I probably would have gotten some sort of gratification. After I released the "prisoner" I don't really know if I'd want him or not. Something to think about. Interesting topic. |
Blushingbride
New member
Username: Blushingbride
Post Number: 33
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 - 09:21 pm: |
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My hubby said he was curious about what it felt like, so we tried it once. That was enough for both of us to know that we have clear boundries on this - He spanks me, and that's it.
If it was something that had worked for us, I'm sure we'd find a way to sort that out. |
Prissietl
Spanko
Username: Prissietl
Post Number: 77
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 29, 2006 - 10:08 am: |
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I asked my hubby, he said "No Thank You" I prefer to spank you.
Oh well at least I offered......... right????
They just don't know what they are missin!
I have a good friend who would also get one , if i was dishing them out!
Once a princess always a princess
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