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Mistydawn
New member
Username: Mistydawn
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 07:51 am: | 
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As I said on my hello thread I'm pretty new to all this submission and spanking lark. I am overflowing with questions and curiosites . My first question is why does my spankings never leave more than a bit of reddness and then only for say 10 mins. And y can I sit down straight away never mind 2 3 days later. Perhaps he's not whacking me hard enough he says he could do more but not without drawing blood.(he's not ready for that yet) two nights ago after about 20 mins of what I thought was a pretty dam painful session . He asked how many more so I said a 1000. SO with a cane (not a bought one a garden one)he whacked me 1000 times not the hardest he could but bloody hard and fast mainly on my back side but the tops of my legs back, inner thighs etc. as well. It was red hot glowing looked like several welts then I went for a pee b4 bed and when I got back in everything was gone.
If it is that it's not hard enough eeek I don't want to think about it. Is it the equiptment we use we use ? So far we've mainly used crops ,canes, belts, and a slat from the blinds. Things that sting more than thud. We have used thuddy things but not for prolonged sessions. He has used his hand a couple of times for hard spankings but he finishes up hurting his hand after about 1/2 an hour and is my bum marked ?.Is it heck.
SO after my ramblings what does it take to not be able to sit down for a week.
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Victoria_wood
Spanko
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 101
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 08:38 am: |
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Hi Misty,
I think the old saying "you won't sit down for a week" is a great exaggeration (unless it refers to a bruised or broken tail bone). I take very long, hard spankings and I can sit immediately. Sometimes I have slight soreness but nothing to speak of. Now, this may just be how my (and your) body is. Other people no doubt stay sore longer.
Whether you mark and for how long, no doubt relates to your skin type. I used to mark but not much anymore. I take spankings that make me feel like my entire bottom should be black, blue and purple. When I look in the mirror, it's pink. And it fades fast.
Wood should mark you and make you stay sorer longer than the items you mentioned. The heavier toys will bruise more. Make sure to take wood bending over, however, so your tail bone is not exposed. If it's damaged, it can mean permanent pain.
Cheers,
Victoria
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2317
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 08:58 am: |
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Misty, why do you think it is important to leave marks? As Victoria states everyone has different skin tones and types. I think that as you get more into spanking, you will realize that it is the spanking itself that is satisfying, not the marks it may or may not leave.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 930
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 09:17 am: |
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After long spankings, one hour later, I'm back to normal.
I think it has to do with your body type. Some will mark and be sore for days. Myself, a bit of redness and I can only think of one time I was a bit sore the next day but that was years ago.
Try to focus on the satisfaction of the spanking itself and don't feel you didn't have a good one just because you didn't mark or get soreness.
Keep us posted on your progress!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Mistydawn
New member
Username: Mistydawn
Post Number: 6
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 09:47 am: |
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I do underderstand that and also that's partly why I asked the question .I only know what I know and when you see all the pretty pics on the internet you wonder if your doing something wrong and that the marks and bruises are a sign of what you've taken. I like the idea of being able take everything my husband gives and the marks seem to symbolize that. Wayne says not to believe everything I see which again I know is true and I know everything is personal and individual. It's a bit like models in glossy mags. Your brain tells you you shouldn't want or need to be a size 10(britsh) but somehow you still feel it's what you should go for. Being new and the fact that in most things I do I finish up grading myself my head said 'good welts, first rate spanking, Success. For a pretty bright person I can be pretty dumb.
I'm trying really hard to just live,learn and experience.
Everything I do has to be perfect,done to it's limit,or should I say thats what I used to be like. That's one of the reasons we turned our relationship round and I'm trying to give control to Wayne so that I can live a calmer life without all the high expectations I place on myself. Taht and it feels so dam good.
Thanks for letting me vent
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2320
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 10:09 am: |
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Misty, I am glad you realize that models are exactly what you are looking at. Make up does it's trick whether it is on the face or bum. I personally do not think that marks prove the validity of a spanking. I am well spanked, and I appreciate the heat, redness and intimacy. I would rather be more frequently spanked than marked. Also, keep in account that the more you are spanked the less likely you are to mark, sort of like toughening up the area. Enjoy the burn without worrying about the scorch marks.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Pagan
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 436
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 11:05 am: |
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I rarely mark anymore, and I think he's only bruised me a handful of times in three years.
In the beginning, I used to get those little red dots when he used a paddle (like the CB). Once, a good paddling (also with the CB) left me with red overlapping circles for a week or so. I looked like I had a complex red Venn Diagram on my rump! 
Now, it's rare for me to mark at all. I got a couple of back to back spankings earlier this year that left me still red the next day. I think it's because I was really warmed up after the first one, so encouraged him to go for it in the second. It just didn't feel hard at the time.
If I get a sustained, solid spanking, I can sometimes feel it the next day, which I really like. It's not painful though...more just an awareness of it when I sit.
I agree with the others, though. Who cares whether or not you mark? |
Victoria_wood
Spanko
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 103
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 11:38 am: |
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I also think that some models are chosen for how nicely their bottoms redden.
Cheers,
Victoria
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Bailey
New member
Username: Bailey
Post Number: 8
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 12:02 pm: |
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Well, I'm not sure how welcome my comments here will be from some folks, but I did want to chime in with a few comments. First, Fanny, the people I work for (I don't know about all other companies, but for most their practices are similar) do not use makeup to make the spanking marks look more dramatic. They just spank hard. I do agree with you that marks aren't neccessarily a good indication of how hard a spanking was, though.
In fact, and this is related to Misty's question, I don't really mark nowadays. When I first started getting spanked I did mark a lot,a handspanking would leave me bruised. After about a year of getting spanked somewhat regularly I stopped marking 90% of the time. We took a rather long break from spanking and I did start marking again, but now that I am shooting videos regularly I basically don't mark. Sometimes I will randomly come home with bruises, but it is totally random. My bottom seems to have adjusted to spankings. And, as a few other people have said, some people just don't mark as easily to begin with.
Bailey
"She makes love just like a woman ... but she breaks just like a little girl."
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Redhinney
Advanced Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 432
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 08:05 pm: |
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I rsarely mark expect if Bill does an long warm uo than I will be reddish for a day. If he is really trying to get a point across I might burise but that is so rare. There have been times that I felt sore afterwards for a couple of days but that's usually after several long spnakings over several days like during one of those long wonderful weekends filled whit GG only
Love can't always be seen or heard but will always be felt with your heart
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 834
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 11:15 pm: |
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Bailey, I'm glad you spoke up since you are in the business. I have to get a really long and hard spanking before I even get close to red so it often amazes me how quickly some of those girl's bottoms turn crimson in some of those videos. I used to wonder but as I've gotten to know more people in this industry, it seems that makeup isn't used after all. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you (like Katie) are with Real Spankings aren't you? They're a well-known and reliable company so your comments are helpful.
Misty, don't worry about how other people mark or stay tender. That's just the way you are. It's a good thing if you look at it the right way. You can take more spankings so enjoy them in the moment. There are some spankees who mark terribly and can only be spanked very infrequently at the level they enjoy. Marks can be nice but I think it's nicer to be able to enjoy more spankings than to have something to show for it.  |
Bailey
New member
Username: Bailey
Post Number: 9
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 12:41 am: |
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Bethie, yes, I do model for Real Spankings =). I know there are a lot of suspicions about makeup and trick lighting floating about, but I've never encountered it myself and I know several people in the industry from several different reputable companies.
I *do* think our age and lifestyle can play a role in how red and/or bruised a person gets. Someone who is living an active lifestyle, eating 3 meals a day and getting all the reccomended vitamins is going to have a different response to trauma than someone who is 19, living in a basement apartent and living on ramen and easy mac. *cough cough*
Also, this may be a silly question, I'm not sure, but I did want to ask those of you who have never marked... do you usually start slow and progress to the harder spanking, or do you do "cold" spankings? I know for me I will be more likely to mark from a cold paddling than from the same paddling after a long, slow, warmup.
Bailey
"She makes love just like a woman ... but she breaks just like a little girl."
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 835
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 02:42 am: |
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We usually start with a nice warm-up which really gets me ready (in every way) for a more intense spanking.
If I get a cold spanking, I still fade really quickly and rarely mark for longer than a few hours. But sometimes I feel it longer if there's no warm-up and I get an intense spanking. I wouldn't recommend that for anyone who's not into intense spankings like I am, but sometimes I just like it hard and heavy from the beginning. Of course, I've been at this for years and my bottom is conditioned for that kind of spanking. (Okay, so my bottom is tough.) 
Yesterday Dan started with the riding crop and quickly moved up to the big heavy strap. My bottom turned red but then it faded fast and within an hour, there wasn't a sign I'd been spanked at all. But today I can still feel it. There aren't any marks, no bruises, but my bottom is tender. |
Victoria_wood
Spanko
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 111
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 08:54 am: |
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I find that no warm-up makes it hurt a lot worse at the beginning, but it gets my endorphin level up quickly and I can take more.
(Message edited by victoria_wood on May 18, 2006)
Cheers,
Victoria
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Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 423
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 09:24 am: |
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Only time I was marked was when "R" used a wooden paddle - like Bethie, I often like (and get) a cold spanking - its intense, and there is LOTS of color - but it fades after a few hours as well. Personally....I love those long warm-ups
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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