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Silverfox
New member
Username: Silverfox
Post Number: 1
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 11:16 pm: | 
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Hello, folks. SilverFox here. My wild-hearted wife (ten years my younger) really loves a good wailing. We've been together now for 5 years - and spanking her has definitely kept the spice in our relationship. But now she has really floored me. She has befriended another woman in our neighborhood, and they had drinks last week. Turns out her new friend is also a willing submissive. Later, my betrothed playfully said that I should spank them both on their birthdays (both born in June). But she repeated it once again during a lovely session over the wine bar, and I think this time she was serious. Strangely, I find myself both piqued - and nervous. We have never taken our fantasy outside the confines of our relationship, or our home (with the exception of one exquisite time in a choir loft. Oh - delish!) Thoughts from anyone before I give it the thumbs down? |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1690
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 12:24 am: |
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Make sure your wife is really serious. Sit down with her and discuss rules beforehand...then discuss those rules with the other woman as well. If that goes well, then have some fun. Just remember its a birthday spanking and make it enjoyable for everyone. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Subbie
New member
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 37
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 07:00 am: |
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This would not work for me, my opinion a third person coming in is an inviation for trouble. i would not do well sharing my husband, jmo
my name says it all
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Mistydawn
New member
Username: Mistydawn
Post Number: 21
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 07:16 am: |
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Hi, Its all a matter of trust and understanding. If your hapy and secure in your relationship discuss it openly the for's and against and then decide.
We haven't done anything ouside the relationship. I fantasize about it a lot and it was a definite no from W. But he has now started popping others into his fantasies and wish list quite alot.
There hasn't ever been the opportunity and I don't know if push cam to shove wether we'd follow thru'.
But opportunites are just that and I probably would regret not having tried it.
As with most things communication is the KEY
Misty |
Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 421
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 07:28 am: |
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The thing that caught my eye here, Silverfox, is that out of the 3 times this discussion took place, twice it involved alcohol. Perhaps your wife's inhabitions were down because of that? I know that for me, personally, a few drinks and I can be dancing on table tops  .
Wolfie has some great advice.... a SERIOUS discussion is needed before anything occurs. Like Subbie, this is something that would not work for hubby and myself. Fantasy is a wonderful thing, but I think too much could go wrong as opposed to going right....but this is my humble opinion 
Misty is right too...trust, understanding, and LOTS of open communication before you do anything. good luck!
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 939
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 08:08 am: |
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Both Wolfie and Pinkcheeks make very valid points.
Sit down over COFFEE and discuss it with both of the ladies. Make sure that it is something they BOTH want and that it is a serious request and not a fantasy. Then, let them know YOUR thoughts on it.
I would suggest that first, you think long and hard about what you feel about it. IS it something YOU would enjoy? Or would you be participating just because it was what they wanted. It's a two way street. And everyone involved should enjoy it.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Victoria_wood
Spanko
Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 113
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 09:03 am: |
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I agree that you should talk seriously to your wife about this, and then to both of them.
However, I don't think it's such a bad idea. M and I generally don't play with others, but at a recent party, she let her friend spank me and then they both did. It was great fun b/c we trust this friend.
I am also considering asking M to spank my new cyber-friend from World Spanking Forum, if we ever actually meet. She needs a spanking and has no partner.
I think it could be fun and work out fine, but if sex is involved it might get a LOT more complicated. So best to find out what this friend has in mind. She may think spanking and sex go together. If you want a 3-way, that's fine, but it opens up the possibility of jealousy, a lot of times unexpectedly.
Cheers,
Victoria
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Silverfox
New member
Username: Silverfox
Post Number: 4
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 10:09 am: |
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Boy, am I glad I joined. I have much to learn, but I do know that spanking is a powerful aphrodisciac (spelling) - it is sort of like a waking fantasy. And fantasy tends to breed other fantasies. "Liz" has a great imagination and derives deep satisfaction from the roles she takes on when I lovingly paddle her. She's a scientist, and DD allows her to escape the unrelenting rationality of her world. I am also imaginative, but not to the same degree. But Liz may be getting a little carried away with this one. Time to get on the same page.
By the way...I definitely think she should be caned for even mentioning the suggestion to me! |
Bailey
New member
Username: Bailey
Post Number: 10
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 11:37 am: |
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Hmmm well I don't know that I have a *whole* lot to add, except to reinforce the fact that commuication is the key. That said, my perspective is from a polyamorous relationship where both myself and my primary partner can and do form relationships with others. I get spanked by several different people and it has never caused a problem in my relationship (other than the fact that my regular shooting schedule can make it hard to find a time to play). So, I would say talk to you wife *first*, and make sure both you and her are on the same wavelength, then you both talk to the friend. Everyone needs to understand thier boundries.
One more comment, cause I can't help myself! If I got punished any time I threw a crazy idea on the table,I'd never sit down! My Dominant *wants* to hear what I'm thinking and feeling, even if it's just a fantasy. I think personally I'd be hurt if I was punished for making a suggestion like that. Maybe she would find it to be a good thing, but thats my two cents anyway.
Here endeth the blithering.
Bailey
"She makes love just like a woman ... but she breaks just like a little girl."
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Beachley
Advanced Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 371
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 18, 2006 - 07:07 pm: |
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Talk, Talk and Talk. You don't want to make a mistake on this one.
If she is simply talking about some fun spanking (no sex) and it revolves around their birthdays that's great. Mr. B has spanked both Wolfie and myself a few times while laying over the edge of the bed and I am hoping for a similar situation with Steve driving when we all meet up again in the fall. But this is simply fun spanking. Or playing the Dom to your wifes friend could be fun but only in a play scenario.
If as your wife says that her friend is also a sub, what are they asking of you in real life? Does she also want you to be the Dom to her friend. I don't think this would work very well outside of the play scenario. It could become very complicated in real life.
Hope this all helps and good luck.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Silverfox
New member
Username: Silverfox
Post Number: 10
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 01:05 am: |
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An update, fellow spankers and spankees. I told Liz no - that I didn't want to cross the threshold yet, that I kind of like this to be exclusive. She pretended to gaff it off, but I knew she is dissapointed. I guess I am really floored how she wants me to do this friend. Although I am titilated beyond words at the prospect of a fresh ass, this is what works for me right now.
Thanks to all for the helping hand. You guys are great! |
Bluepencil
New member
Username: Bluepencil
Post Number: 40
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 08:38 am: |
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You have to go with your gut on this one. Once the buss has been spanked, there's no taking it back, and if you're not comfortable with the situation then you've made the right decision.
there's always June of 2007!! |
Bluepencil
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Username: Bluepencil
Post Number: 41
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 08:39 am: |
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Ah Sorry, that should have been butt. Too early in the morning to see the keyboard correctly, |
Naughtyboy50s
New member
Username: Naughtyboy50s
Post Number: 17
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 08:24 pm: |
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Hey Silverfox, It's a spanking-Leave it at that!
If she wants it as a sexual turn on, make it clear to her and your wife beforehand, that's all it's going to be!Just a spanking-She should go home and glow in the aftermath-Without you and your wife! |
Ladygator2904
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 116
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 09:34 pm: |
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I think it sound like fun but be careful because spanking is erotic to many of us. Be sure you fully discuss the possibilites or an erection and how you will handle things. How you and your wife feel about you or her, or the other female becoming sexually aroused. Maybe your wife has already discussed it with the other female <g> women can sometimes be very open with each other, especially very good friends. If it truely is just a spanking. GO for the gusto and have lots of laughs. Birthdays are meant to be fun!
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 879
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 - 10:07 pm: |
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Silverfox said, "Although I am titilated beyond words at the prospect of a fresh ass, this is what works for me right now." He's decided that's what works for him so that should be the end of it.
Honestly I can't say as I blame him, I myself prefer exclusivity. I know I wouldn't like Dan giving anyone else a spanking, even a birthday spanking for fun, just because I know what it means to us. It's foreplay for us so it'd be like watching him make out with someone. Not my idea of a good time. I know it's not that way for everyone, but it's that way in this house. Dan agrees with me on this btw. |
Weasel
New member
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 12
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Monday, June 12, 2006 - 05:21 pm: |
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I think you made the right choice, Mr. Silverfox. Mr. W and I have "swung" with both singles and couples prior to our 8 year breakup. We've been so wrapped up in each other since he came home that making room for a third party has never come up. I don't think I'd personally want it now.
Sometimes fantasies are best left as fantasies. Especially when they crop up after imbibing a drink or two! |
Kiwi_man
Advanced Spanko
Username: Kiwi_man
Post Number: 245
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 13, 2006 - 04:37 am: |
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Good on ya Silver fox.
I would also give my S/O 20 mins otk for coming up with the idea.If I were in your shoes. Which of course I'm not. |
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