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Wyatt
Junior Spanko
Username: Wyatt
Post Number: 96
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 25, 2005 - 10:33 am: | 
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What are your thoughts on 'cornertime'. Either before or after a spanking. Also, having to display the bottom, such as over the paddle bench and other positions, before and after a spanking.
I'd like to hear both sides, so everyone please give your input. |
Simplekindoflife
New member
Username: Simplekindoflife
Post Number: 29
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 25, 2005 - 11:39 am: |
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I think they are both very evil things
I am always running around topless!
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Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 293
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 25, 2005 - 11:53 am: |
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My opinion..I think corner time is a rediculous waste of time. There is plenty of viewing time while in position. That is where the importance of length of the spanking is important. A spanking does not have to begin the moment postion is established nor end with the last (?) swat. I have had an actual 5 minute spanking take as long as a half hour or more. |
Pagan
New member
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 27
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 25, 2005 - 01:15 pm: |
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I don't do corners. I find that childish and demeaning. Luckily (for him) he's never asked. I know that he wouldn't find it appealing either.
Post spanking, he's a little preoccupied with getting me into a different position. 
But hey, if it's fun for both, knock yourselves out!  |
Headteddy
Spanko
Username: Headteddy
Post Number: 106
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 25, 2005 - 01:27 pm: |
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While Wyatt and I usually agree in this case I'm with Fanny. The post spanking OTK massage of TD's bottom has been the norm for us for years. I get all the visual I need and can issue a few more well targeted swats just in case she decides to make any more bratty comments--which she almost always does. Also we feel it gets us to the "kiss and make up part" (R rated).
Just me but I find the thought of her smarting pink/red bottom glowing under her clothes one of the sexiest things I can think of. Once we went out to a fancy political party after a quick intense spanking and she caught my eye, pouted , lifted her skirt andflashed me a quick glimpse of a bright pink lower cheek when noone was looking. I wouldn't trade that for corner time -no way no how! God I love her.
Enjoy
Every Challenge is An Opportunity
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Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 297
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 25, 2005 - 01:50 pm: |
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Yes Teddy!! I am getting you to agree with me more and more. Everything you said is soooo true.
Personally, I like lying on my stomach on the bed afterwards and having soothing lotion or massage oil applied. So sensual and R has a great view and a good feel of his "work." Plus, as you mentioned he can always finish up any area that needs more attention. |
Beachley
Junior Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 55
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 25, 2005 - 08:48 pm: |
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Mr. B and I tried corner time once and we ended up laughing together. I could not take it seriously and would not stay. The only way he could get me to stay was to swat me and to stand directly behind me. So we both did corner time. Not for long though, there was no point or fun in it.
So we went to a movie instead. 
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 170
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 26, 2005 - 12:00 am: |
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I know a lot of people like to do corner time but since we're into the more erotic and sensation play aspect of spanking it doesn't work for us. After a spanking session we're busy attending to other things. *wink*
What little serious spanking we do is more for tension release and the only place I want to be is in Dan's arms after one of those. After which we are again too busy doing "other things".
And before HT reminds me. Yes, I do get pre-shopping behavior modification spankings. After those I'm off to shop - no time for corners.
We don't do the displaying my bottom thing either. Dan likes to admire his work but in a more close up way. Which leads to "other things" yet again. |
Kendra
Spanko
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 119
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 26, 2005 - 12:12 am: |
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Wow, I feel like the odd man out here, but I think corner time before a spanking can work well, mostly because when an actual discipline session is needed (Usually if I'm raging mad) it gives both of us a chance to calm down. Tyr is calmer and we aren't yelling and screaming at each other anymore. That is one of the things, as I discussed on my blog, that I have a problem with what Tyr calls tantrums. Okay, they are, but as a more "adult" term I refer to them as "an expression of emotions through my irish temper". Anyway I hope that answers your question.
"you must tie her down and spank her, spank her well and after you've spanked her, spank me.."
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Fanny
Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 299
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 26, 2005 - 07:56 am: |
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My situation is that if I am having an "emotional expression" I am too worked up to deal with. There is no way you would even be able to get me to sit still let alone stand in a corner. R always stays calm and waits for me to burn myself out, and then he goes in for the consequences. |
Smartnnaughty
New member
Username: Smartnnaughty
Post Number: 41
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 26, 2005 - 12:03 pm: |
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Corner time! Isn't that just another part of the submission of a bottom to the top? I would think so. I haven't done it but then I haven't been spanked much (except for last weekend).
There just is something about being told what to do that is a turn on. Plus that always gives me the idea of protesting so I can be a brat that needs another spanking.
Will I never be satisfied?  |
Sugarpie
New member
Username: Sugarpie
Post Number: 2
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 02:11 pm: |
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Wow! Am I the only one? I do cornertime when we roleplay, but it's never very long. I think he mainly just wamts tp get a good look at his handy work.
(Message edited by sugarpie on June 07, 2005) |
Biggirl
New member
Username: Biggirl
Post Number: 21
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 10, 2005 - 06:55 am: |
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Theh thought of him getting a good look at his handy work on my (hopefully) red ass is exactly what turns me on about corner time during role playing.
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Sugarpie
New member
Username: Sugarpie
Post Number: 8
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 10, 2005 - 02:21 pm: |
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I think it's cute too...standing in the corner is a roleplay for us.
btw...is ageplay not allowed here? |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 243
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 10, 2005 - 03:54 pm: |
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Sugarpie, sorry, but we don't allow ageplay on this board. Discussing what outfits you like or mentioning roleplay scenarios you enjoy are okay as long as it's clear the participants are adults, it's not too detailed (to avoid slipping into real roleplay), and it's relevant to the discussion.
This discussion is a great example. No one has gone into details what type of roleplay they're participating in here. We're just discussing one aspect of playing that can mean different things to different people. Another example, when discussing what people like to wear, someone can say they like wearing a schoolgirl outfit w/o giving us details of what role they're playing.
Ageplay in the cyberplay area or in stories isn't allowed in any form. Sorry.
And thanks for asking. I know it's confusing but I have to be careful since I want to keep this board public.
(Message edited by Bethie on June 10, 2005) |
Sugarpie
New member
Username: Sugarpie
Post Number: 9
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 14, 2005 - 08:01 am: |
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Thanks Bethie. |
Spanker4u
New member
Username: Spanker4u
Post Number: 7
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 06, 2005 - 07:05 am: |
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For me cornertime can and does have a part to play in punishment spankings. Before during and after. And the reason is that it is often, almost always, the case that cornertime is the one thing that the "naughty girl" dislikes more than being spanked as punishment. That and also of course the very different emotions, tone of voice and "the look" are what makes a punishment spanking a real punishment. It is not the pain of the spanking since pain is, I hope, not the objective. For me the objective is reinforcing consequences and accountability and hopefully behaviour improvement and modification. Achieved without long drawn out argument and with the air cleared after punishment.
Erotic and sensual spanking is quite different of course. No corner time is appropriate there, unless it is a part of a role play, and there are much better and more satisfying and satisfactory ways to admire one's handywork than
putting a red bottom on display in the corner. |
Vulcano
New member
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 9
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 02:52 am: |
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Me too, we sometimes do corner time... or rather kneeling time , but it's quite rare. We're are usually having sensual playful spankings and, as Spanker4u said, it's not appropriate here. Maybe sometimes, when my top leaves the room to get some other implement he orders me to kneel down and wait, but I usually wait bend over the table. But here, it's a turn on anyway, because I love the way I have to submit. In punishment spankings, it's way tooo different. I need corner time... the best is in the middle of the spankings... just to realize what's going on and what I'm being punished for so that it all has some effect at all... or rather better effect. I'd rather stand kneeling down for a short time (it's never long, just a few minutes before he prepares himself) than getting another punishement spanking . I could even get a bit frustrated if I'm not ordered to kneel down in these occasions and mentored... it feels like another erotic game (for him it's always a game... till now, at least as far as I know... he didn't really feel like really punishing me for anything though I guess he was sometimes a bit upset at what I did). And as an erotic game, my feelings get completely messed up and I often feel like doing the thing again just for the added pleasure of spanking it will bring me  . I guess, I'm not an easy spankee to satisfy... . Corner time in the end seems too much for me, after the punishment spanking I need... we both need... soooo much tenderness and forgiveness that corner times would spoil it all and just made me feel like ... I don't know... far away from his love and unhappy. |
Nky13
New member
Username: Nky13
Post Number: 3
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 31, 2005 - 03:39 pm: |
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Corner time (or nose up against the wall time when corners are not available) are an important part of the discipline spankings I administer. They serve two purposes. First, they increase the sense of shame in the mind of the victim since I lecture her throughout the cornertime. Also, since my punishments are severe, it gives the victim a breather between installments. If she's a good girl I offer the reward of allowing her to rub her bottom during cornertime. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 485
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 14, 2005 - 01:06 pm: |
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Nick, I'm not trying to be argumentative but what your describing would confuse the heck outta me. If the person is there for a punishment spanking (and she obviously knows what she has done wrong and why she's there) then why would you offer any type of good girl reward at all? Isn't that saying two different things at once? Your adding to the punishment by using cornertime...and then you say "since you've been a good girl, you can rub". I would think this would detract from punishment since the person's mind would be in turmoil.
And I find your use of the term "victim" really insulting. One doesn't punish a victim...one abuses them instead.
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *pout*
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Babyj4
New member
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 32
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 14, 2005 - 01:27 pm: |
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corner time is unapealing to me. after a spanking I want to be held close. It calms me down and reasures me that he loves me and I am forgiven. Though the 1st time he spanked me he left the room right after and left me there thinking things over (it was torture being alone). The 2nd time he just held me, that was much better. every other time was sexual and playful, so we were busy with other things.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 489
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 14, 2005 - 01:41 pm: |
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I feel the same way Baby. If my Dom ever just left me when he had finished with a disciplinary spanking, I would crumble into a sobbing heap. I need him to hold me and let me know I am forgiven and everything is all right with the world again.
A true punishment spanking hurts him as much as it does me, so we both need to cuddle for a while and reassure each other that things are ok. That convinces me more than anything else that I dont want to repeat whatever I did wrong...I hate putting him through that.
Mmmmmmm, love those "other things"! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *pout*
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Babyj4
New member
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 39
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 14, 2005 - 02:50 pm: |
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totally wolfie, I didn't cry when he spanked me, but when he just stopped and left the room I balled. Once I calmed down I went into the living room and climbed into his lap on the couch. I felt so ashamed and cryed some more. I asked if he still loved me and he said yes, and he wasn't mad any more.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Bookie
New member
Username: Bookie
Post Number: 8
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 16, 2005 - 08:18 pm: |
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I have just recently joined all the spanking "fun", although I do have a disciplinarian, who thinks that cornertime is important in the discipline. The first time we met, which was Sept. 8th, he put me in the corner, and I was amazed at the headspace it put me into. (I have NO spanking with my husband, other than a few smacks at odd times) After the corner time, he spanked me over my skirt, and then put me back in the corner. I had always sworn, after reading spanking stories about discipline that I would NEVER do cornertime, but it gave me time to regroup, and think about what had happened, and what was to come.
After the 2nd corner time, he called me back, put me OTK, and raised my skirt. Then he spanked, hard, and gave me a taste of different implements. I didn't cry, but it was very painful, emotionally. He put me back in the corner, holding up my skirt, and told me to think about the shame of a woman of my age being in the corner with her red bottom on display. It really reduced me to a well-spanked, naughty girl, and when he let me out, I came willingly to him for hugs and comforting, which in my estimation is the best part of spanking.
When I went to the Paddles OTK party on the 10th of Sept. (the one that Wolfie wasn't at!!! ), only Bob put me in the corner, and it felt like, as it was, roleplay, which was pretty much fun in itself, as I felt free to slouch, and stomp, and be a brat...I didn't feel that way with my disciplinarian...it felt very real and serious, and I was amazed that I didn't mind it at all, as it got me into the right frame of mind. |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 496
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 17, 2005 - 07:45 pm: |
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Sheeeesh....miss one otk nite and they never let you forget it! 
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
ISN'T IT OCTOBER YET? *pout*
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