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Badwife
New member
Username: Badwife
Post Number: 9
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 07:39 am: | 
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Does anybody here self-spank? If so I would love to chat more about it.} |
Reader_girl
New member
Username: Reader_girl
Post Number: 5
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 28, 2005 - 04:32 pm: |
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I think it's a measure of last resort. But I have done it in the past. Sometimes I just get past the point of being able to stand not getting a spanking. At this point, I don't have anyone to ask for one.  |
Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 404
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, July 29, 2005 - 02:35 pm: |
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Don't you run into the problem of being too in control that way. What I mean is, one of the great aspects of a spanking (if you don't happen to know I'm a switch) is that the level, frequency, intensity, etc etc etc is not something you can't control. Does that become a hitch when self spanking? You have the ability to sensor or favor yourself, does it get in the way?
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Kendra
Spanko
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 207
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, July 29, 2005 - 08:38 pm: |
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I will admit I have self spanked (although my husband doesn't know that.. so SHHH) I haven't seemed to have any problems with that, because all of the impliments I have used sting no matter how hard you hit.. I tend to aim for the bottom of the butt where the legs meet and it seems to work better that way.. I have never brought my self to tears, but I have had a pretty sore butt.
Hope this answers your question Rocco.
Kryssi
May the Spirit of the Elves guide you.
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Beachley
Junior Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 100
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 30, 2005 - 10:21 am: |
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When Mr. B was traveling so much, I used to take to give myself a few swats now and then to just get that tingle feeling. I agree Rocco a lot is missing when the control aspect of being OTK or held is missing and the self-spanker controls the number of swats. But if that is all you have available to you, it is better than nothing.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Reader_girl
New member
Username: Reader_girl
Post Number: 6
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 31, 2005 - 06:45 pm: |
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I agree with Beachley: "if that is all you have available to you, it is better than nothing." I can think of a few other activities that fit into that category. 
Rocco, as a single woman who is in charge of every aspect of my life, I'd love nothing more than to relinquish some control to someone I love and trust. Sometimes you don't get that choice.
On a lighter note, long-handled implements are easier to use. My favorite for quick and stingy is a former cat toy (the cats broke it). It's about 30" long and made of some kind of flexible plastic - you know, the kind that comes with a string attached and some kind of toy for the cat to chase at the other end. When I'm more interested in pain, I use a long-handled bath brush. But you have to be careful with those, they can leave some wicked bruises (hard to explain during swimsuit season.) |
Redbtmboy
New member
Username: Redbtmboy
Post Number: 6
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 31, 2005 - 07:21 pm: |
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I have had to resort to self-spanking for some time. It wasn't until recently that I opened up to my vanilla wife about my spanking desires. As mentioned above, I, too, would give myself a spanking to get that feeling going. It's tough because it just is never the same without the anticipation build-up. It's always hard to vary the intensity of the strike and get good coverage on the entire surface of the behind.
I would try and imagine that I was ordered to give myself 'x' number of swats with the belt (or other implement). It was enough to get a warm glow going but always left me wanting for more.
On a related thought, I have toyed with the idea of a scene with my wife where I was forced to spank myself while she watches and gives direction. Not sure if we'll explore this or not, might be a little on the fringe for her. |
Sparky555
New member
Username: Sparky555
Post Number: 1
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 31, 2005 - 08:46 pm: |
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HI I'm a new boy in the den and yes I have been into self-spanking for a while for a number of reasons, not least being a bit of a loner! I am also a 'switch' so perhaps a self-adminstered reddening of my buttocks fits both sides of my psyche. All I know is I feel really good when my butt is tingling!
Sparky 555 |
Bigfoot1408
Junior Spanko
Username: Bigfoot1408
Post Number: 63
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 02, 2005 - 07:28 am: |
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hmmmmmm..verrry interesting....... |
Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 412
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 02, 2005 - 11:50 am: |
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Readergirl, I understand not having the chance to release control, it wasn't a judgement at all. It wasn't that long ago that I let my current girlfriend about my spanking desires. Sometimes in life you just have to do what you have to do. ;-)
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Sparky555
New member
Username: Sparky555
Post Number: 4
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 03:33 am: |
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Self-spanking is not so much about control, I think, but more to do with gratification. Stinging buttocks are only part of the whole process, the end of a spanking to be savoured in whatever way you like. So having spanked my buns to a glowing red that has my arousal well illustrated, what next? What all of us really want - gratification!
What thoughts?
My turn - bend over!
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1001
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 07:53 am: |
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Gratification is what it is all about Sparky. Personally, I don't have the self discipline to self-discipline. 
"Queen of Innocence"
Be willing to pass up good, for great!
"oooooo", she says!!
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Naughty_girl
New member
Username: Naughty_girl
Post Number: 4
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 07:01 pm: |
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I'm fairly new here and have been looking for someone to discipline me. I've contemplated spanking myself but haven't done so because I'm sure I would stop before I had any effect. It's difficult when you're single. |
Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 457
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 07:09 pm: |
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Do you have any type of impliments that would help make the effect your after relatively quickly? You might get what you need befor you stop yourself.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Naughty_girl
New member
Username: Naughty_girl
Post Number: 5
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2005 - 08:39 pm: |
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No. I've made an appointment with a mistress to see if she can function as a disciplinarian. Will just have to see how it goes. But thank you for the suggestion. |
Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 463
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 04:36 pm: |
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I hope your appointment goes well and you find what you're after. Just becareful.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Sparky555
New member
Username: Sparky555
Post Number: 6
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 07, 2005 - 08:49 pm: |
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I gather Rocco's response was to naughtygirl - the choice of self-spanking implements. Well, I thought I'd slip my tuppence worth in here. The less flexible, the better. A strap, belt or even tawse is difficult to control in making sure the target is found! A can is too cumbersome. A light paddle is probably the best. Although I have a marvellous spatula that is just right for me - maximum sting from minimum trajectory! And an occasional 'bottom' I know loves it too! Posture is important - but that's another question.
Sparky
My turn - bend over!
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Vulcano
New member
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 3
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 08:28 am: |
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Self-spanking was the only possibility for me for years... even seems like ages  . Even as a teeneger I used to self-spank, before I even started to think about sex itself. I really considered myself weird. Clothes hanger used to work fine for me. Recently I had the guts to contact a man who was searching for somebody to spank and as I was abroad for a long time, we started with him ordering me how many swats etc. You are right, Rocco, I needed him to take control, it felt much better, almost as real. And when I returned back home... well, no self/spankings now, I have enough of the real ones  |
Pagan
Junior Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 72
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 09, 2005 - 01:21 pm: |
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I tried self-spanking as a young teen. By 16, I had found someone to do it for me...and never went back! 
I personally didn't find it satisfying. I just didn't have the leverage to do it hard enough.
Even though I've tested new toys on myself (after being rather unpleasantly surprised at how much a light little toy like the CB stings) before handing them to my husband, I don't find it to be much of a barometer. In my hands, anything we have is no big deal.
In his....
I don't know if different toys are required for satisfying self-spanking (physically satisfying) to compensate for the leverage loss, or if I unknowingly back off so it won't hurt. I don't think it's the later. I've tried giving myself a pretty good whack because I know it will feel a lot harder when he uses it.
How do you self-spank with a belt or long strap without wrapping it? It's not like you can really see what you're doing... |
Rocco
Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 499
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 11:46 am: |
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Good question Pagan. I can't imagine making a belt wok on ones self. With out a lot of missed hits and some real damage... ouch.
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Sparky555
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Username: Sparky555
Post Number: 7
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2005 - 08:29 pm: |
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Interesting! Comparing self-spanking to the real thing, as with masturbation to the real thing, appears to be a stop-gap borne out of necessity and the fact that one is alone. For whatever reason. Personal preference has to be the swish of a well-swung cane or the persistant swatting of a cheek to cheek spanking hand. But if neither is available and the spirit so moves, that lightweight spatula brought down firmly vertically on bent over buttocks is a most acceptable alternative.
Sparky
My turn - bend over!
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Wm82465
New member
Username: Wm82465
Post Number: 10
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 18, 2005 - 02:06 am: |
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Hello '''so called self-spankers.............its all a mind set.....I have brought myself to many a tears. You just need to tell yoursef how bad you have been and keep smacking your bottom no matter how much it may hurt...love you all.........WM |
Badtom
New member
Username: Badtom
Post Number: 23
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 18, 2005 - 07:09 am: |
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I used to self spank because I had noone to do it for me - I always had a yearning to be properly taken in hand. Now I have someone to spank me but I still self spank because its fun, and the opportunities don't always come when my partner is around and willing.
I've not brought true tears, but I've had the occaisonal wetness around an eye, and forced a few whimpers. And now I've been writing about it, I'm going to go and do it... |
Badtom
New member
Username: Badtom
Post Number: 24
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 18, 2005 - 10:25 am: |
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I'm back from self-spanking experiment number 245 (or whatever) and it's good to look at the results of 50 hard ones with a slipper on each side plus some more because I'm sure I lost count. It is possible to persevere and carry out a punishment, but I can't emulate unpredictable timing, strength and placement - I know exactly what's coming and when. Still enjoyable though. |
Otktheplace4me
Junior Spanko
Username: Otktheplace4me
Post Number: 85
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 18, 2005 - 10:34 am: |
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Problem I have with self-spanking is I maintain control. Never been able to spank me to tears...have to bruises and wincing (high threshhold of pain I guess) but never to tears...
Remember to be good!
Remember to be good!
Remember...darn it...
what was I supposed to remember?
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Pagan
Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 160
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 18, 2005 - 12:03 pm: |
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Hm...it seems like many of you who indulge do it as self-discipline. Maybe that's why it doesn't work for me.
For me, spanking is sexual. I don't consider self-spanking to be as good a proxy as masturbation is. It just doesn't satisfy me. The whole kick of it for me, aside from the physical sensation, is having it done by my partner.
Without him...just not the same. |
Babyj4
Supreme Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 1038
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 18, 2005 - 12:05 pm: |
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totally Pagan
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Badtom
New member
Username: Badtom
Post Number: 25
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 18, 2005 - 08:14 pm: |
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No, self spanking for me is sexual, it's not just self-discipline - there's sensuality, and fantasising going on as well. No-one's saying it's ideal, but it does while you're waiting for better. |
Naughtybry
New member
Username: Naughtybry
Post Number: 1
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, October 22, 2005 - 01:14 pm: |
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Hi All, it's so nice to find this site, I am unbelievably in need of a spanking, or at least some place to talk about it.
I do self spank quite a bit, never been able to bring tears, but several times I"ve been able to make my hands quiver to the point of not being able to hit my bum again |
Master60s_pet
New member
Username: Master60s_pet
Post Number: 41
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 23, 2005 - 11:16 pm: |
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I self spank under the directions of all three men who watch over me Master and my two tops. One of my tops we can't do it that way anymore it just does not work out time wise. Master calls and instructs me to self spank, he listens to the sound of my voice whether it is changing. He also can hear if I back off. I have bruised myself self spanking. When you have done it for three years you still crave it whether it be like the real thing or not.
MASTER60{master60's_pet}
I am a blessed brat..I am well loved and taken care of.
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Otktheplace4me
Advanced Spanko
Username: Otktheplace4me
Post Number: 772
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 23, 2005 - 11:21 pm: |
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Pet...girl...I feel you...personally a bit shifty today...if you know what I mean
Remember to be good!
Remember to be good!
Remember...darn it...
what was I supposed to remember?
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Sdhrts
New member
Username: Sdhrts
Post Number: 10
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 24, 2005 - 02:52 am: |
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Last resort action, but more common that I'd imagined. The only satisfaction is the delicious sting I'm afraid. All that sweet loss of control and exciting humiliation are missing. Unless you have an audience....lol |
Master60s_pet
New member
Username: Master60s_pet
Post Number: 42
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 24, 2005 - 09:32 am: |
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You can still have the humiliation factor. Running to every room and floor of your house naked and with a paddle in your hand can be very humilating.
MASTER60{master60's_pet}
I am a blessed brat..I am well loved and taken care of.
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Naughtybry
New member
Username: Naughtybry
Post Number: 3
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 30, 2005 - 02:44 pm: |
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Hey all, I was chatting on line with a girl one night, and we were on this same subject, she asked me if I had ever been coached, or as she called it "cyber spanked", I said no, it was still new to me. Well, she walked me through getting ready, and then we started, she had me use various items I could get ahold of, and before long, I was unable to continue, my hands were a little uncooperative, and my bum was quivering. I didn't quite get tears, butt I had several bruises, and a great sting that lasted for days. It was great, and I had a smile for as long as the sting lasted. |
Shadowrose45
New member
Username: Shadowrose45
Post Number: 16
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 31, 2005 - 09:14 pm: |
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it can work via phone--to some extent, for those that want/need dicipline.
For me, it was all I had till I actually met a Dom in R/L.
He knew when I wasn't spanking hard enough, and controlled everything. Again, it's the mindset.
For just the 'feel' of it-- wouldn't do anything for me, I'm afraid. I need the mindset. |
Badwife
New member
Username: Badwife
Post Number: 18
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 07, 2005 - 09:48 am: |
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Sorry I haven't been here in awhile. My computer crashed big time, then once I got it back other stuff was going on.
I am so glad that there are others out there who like to self spank. I was beginning to wonder there for awhile.
Looking at some of your comments I like to say I have never brought myself to tears but I can spank myself hard and for a long time & give myself a red and sore ass.
What I do is break up the spanking into sessions. I usually have about 2-3 hrs to spend spanking myself. I decide what implements I want to use, then figure out some things I want to spank myself for, then decide how many swats each offense deserves. When this is done I then figure the total of swats I have coming. Then I set up, give myself the swats in sessions.
For instance like today I'm going to be really giving it to myself good. Has been quite awhile since I have. I have choosen 5 implements. Wooden spatula, hairbursh, wooden spoon,rubber spatula and a wooden round bath brush. I have done or not done quite a bit of things, so my ass is going to get it good
First session= 100swats on each cheek with each implement=500 swats
Break for 10-15 mins
Second session=100 swats on each cheeck with each implement=500 swats
Break
Session 3=100 swats on each with each implement=500
Session 4=Same as above
Each session I hit harder. So by the end of this, each cheek will get 2000 swats.
Then later tonight if I can convince my husband to do so, I will ask him to add to it. If he does he will have me get into a position that my ass is high in the air, and proceed to do the following.
Pants up=10 swats on each w/whip
20 swats on each w/hands
10 swats on each w/belt
20 swats on each w/hands
Pants down=Same as above, but will add 10 swats w/hairbrush after last 20 with hands, then another 20 with hands.
This is just a basic view of what I do. Sometimes I will add to it. Hope you enjoying reading this |
Pagan
Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 265
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 07, 2005 - 10:04 am: |
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 2000??????
Mind you, it is hard to hit yourself with the same force as a man who is above you.
Yeah, I wouldn't have the patience for this. I'm used to getting spanked for say 5-10 minutes continuously. That's long enough to be plenty red, and be nicely tender. I don't think I could get myself there in the same amount of time.
Can I ask though...why not just get him to do the whole thing, if he's going to spank you anyway? Or is he reluctant to spank you as long or as hard as you'd like. |
Badwife
New member
Username: Badwife
Post Number: 19
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 07, 2005 - 10:12 am: |
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Yes it is hard to hit with the same force, but you see that is why I do it this way. By the time I'm done with it, my ass feels as if it had been spanked by somebody else.
He isn't really into spanking all that much. I am very lucky if he will continue the spanking later. He also sometimes doesn't know his own strength & when he does spank me he starts off way too hard. I need to have the gradual increase. Most of the time his arms are sore from working all day so if he does spank me it is for a short period of time. |
Badwife
New member
Username: Badwife
Post Number: 20
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 07, 2005 - 10:17 am: |
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You see folks this is the main reason I do myself. One hubby just isn't into it, two he really hits way too hard. I have been looking for a female partner to spank me, but not much luck. I have a child who is in school from 8am-3pm so I have to do this while she is away. Weekends pose major problems since she is home. Basically what I'm looking for is someone who either can come here or maybe once in awhile their place since I don't usually have a car available during the day & spank me. Someone who will work the spanking up gradually. |
Sdhrts
New member
Username: Sdhrts
Post Number: 42
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 07, 2005 - 11:00 am: |
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Badwife, remind me not to show my new girl friend this post....lol It might give her ideas about how many to administer to my buns. Hang in there; I've had some long dry spells that ended abruptly. I’ll bet thee is someone right around the corner waiting to take over the whacking duties, or your hubbie might just come along.
Good luck either way!
Is IT Better To Give Than To Recieve?
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Badwife
New member
Username: Badwife
Post Number: 22
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Monday, November 07, 2005 - 11:06 am: |
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I'm not holding my breath that hubby will come around. He has known my desire for many years & we have discussed it too many times to count. I just will have to hope that I find that special female to administer the spankings I need.
Well I'm signing off here for a least a couple of hours. It is time to put the pillows on the arm of the couch, get my implements out, straddle the arm of the couch, bare my ass & start session 1.
Damn I wish somebody else was doing it. Also wish I had a better web cam, I'd be even willing to let somebody watch me. Oh well. |
Badwife
New member
Username: Badwife
Post Number: 24
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 09, 2005 - 09:52 am: |
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Just to let you all know that later that night after my self spanking sessions, hubby delighted me by actually spanking my ass. First he did some with my pants up. I got the following
20 swats each cheek=hands
10 " " "=whip
20 " " "=hands
10 " " "=belt
Later on he bared my ass gave me all of the above plus 20 with wooden spatula & 20 with bathbrush.
Then he told me to spank myself hard with the bathbrush while he watched & told me how bad I was.
Now today Wed I have to spank myself more. He plans on checking my ass when he gets home to see if I did so. Don't know what if anything he will do if I don't. So I guess I get to bare it & spank it good again today. |
Kendra
Spanko
Username: Kendra
Post Number: 364
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 09, 2005 - 05:30 pm: |
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Doesn't that seem a little severe to you? What on earth did you do? Or was it a number of things?
May the Spirit of the Elves guide you.
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Pagan
Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 267
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 09, 2005 - 06:14 pm: |
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It's always interesting to me that people do spanking differently.
BW, it sounds like you really enjoy receiving a certain number of whacks with each implement. Count them, keep track of them.
And it sounds like your hubby follows the same pattern. (Which came first, the chicken or the egg)?
Do most of you do things that way?
I never know how many or how long I'm going to get it. Until Squire decides that either he or I have had enough.
General question: Do you like knowing, or do you like him to decide?
I don't get 'real' spankings, but I like NOT knowing how much I'll get. He can decide that. (Although there's never yet been a time that he went further than I wanted. Although I may have inadvertedly stopped him a time or two). |
Ftopinmichigan
Junior Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 141
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 09, 2005 - 06:43 pm: |
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I think if I "counted" the number of spanks I gave that I wouldn't know what would tire me out quicker...the actual act of spanking, or doing ALL that counting.
K |
Badwife
New member
Username: Badwife
Post Number: 26
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 10, 2005 - 09:13 am: |
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When I self spank I think of things that I have done or haven't done. Then I do decide what I think each offense is worth in terms of swats. Then I break it up into Sessions. Arms do get tired after awhile. Concerning hubby & counting I have to do is this way. Otherwise when does give it to me it can get out of control. He hits hard, doesn't know his own strength. When hubby actually spanks me I have to basically control the situation, unfortunately. Most of the time it's more of a role playing situation with him. I would love for him to spank me when he is actually truly mad at me for something, but most of the time that doesn't happen. We have a child at home & when he does get mad at me, she is usually here. By the time she is gone, he has calmed down & getting him to spank me for whatever had happened doesn't work. Then even he did have the chance he starts off way too hard & that just doesn't cut it for me. |
Ftopinmichigan
Junior Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 144
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 10, 2005 - 09:17 am: |
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Oh...and just FYI, in view of the topic title, I just want to clarify my response was related to "not counting spanks"...and that refers to spanking men, not myself.
K |
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