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Janeycameron
New member
Username: Janeycameron
Post Number: 1
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, December 14, 2005 - 11:25 pm: | 
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Ok Uh. My husband of 12 years told me about a week ago that he wants to spank me. It seemed like an odd request so I've been doing some research on it and it appears its a pretty common thing actually. But I'm not really sure what to expect. From what I've been reading I guess you guys would call me a "vanilla". Any other vanillas out there that gave in to their partner's desires and if so how did it go?
He hasn't brought it up since. How to bring the subject back up without embarassing him? I think I may have had a confused and/or surprised look on my face when he first proposed it. He was quite serious & I was surprised because he had never mentioned it before. Why after 12 years?
He's always kind of joked around about it. He's told me a few times before that if I didn't do something that he was going to "spank my behind" but I just kind of figured it was his way of joking around. I guess he was actually hinting & it just flew over my head...
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Katie_spades
Junior Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 59
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 12:55 am: |
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Welcome but I'm sorry I can't help you with your question. I have always been curious about spanking but if this helps at all, it might seem a bit odd at first, but it just might be an enjoyable experience!
Please sir, I don't need a spanking. I'll be good, I promise!
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Hunny
Spanko
Username: Hunny
Post Number: 982
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 06:24 am: |
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Welcome Janeycameron! Maybe you should give it a try...if you don't like it tell him immediately! Spanking is not for everyone and that if okay, but you'll never know until you try it! I'm sorry I can't say much more in the topic, but I really have no expirience in this particular subject. |
Ftopinmichigan
Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 252
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 06:38 am: |
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Hi, Janeycameron. Don't wait! I've been a spanko since I was about four. Many of us knew at a very early age, but didn't know what it was all about. When the old movie "Animal House" came out, my then boyfriend, whispered into my ear, during the frat paddling scene, that he wanted to do "that" to me. I was horrified that he said that, and it didn't excite me, it made me pretend I didn't hear him. He never brought it up again. Well...to push WAAAAAAAYYYYYY ahead...it wasn't until almost twenty years later that I finally came to enjoy my interest. Don't wait!  If you want to try it....do it, or you'll either regret it, or think about it more than you need to.
K |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 1840
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 09:23 am: |
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My guess is that since you researched and came to this site, the idea must interest you at some level. Give it a try, I mean, what's it gonna hurt?! 
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Closetoedge
New member
Username: Closetoedge
Post Number: 2
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 02:51 pm: |
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Janeycameron:
I like to explain to those not into the spanking world that asking a " vanilla" like yourself to get spanked is a bit like being gay. To us in the spanking world we think of spanking and other aspects of D/s completely normal but to those who who do not understand and like it, it is very different. Using pain for pleasure is a hard concept for those not into it to grasp and understand and sometimes agree with.
I would assume that if you are married for 12 years, that you love and TRUST your husband.I would further assume that he would NOT do ANYTHING to hurt you either physically or emotionally. If you like, try it out and see what happens. You could find it erotic and fun and in time , find it to be a nice addition to your love life.
J |
Janeycameron
New member
Username: Janeycameron
Post Number: 2
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 08:27 pm: |
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Well Of course I trust him completely so thats not an issue. I find the idea a little exciting but maybe thats because its something new & different. (I'm not sure what to think yet) I think I will entice him into it later (as playfully as possible) and just kinda go from there.. Thanks for the insight.. |
Shylah
Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 519
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 08:33 pm: |
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Hi Janey
Just go for it. You seem to have the interest and he obviously does. It's trial and error. And it can be fun!!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Zippo
Advanced Spanko
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1418
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 16, 2005 - 02:39 pm: |
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Hi Janey, welcome to the den. One way to bring it up without embarrassment to him, would be to bait him with something like 'what are you going to do about it' if he mentions spanking, just place yourself over his lap and let him make the next move. I was the vanilla in our relationship, but had a desire or fascination about spanking that I had never explored because of its taboo in mainstream society. Thats my two cents for what they are worth..(I know its worth 2 cents)
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Katie_spades
Junior Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 68
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, December 16, 2005 - 11:12 pm: |
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So what's the verdict Janet??? Are you going to say anything???
Please sir, I don't need a spanking. I'll be good, I promise!
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Tmichellebrat
Junior Spanko
Username: Tmichellebrat
Post Number: 58
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 19, 2005 - 12:40 am: |
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Hi Janey and welcome to the den! My advice is the same as everyone else ...go for it ...try it...what you don't try you will never know if you like it or not. You never know, you might end up loving it! Giving it a try isn't going to hurt! |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 548
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, December 19, 2005 - 03:10 am: |
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Hi, Janey, and welcome! As you can already tell, we've got a friendly and helpful group of spankos here.
Read through some of the threads and you'll see that your husband isn't the only spanko who took years to voice his desire. Sometimes it just takes time. I think it's great that you're taking the time to look into his interest. He's a lucky man! Good luck and let us know how it goes! |
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