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Neoserenity87
Spanko Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 293 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Friday, December 23, 2005 - 10:23 pm: |
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Ok, help me out guys because I'm completely clueless. Is there anyone in a relationship that introduced a spanko interest to their vanilla partner?? If so then how does one go about it?? Alrighty, here's my details. I'm with a guy I've known for a while. We really trust eachother and all that and we're starting to get a little more serious. I've been sort of dropping him hints when we joke about spanking that I'm into it. I don't know....is there any specific way to introduce this sort of thing to your partner?? Help????? .....dang, back to Iraq again.......oh well, watch out Iraqis! Here comes Rudy!!!!
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Sdhrts
Junior Spanko Username: Sdhrts
Post Number: 96 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Tuesday, December 27, 2005 - 12:49 am: |
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I also have dropped hints to my significant other and have had luck with that in the past. She threatened to spank me on the phone the other night, so I see progress. The direct approach is next if that doesn't work. I've found it easier to get a vanilla person to spank me than me them, at least in the beginning. Hope that helped you out and best of luck. Is IT Better To Give Than To Recieve?
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Valleybrats
New member Username: Valleybrats
Post Number: 4 Registered: 12-2005
| Posted on Tuesday, December 27, 2005 - 03:04 pm: |
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The younger you are, the trickier it can be to bring it up. I mean, eventually it pays to be up-front but, thinking back, that wasn't always true. |
Katie_spades
Junior Spanko Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 119 Registered: 11-2005
| Posted on Wednesday, December 28, 2005 - 03:01 pm: |
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This is a tought one hum... I wish I could help but have nothing to offer. Good luck! I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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J1234
New member Username: J1234
Post Number: 13 Registered: 12-2005
| Posted on Thursday, December 29, 2005 - 08:15 pm: |
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My hubby was a vanilla, but now he is very happy to spank me if I ever need one or give me erotic spankings. To bring this interest to life, I hinted a few times that I would enjoy getting spanked, but the way it actually started is that he walked in on me testing out an implement on myself... I cannot say how embarrased I was! I was sure he would be completely scared off and file for divorse the next day! LOL... But, instead, he used that implement and spanked me! From then on we kind of explored it together with me asking and guiding and telling what I want and how hard I want, etc, then we worked out an issue that hitting hard is ok and that being somewhat bruised is ok... I never asked for a DD because to be honest I am not really sure that kind of stuff is for me, but I love the emotional release spankings I get! He is getting really good at judging me as to how hard and how long to go, and how to give me what I need without going over my limit. I don't think he'll ever be a spanko, he will never have the same level need for it as I do, although lately he's been very eager to help me out-was making me wonder whether deep down he enjoyed it as much as I do. LOL. I am really happy I have him as my husband. |
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