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Mistydawn
New member Username: Mistydawn
Post Number: 1 Registered: 05-2006
| Posted on Tuesday, May 16, 2006 - 05:56 pm: |
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Hi my name is MistyDawn & have been with my wonderful husband 15 years and I have two children . I am desperately trying to be submissive but I have always been in control and we are both finding it hard. I have so many conflicts about our new lifestlye. One example We both totally believe that no man has the right to expect anything from their partner just because of their sex (let alone punish them) YET I desire to give him everything to be punished 4 not pleasing him. With all my heart I believe BOTH statements. I physically submit easily but the mental side and why I'm doing it confuses the hell out of me. We have only been spanking for 4 months (we have only been doing anything 4 months) but from what I've read on here I can identify with so much. He's not back till midnight and I was feeling bit neglected so I thought I'd be brave and sign up. I have loads of questions but they can wait. Never talked to anyone on-line before either. For some-one who thought they had done it all i'm sure discovering I ain't done much. SO goodnight to you all sorry for the rattling post and I'm looking forward to getting to know you. Dx } |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado Username: Shylah
Post Number: 929 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Tuesday, May 16, 2006 - 06:54 pm: |
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Hi Mistydawn. You picked the right place! Glad to have you in the Den.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Tammynx
Spanko Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 471 Registered: 10-2005
| Posted on Tuesday, May 16, 2006 - 07:19 pm: |
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Hi Mistydawn. Nice to meet you!! |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2309 Registered: 05-2005
| Posted on Tuesday, May 16, 2006 - 07:37 pm: |
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Hi Misty, You have a few great questions here, and will find answers the more that you read. No one relationship works for everyone, and the dyanmics of a relationship can change from time to time. Try taking baby steps towards the areas that feel right. I don't believe ANYONE here thinks that possession of a penis gives any person control over another. We are all strong women on our own that chose to relinquish for various reasons, or not relinquish, as I said it is all personal. Queen of Innocence "Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Cheekychipmunk
New member Username: Cheekychipmunk
Post Number: 10 Registered: 05-2006
| Posted on Tuesday, May 16, 2006 - 09:02 pm: |
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HI, Mistydawn. I'm new to this site also. But can tell you that you'll get lots of answers and good advice. |
Paddledom
New member Username: Paddledom
Post Number: 11 Registered: 05-2006
| Posted on Tuesday, May 16, 2006 - 10:51 pm: |
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Welcome to the site mistydawn. It is always fun to have more people on here |
Mistydawn
New member Username: Mistydawn
Post Number: 2 Registered: 05-2006
| Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 06:45 am: |
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I'm going through a really emotional patch at the minute (well by minute I mean the past 25 years)It's so nice to feel your not on your own. I have some wonderful friends who think I'm wonderful but don't quite get (by don't quite get replace with "thinks I'm from another planet")the need to submit, the need to be spanked the need to love with an intensity bordering on insanity . The last two nights I have had two incredible sessions but they just weren't enough. It never is. I was calling him every name under the sun, I hated him,it and it really hurt and when he had finished he said "have you had enough" and as I have promised never to conceal my thoughts all that came tripping of the tounge was. "No and please make it harder" SO I turned over and we did it again. What do I have to show for this- nothing my backside is just like before we started. Anyhow relating to this I'm going to post my first(of many !) questions on other bits of the board. As you can probably gather another of my passions is talking/verbal diarrhea and not being able to keep anything in. I/We are trying to limit my time on the internet but I'm sure this will be good for me so I'm sure you'll be hearing from me a lot. Dx |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2316 Registered: 05-2005
| Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 08:55 am: |
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Discuss away, Misty. You are not alone in your questions. Queen of Innocence "Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Tigerman
Junior Spanko Username: Tigerman
Post Number: 85 Registered: 02-2006
| Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 10:04 am: |
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Welcome Mistydawn...this is the place to talk and ask questions...have fun |
Ladygator2904
Junior Spanko Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 97 Registered: 03-2006
| Posted on Friday, May 19, 2006 - 09:15 pm: |
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Hello MD~~~~~~~ Like you I was a bit confused about someone controlling me and DD-spanking. etc. In the past 3 months I have put it into perspective. For me, the DD shows me that I am a "keeper" my first husband of 23 yrs made me feel so disposable. My new husband loves me enough to give me what I need emotionally. He wasn`t into spanking when me married 3 yrs ago but since we started 3 months ago.. BOY, is he into it now Like you, I didn`t think I could ever get enough but now, lol.. I cringe when I think of the paddles or strap. He has very strong hands. Unlike others, we don`t talk during our spankings, I just lie there and take it (spurming a bit, wiggling legs a lot) and calling a safe word only when necessary. After a week of dd, we went into my first discipline spanking! It was tough and I Sooooo deservcd it (email me and I will explain why). Although we had to take short breathers, an hr or so apart...... like you I thought I couldn`t get enough but....it was very, very satisfying. It left me with a nice reminder (minor bruises and discomfort when I sat down) for about a week. I now am fully satisfied and so is my husband. It has released all my pent up feelings of guilt, etc. He seems to love giving me a spanking now. sometimes saying.. I just gotta spank you now.. I LOVE THE good girl spankings! They seem to come daily. Perhaps because we are newlyweds to DD I hope this helps. Its nice to have you aboard. A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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