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Mrlemon
New member
Username: Mrlemon
Post Number: 1
Registered: 07-2006
| | Posted on Monday, July 24, 2006 - 11:09 pm: | 
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Greetings from California. Glad to find this forum.
I have a dilemma and would love some input.
My wife and I met through spanking personals (Shadow Lane) and have had 12 incredible years together. Soul mates and all that good stuff.
The problem is, after having kids she's completely lost her taste for subbing. She just can't fathom it. I'm reduced to the horrible fate of being vanilla. Arrrgh. Like, I didn't have enough years of that before I found my kink!!
Any of you other married folks have this same experience? Any words of hope? As a dedicated Dom of course I'm supremely confident of my ability to manager the situation 
but advice is always welcome!
Cheers,
Mr Lemon |
Tplayer
Spanko
Username: Tplayer
Post Number: 158
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, July 24, 2006 - 11:25 pm: |
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Mrlemmon, I have the same problem, but in reverse. I think marriage is such a give and take. But when the needs of one are being ignored, I think that person has a right to find a solution. I would think it would be easier for you since you are the Dom. Start slow with your requests and expect her compliance.
Good luck!
It's all a matter of perspective
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Blistering_blonde
Spanko
Username: Blistering_blonde
Post Number: 341
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 25, 2006 - 01:03 am: |
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Thanks to my PRIEST I never experienced that issue ..his advice during our wedding planning with him was( he took my hubby aside and flat out told him )..
You need to buy her a flower once a week (ok this never happened ) you need to treat her like a queen all month ..but once a month you take her out for dinner ..get a babysitter for over night ..take her to a hotel and treat her like a WHORE ... (I love that part).
we found that without that we lost touch of our sexual kink for a while.. but with it ..we remembered the fun part of our relationship with out worrying about ..OMG the kids can hear, after all how can you look your kid in the eye ..after they heard you get spanked, or called names, or made to beg.
and to think this was a Catholic Priest ...(they do not get married or have relationships)
He asked what I needed , timidly gave it at first, now he just knows.
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1254
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 25, 2006 - 07:44 am: |
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Hi and Welcome Mrlemon.
Glad to have you join the forum.
This area is for introducing yourself to the other memebers. You need to move your question to the Spanking Discussion Area. Then the members can access it better and can hopefully give you some of their opinions and advice.
Welcome again!!!
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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